Hellobee Boards

@daniellemybelle: I'll be 29 in October, so while it is soon, I'd really prefer to have a 2 year age gap or close to it. I just have to convince my husband of that. He says we can have another when we have more money, but we're doing well now and I don't see why we should wait.

He knows that I'd prefer to stay home full-time, but I crunched the numbers and it would be really, really tight on one income.

I just didn't expect mommy-shaming to happen in my own home. I'm still pissed at him. I feel like the worst mommy in the world because I went to work.

@daniellemybelle: i I turned 34 on Wednesday and I don't think we are considering another one until she is at least one. I have to wait or I should wait since I had a csection. We will stop at two.

Eta: we rock/nurse to sleep!!!! And have a PACi!!!! Also, I'm down to preprepreg size, but my body shape is weird. Bf is helping my body lose a lot, but I look really weird in some clothes. I'm not worrying about working out until she is older though.

@kjpugs: Lady, if I could stop by with a large coffee for you, I totally would. H has been getting up tons this week, and I think she's coming down with her first cold too.

@kjpugs: so sorry!! Hope she more than makes up for it tonight!

I don't usually rock to sleep, but then again Arthur has been sleeping in his crib since day one. We just made the decision to start there. It was hard in the beginning especially since his room is at the other end of the apartment, but I didn't want to buy a bassinet. This week I've started putting him in his crib for naps and it seems to be working well. Often he's drowsy, but awake when I do it. It doesn't always work, but hopefully soon it becomes his routine.

Overall, I think we all find our own way of doing things to keep everyone happy. Our babies will eventually STTN in their cribs. It just takes some longer than others... Don't sweat it!

@singingbee: @kjpugs: Your girls are such party animals Sorry you've been losing sleep!

We got a crib wedge to try to help S sleep better in her crib but I think it was a big fail She keeps rolling down & ending up totally horizontal with her head right up against the bars. And I don't think it's helped at all. Kids are such money pits!

I'm glad I'm not the only one that rocks to sleep. I'm rocking S back to sleep after a wakeup right now

It seems like the Oct 13 crowd is going to have little siblings sooner rather than later! It will be bittersweet when you all move on to your new DD boards. We are not in a huge rush for #2, and honestly I am scared of having two! I don't know how those of you with older LOs do it!

And now for some positive... What is the best/cutest/most amazing thing your LO has done this week?

Arthur started laughing the other day. Before he has been smiling, talking, cooing, and a bit of laughing in his sleep. But I hadn't experienced him actually laughing. This morning was a huge laughfest. Apparently I'm super funny looking while singing. Love the sound of baby laughs!

So busy now that I'm back to work. I promise I'll catch up soon. Just wanted to share

H had her first cold this weekend, and while she generally has been a trooper, today she decided to wake up and party at 4:45. No problem, it's snowing and my office is closed, so I thought I'd get a chance to rest. NOPE. My husband is now home sick, and he really can't do anything when he's sick because of his diabetes. So now I've spent my morning running around taking care of both of them, pumping for tomorrow, feeding pumped milk today (because it was thawed from the freezer and I didn't want to throw it out). I just sat down and ate a snack. This afternoon will be more of the same. Oh, and it's snowing, so I can't get out.

Hold me.

@daniellemybelle: Oh yuck! Tell Miss S that H and I hope she feels better soon! H also started laughing and it is the cutest thing ever!

@Zbug: I only pump at night if I'm feeling uncomfortably full and H isn't showing any signs of waking up. That's only happened a few times though, the most recent at Christmas. I have to say, pumping at 3 a.m. is not my idea of fun.

@kjpugs: H is on the mend. She was a real trooper, but let me tell you that she is NOT a fan of having her nose suctioned. My husband is doing much better, but still pretty pathetic. He was complaining about being tired from waking up a lot the last two nights. I'm biting my tongue about that, since I happen to be the one who hasn't slept a full night without wake-ups since, oh, February.

I hope E's teeth come soon so she gets back to her sunny self! I feel like H is on her way to it with the amount of drooling, chewing, and fussing that has been going on.

@avivoca: thanks. Agreed. And when I pump on the middle of the night, I have a terrible time falling back asleep. I usually wake up uncomfortably full but decide that I'd rather deal with it and sleep than get up and pump. Or else I wake up bc my nursing pads are full and I'm leaking. Maybe my problem is actually laziness.

@Zbug: mad support... pumping at night was THE WORST. I hated it. I know lots of people who don't have issues not pumping overnight though so I'm sure it's fine!

I know this is a little silly, but I'm sure you all understand. I have to leave S for two nights in a row this weekend Friday night is my book club, and Saturday night DH & I are going on a fancy date that was my Christmas gift. I am really worried/sad about being away from her at bedtime, so much so I am considering skipping book club! Please tell me she won't forget I'm her mom.

@daniellemybelle: no way! I was worried LO would forget me when I went back to work and every day I pick her up, she grins ear to ear and I know she knows who I am.

@daniellemybelle: I have similar yet different mom guilt. For E, nights are the worst. It's honestly like the minute our nanny leaves at 5, she turns. She's seemed fussy lately because of teething to I asked her at 5 today if E was at all fussy. She said no and how she's NEVER fussy for her and is so good. (it's true- I NEVER hear her cry with the nanny!) And just like every day, right after she leaves, E totally turns. It makes me feel like she hates me I know she is so great and smiley with us early but I just get so little AM time with her, that it makes me sad, like she dislikes me. I told our nanny that I wanted her to sit one night and we could see if she was herself and "fussy" or if she just was truly never fussy for her! Early on in my time with E I said I could never be a SAHM but now that she's easier (I think at 3 months it became WAY easier!) and more scheduled and fun... I wish I could spend every minute with her It SUCKS.

@avivoca: @kjpugs: @singingbee: @TFrances: Thanks for the reassurance, friends. Unfortunately S is a bit of a mommy monster... I had DH try to put her down last night & she screamed for a good 10 minutes, so I came in, nursed her more, and then handed her off 90% asleep... And she screamed another 10 minutes before passing out I am almost considering not going to book club tonight...

Many of you mentioned that you went back to work & your LOs still adore you (of course) so I feel a little silly making a big deal out of a short separation but I think it's harder because bedtime is always just me & her.

Speaking of work, though.... I QUIT MY JOB! I haven't breathed a word here because you never know who reads this. Everyone I talked to said they weren't surprised I worked like a crazy person before - 70 hour weeks on the regular - so there was no way I could return. Unfortunately we can't afford for me to stay home full-time so I am looking for something else, but I am soaking up every minute with my girl in the meantime.

@daniellemybelle: OH. MY. GOSH!!!!!!!! That's AWESOME! So glad you're focusing on what's important. I know you'll find something better that's a great fit for your family and your skills!

@abbylyn: yay! It's so nice when they finally do long stretches. I used to wake up super engorged, but I think my body is adjusting and it's not too bad now. I'm scared about possible 4 mo sleep regression though!

@daniellemybelle: congrats!