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Just found out we have to have the heel prick redone. I'm sick about it. He did NOT handle it well the first time. Ugh.
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@littlebug: poor thing I know you are worn out. Let us know how the sock works !
@allison: ugh so sorry
that's no fun
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@coacheswife123: Well, he slept for almost 2 hours, so who knows if it was the sock, but I'll definitely keep that trick in my back pocket.
We are starting to think he may have silent reflux. He doesn't spit up much, but he is fussy after eating, and doesn't like to lay down after he eats. Sometimes when he burps, we can see some milk in his mouth. And he sounds "junky" after he eats, too - like his chest is congested our he has phlegm in his throat, which I read can be because he has reflux in his throat (ugh). Going to call the ped tomorrow.
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I am SO happy everyone has had a terrible day too! I've been feeling like such a failure all day. In exhausted, can barely keep my eyes open, he wakes up whenever I put him down. I just want DH to come home so I can nap. I feel like at this point I should have it together a little more, but today is as bad as when we brought him home!
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@coacheswife123: Rowan is still in our room in a cosleeper next to my side of the bed. i don't see us transitioning for a while, but we'll see! it's just so easy to have her right there and i need that right now! i do put her in her crib for a nap once in a while and then the rock n play, etc.
i think we have a growth spurt going on. in the last few days, she won't sleep unless i'm holding her and it's not for very long if i put her down. she's up a lot more and then inconsolable until i feed her. it's not as bad as some, but definitely different for her! like @littlebug, i hate complaining because it's only been a couple days, but i'm going crazy over here since i can normally count on her sleeping well.
DH is starting his 24-hour shifts at the fire department, so i'm on my own tonight! this is only the 2nd night i've been by myself and she's been so needy. i guess the good thing is i can pull her into bed without worrying about waking DH.
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We ended up taking D to the urgent care clinic. With his fussing, and weird sleeping/eating, and we noticed a rash, I called the ped. His temp was only 99.5, but she had us go over anyway because his behavior was off. We just got home and he's fine; just having an off day. Realty glad we have that clinic available, though - we were the only ones there, so we got seen immediately. I feel better having had him checked out.
Hope we all have better nights tonight and days tomorrow!
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Ugh L has been so fussy all day yesterday - his sleeping was off all day (his baby connect chart looked like a bar code) and last nights sleep was terrible too. I went to bed at 940 p an brought him in bed with me t 630; he woke up at 9 and I got about 6 hrs of sleep in that time period.
He's so fussy and wants to be held allll the time. DH has had him for 15 minutes and is ready to let him cry already. Ugh.
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@allison: D used to get a heel prick every 6 hours! One day the machine they use to test the blood gasses was acting up and they did it 3 times in a row! It was terrible. He still gets just one a day.
I'm sorry you have to go through it!
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@Mrs Green Grass: oh my gosh. How do you handle that?! I couldn't even... Thanks for putting things into perspective.
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We switched to formula yesterday. I'm a little sad about it, but if it works to get us home, I don't really care. We are using Enfamil AR which is thickened for reflux.
D actually took 90 mls twice yesterday! (That's 3 ounces.) But one of the times he threw up quite a bit of it.
We are scheduled to get a g-tube on Wednesday, so we've got 4 days to get the feeding thing consistent. I just want him home NOW!
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@littlebug: i'm glad he's okay! that must have been stressful--good call on going to the clinic just to be safe. for what it's worth, little E has some reflux (the "silent" type), and we have found that keeping him upright as much as possible helps. during feedings, we take more frequent breaks to gently burp him and just to keep him upright for a minute or two, and then afterwards we hold him upright or put him in a bouncy chair on an incline. i also bought some pillow wedges for his crib. we haven't had the screaming/back arching post-nursing sessions we did before we realized it was reflux, so hopefully we can manage this.
@dagret: our guy has been a bit off as well. waking up way early from his naps with a lot of fussing. i think he has a lot of gas, and not sure how to deal with it. we've been giving him baby gas drops, but i'm not sure it's helping. i read somewhere that 6-8 weeks is the peak fussy period (i'm sure there's some give and take with that timeframe).
@birdofafeather: how did your night go? hope you and rowan got some good snuggle time and sleep!
@Mrs Green Grass: that's great that he took 3 ounces twice (even with the spit-up)! you guys have been through so much and tried so many things, and if formula is what works to keep D growing and healthy, then that is absolutely the right decision.
