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I actually like the, "How are you feeling?" comments. What I didn't get and still don't is why anyone would repeatedly tell a pregnant woman to "enjoy your pregnancy". I was told that about 4 or 5 times by the same person. I just don't get why you'd say that.

I HATE hearing the "Just you wait..." comments. I understand that when I have a newborn I will be sleep deprived but that doesn't mean I can't comment on my sleep difficulties right now.

I also hate hearing all the horror stories like "Oh man, when I was pregnant with my first I had a late miscarriage at ____ weeks." Or "My sister in law went through her entire pregnancy with everything being fine then the baby died at ____ months" Really people? What makes you think ANYBODY would want to hear those heartbreaking stories when they're a hormonal, emotional, nervous wreck who is already paranoid about a miscarriage?

Oh oh oh I just remembered the most amazing thing my SIL said last night on the phone- we were talking about the couple days in hospital afterward, and my concerns about having enough help, during the night for example, with lifting and feeding the twins - and she honestly said " Well you're not going to feed them yourself, you're not mad" . I just about stayed upright. The funny thing was, she genuinely had no idea that it was an offensive thing to say. Clearly, in her head, sane women don't even consider breast feeding twins! I mean I'm not an idiot, obviously it's harder than bf one baby, but equally obviously it can be done! Grrr...