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Aaaannd the other two Bradley method classes in the area aren't going to work. One is full, one started two days ago. I'll have to get DH on board with the cost asap, so we can go ahead and sign up for the one with 3 openings! Also, sleep. Should not be researching this after midnight.

@London Mama: LOL, my boss told me the other day 'You are really making that coat work!' - meaning, it looked like it was about to bust apart at the seams Does H&M sell online where you live? I have a couple jackets from them (not maternity) that are cute.

@Torchwood: Find out if your insurance company will cover them or reimburse you! I had no idea that was an option until we took our class & the instructor asked everyone to pass in their reimbursement forms! I called & was able to get 90% of our class covered. Yay!

@Littlebit: Hooray for movement!!

Saw my new OB today and he was lovely, so much better than the shambles I've been dealing with at my old clinic. Can you believe it's been almost 4 weeks and they still haven't sent me the results of my blood test, or updated my file yet? Plus they're making me collect the file which means taking time off work as they're only open 9-5 Monday yo Friday. Rant aside, the best part was hearing the baby's heartbeat, nice and strong!

Thanks for the tip @Littlebit, we have both HM stores and online service so will take a look tonight.

@psw27: Bradley method is the primary one I wanted based on past research. I need to look into it a little more and be sure though.

@Mrs. Jump Rope: I hadn't thought of that! Our insurance is pretty darn good, so there's at least a decent chance there. Thanks!

@gingerbebe: The one that's still available is $320. Which is a lot, but given that it's 12 weeks, twice a week, that's not insanely high. Hopefully insurance will cover it. I do feel strongly about wanting the Bradley one, so hopefully it'll work out.

@London Mama: Sorry you're not feeling great, but hooray for a good appointment! That last one sounds ridiculous! And they can't fax the file or anything? That's what my ob did when we moved

Ugh. Dreamed last night that the baby died. It was one of those dreams that made no real sense (at one point the baby turned into a clear plastic cup, and no one questioned it), but basically I went into labor and had the baby at home, then realized AFTER that I was still only 18 weeks so it was too early and it couldn't survive. And I was yelling/crying at DH that if we'd just realized it was too soon we could have gone to the hospital and they'd have stopped labor, so it was all my fault. Woke up rather upset, but checked and heartbeat is still going strong. Also, in the dream, baby was a boy. Gonna add that to my list of "predictions," since mama's dreams are just slightly more likely than not to be right. So far I'm leaning towards boy, even though most things (like the chinese gender chart and stuff) say girl.

Whoops, read that wrong, this class is once a week. Which is better, because DH wouldn't like giving up two nights a week.

Ordered some maternity leggings so I can wear some of my dresses to work this spring/summer (I work in a lab and have to have my legs covered) and somehow this jumped into my cart!

I still think it's a girl...and I'm really hoping I'm right because otherwise I have to bring it back!

Trying to check if our new insurance works with my midwife, and I REALLY hope something is wrong with their website. Because it's showing that there are NO in-network doctors in our city. DH as a doctor appointment tomorrow, so I guess we'll figure something out then? Trying not to panic a bit. Surely his company (which is extremely good on the benefits front) wouldn't have switched to an insurance that doesn't work for everyone?

@gingerbebe: Thanks. I need to quit thinking about it, because it's freaking me out. Really wish DH was awake! But I sent him a text so that he'll get it in the morning, warning him. His appointment is before I'll be awake. Ugh. The good news is that it apparently covers a breast pump, so there's that, right?

@Mrs. Jump Rope: Oh yeah, I feel you. We had 2 losses prior to this pregnancy and we named both of them, so I feel like this is really my 3rd child, but I never know what to say to folks. I don't care about telling them its my 3rd pregnancy, first baby, but I never know how others will take it. Seems like a downer for them even though I'm fine with it.

By the way, didn't you have your scan? Did you find out what you're having!?

@Mrs. Jump Rope: BTW, I'm totally asking because I saw that these PBK kids towels were on sale and saw this flamingo one and immediately thought of you!

http://www.potterybarnkids.com/products/st-tropez-flamingo-beach-wrap/?pkey=cspring-break-sale&

@Mrs. Jump Rope: I just edited the link - that was for the nursery wrap and the one I meant is the beach towel size. They have TWO shades of flamingo!

@Mrs. Jump Rope: I am so right there with you. My brother and sister (ages 12 and 14) want me to come visit them, but it's a 4 hour drive and I'm pretty sure I'd have to stop and pee 10 times.

@gingerbebe: @Mrs. Jump Rope: Yeah, it's hard to explain that this is my first, when really it's my third. I mean, I don't explain it, but I'm thinking it and it's just confusing and sad.

