wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@Pumuckl: Hmmm... maybe I should try leaving the light on (a dim light) and letting him read on his own. Then I could still get my me-time in, haha.
@Smurfette: Xander used to go to bed so well, but for the past week it's just been crying/whining for 30-60 minutes before he falls asleep.
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
@Adira: that is why I would try the later time. Or try the light and reading trick. Does he have a nightlight?
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@Smurfette: He doesn't have a nightlight, but he also doesn't seem to want one - the sound machine has the option of turning on a little light, but he always tells me to turn it off when I've turned it on. But I haven't tried it recently. Maybe I'll try the reading trick first and if that doesn't want, try a later bedtime... ugh
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
@Adira: Oh R demands the light on the sound machine on. Along with the two nightlights on her nightstand. Luckily she doesn't whine, most nights, just takes her forever. Later bedtime would suck but it is better then dropping the nap, if you ask me.
pomegranate / 3601 posts
@Adira: I thought it was about your alone time that's why I remembered the "reading" trick. I don't go to bed myself before midnight often so his late bedtime isn't so much of an issue. Maybe a "real" light connected to a timer would work for the lightning issue? That way he'd know when he has to stop too.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@Smurfette: That's true!!! Not ready to drop the nap. Plus they still do it at preschool.
I think part of the reason Xander's whining is because he's not getting what he wants. Or stubbornness. I don't know. Last night, we went through the bedtime routine just fine, but when it came to laying in bed while I sang him a song, he refused. He just kept saying "no song, no song!" I told him that if I left without singing him a song, I wasn't going to come back and he told me to go, so I gave him a hug and a kiss and left. As soon as the door closes, he starts screaming "ONE SONG!!! I WANT A SONG, PLEASE!" while crying.
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
@Adira: oh yeah that is going on at our house these days. Or she is screaming for us cause she needs a little water, tissue for her nose, etc. Anything to stall.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@Smurfette: Well, that kind of makes me feel better that it's not just Xander!
pomegranate / 3601 posts
@Adira: @Smurfette: We have similar issues but not around bedtime more about testing boundaries in general.
pomelo / 5621 posts
@Adira: Isaac's bed has a dim reading light that automatically turns off after 10 minutes. He likes to have that left on at bedtime, though I'm pretty sure he just lays there.
@Smurfette: I agree, dropping a nap scares me, I'd rather have a later bedtime if needed. I love that little bit of quiet time on the weekends.
@Pumuckl: Testing boundaries happens daily around here. Especially with listening, it is like we aren't even talking to him sometimes.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
I don't get my kid at all.
I thought things were going really great with bedtime last night! We played extra downstairs and then when we went upstairs to get ready for bed, I kept all the lights dim. We brushed his teeth, went potty, changed for bedtime, and then I read him two books. After, I asked if he would like me to keep the light on in his room for a little bit so he could read some more before I sang him songs and he said NO! He totally looked tired!!! I put him in his crib, put a blanket over him, and sang three songs. His head was on the pillow and his eyes were closed and I thought "Success!" But as soon as I said "I love you, Xander, goodnight," he was all "I'm going to cry!" and perked right up! I left the room and he immediately started wailing!! FOR AN HOUR!!!
Ugh!
ETA: And this was with him going to bed at 8:20 instead of 8:00!!!
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
@Adira: maybe he is going through a phase where he wants you in the room while he goes to sleep. Stay in there tonight till he falls asleep and see how it goes.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@Smurfette: Yikes! Not sure I want to even try that one out for fear he'd want to make it a habit!!
ETA: Though I think you might be right - he doesn't seem to want us to leave.
pomelo / 5621 posts
@Adira: The last few nights Isaac has been screaming for me 5-10 minutes after I tuck him in. He wants me to go back and sit on his bed. Kind of annoying since he normally goes to bed fine.
pear / 1718 posts
I'm not posting any bedtime advice because we are total bedtime failures! Pete needs us to lay with him for 10-30 minutes in order to fall asleep most nights. He doesn't nap and he still isn't asleep until 8-9:30pm. He is the energizer bunny and it is exhausting. I will admit, looking on the bright side, the bedtime snuggles are sweet. I try to remind myself that one day I'm going to wish I had a little two year old to snuggle with in bed.
