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I think we are going to work on getting our little guy on more of a schedule or just having more of a routine. My husband is going to be working longer hours for a while and I think it will save my sanity. He needs to nap better during the day so that he doesn't get overly tired like has happened a few times this week. I don't think he's old enough to go without a night feeding yet, but we will reevaluate as we go along. Hopefully we can start getting more of a bedtime routine going too tha doesn't involve LO staying up to midnight. I'm not sure if I'm ready to spend the money on Moms on call, but if we are struggling then I just might. I think I will try one week of structure and routine and decide then.
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Glad we're not the only ones suffering through hiccups!! @mrsjyw I was just thinking that I'm much more tired lately than the past 2 weeks - I agree, adrenaline is wearing off!
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@highwire: I pump once in the morning and get 2.5 oz... This seems kind of low from reading all the responses!
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So ILs showed up without calling ;T (they have a history of doing this, even tho they have gotten better about it since DH talked to them.) I'm trying to be relaxed and make the most out of it, but it's seriously draining... (they like us to 'visit' 'chat' etc. with them for hours on end).
Anyway, I was wondering -- have any of you had your first alcoholic beverage yet? DH bought me a bottle of my fave wine, but I haven't found the right time to have a glass... kinda nervous about BFing...
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@mrsjyw: I had a glass of wine last night right after M ate on both sides. I knew she wouldn't eat for awhile. It was sooooo yummy!
I pumped for 10 minutes this morning....first time! Got 2oz, but I don't think I set it high enough. Momma is going to try to get a mani pedi tomorrow and wanted to leave some food behind.
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@mrsjyw: I was all set to have a Baileys last weekend when we put up the tree but chickened out and was glad I did ad she was cluster feeding all night. Soon though!
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@mrsjyw: I have had a beer, iwas super nervous... Going to keep it to occasionally. That sucks about your in laws! Ugh!
Baby girl at 2 1/2 weeks is definitely a lot more awake and fussy! Anyone else?
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@mrsjyw: omg i'd hate it if my il's did that. my parents came over at 9pm last night with 20 min notice and altho they were nice and brought over groceries, i was kind of annoyed that it was so "late". we were already starting to put LO down! blah. i think im just sleep deprived and get annoyed more easily these days.
@kml636: LO is alittle more than 2 weeks old and def getting more fussy in the evenings. so far its controllable with her paci, a nap, or more food, but i hope it doesn't get worse! dont know if i could handle colic or anything like that.
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Alright I love my in laws but all the men in that family are alcoholics. DH is finally at a place for the first time in his adult life where he isn't drinking regularly, but his dad and brother are huge triggers for him. And I'm in no way comfortable leaving anyone on solo baby duty while they have had anything to drink. I just woke up and realized my MIL had gone to bed and my FIL was in the nursery struggling to change a diaper be cause he was drunk. Not okay at all. So now I will be staying up with baby and having a serious conversation with DH tomorrow about this. I'm furious.
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@mrsjyw: ugh sorry about the unplanned visit. No alcohol for ne, but I'm not into it at all especially with what is going on in my last post
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@highwire: OMG. I would be furious about that too and would absolutely make my husband talk to his family about that. They may have good intentions, but that is not safe for baby. If he's not straightforward with them, then I hope you speak up.
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@kml636: she is getting a bit fussier the older she gets. Last night I was wondering whether it's because now she's a bit more aware she has options. Before she didn't complain about diaper changes but now she knows she'd rather be cuddled or fed, so she let's us know.
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@highwire: omg... I would be furious too!
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@highwire: that'd make me really upset, too! Not a fun way to wake up!
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@highwire: oh I would lose my cool if that happened. My in laws are here now and I could never just hand over the baby and trust them to take care of her. It was apparent from the moment they walked in the door and MIL grabbed my sleeping baby out of my arms and woke her up that they have no respect for the schedule I'm trying to establish. Luckily they are only here for 48 hours. If I were you I'd have a talk with your husband and have him tell his parents that while you really appreciate them helping out you would prefer they just not offer to take care of C if they can't stay sober.