So, as if this insurance situation isn't stressful enough, DH's doctor today wants to do something like 15 different types of labwork, and a colonoscopy. I have no idea how much will be covered with the out of network situation. DH is calling the insurance company and his company today to try to figure this out. I feel like we can't complain too much, since his company pays 100% of our insurance, but it's just really frustrating that this could wind up costing us a lot more money. And it's just SO not like them to screw over some employees on this sort of thing. They can spend millions (and millions) of dollars on taking the entire company to hawaii and having a private concert on the beach and everything else, but they can't choose an insurance company that provides proper coverage for everyone?

Ugh, spent DD's nap time dealing with the receptionist at my new OB's office...at my 16-week appt my old OB gave me an order for my 20-week a/s. New receptionist is telling me that I have to see an OB at new practice so she can give me an order for the a/s...but no appts available until May 2. So, I was like, if my OB already gave me an order why do I need a new one? She put me on hold 3 times and each time she would come back she would say, "Okay, so Dr. C. can see you on May 2." and I kept saying, "but you haven't answered my question!"

I FINALLY made an appointment with the radiologist for my a/s, but I have to bring the doctor's order, which I don't have, because it was in the computer system at the old OB. UGH, I couldn't get on the phone again, so I'll have to try to get it straightened out tomorrow. Hopefully I'll be able to get it figured out and then our a/s will be on April 28!

@Torchwood: I'm sorry this is so stressful for you. I think at times like this, you need to have a plan of attack and just take it a step at a time, but calmly rationally. Just pick one thing to do and leave the rest for the following day.

If it were me, I would ask the insurance companny what you should do when there's no in-network providers in the area. Like you said, perhaps the list of providers isn't up to date and they have a comprehensive list. I would put the ball in their court and tell them to come up with a list of providers you can see in your area and have them mail a hard copy of those providers to you.

If no providers exist, ask them what you should do and how the cost breakdown would look like. If they tell you something over the phone with regards to what and how much they will cover, tell them you'd like that in writing so that you have proof of coverage for your files. If the person you speak with can't answer your questions fully, ask nicely to be transferred to a supervisor.

I think once you know who you can and can't see, then you can deal with the cost of your prenatal visits and what not by having their medical billing folks hash out the money end of it for you and go over your costs in office before the visit.

The worst case scenario might be trying to get coverage on your own policy. The open enrollment period for individuals through the ACA is over, but they have a special enrollment period for people who have qualifying life events, like having a baby or moving outside your insurer's coverage area. I think you'd have to call and speak to a representative about whether or not your circumstances fit into a qualifying event, but it wouldn't hurt to try. Otherwise, you can try to just get coverage through a private insurance company and see how much it would be. You can just have the policy for a few months until open enrollment under Obamacare opens again in November.

DH apparently called and he says it was an issue on insurance's end and that my midwives are definitely covered. So I can stop freaking out! Except I'm pregnant and hormonal so probably not gonna stop immediately. Moral of the story- don't freak out until you know for sure there's a problem. But if you can't help it, harass your husband about it all day so he fixes it for you even when he's really too busy to waste time on the phone with insurance! He even came home early, though not because of this.

@gingerbebe: Thank you for taking the time to reply! That's all good information that I'll remember if we have any more issues. I guess the good thing in all this is that I understand how insurance works a lot better, and am less likely to wind up with some huge bills due to me doing something wrong.

@gingerbebe: I find out the day after yours supposed to, but I'm so tempted to go somewhere to get an elective one next week. I'm also dying to know!

@Mrs. Jump Rope: oh my gosh!!! YAYYYY!!!! Can't wait to find out what LO2 is!

@Torchwood: man, the whole situation sounds so stressful! I don't understand why they would switch to an insurance company that wouldn't be beneficial to their employees. So crazy. Glad you guys seem to be sorting it out though.

@gingerbebe: I am so jealous! I ask my husband daily if I can schedule one, but he always says no. 20 more days for us!

So I've been on an eBay maternity clothes kick. I need shirts badly, but don't want to shell out the money for retail - so finding them on eBay has been going well! I just got a new pair of motherhood maternity jean shorts with the tags still on them for $15.84! I'm pretty happy about that! I'm set on pants/leggings for the rest of the pregnancy...just need some cheap shirts. I would so much rather be making baby purchases but I have 20 days to go before finding out the gender.

@Torchwood: I'm glad you were able to get answers and have everything straightened out. It can be so stressful, even more so when you don't know the right questions to ask.

@Littlebit: eBay is a good idea! I don't have many tops either but hate spending the money.

@gingerbebe: it went really well! Baby is healthy and had all it's fingers, toes, etc. we got to see baby yawn which was really cool. It was like a dance party in there so the scan took a bit longer than expected.

And it's a girl!