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@avivoca: Congrats! thats wonderful news!
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I totally rocked our morning routine today!
Fi slept from 9:30-4:45 then went back to sleep. I got up at 6, showered got all my stuff together and in the car, warmed it up, woke her up, changed and fed her and were in the car by 6:50 and i was at work by 8 after the drop off. I would be golden if every morning could work out like that. -
@Chillybear: go you!! I spent twenty minutes trying to convince DD that 6:15 was too early to wake up before giving up and making a cup of coffee.
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@chillybear -- Congrats on a great morning. You are inspiration for me when I head back to work in 2 weeks. I'm completely worried about the routine considering we're not totally on a set schedule. Some days it fluctuates. Good luck to you as you get settled in to work.
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I went to bed at 9:45 last night! It. Was. GLORIOUS!
Ladies, do your husbands help with the morning routine? After a few passive aggressive remarks on my part, mine has started getting h in the mornings! but I'm still the one prepping/washing bottles, getting the bag ready, and getting the baby ready.
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@Redmini1: we just flew last week. I wore her in the ergo (we didn't take a car seat or stroller) and it was great. I didn't have to take her out to go through security, which was super convenient. She was also much better on the plane than I feared she would be, even after a day of cancellations and delays and far too much time in the airport.
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Lucy had beauuutiful night sleep last week. We were at my mom's, and I'd worried she'd be awful, but she started sleeping 6 hour stretches at night, and did one eight hour stretch! Now we're back home, and she's waking up three times a night, which she hasn't done since she was three or four weeks old. Ugh.
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Today is LO's third day at daycare. We've been slowly ramping up (2 hrs Wed, 4 hrs Thurs, and 6 today) so she can start full time on Monday. I was doing ok over the past couple days but I feel so sad today! I feel like my maternity leave just flew by.
@Chillybear: That is awesome. I feel like I really need to get a routine down. We have been flying by the seat of our pants the last few days and I haven't even started work yet!
@avivoca: My husband usually hangs out with LO when she first gets up in the mornings (usually 5am ugh) so I can sleep a little longer. He'll also make coffee, feed the cats, etc. So far I've been the one dealing with getting LO's bottles, clothes, and other stuff ready but I feel like we've balanced the chores pretty well. He feels guilty that I have to do all the nursing/pumping, so he tries to help in other ways.
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@MrsMed: Thanks! i'm sure every morning wont be that easy but it was nice to see that it was possible. i think the key for me will be to have everything ready the night before - outfits picked, lunches and diaperbags packed, dinner defrosting in the fridge
@avivoca: my husband gets up at 5:30 and is out the door by 6. his job in the am is to be as quiet as possible, feed the dog, and make sure i'm up by the time he leaves. I do all the packing and prep the night before and he helps with that.
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So at 15 weeks PP i'm offically at my prebaby weight - and i celebrated by eating a double chocolate muffin
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@catlady: I was super sad on H's first full day at daycare, but she loves it there. She hasn't cried once when we left her, otherwise I think I'd have a hard(er) time walking out the door. I'm glad your husband helps out! H wasn't up this morning, so he was all like, "Oh, I can go back to lay down with the dog," and ignoring the fact that bottles needed prepping for the day. He also doesn't wash/put them away at night. I think we're going to have to have a serious talk before I blow up on him.
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@Chillybear: Congrats on PP weight! I have 15 pounds that will not budge, so I'm seriously going to have to overhaul how I eat and start running again. I'm so nervous about exercise impacting my supply though.
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@Avivoca: I wish my DH would help more, but nope. I am a SAHM, he works almost 80 hours a week. Usually that translates to me taking care of LO 20+ hours a day. I would love to see my husband get up a bit earlier (he doesn't go in until 10am usually) and spend a bit of quality time with Arthur. By the time he comes home from work, I'm getting LO ready for bed. I would like to see more play/help/whatever between those two. I don't want Arthur to become so attached to me that he won't go with others. Feel like DH and I need to have a serious discussion about our roles...
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Baby slept from 9;30-5:15 this morning! Hallelujah!!!! Momma pumped 5 (!) oz from her left boob and almost 4 oz from her right (lazy) boob.
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@Abbylyn: that's good to hear. I plan to wear her but I do need to bring the car seat bc our destination won't have one. Im thinking I might check my luggage even though it's only a few days... Just really nervous.
Is anyone else losing their in large quantities? I'm bit even sure how I have ok top of my head anymore. I knew it would happen but wasn't expecting so much .
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@Redmini1: OMG the hair loss! It's so gross. I'm not sure how I still have hair on my head, I literally have clumps (sorry if that's TMI) on the shower wall and in my comb.
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@singingbee: I'm excited if I get 3 oz from my lazy right boob!