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@edelweiss: unfortunately, it was really bad. one of the worst nights yet. she slept fine in her cosleeper after the 10 pm feeding, but only until 2? and then after the 2 feeding, she would not go to sleep. i rocked her over my shoulder and she was out and then as soon as i turned her on her back or side to put her down, she woke up screaming bloody murder. i finally fed her again at 3 because i was desperate and then the only way she would sleep was on me. same story after the 6 feeding. at one point, i thought, i know how people are driven to insanity. she almost broke me last night!
i'm trying to reconcile when she needs to be awake with when i should be putting her down. DH is rocking her in the rnp now and she's fighting it, but not crying... i kinda miss the stage where i knew she just needed to go right back to sleep. now i'm unsure... i hope i'm not dealing with 2 weeks of this! just when i thought i figured her out... guess that's parenthood!
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My breasts get so engorged in the middle of the night that they wake me up..just as L is fussing for a feeding. Does this happen to anyone else or do my boobs have special powers?
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@dagret: this used to happen to me ! Since we started block feeding I haven't really felt engorged ! We switch sides at every feeding.
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L slept soo much better last night, and slept through church, so everyone thinks we have an angel baby.
Hope everyone's LOs are sleeping better!
@coacheswife123: glad I'm not the only one- it's so weird!
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@dagret: Yes, definitely. Block feeding does help, I think. I also pump both sides right before I go to bed, which helps a lot!
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@dagret: good for you going to church I have been too scared to try that yet !!
@littlebug: I think I'm about to throw in a pump session at night too!
I downloaded the milk maid app on my phone to keep track of my pumping and stash. I am not pumping a ton right now but I can tell I will really use it when going back to work to keep things organized ! FYI in case you ladies who pump are interested.
How's everyone's PP bleeding? Mine stopped at 3 weeks and I was just wearing a liner. Now I have off and on bright bleeding like a period. Only reason I know it's not is because its not constant. So ready to be done. Womp womp womp
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Last night was our worst night yet. We moved him from the RnP to the cosleeper, so I'm sure that's why. The longest he slept was 2 hours straight. Mama is TIRED today.
I didn't bleed very heavily at first, but then around 2 weeks started bleeding like a period. I'm not entirely convinced that it wasn't my period, actually. Now I'm back to spotting. Wearing pads for a month is awesome.
@dagret: I do the wake up engorgement thing too. I'd like to block feed, but I don't see how? He nurses from both sides at every feeding. & I feel like I wouldn't be able to go 6 hours without emptying one side/getting engorged.
Tell me the secret! It's probably pumping. I'm still really intimidated by it.
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@coacheswife123: it helps that our church is a mile away. So we can feed him 10 min before church starts and still get there on time! I will have to check out that app.
@allison: I don't want to switch to block feeding, since what I'm doing is working...I actually don't mind waking up as he starts to fuss. I'm so sorry you had another rough night.
My pp bleeding is almost nonexistent right now still using a liner.
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@coacheswife123: I'll have to look into that app so that I can stop going through my freezer stash and adding it up in my head, ha ha!
I stopped bleeding around 4 weeks, I'd guess. But I am still having quite a bit of irritation, and I used a mirror to look last night, and things look irritated and I think I saw some kind of sore. I have my 6-week appt on Wednesday, so I'm wondering what they're going to say.
@allison: I'm sorry you had such a rough night. Hopefully it'll get better as he gets used to the cosleeper. As far as the block feeding, my boobs werea little confused at first, but they've evened out now. I rarely get painfully engorged anymore, unless he goes really long between feedings or I miss a pumping session for some reason.
ETA: I am still using a thin pad due to still having some few and far between bladder issues (if I don't get to the potty fast enough).
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@allison: hopefully he is adjusting to the cosleeper !
I think it's gonna be one of those days. Every time J falls asleep I try to put him down and he wakes up and cries. I'm so hungryyyyy
but don't want to wake him
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@coacheswife123: I'm having the same day. Usually L has napped for four hours by lunch. Today I've had two fussy half hour naps. No breakfast or lunch for me yet. I can hear my stomach growling.
@allison: we had a hard time transitioning from having L sleep next to me in our bed (the horror!) to sleeping in the cosleeper next to me. I decided after three not so great nights that the mattress was too hard. Now she has a hand towel under the sheet and sleeps way better. The towel isn't so cushy that I'm worried about suffocation, but it's a little softer for her.
I had a small BF victory this weekend. We conquered the green poops. Never thought I'd be so excited to see yellow poop.
I stopped pp bleeding at about five weeks. I had a brief reprieve at three weeks, did a happy dance and then started right back up again.
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L was fussy again last night at every feeding. This sucks.
On the other hand I figured out our baby carrier today which makes me feel like a new person. I can do things two handed when all he wants is to be held!
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@oliviaoblivia: i was finally able to put him down. now i'm running around like crazy trying to get stuff done while he sleeps. the whole "sleep while the baby sleeps" thing clearly hasn't worked for me.