We are taking him skiing for the first time today! Going to a tiny little mountain about 30 minutes form our house. I'll feel accomplished if he puts the gear on today.
pomelo / 5621 posts
@QueensBee: I'm with you on enjoying the snuggles. The last couple weeks Isaac has been coming to our bed about 4:30 and going back to sleep. I've decided to just enjoy it and not fight it, it won't last forever.
I hope skiing goes good today.
@Adira: Is Xander sleeping fine after he falls asleep?
This morning Isaac cried when he realized it is the weekend and he wasn't going to school.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@QueensBee: How was skiing??
@ALV91711: Yeah, once he's down for the night, he's good - no MOTN wake-ups or anything!
That's sweet that Isaac likes school so much he was bummed it was the weekend!!! That's the opposite of Xander - he cries Monday morning!
@Smurfette: @ALV91711: @Pumuckl: So whoever suggested that Xander was ready to drop the nap, I think you're right. Over the weekend, we put him down for a nap, but I don't think he fell asleep, and if he did, it was only for maybe 30 minutes, and then he went to bed just fine. I mean, he still whined/cried, because apparently that's just fun to do, but it was only for 10-15 minutes instead of an hour!
pomegranate / 3601 posts
@Adira: Glad bedtime went a little better! I have a love/hate relationship with no nap days. On the one hand he is a beast come 5:30pm or so but then on the other hand he is in bed in less than 5min at 7pm (instead of 8:30pm on a nap day). That said we made him nap yesterday since he wasn't feeling all to well so he went down for 45min at 1pm. So were are very much playing it by ear.
@ALV91711: @QueensBee: Same here, while it's somewhat of a pain to a) sit next to B for up to 45min until he finally falls asleep and b) having to bedshare after 6am we figure pretty much the same thing: It won't last forever!
@QueensBee: Oh skiing how exciting! I am so sad that it will be awhile until my kids will get to ski since the mountains are now just too far away!
We did take them swimming this weekend and they had a blast. My former swimming instructer self was quite happy to see how well B is doing now. I suppose he'll be able to learn how to swim on his back (kicking) pretty soon. And J is just a natural she just floats in the water it's amazing.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@Pumuckl: I'm jealous of your no-nap day! Despite not really napping, he still didn't go to bed until 8:00!!! Didn't seem at all tired either! Gah! How fun you guys went swimming!! Xander loves the water, although I think he's getting sick of actual swimming lessons. He seems to just want to play and not really learn, which is frustrating. I'm impressed B is going to be able to float on his back and kick! Xander hates floating on his back because he hates his ears submerged.
pomelo / 5621 posts
@Adira: We must be boring if he wants to be at school! lol.
Good to hear bedtime was better but no nap is scary. I wonder if he'll nap at daycare this week? Isaac fights going for a nap on weekends but has no problems at daycare but he still definitely needs it.
@Pumuckl: That is awesome that B is doing so good at swimming. We are terrible and have never taken Isaac swimming, I keep talking about swimming lessons but we haven't done it yet. Probably this spring.
It is so expensive here for the three of us to go to the community pool on the weekend and there are no beaches nearby to go in the summer.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@ALV91711: Yeah, I don't actually know anymore if he naps or not because I don't get a sheet about his day anymore. Stupid Preschool. But I know the whole daycare has "nap time" and we still send his nap stuff, so I'm guessing he probably does nap if everyone else is doing it.
pomelo / 5621 posts
@Adira: You should ask how he is napping. I'd be curious to know. Seems little to not be getting a daily sheet.
Isaac doesn't move to the preschool room until April. I wonder if they still do daily sheets there.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@ALV91711: Yeah, I'll try to remember to ask tonight how he napped!
pomegranate / 3601 posts
@Adira: They have a paper up at the nap room at our daycare so you can see whether they napped or not. B still sleeps anything from 45min to 1:30h at daycare.
@ALV91711: Bummer about the pool being so expensive. It isn't cheap here either but we don't have to pay for the kids so it's ok. We have to get back to an organized form of swimming lessons too. I find swimming to be a life-skill so I really want them to be able to swim. (I am scared out of my mind that they drown etc. - and I am not usually an anxious parent).
pomelo / 5621 posts
@Pumuckl: I agree with that. The pool closest to our house is under renovations until spring, so once it is open again we have to start swimming lessons.
pomegranate / 3601 posts
@ALV91711: Yeah, it will take us until spring too until we will get back to it So we will be able to share insights
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
@Adira: I guess you will see this week if it is the nap thing. I bet he does still nap there since they have nap time and most the kids probably do still. R fought her naps this weekend but we got her to nap at least a little over an hour.