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@Avivoca: me too... I hate running my hands through my hair bc of how much comes out. Also have to be super careful bc I always find it on J in her hands or hiding in her little folds.
@singingbee: yay for the lazy boob
I'm just getting back into a pumping schedule to return to work...
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Hey y'all. Lots to catch up on! LO was a trooper with her shots - no adverse affects that I could notice, but a blood curdling scream when they stuck her
We are having a horrible nap day over here. It started with our morning nap which is usually right after her first feeding, no awake time. Now I am listening to her cry in her swing hoping she falls back asleep. Please let this just be an off day - I feel like we just got into the swing of things! (No swing pun intended, ha.)
Speaking of listening to her cry... am I the only one that is doing "fuss it out"? I don't let her full blown cry - she will never settle down - but I have started waiting 5-10 if she is wakes up too soon from a nap or if I put her down asleep & she wakes herself up. Many times she will go back to sleep. I mostly feel guilty because we aren't formally sleep training or following a method - I just kind of decide in each situation whether I think she will be able to get herself back to sleep, and I don't always guess right!
In other news, we did a clandestine LC visit yesterday... I know that everyone thinks I obsess over nursing/feeding too much so I didn't tell DH or my mom. Great news is that she transferred 2.5 oz in a 30 min BFing session during which she wasn't nursing great, so I feel like she could be getting even more when we nurse calmly for 45 minutes at home. I am weaning off supplement slowly. I don't think I will ever have a full supply - 2.5 oz is measly compared to most of you - but less formula makes me happy.
@avivoca: That's great news about your job! I'm glad they are showing you that they appreciate you, since you've had a rough time there.
As for husbands helping with the morning routine... I am still on maternity leave, but DH pretty much doesn't do anything unless I ask, whether it is washing bottles or helping with LO. Last night I had him do most of her bedtime routine while I did dishes & picked up, because I feel like he doesn't spend much hands-on time with her. He was reluctant but they did fine! @TFrances: I can relate to your situation with your husband. Mine works long days & I know he deserves his rest, but I really want him to bond with S more.
@Zbug: I wish so much that LO would take a pacifier! I think her tongue tie prevents her from holding it in. Apparently MAM pacifiers are good for tongue ties so we are going to try those.
@abbylyn: Wonder what it is about your mom's house? I am always so scientific about sleep & try to replicate good days! Maybe extra stimulation during the day?
@Chillybear: Yay about reaching your postpartum weight! I'm with @avivoca - I worry that any weight loss efforts will jeopardize my supply. However, we are almost at my first goal of nursing for 3 months, so I'm going to start working out soon & hope for the best.
@singingbee: Holla to the sleep AND the pumping session! I assume you were more full because your LO STTN? Or are you just a champ pumper?
@kjpugs: How is swaddle weaning going? Have you tried the Merlin yet? I am thinking of ordering it... S fights her swaddle so much, but if we do arms out she always wakes herself up
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@daniellemybelle: well taking a pacifier is a recent development. I would try every week or so and she just recently started taking it. Of course, I then start to wonder if this is a habit I want to start! Great news on the feeding!! How's her weight gain? If she's gaining enough weight, I really wouldn't worry about exactly how much you produce. All babies don't eat the same amount anyway. Great job!!
@Chillybear: congrats!! Are your clothes fitting again? I'm like 4-5 lbs from my prepreggo weight, but I don't think all my jeans are going to work again.
@abbylyn: I feel you. DD slept beautifully at my parents' but now is back to normal (fine but not great).
@Redmini1: I highly suggest checking luggage. I hate to do it, but it was worth it not to have to deal with LO and luggage!
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@daniellemybelle: 2.5 oz is amazing! I'm so happy for you! Do you nurse on both sides at every feeding or just one? I nurse one at a time (pump both while at work) and my lazy boob only produces 2.5-3 oz. per session. I also notice that I produce way more when I'm eating healthier foods.
I'm so glad it's Friday! Two whole days with my girl!
Also, I need to vent a bit. My husband has been FaceTiming with his mom so she can see Hyla every day. I feel that it's getting a bit excessive. He expects me to FT with her when he's out of town. I'm okay with once a week or so, but once a day? That's annoying. He always wants to FT during her bath, and I'm starting to get annoyed because I have so little time with H during the week and I don't want to share it with anyone, even over the phone. I feel like a shrew just saying that, but I had to get it out.
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@Zbug: Her weight gain has been excellent - about 8oz a week, which is more than the 5-7oz that is recommended. I am going to watch her wet diapers like a hawk and try to get her weighed weekly (not sure how yet) as I wean off formula - I have a feeling she will let me know if she is still hungry though!
@avivoca: I nurse both sides & then offer a 2oz bottle. 2.5oz is really not amazing, haha, but that coupled with her awesome weight gain is definitely reassuring.