@dagret: i really want to get a carrier and think I am after payday on Thursday. what kind do you have?
ok - worst mother award goes to me. i've been pumping twice a day with the medela harmony ( it takes me less than 5 mins to pump J a bottle or pump a 4 oz freezer bag) and realized when taking it apart that there was MOLD in the valve. UGH. I immediately dumped the 4 oz bag I had just pumped and am waiting on a call back from my ped to see what I should do about the bottles in my fridge (2) and the frozen bags in my freezer (about 70 oz). I have no idea when the mold formed. It was behind a piece of the pump that I didn't know/think was removable and even though I have been cleaning it I wasn't getting in there good enough, apparently. I feel SO bad. J seems normal though so on the off chance he has gotten some yuck milk it doesn't seem to be affecting him but I am beating myself up about it. I boiled everything a few minutes ago. I realllly don't want to have to throw away my whole stash, either!
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@coacheswife123: oh no! That's awful. I can't imagine how bad you feel.
I have a beco Gemini, which I pricey but you can use it from 7 lbs to 40 lbs!
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Update ....
Ped called back and told me to dump what I pumped today and to boil the parts. He said my stash should be fine esp since j is acting normally. Also, since I clean my pump after each use it is likely that it just popped up. To be safe I am going to pour out the bottle I pumped yesterday and the day before but they seemed to think he is ok. I can also scald everything in my stash before giving to him. Will probably do that. Waaaaah! I will inspect that pump with a microscope from now on
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@Mrs Green Grass: anything that works to get him home!!
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@birdofafeather: oh i'm sorry about that rough night. i hope the next few ones have been better. we've all had or will have those nights, so you're not alone! i actually have never been able to get the timing right on putting E to bed. he'll yawn, but otherwise not act tired at all. if i try to put him down after the first yawn, it's a sure bet that i'll be going in and soothing him for at least the next 30 minutes.
@oliviaoblivia: i had that kind of day yesterday, with the 1/2 hour naps and general fussiness. i feel a little better that i'm not the only one experiencing this, although of course i wish that all our babies slept perfectly! oh, and hooray for the yellow poops! we had a string of green poops and i know what you mean about being excited to see the yellow poop.
@coacheswife123: oh i am so sorry about the mold! that is good that you found it (sounds like it was in a tricky place), and that J is acting fine so you don't have to dump your stash. i would cry if i had to throw away my stash. just bawl.
for carriers, i have a k'tan and ergo. the k'tan is just for around the apartment and walking the dogs because it's not a heavy duty carrier and i probably won't be able to use it past 15-20 pounds. we have used the ergo (with the infant insert) and really like it. we received it as a gift, but before that i was also looking at the beco and boba. the beco appealed to me because i think it can do a front carry? also, fwiw, i've heard some people don't like the ergo because it can get really hot, although that's not so much an issue for us right now in the winter. we may get another more lightweight carrier for the summer. let us know what you choose!
@littlebug: hope your appointment goes well tomorrow! i have mine on thursday. i'm still wearing a pad because while my discharge trailed off quite a bit, there's still a little and last week there was some bright red blood--maybe my period? and, um, i'm glad i'm not the only one who doesn't always make it to the bathroom on time.
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Well, looks like I've got a plugged duct. It's on the underside of my boob, like up against my chest cavity, making massage while feeding difficult. The LC told me to basically crouch over the baby and dangle my breast to feed to see if gravity will help resolve. Fun stuff.
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@edelweiss: Thanks! Really hope the thing I saw isn't an sbcess or anything. Yuck.
@allison: Oh, I'm sorry. Not cool.
D has slept till 5am the past 2 nights! It's been lovely! Hopefully I didn't just jinx it, ha ha!
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@allison: ugh! So sorry!
@littlebug: ooohhhh good for you !! Enjoy your rest mama !
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@dagret: from what I've been reading I think we will go with the Beco too !
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@coacheswife123: We have the Beco. D hasn't loved it yet, but I think it may be because I can't get him into a comfortable position in it yet. Even I babywear, right now I'm using my sling.
Got the all clear from the OB today. She said the irritation is because of breastfeeding - lack of estrogen makes things dry down there. What are you guys doing about birth control? We discussed options and ultimately decided to just use condoms for a while, and then maybe start the progestetone-only pill eventually. Hubs and I aren't totally sure we want a second baby, so we may end up looking into more "permanent" solutions.
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@littlebug: I've got to get something soon I think J would love it he likes to be upright. Good to hear you got a good report. I have been having some pinching pain down there today. Not really pain but it bothers me when I walk. I took a peek but honestly didn't even know what to look for/at. I'm terrified haha! As for birth control, I think I will do the mini pill for now. I'm less than enthused about going back on hormonal birth control, though.