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@highwire: omg! That's terrible! Did you say anything to him there and then? I would have freaked, DH and I have agreed not to even go near her if we smell of alcohol, never mind pick her up! Totally not what you need as a new moma.
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Catching up from yesterday...
@highwire: I meant 1.5oz per feeding/pumping session. So I think being able to feed your LO and having enough extra to get 6oz is good. Sorry about your FIL. I would be pissed. Not just pissed....RAGING. Hope your hubby was able to talk to him.
@mrsjyw: I have had a couple glasses of wine, no more than 4-5oz per occasion. Last night, we took Em to a holiday party and I brought a bottle so I didn't have to worry about timing it with the feeding. I waited two hours after the other couple times. I did buy the alcohol test strips though....I probably sound like a lush, ha! It was more out of curiousity though. I tried them twice and they didn't register anything even after an hour.
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@ChelseaRose: @kml636: @Mrs. Tricycle: @MamaMoose: @travelgirl1: I didn't say anything at the time. I just took the baby immediately. I would much rather have a conversation whrn everyone is sober. But ugh, I don't even know how to address this. For the most part my in laws have been so incredibly helpful and this is such a delicate topic that can easily escalate. I'm not sure what to even say :'(
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@highwire: you are in a hard situation. Just from my knowledge of alcoholics (my grandparents) he will not admit he was drunk and your mil will probably cover for him. I guess if I were you I would have DH tell them you decided you didn't want anyone drinking around her. Period. I'm sorry!
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@highwire: wow that sounds stressful! I am so sorry - and would have been furious as well. No advice, but hope a resolution is found
@mrsjyw That stinks about unexpected visitors, I have fears of the same happening once we move. I'm not really a drinker, so no alcohol here - I think I'd probably just pass out asleep if I had anything anyways!
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So we're having problems with baby breaking swaddles... at 2 weeks I don't feel like he should be this strong! Even with a double swaddle, he fights to get his left arm/fist up and then wakes up crying if he can't get it out (or if he can). We've tried the miracle blanket, aden + anais, kiddopotamus swaddles, and the woombie.... am I missing an option?? Anyone else had luck leaving one arm out of the swaddle - I think that's what we'll try next.
And yay, his cord fell off! We had a disgusting moment where we were afraid the dog ate it (BARF!) but then found it in his clothes. I love his little tummy!
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@scg00387: we've been doing on arm out or at least by her face since it soothes her
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After three rough nights we had an AMAZING night last night. I fed LO at 7 then slept from 8-10 while hubs had her. Then she ate at 10, 3:15am, and 8:30am. Two five hour stretches!! And we had to wake her up to eat both times!!!
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@scg00387: our LO usually gets one arm out too. She doesn't wake up when she does it so we leave her be.
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@scg00387: how about the Halo sleep sack/swaddle combo? It uses Velcro and is pretty strong. Our LO likes it.
We had an eventful night - I figured out yesterday that I probably had the flu (I had a fever, aches, headache, chills etc), so I was super worried LO was sick. We didn't have a rectal thermometer so borrowed one from our neighbor - we got readings of 99.3 and 99.6 - technically not high enough to be considered a problem, but our pediatrician asked us to go to the ER anyway. He checked out fine there - no fever, And they sent us home. They suggested I take Tamiflu, but the only 24 hour pharmacy in the area was out of it. At this point, it's too late to be effective, so just have to ride this out. My fever is gone this AM and we took LO to the pedi this morning, and he's still healthy - just have my fingers and toes crossed that he stays that way!!!
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@Mrs. Tricycle: ack! DH and I weren't feeling too hot last night either. Did you get a flu shot?
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@Mrs. Tricycle: oh no! I'm so sorry! I had a horrible reaction to Tamiflu when I took it in college so maybe better you missed your chance on that. I've always heard that if you are breastfeeding LO can't get sick from you because they get your antibodies.
