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Congrats MAMAMOOSE!

I've noticed that eating regularly can help as well. Our list of September due dates is getting pretty long! Love it!

@sorrycharlie: I'm so sorry to hear that! I'm thankful that you both have the pregnancy as a happy distraction.

sorrycharlie- So sorry for you and your DH. I happened to find out I was pregnant on the one year anniversary of a close family loss.

It's official! Went to the dr. yesterday and it's positive. Due date is Sept. 10. Woo!

Thanks ladies. Still in the shock mode (for both!)

On a pleasant note, someone fill me in on dr appts! I have one with the nurse on Feb 13 and one with the dr on Feb 27. What's the difference?

@sorrycharlie: I have my first appointment with the nurse on Feb 8th. I think she basically just answers questions and sets me up for lab work that day. And then I'll have a follow up with the doctor a few weeks later at which point they'll do a sonogram.

@mamamoose - I have been pretty bloated, especially after I eat. I think it was actually worse earlier on (I am 7 weeks now) so I think it is totally normal.

@sorrycharlie - my first appt. isn't until February 3rd, but it best be more than just a meeting with the nurse. I need some confirmation that everything is going smoothly in there!

@MAMAMOOSE: Quite the opposite! My husband got a new job and our insurance doesn't kick in until Feb 1 so I made my appt as soon after that as possible. The waiting is driving me crazy!

Another Sept mama here! We had our appointment with the intake nurse last week, and our first ob appointment is next week. So excited!

@mamamoose Oh my goodness with the gas/bloat. I always feel like I have bubbles in my stomach, if you know what I mean. I was complaining to DH that I've been burping a lot and he says, "Heh. Yeah, that's my kid." Gross.

I think we'll tell the parents on Sunday. My period wasn't due until tomorrow so I just want to get through that. But we intend to make it VERY clear to them that they are not allowed to tell anyone. I know my parents will be fine... but I'm worried about my in laws.

@MamaMoose: that's what I'm worried about too. If we told, it would be FIL and MIL, and DH's brother and SIL..small group. I'm starting to think that if the ILs can't keep it zipped, it'll be their own problem to have to take it back later. We don't see much of their family or friends or anything (they're witnesses).

the issue, though, lies with trying to be even..I want to tell my parents first (since his found out about engagement first) but I'm petrified they'll be disappointed in me.

also worried that my mom will tell everyone, and I'd love to tell extended fam (grandparents, aunts uncles) all together. One of those possible dates would be around 8 weeks. I'm thinking of just going for it..agh too tough.

@sorrycharlie: Why do you think your parents will be disappointed?? You're a married adult!

@sorrycharlie: I feel quite certain that their excitement will outweight any concerns!! I'm sure you guys have it all figured out.

We've told my parents (and made them promise not to tell) and one of my friends. We found out we were pregnant a few days before leaving on a big ski trip, so I had to tell her so that she wouldn't make a big deal out of me not snowboarding like I usually do.

We're waiting to tell my in-laws because his mom isn't very good at keeping secrets and we're pretty sure she'll slip, not out of excitement, but because she does that on accident fairly often. The rest of our family we will probably tell after the first trimester.

Has anyone told their work/bosses yet?

I read somewhere that it might be a good idea to wait until after a scheduled review/raise goes through to make sure the pregnancy doesn't influence the raise they give you. I was thinking about following that, but our year end reviews and raises don't happen until the end of February, and I'm pretty sure I'm already starting to show a little (I'm a small person overall).

Sorrycharlie- We are in a very similar position to you. Early 20s, no house, I'm in grad school while DH works f/t in his career. At first I'm not sure that it was this way but my mom's tone of voice did sound worried. I think she was worried I wouldn't complete grad school. When I told her we were happy and excited, she said she was happy as long as we were happy. And then she asked me all types of questions about when the baby was due, etc, and I think she is getting more excited, but just wrapping her head around being a young grandma. (I'm the same age she was when she found out she was pregnant with me.) She's the one who told my dad though, so I'm not sure yet how he feels. I even told her I was worried they'd be mad, and she said, "Why would we be mad??" in this tone of voice that said "you're being sort of ridiculous." Lol. And my mom tells it like it is and was clear before about wanting us to be more settled, but I think that we're on a good path so it's all going to be fine and everyone will be happy! Or, as DH says, this boats sailing, like it or not..lol.

ETA- I forgot to say good luck! Everything will be fine!

@spaina96: I'm sure it's okay! Not that it's reassuring til you get to the doctor (I'm sure I'd be a wreck) but according to the books, cramping a a little bit of spotting is okay. Just as long as it doesn't get worse. You're in my thoughts!

So operation tell parents part 1 of 2 went horrible. My mom was THRILLED - i spilled on the phone to her before we went over, and told her I was petrified of telling my Dad. She laughed at me and said I was ridiculous. Okay.

DH and I go over there, and everyone's in the family room playing darts (19 y/o brother, Dad, DH - and Mom, me and 11 y/o sister). DH says to my Dad - "First one to 20 gets to be a grandfather!" My Mom and brother bit their lips to keep from laughing (they knew), and you could have heard a pin drop.

My Dad turned white and said, "that's not funny. That is not even funny. No" and just shook his head. I almost burst into tears. My mom was like, "real nice!" and he goes "well I've seen her student loans.." I was trying so hard not to cry. My Mom asked me to come with her to get the chinese food, I think to give me a chance to get away.

When we got back, he was acting normally. When DH and I went to leave, my Mom was like, "Congratulations!!" and my Dad goes, "I guess.." kind of joking. My mom said, "He just needs time to get used to it" and I was like "yeah get in line!"

I mean seriously! It's not his finances, it's mine, and I'm already sick to my stomach stressed about it. He didn't need to make matters worse. And yes I have student loans - I have my Master's Degree! That's not enough? Ugh. I swear he's not usually that bad - I guess I just didn't do things in the order he would have liked to seen. I don't know. I'm going over there now, to go to my sister's birthday party, so we'll see how he acts. Luckily my Mom and brother are excited so they helped keep me from losing it. Sigh.

Sorry to unload, Bees! Hope everyone else's reveals go better than mine did! Ha!

@sorrycharlie thanks for the reassurance, going to be a long weekend. Sorry your dad didn't take it that well, I am sure in 9 'months when he sees the bundle of joy all the negative will go away.

thanks guys. my mom totally ripped him a new one! he was better yesterday, still absorbing it I guess. He's only 44 so it's a little understandable! but he still didn't have to make me feel bad. I think he reacted without thinking..my mom said she thinks he's embarrassed about how he reacted.

we got good reactions from DH's parents though! phew!

how's everyone doing?

I'm 5 weeks Tuesday..has anyone else had *cough* sexy time since finding out? I have this irrational fear that if we do, we'll miscarry. DH is getting frustrated..since I've been sick, it's been since we conceived! LOL!

I'm heading to the doc in the morning for bloodwork. I have had some bloody discharge when I wipe this weekend so they want to see me. I'm trying to stay positive because it has all been old dark blood, not red, and I haven't had any cramping. I'm also still very sick to my stomach with headaches too. I told my parents because I'm scared and wanted to talk to my mom. They have been super supportive and really excited.