Anyone feel like their DH has no clue what the heck goes on during the day (if yours works ) ? For example, J has been super fussy today and we have been soothing for an hr. he looked at the clock and just goes "ughhh we have been doing this for an hour" and I am like " uh I have been doing this ALL DAY" . I know he says he understands but I feel like he doesn't at all and if I'm being honest it makes me kind of mad !
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@littlebug: congrats on the all clear...
We are going to use condoms. Bc of our infertility struggles we will likely be trying again by January at the latest. (Aaaah, i cany believe i just typed that.) We need at least 6 months of trying under our belt before our RE would see us again.
@coacheswife123: I soo hear you on that. My husband said that, exactly, today, and he's been working like crazy so it's been 99% all me, all the time lately.
Every mom I talk to keeps saying it gets better...I really hope it's soon! I feel like every good day is followed by a crappy one.
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@dagret: I hope it gets better soon! J was an angel yesterday. Today..... Not so much. I am just ready for the feedings to space out ESP at night. DH and I have really been having a tough past few days too. He always says he is happy to help and is great most of the time but for some reason I still feel unsupported and like I am flying solo a good bit which makes me resentful. Please say some of this HAS to be hormones, right ??!! I think the biggest problem is he truly thinks he understands and he seriously has no idea. I would love to just feel validated and hear him say he has no idea but it must be really hard instead of "I'm tired too".
Rant over
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@coacheswife123: YES!!! I was just gonna post something similar, so glad you posted this. I go back to work on Friday as in 2 days from now, and I will be working 3 till 11 pm. DH works mornings until 2:30pm so he will be home alone with LO for the evening and bedtime stuff. So the last couple of days I have been trying to let him do most things during this time so he can get a rhythm of his own with LO but he just doesnt get it. We are still having trouble getting her to sleep well at night so we did a warm bath and a baby massage tonight and she was so sleepy. I made a nice warm bottle and handed her off, this was at 7:30 ish. 8:20 I thought he had her asleep so I went out to check on them and she was wide awake in her swing. So I took over and it took me till 9 to get her down and so far it is not looking like it is gonna be a good night. It makes me so mad that I try and give him advice on how to help soothe her and get her to go to sleep or just eat and he gets upset with me cause he thinks I think he doent know what he is doing. I hate feeling as if I can do things better than him, I know its only because I have been able to have all this time with her that I know these things and he would have loved to have that time too. It worries me to think how things are gonna go for them for awhile when I am at work. He just doesnt get the soft soothing voice and to pay attention to her and talk to her. I know he is capable and everything will be fine but I wish he would just accept my help and tips that have taken me 8 weeks to get myself! Makes me so mad!
@littlebug: We are doing condoms too. I would like to do pills but since I had 2 superficial bloodclots while pregnant they said it is in my best interest to no longer take hormonal BC.
We have Abi's 2 month check up on friday morning. I have been seeing a lot on the boards that this should be her first set of shots. DH couldnt get the day off so I have to go alone
and then to work. Definitely not looking forward to it.And we DTD for the first time7 weeks pp. Glad to say very minimal discomfort where the stitches were and itwent away quickly, havent asked DH yet if it "felt different", cause I am afraid of the answer...lol.
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@pinkb: sounds exactly like my DH ! When I told him today all I had for lunch was cheez it crackers because J was so fussy when he finally got to sleep I was scared to put him down his solution was "just put him down and let him cry a while" and almost every time he cries he puts him in his swing he rarely walks him around to soothe him. I have a hard time enlisting his help because sadly I feel like I can just do it better and it's just so much easier if I do it myself :(. Not fair to him but at this point I feel like its just the facts.
Good for you on DTD. I have my 6 wk check up next week I'm scareddddd. Sweet Abi - I hope her shots go ok
ETA: might I add that the first thing he did when he got home (knowing I was starving) was plop down on the couch while I am nursing and eat in front of me after I had asked him to take the dog out because she hasn't been out in 10 hrs. Raaaaah !
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@coacheswife123: Yep DH pretty much thinks I sit at home and watch TV all day. He had today off so after a very long night of Abi getting up every hour or 2 at 6:30 I finally asked him to take over, I was up by 7 cause I couldn't hack the crying any longer. Yes while he fed her tonight I did the dishes, made his lunch for tomorrow, and made dinner. I finished and was waiting for Abi to fall asleep, I walked by said dinner is ready when you are. 15 minutes later is when I found her in her in her swing wide awake and him on the sofa eating dinner. I was waiting so we could eat together! Something that rarely happens right now, and then I didnt even get to eat till after 9 and he was in bed by 9:20 so I ate alone.
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@pinkb: same here. Too young for CIO . It makes me feel better to know I'm not the only one! DH means well. And I think he does think he is helpful. But he is just clueless !
that's no fun
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