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@Litebrite: Congrats!!!!

I'll join you :). It's definitely hard. I feel like I've lost some of the pregnancy innocence that I had with DD, and I'm just wishing time would move faster. The first few weeks were the most difficult. I had some unexplained bleeding and then a questionable early ultrasound. I'm 10 weeks now though and feeling much better! I passed where the baby had stopped growing before (8 weeks), which was mentally a big hurdle. I wouldn't say I'm carefree at this point, but I'm now starting to believe this is really going to happen and am getting more excited.

How are you feeling? When is your first appointment?

@Litebrite: you should be able to see a heartbeat at 6 weeks or so. Would your dr let you have a quick reassurance ultrasound around 6.5 weeks? Otherwise, I suggest just keeping busy!

@LovelyPlum: thank you

I'll join. Although it's nothing like what some ladies have experienced, I had a chemical pregnancy in December 2013 in cycle 12 of trying. It took us another year and Clomid to get pregnant again. This would be our first. I'm currently 7 weeks 1 day and my first ultrasound is scheduled for this Tuesday. I have all day nausea, no bleeding/spotting, and it's still hard for me to believe this is real. I'm so afraid we'll go and the baby won't be there.

It's been so hard to believe something good has finally happened when we've had two pretty difficult years (infertility plus job changes and a move).

@AprilFool: Congrats! Didn't see that you were pregnant again

I'm 26 weeks today after a loss at 5ish weeks last March/April. I also have a 2.5 year old DD who was a rainbow baby after an 8.5 week loss. With her, I basically never calmed down. Some of that is my usual anxious personality, but the miscarriage certainly didn't help. It's rough. It's slightly better now that I can feel the baby move around a lot! But I still worry. Hugs to everyone dealing with this

@LCTBQE: you did share that! And I appreciate you telling me your story. I hit slight nausea at like 6 weeks 4 days and it's gotten steadily worse. Right now an empty stomach is my nemesis. I haven't thrown up but if I don't eat every 3-4 hours I end up dry heaving into my toilet. I'm going to gain 1000lbs. Trying to keep my meals small and somewhat healthy but it's hard!!!

It's definitely making me less and less afraid that there isn't a baby growing in there because it seems like that baby is taking all my nutrients!

Hi! Jumping in. I'm still 'waiting for the other shoe to drop'. We saw a heartbeat at 6.5 weeks, but since my loss happened at 8, I'm convinced we lost this one at 8 too and don't know it yet (I'm 10.5 now). I have an appointment Thursday and if they hear the h/b on Doppler, I *may* actually start to believe this is happening.

@Litebrite: one day at a time is the only way to get by. I don't have my first appt until 9.5 weeks (next week) and it feels like torture having to wait this long after a loss my last pregnancy, but there was nothing I could do about it, so I am just taking it day by day and reassuring myself that everything is ok and that I'm actually pregnant.

It's not easy, but i'd rather be optimistic and feel good about it than be pessimistic to the point where I drive myself crazy. so that's where I'm at at the moment.

@Litebrite: I want to chime in and offer support to you mamas and mamas to be. Its really, really hard to manage through a pregnancy after you've had a loss or losses.

I am currently 25 weeks following 2 losses. This has been the longest weeks and months for me EVER. It feels like everything is moving a snails pace and I've accepted the fact that I'm not going to be able to relax and enjoy this pg, and thats okay.

I aways hoped that milestones (12 weeks, NT scan, anatomy scan) would give me some assurance but nope. Each time I successfully passed one of those events, something scary would happen like spotting and cramping or full on heavy bleeding and hospitalization. Following a big bleed at Christmastime, which really was worse case senario kind of stuff, I've kind of surrendered to the idea that theres really nothing I can do, my body is in charge here and I'd better start trusting it!

So, sending you all peaceful vibes and hoping the time between now and your next scan/appt/milestone moves as quickly as possible.

ETA: Buying a doppler was a big win for me as it helped a great deal in easing my anxieties. Every time I was having worries, I'd whip it out and have a listen - I highly recommend getting one.

@Litebrite: glad you've made your decision! sometimes I think the hardest part is not knowing what YOUR plan is, regardless of your body's plans

about telling people, my first pregnancy we told no one, my second I told a couple of close friends (basically it was a disaster, I was a mess and needed their support), and this pregnancy at the very beginning I told the same dear friends, along with my dad, for the same reason--they all know about the miscarriages, and I find that their love and support is what I need more than my privacy. but seems like most people do it the other way around and tell fewer and fewer people as the road gets rougher. I think it's like the u/s decisions or testing decisions... super personal and absolutely no right or wrong approach

@mrsjd: that's how I feel about social media, too. I think we're in the minority
also if you are going to gain 1000 pounds, maybe we can split it and each gain 500. I can't go longer than one hour without eating (eating what? carbs) or I start to feel woozy and weak. then I eat and perk back up, then 45 minutes later repeat. woof. on the bright side, I will say without this delicate condition I think it would be packing on a lot faster than it is.
so, so excited for you tomorrow

@Alba4: @Autumnmama79: @Mrs. Champagne: @AprilFool: @sslm: it's really nice to hear from all of you who are a little further down the road; it gives me so much hope to see that you're making it one day at a time. I've been lightly stalking the May/June/July dd boards, I don't know why--looking for some indication of what might happen? and have been rooting for you all silently
@Autumnmama79: wow, sounds like you have really been through it over there. so happy everything is well

@JoJoGirl: also can't wait for good news from your appointment! so much hope for you, lady.

@LCTBQE: thank you! That's a good point. I feel that way about chemicals too. I call it a miscarriage when I speak about it in real life. But I know I didn't go through the physical trauma some have had to deal with so I guess I'm just trying to be sensitive to that. But I shouldn't feel like I have to diminish my experience.

@Pirouette: I think this is just one of those things where every relationship is different, but I'm sure they would be extra happy to hear good news if you ever did decide you wanted to share what happened with the m/c.
With both pregnancies/mc's I only told my parents after the fact. And this time I told my dad, but my mom's out. she keeps offering me money for a surrogate because she has concluded I can't carry a pregnancy. thx, mom.

@mrsjd:

@LCTBQE: you are absolutely right, my parents would be so so supportive if i told them now. But i think theyd feel a little slighted that i didnt tell them at the time.

@AprilFool: if i hadnt miscarried naturally, i definitely would have had to tell the family. It's hard to know what to say when you havent been through it i guess. For some people, positivity is the way to get through it, but not for everyone.

@Litebrite: We shared with family at 16 weeks (really hard to do this) and I didn't tell work until I was 22 weeks lol. I'm sure lots of people guessed but I wasn't ready to share it openly. Still haven't posted to IG and won't until I have babe in arms.

@mrsjd: How did your ultrasound go today?

@LCTBQE: Sorry about your mom. Sometimes their love is so misguided

@AprilFool: Yay for feeling the movement. I love feeling this little squirm worm in my belly! I also had a friend who didn't get it and just had to remind myself that for her, ignorance probably was bliss.

@Pirouette: When is your first appointment?

@ModernDayJibarita: So interesting about the hypnobirthing classes! Esp the meditation aspect.

@Pirouette: Such a positive attitude! Thats awesome. Are you hoping for an ultrasound at the appt?

I posted on the September board (with photo) but wanted to update you ladies as well. Ultrasound was perfect. Measuring 7 weeks 4 days and with a heartbeat of 164!