I would not be down with daily FaceTime. I'm sure it's hard to say no now that it's a ritual they have, but especially since you are at work all day, heck no. Modern technology has spoiled grandparents a bit! My MIL wants to be texted pictures every day, and I'm happy to but sometimes the day gets away from me! Remember when our parents had to get film developed and put pictures in the mail?
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@daniellemybelle: I totally do "fuss it out." We're not doing any formal sleep training yet either but if she's not really crying, I give it a couple minutes. I do feel guilty though too (especially when it doesn't work and she starts actually crying before I get to her).
@singingbee: That is amazing! I am so jealous of everyone's sttn-ing babies (hehe).
@avivoca: I would go nuts if we had to do FaceTime with my MIL every day! That really seems excessive. I have trouble enough dealing with the fact that we usually see one grandparent or another almost every weekend (DH's parents are divorced, so it's like rotating between 3 families).
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@daniellemybelle: good luck! Weaning off formula sounds definitely doable. I wonder if you could stop offering the formula and just feed her a little more frequently (wait less time between feedings)? That might also work to fill on any gaps in your supply. Or have you thought about trying a nurse-in? It sounds like your supply has improved so much that it actually might not take a lot to cut out the formula (which it sounds like you want to do). It sounds like you could absolutely make this work
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@Zbug: In the early days, we tried nursing frequently, nurse-ins, pumping after every feeding, everything under the sun. Unfortunately, I have chronic low supply which is not easily resolved by the typical supply-and-demand measures
I appreciate the suggestions though!
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Got our Merlin sleep suit today... Hopefully this will help with our sleep issues.
@avivoca: the face time would annoy me too. We have s strict policy between DH and I, he deals with his parents and I deal with mine. We both have a lot of crazy to deal with on either side.
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@Redmini1: I'll be curious to see how it goes for you with the Merlin suit. We got ours two days ago and have used it with mixed results. The good news: our baby has now taken several naps on her back in the crib! She has never slept in her crib for more than 5 minutes before, even with a swaddle, even if I nurse or rock her to sleep first (she usually naps in the swing). The bad news: she still can't stay asleep in her crib for more than an hour. We also tried using it at night (to transition out of swaddle/rock n play) and it was a bad night for us. She slept in it, but she was basically up every hour and was difficult to settle. She is still small enough for the swaddle, so I am going to wait a little longer before trying out the merlin suit at night again.
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@Catlady: so after our first night, it was just ok. Not the worst night I've spent but definitely far from the best. I started her off in the R & P in our room in the suit. She fell asleep almost instantly but then woke up after 20 min and then an hour so after putting her back down a couple of times, we woke up to nurse at our usual time around 3:30. After that she fell asleep very quickly and I put her in the crib where she spent 3 hours and the she was just up for the day. She had her best sleep in the crib so tonight I'll skip the R & P and go straight for the crib. I'm going to miss the convenience of having her close but that 3 hour stretch in my bed with no baby was pretty nice.
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It did make for a fantastic picture and a lot of Stay Puft marshmallow jokes when she's in the suit.
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@Redmini1: Good luck with the crib tonight! Sounds promising. I was too much of a wimp to put her in the crib overnight, so we had tried a pack n play instead. Maybe the crib will make the difference. Totally agree about the marshmallow jokes! They look so cute in those suits.
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Back to work today. So hard leaving Lucy this morning, but I only cried a little. I do tear up thinking about it though.
Used my hands free pumping bra for the first time this morning. I feel like a cow hooked up to the milk machine. Which is essentially what I am.
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My computer has been wonky so I have missed SO MUCH!!!!!
@Chillybear: congrats on the PP weight!! That muffin sounds FAB. I started a dietbet to try to get back to my PP weight. Eating healthy BLOWS!
@Redmini1: @avivoca: omg the hair loss. It's coming out in clumps in the shower. It's one of the most depressing feelings I've ever had.
@daniellemybelle: that's awesome about your LC visit and 2.5 oz is more than I ever did when BF and pretty much the tops of what I ever got pumping in one session. So I'm impressed!!!!!!!! Dr Brown's pacis work best for LO- we have a few types but she keeps those in best (we use them at nighttime specifically) although sometimes she wants a soothie/wubbanub. And swaddle weaning is going great- will update below!
@avivoca: I facetime with my mom everyday, but partially it's beacuse I'm alone a lot and it helps me to have that interaction. I would be fine with him doing it as long as it's HIM, and not your problem. You are not required to do it when he's out- you'll have your hands full. (Honestly I could FT or skype my mom anytime but it's very easy to say it's work- bc when youre watching a kid solo anything you don't really want to do, is WORK.) My MIL FT'd with DH/us on Christmas and was all like "Oh we need to do this more!" You bet I won't be doing it. I have zero desire. She also keeps talking about figuring out instagram and I will seriously shoot myself.
