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@oliviaoblivia: E has only truly cried 3 times, and two of them were during medical procedures (heel pricks). I seriously can't handle it and it's one of the reasons I'm not vaccinating him, at least for now. I've worked in childcare as an infant nanny and in an infant room at a daycare for the last 7 years, so I've heard a lot of babies cry. But I CAN NOT handle hearing my baby cry. Can. Not.

This is probably going to be a bad thing, eventually.

@oliviaoblivia: awe I am so sorry

@allison: I still have one I think it has been there so long I don't even feel it anymore though. Blah.

I can't handle hearing J cry either. Breaks my heart !

@Mrs Green Grass: so great to hear that you guys are getting to "normal"! i totally hear what you're saying about still being "on-call" even when the husband is on shift. my husband takes over in the evenings when he comes home from work until midnight or 1am, but i hear almost everything and it's hard to ignore, not help out, take over (i need to work on that), etc.!

@coacheswife123: aw, it is a heartbreaking notion that they will go through their own hardships and hurt in the future, and we won't be able to protect them. hope you got some good cuddles in with J today!

@edelweiss: my nursing sessions are about the same ! He is going through a growth spurt I think and he is still only nursing about 12 min per session!!

Thanks for making me feel better ! I started bcp on Tuesday and am wondering if it has me feeling a little cray cray haha. I'm not normally so emotional for no reason !!

@coacheswife123: ooh surprise shots! The pain is so short, but its heartbreaking for even a second. glad J took it well. Liv is doing great today, just a little sleepier than usual. Last night she was ok but cried a bit upon waking which is really not like her. I swear I've only heard her cry twice (birth & shots yesterday). We gave her baby Tylenol and she slept well overnight.

@coacheswife123: I swear she would wake up and cry "oh my god, why do I hurt?!" Thank goodness it's over.

@Mrs Green Grass: yay so glad to hear you guys are doing good. Who needs sleep anyway? lol

Do any of you ladies have the baby k'tan? I ordered one from no better deal but they sent the wrong size so I have to re-order. I am hoping Abi likes it by the time it gets here.

We had a big regression with Abi's sleeping and eating:( I have been googling to try and figure out what is going on and I think we just hit a "wonder week" Her adjusted age puts her right on track for the 5 week wonder week, fussiness, clingy, bad bad bad sleep. and not eating well. We are slowly making it back to normal I think. Kind of excited cause they say this is when they will learn new things so maybe I will get to see thsoe smiles everyone else has already been getting.

DH took her out to dinner with his family tonight while I was at work. I am having a hard time dealing with this. MIL and i do not get along at all so I am not comfortable with her being around Abi when I am not there. I feel as if I should be ok with this because it is DH's mom but I just cant stop dwelling on it! She doesnt like me and does not respect me as a person or as a parent. I just wish she wasnt in our lives, I'm sorry I know thats mean but I have my reasons (tried to ruin wedding and baby shower, called me and my sisters and mom names, calls dh names, she is an alcoholic and life is only about her....). This is only the 2nd time she has seen Abi since we had her, totally by her own choice. And even though I dont want her around LO, I would have thought she would want to see her more often being the 1st grandchild and hounding us for so long about having a baby. I think she is one of the very few people I have ever known that I can say I hate. So sad. End rant.

@edelweiss: the appointment went well! It was with my regular ob/gyn, who I didn't see at all when I was pregnant (I go to a huge practice), and I joked that it was my first appointment with him in 3 years that I didn't cry. Not that I'm some kind of weirdo who cries at the dr, I had/have? Unexplained infertility.

@coacheswife123: how is the zantac working? hope it's making your LO feel better!

@edelweiss: we have only given it to him twice and he hates how it tastes! i hope it starts to help! he doesnt spit up a ton so i'm thinking we are dealing more with silent reflux than true reflux!

@Mrs Green Grass: D had a circumcision. I'm honestly not sure about the swelling - we were told to keep Vaseline-coated gauze on it for the first week, so I honestly didn't look very closely at it until then, and by then I think the swelling was down? But I'm honestly not totally sure... those first couple weeks are kind of a big blur.