@Pumuckl: That is great about swimming! We were going to sign up R again for lessons starting in March, but they are at 10 am. She is done with gymnastics at 9:15, so two activities right in a row seem like to much to me. But we need to start them up again, so we need to figure something out.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@Smurfette: Yeah, if he naps and we have another rough night tonight, I may need to push back bedtime... though that will suck for my and Hubs' alone time!!
pear / 1718 posts
@Pumuckl: @Adira: Skiing was... a parenthood adventure! It took us an hour to drive to the mountain. It was crowded and chaotic there- it took over 1.5 hours to get tickets and his rentals sorted out! By the time we had all the stuff, he was tired and cranky. Even though he wanted to ski, he refused to put his helmet on and we wouldn't let him ski without it. So after the long drive, spending $70 on his ticket and equipment, and waiting in long lines, we never did get his skis on.
However, he had a great time running around the base and watching other skiers so we tried to just enjoy the day out. Hoping for better luck next time! His friend, however, who is a little over 3, did get her skis and helmet on and did pretty well! We're going to buy some second hand equipment for next season so we won't have to deal with the long lines ever again.
A random tip for those interested in toddler skiing- we brought a Swiffer with us and it was perfect for getting started! Pete's friend put the mop part between her legs and held onto the handle, and her dad pulled the top of the handle to move her around the snow. It worked pretty well!
@Pumuckl: It's great that you started the two in the pool so early! I bet they'll be really swimming quite soon!
Pete just started his third set of swim lessons last week. His sitter is taking him on Thursdays to get him out of the house for a bit. So far they've been focused on having fun in the water and general pool safety, like "no running near the pool." I'm hoping that he'll start to learn to float and swim a bit by the end of the summer if we keep up the lessons.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@QueensBee: Oh man, sorry you weren't able to get Pete on the skis at all! Bummer!! I'm worried that Xander would be the same way. He's pretty resistant to new stuff, so I can't even imagine getting him into the ski boots! If we do take him, we'll go to the kiddy mountain that we have right in town, so that at least it's not a long drive! Hopefully Pete will be more into it the next time you decide to try again.
pomegranate / 3601 posts
@QueensBee: Oh no, bummer about the skiing. It does sound like a fun day in the snow though! I had a serious "talk" with B about pool saftey (mainly no running) at the pool this weekend because he climbed out of the deep end of the pool and ran back to the kiddy pool. I really hope he remembers it.
Oh and B hates helmets too, it is always a struggle to get him to wear his biking helmet when he rides his balance bike.
pomelo / 5621 posts
@Smurfette: @Adira: Do you guys know at what age your daycares stop doing naps?
@QueensBee: What a log of waiting. Good he had fun running around. Hopefully next time he will be willing to wear a helmet so he can ski.
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
@ALV91711: they still nap through pre-k. They can just lay there but the whole school is lights out 12:30-2:30 and it is quiet time.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@ALV91711: Ours is the same as @Smurfette: the whole daycare (which goes through pre-k) does lights out 12:30-2:30.
pomegranate / 3601 posts
@ALV91711: I know you didn't specifically ask me but our "school" lets them not nap starting at "kindergarten" level so that would equal pre-school aka 3 year olds. They still have the possibility to nap though.
pomelo / 5621 posts
@Smurfette: @Adira: @Pumuckl: Thanks ladies. I'm pretty sure ours is the same, they can nap at pre school age but don't have to. Our daycare goes all the way through to age 12, so obviously the whole place doesn't do lights out.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@Smurfette: @Pumuckl: @ALV91711: So an update for you ladies on our sleep situation because I have no idea what's going on. Yesterday I asked daycare if Xander had napped and they said he did and napped really well (so I'm guessing the whole 2 hours, or at least 1.5). So I figured we were in for a long night, but he was in bed at 8:15 and only whined for maybe 10 minutes tops!
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@Smurfette: Yeah, I wonder if it was just because he was sick? I guess I'll have to see how tonight goes.
Also, not a fan of this clingy/whiny/tantrums left and right phase that we're going through right now.
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