@daniellemybelle: oh yeah and we kind of do fuss it out too. At night sometimes she'll fuss then go back to sleeping. I give it aminute unless it's really escalating.
@Redmini1: @catlady: we got our Merlin suit! AND LOVE IT! We kind of got kicked in the butt to use it because of her rolling over. The sleep sack was ok but I wanted to try the Merlin. I hadn't washed it so I didn't use it Saturday night. But then her second wake up at 6-something after going to bed way later (than her usual bedtime) she decided to lay and kick and fuss and not go to sleep. 20 minutes in I was like, "screw this" and put her in the merlin. INSTANT SLEEP. Not kidding. It was after 7am at that point and then she slept til after 10am. I was muy impressed!
We tried the Merlin last night too... asleep around 8:40, slept NINE HOURS, one wakeup, then slept til 9:30. A+!!!
One additional "pro" is that she's had less "paci wake ups" as I call them. Where she's sort of awake but fusses enough that it will escalate eventually to fully awake, or just keeps me up. All she wants is her paci back. A few nights ago I counted FOURTEEN paci wake ups. Last night, one or two. (I only remember one but there could have been two.) I think it's really helped to calm her and help her sleep. I'll add a post in a second with pictures
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@abbylyn: I left my pumping bra at home.
I call my pumping room The Barn (saw it here on HB) since I feel like a cow hooked up to the pump.@kjpugs: She seriously gets sad if she doesn't see H one day. Yesterday, he FT'd her FIVE TIMES. I'm going nuts. I don't wanna share!
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My little stay-puft marshmallow baby!
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@avivoca: um 5 times in one day is EXCESSIVE. I sometimes FT my mom twice in a day but it's days like a saturday where I'm alone all day except the hour before DH goes to work. I try not to FT her when I'm spending time with him as to not take away from our family time. Granted, most families are either all together or all working, so I know that's not an option for everyone, but I find that obnoxious. I'm shocked my MIL isn't asking for the same.
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@kjpugs: Erm, yeah. He's so excited, he thinks everything she does is cute (which is true, but we might be a teensy bit biased) and he just want to share, but my parents aren't being FT'd all the time (they don't have iPhones) and my mom only bugs me for pictures on her month birthday. I think it should be the same for his family. My family sees her once a month. I'm getting really annoyed with this FT commitment infringing on my already limited time with my daughter.
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@avivoca: if it's interfearing on your time with LO you need to talk to DH. If you could set a time for a (short) call with him/LO/MIL - and then you could make that a time for you to do something like shower (haha- am I the only one who never gets them?) or run an errand, etc, then everyone could be happier. Well except your MIL hahaha. But DH better learn that keeping you happy will make him happier!
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@kjpugs: I'm glad someone else said it. I feel like a complete and total B**** because I don't want to FT her all the time. Maybe that should be the time I go running (I shower after she's in bed for the night).
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@avivoca: that would be perfect! Tell DH that you don't like that his mom is invading your (now limited since you're working) time with LO as a family, so how about you pick a time, when he can FT his mom and you can go running. If she can't do that time one day, TOUGH, wait til tomorrow. So say it's 6pm, then it's 6 or nothing. ANd he can FT until you get home and then that's it. I think that's MORE than fair.
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@Zbug: thanks! I'm back in most of my pre preg clothes but i will admit everything fits a little differently my boobs are bigger my hips and legs seem a little wider
I'm feeling really low today.... After my first week back i was hoping i would feel better going into today but i feel worse. Friday night Fi was inconsolable for over 2 hours she had crappy sleep nights both friday and saturday night and woke up sunday all congested again (this is her 3rd cold). She slept most of the day saturday either in her swing or in my arms. Last night she was up at 1:15-2 and then up at 4 she was so congested that everytime i would lay her in the RnP she'd wake herself back up, i tried bringing her in our bed, with no luck i finally got her to sleep but it was too late for me to go back to bed so i showered and got ready for work. Mondays are the day my MIL is at our house so at least i got to work on time. I know it will get easier once we develop a working routine buts just so hard and I'm horrible with transitions. I'm exhausted, frustrated and very crabby right now and i'm keeping my distance from my hubs because i know that some very mean thoughts are on the tip of my tongue. I feel resentful and angry. There are so many things that need to get done each night in order for us to have a successful morning and it seems like i'm running around like a chicken with my head cut off and he's on the couch sipping a beer watching hockey. His response is why arent you asking me for help, and my feeling is we've lived together for 5 years and you still have to wait to be told to feed the dog, wash the dishes, bring up laundry, or take out trash, etc
sorry i just needed to rant for a minute.
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