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@highwire: ack!!! Such a hard position to be in!!
@MamaMoose: yay for good night's sleep!!
@Mrs. Tricycle: hope you get well soon!!
@scg00387: we had the same issue. The only thing that has worked for us is the halo sleepsack swaddles. And we usually leave his arms out because he fusses less... need to look up the russian swaddle on youtube... apparently works really well
So dh took night duty last night and I slept most of the night from 1130 to 7.
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@kodybear: sounds like you are on track! I went through and checked my records and here's what I have:
11/21: 6 lbs6 oz, fed at 9 pm, 12:30 am and 4.
11/28: 6 lbs 13 oz, fed at 9 pm, 2 am, and 5.
12/3: 7 lbs 4 oz, fed at fed at 10 pm and 4 am
12/8: 7 lbs 10 oz, fed at 9 pm and 4:30 am -
@Mrs. Tricycle: oh no! Glad baby is ok and hope you are feeling better!
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@Mrs. Tricycle: I hope you're all feeling better!
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@scg00387: We use the Halo sleepsack swaddle and we love it! It doesn't restrict her legs at all - which is important because of her hip issues - but keeps her arms snuggly tight. Our of the ones we've tried, it definitely gives her a run for her money when it comes to breaking out of it.
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So when do you think you stop worrying so much as a new mum? I've been crazy anxious about her today, she's not eaten as much as she should and she's not had enough wet diapers either. I'm giving her pumped milk for the rest of the day so I can see exactly what she's having. We've had our first visitors too and I was sooo paranoid about how people were holding her, and if anyone seemed sniffly. I even asked people to use the hand gel before they held her. I know I'm paranoid but I sooo don't want her getting sick so young. When I take her out on the subway I just panic the whole journey (but people are so gross, they sneeze into newspapers or just into the air, ewwwww!!!) I need to relax, I know it, but it's so. so. hard!!!
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@travelgirl1: I've been much less anxious than I thought that I would be. I think part of it is the blood pressure medication that I'm still taking (beta blockers), which is sometimes prescribed to help treat anxiety. It seems like I have many of the same thoughts or concerns, but I'm not experiencing it as anxiety. I always tell people to go wash their hands before handling the baby (haha even my MIL) and I don't take him out much because I'm concerned about cold/flu season. I think I've accepted that these are normal (first time) mom concerns and therefore not a big deal.
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@ChelseaRose: I just bought the baby connect app. It looks amazing, can't wait to get started so days like today, when I suspect she's not eaten enough, I can know for sure and track against normal days. Glad you're feeling much less anxious, beta blockers are fab, I had them once to get me through my shorthand exam as my hand would always tremble during the test and wow, they were good stuff!
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I'm kinda bummed. I was looking at my gym's website about their child care services. I thought that they took babies at 2 months or so, but they won't take them until they are six months. That's so far away. The good news is that it only costs $2 for two hours, which is plenty of time for a workout and a shower. I guess I will have to ask my mom to watch him if I want to go. My husband is going to be working some longer hours soon and I doubt that I will want to go when he gets home. I guess I'm limited to walks with the baby or maybe some mommy and baby yoga.
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@travelgirl1: I have that app too! However I stopped using it because I was too focused on time and numbers rather than baby's cues. I can see how it can be helpful in tracking things if there are concerns so that you can have some peace of mind.
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@travelgirl1: I feel like my anxiety has decreased (though I did just take LOs temp 6 times with two different thermometers - poor guy), but there are still times I worry. I'm trying not to focus on numbers, but rather on baby cues, which is mentally easier for me.
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@travelgirl1: well I just ordered the snuza baby monitor that hooks to their diaper and measures them breathing, so my mommy anxiety is still crazy!
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@ChelseaRose: that's a bummer about the gym... But goid for you for wanting to go! I'm looking forward to when I can use my jogging stroller around here. I also will do weights on my own - Not sure i will be up for the gym for awhile!
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