@coacheswife123: How did you determine he has reflux? D like gags/ coughs/chokes after eating. Not every time, but almost always in the evening. Sometimes he'll fall asleep nursing, then wake himself up choking. I've started keeping him upright for a bit after he finished eating, and that seems to be helping a bit. But I brought it up in the support group I've been going to, and the lactation consultant basically said it's not reflux because it's not every feeding. But what else could it be? We have a ped appt on the 19th, but I'm wondering if I should take him in earlier.

@littlebug: I think waiting until the 19th is fine if he is still eating. Keeping him upright is the best thing.

@coacheswife123: Yes, I could have written your post! Thanks for leading me to it!

@Mrs Green Grass: Thanks. I know you have experience with the reflux, so I appreciate your input! I think he'll be ok till the 19th!

@littlebug: apparently most babies have some sort of reflux because their esophagus and digestive systems aren't all that well developed. we were dealing with screaming/arching back after feedings a couple of weeks ago (it was traumatic) and now try to feed him in a more upright position, and try to keep him that way for as much of him awake time as possible. i also bought a pillow wedge for under the crib sheet so he can sleep on an incline. i think the reflux has gotten better because we aren't having to be so careful about things anymore and he's still okay on the reflux front--hope the same goes for you!

@Mrs Green Grass: a "revision"? that doesn't sound fun! i hope D doesn't need it. E's swelling went down considerably after the first few days, and i would say by the end of week 1 it looked pretty good (not totally normal as it does now, but i felt fairly confident that it was mostly healed and okay). that may be on the quick side, though. is D experiencing some pain/swelling down there? hope everything is okay!

@edelweiss: I have tried a few times, and we still haven't mastered it. I think he gets distracted by all the noise around him, and it gets freakin hot under the cover! The few times we've tried, he definitely hasn't nursed efficiently. And I can't seem to get him positioned right without the boppy. It's way harder than I thought it would be!

@edelweiss: we had a really bad screaming episode after feeding today that I think was reflux related and it made me want to die !!!! He seemed like he was in so much pain. I hope it gets better soon ! I have nursed him once in the back seat of my moms car (while parked!). It wasnt easy. Like @littlebug: I am wayyyy more dependent on the boppy than I realized !

@dagret: poor L I hope he rests good for you tonight.

@allison: my baby cries bloody murder when she's in the car seat and needs to be changed. I've grown somewhat used to it as long as I know what's wrong. Still nothing like people staring at you when your kid is screaming like you're tearing off her arms.

@edelweiss: thanks for the feedback! She's taken anywhere from 1-3 oz but I don't think she drinks as much from the bottle as she does from me? She gets hungry sooner after a bottle. Could be because its collected milk instead of pumped too. I am using up that frozen stash so I can start fresh with the pumped stuff.

Her sessions can be short as well. She must have gone through a spurt last week though because she had several sessions that were 30 minutes and one that was 40! I was shocked but she kept going. Thank goodness that's done for now!

@pinkb: I have a moby and a boba 3G. Row loves them both and I love them so I can get things done. She usually sleeps in them!

@edelweiss: yeah, I've nursed a lot of places including an impromptu session without a cover at all after we had to cobble together a diaper too! Thank God for cloth diapers and paper towels! Anyway, I've definitely had to get better at it because the first couple times I leaked all over myself. Oops. I'm getting better about not using a pillow after reading the article @allison: posted about milk flow. Row likes to be more upright at the end of a feed so no pillow needed. Sometimes I'm more worried about my stomach showing than flashing my nip for a minute but the cover I have (bebe au lait) really covers up everything!

Do you all have a set bedtime? We've fallen into a groove with wake times (with the time change, she woke up right at 8, so effectively 7) but I have a hard time instituting a bed time when our own schedule is different every day and so we've just been going by the last feeding between 6:30 and 8:30. That's when we feed, diaper change, pjs, and a little prayer or story or something before shushing, rocking to sleep. We don't do daily baths yet and those tend to rile her up so we do them in the morning or later afternoon. What's your bedtime routine, schedule or do you just fly by the seat of your pants too?

@oliviaoblivia: do you nurse at 7:30 no matter when her last feed was? like if she woke up hungry at 6:30? that's where i have trouble.

Another sleep note -- Baby A slept for six and half hours straight while we were visiting the ILs this weekend. It was AMAZING. I was so confused in the middle of the night and kept checking the clock and her.

@oliviaoblivia: I'm impressed that you've started the routine. Hope it goes a bit better tomorrow! We're going to start next week.