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Try not to worry. Easier said than done, I know. Just think you only have a week left until your next appointment.
The anxiety doesn't fade, so you just have to cheer yourself on by counting down the days between appointments.

Soon you'll be able to feel baby moving and it will get better!

I'm so sorry you are struggling. My BFF's SIL was due with a baby the same week as me and then she had a miscarriage. I felt so bad for her and also terrified that it meant something might be wrong with my pregnancy too (even though that makes no sense!)

Just remember, obsessively worrying won't change anything. It won't "protect" your pregnancy from having problems or ending. But being stressed out can negatively impact your health, so try to be the best you can to yourself and find something that gives you peace. Can you go see a funny movie? Read an uplifting book? Get a manicure? Visualize a health baby? I do that last one constantly. Take care and we're here for you.

@shopaholic: I totally understand! I have a fetal doppler and it's worked since 10 weeks. Maybe you could get one? I only use it when I have something happen that worries me.

I just read about a miscarriage/still birth at 23 weeks in a blog I follow (I'm at 22) and it totally restarted my anxiety!

It's going to take awhile for you to feel movement, so I'd suggest a doppler...and make sure everything is plugged in right. I almost had a heart attack once when I heard nothing, but the plug wasn't in all the way.

@shopaholic: I have this one: (a friend gave it to me)
http://www.clinicalguard.com/id/sonoline-b-handheld-pocket-fetal-doppler--p-174.html?kw={keyword}&gclid=CJKypP-EvrICFcKDQgodXSAA6g

I probably didn't try until 12 weeks. At times it was a bit frustrating, but I was usually able to find it. I also bought a huge thing of ultrasound gel and put it all over which helped me find the spot. It'll be super low...

@shopaholic: Hang in there! There really isn't anything that takes that worry away. I had a friend tell that me that from the moment you find out you are a mom, you never have a worry free moment. You worry that they are growing healthy and then they are grown and you worry that you raise them right, etc.

We haven't been successful again, yet, but I know that I will worry when we see that positive. We are a bit jaded, but nothing I did or didn't do would have changed our fate. It's just what it was. Our baby's purpose was too much for this world, so she went straight up to heaven and I can only hope that she is working her little magic up there to get her a sibling soon.

I think that when you start to feel movement, you will feel a bit better. I never did and that's what started me to freak out. I never mentioned my deepest fears out loud to anyone and it was so hard to have them become a reality.

Hang in there and know that it will be all right. It's better for your baby if you don't stress and worry. Take those worrisome feelings and turn them to positive thoughts for your baby. Hugs!!!!! Keep us updated on how you are feeling. : )

@shopaholic: Thank you.......it's something that I think about every.single.day.

EDIT: I'm also sorry for your loss. They are never easy! Congrats on your sticky baby!!!!

There is nothing you can do, but try to focus on the 12 week u/s. That means everything is doing A-oK! I think you will feel much more calm once you can feel the movement.

I was worried until like 26 weeks, and then the nerves started to ease a little bit. I would be so nervous about not finding a heartbeat, ect. I think it's the normal mom-to-be worrying, we all have it!