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I go tomorrow for my 30 w. check up. I will ask then what we do. I'm hoping MAYBE he will let me do 30 and then 34, 36, 38, 39. But we will see. Ive been seeing the same OB for all three babies so I think he trusts that I will call if I need anything and I know they are good about same day appointments if they need to fit you in. Or our deductible is low to go to L&D.

@MrsBeluga: that does seem a bit unusual...I'm going every two weeks now (like I went at 28 weeks and my next appointment is tomorrow at 30), and I start weekly at 36 weeks. But I'm also a FTM so no history to look at. I agree that I'd probably ask to do at least 38, 39, 40.

@agold: any updates?

@MrsBeluga: also I think it's normal to only do a NST of its needed. Also maybe at 40 weeks they schedule you for induction at 41 weeks (our hospital only does about a week advance scheduling).

@agold: whew! Good news, I'm glad you went in and everything was great!

I'm not sure what to do with this info, so I'm dumping it on you gals. A year ago today my husband and I got a bfp. Obviously that pregnancy didn't stick, and although I'm so so SO thankful to be pregnant now, I'm just a little blah thinking about where we were a year ago, and the months following until we finally got another bfp. I didn't know a year ago that that positive test would start months of grieving, anxiety, disappointment...or that a year later I'd be pregnant. Just blah. And thankful.

@OldpuebloJenn: Chiming in from the September board. My situation is virtually identical. We got a bfp in December 2014 and lost it at about five weeks. It took another 13 months to get another positive test. I'm 26 weeks now, but I still grieve the loss of that baby. It's tough and I'm so grateful for this child, but I always think of the one we lost even though it was so so early.

@agold: probably not..... The worries change though. It still seems just crazy that given all the things that can go wrong, healthy babies are born every day. I did find the worry a lot easier to manage once she was born.i felt like I had more control to prevent or react if something was wrong. Pregnancy is hard because it feels so bizarrely out of our control even though it's a part of us.

update on me: we had a growth scan this morning, and unfortunately it looks like we're heading in the same direction as we did with my first. he has dropped from 50th to 16th %ile. So he's still above 10% (the official number for IUGR diagnosis), but I have little room for optimism that he'll stay above the threshold. I'm feeling frustrated/angry at my body's inability to grow a baby properly, and trying to convince myself that this is a fluke, and that it's so early that the difference in percentiles is small, but having been down this road before, I'm not believing the story i'm trying to sell here. On the plus side (and most importantly), my tiny little girl is absolutely perfect, and I know that my son will be too. I just feel like the world's worst baby incubator, and even though i'm so much bigger than i was with my first, the baby is still not growing like he should. Sigh.

@agold: thank you I can't explain the guilt i feel even though I know there's nothing I can do to change this. and yet, that's what being a mom is all about, as you'll soon find out

@OldpuebloJenn: Its so hard after a loss and I'm not sure I'll ever forget! I try to just be thankful but still remember.

@Pirouette: Im sorry about the size concerns. I think its so hard to worry about but I'm sure you're doing everything you can.

I will try to get a 39 week appointment in ladies, thank you for the suggestion!

Also given that last time around at 42 weeks I had the worst bishops score (not dilated, not effaced, not dropped, no contractions, etc.), my OB said this time she would check me at 38 and 40 weeks, and if I hadn't started progressing she would just send me for my induction sooner than later, so somewhere in the 40 + 1-3 day range. Given how this pregnancy is starting to feel, I am more than okay getting induced at 40 than trying to hold out until 42. So thats also why I just have the final 40 week appt too.

Just got back from my 30 week appointment. Everything is in order, heartbeat was 140, measuring on track and he seems to be head down (although he could still move around a lot, of course). I asked my doctor if it's possible to move TOO much, because he sometimes goes crazy in there. And she said, "no, not generally. Babies can have seizures in utero but that's very rare." Umm, why would you tell me that?! Also, I was annoyed with my DH because he grilled the doc about why "we end up waiting for 30 minutes past the appointment every time." First of all, he doesn't even come to every appointment so what is this "we" thing... also it was embarrassing... blah.

@MrsSCB: seizures?! what?! i've never heard of that, but why would that even necessarily be characterized by frequent movement? I'd think it would be more sudden and sporadic. in my experience, a busy baby is a happy baby

@T.H.O.U.: Good luck at your check-up. Hope it goes well.

@agold: So glad baby is fine Better safe than sorry, though. Also, not sure there will ever be a time where you're not worried about something related to the baby. As the others said, the type/topic of worry changes depending on the stage. We all somehow manage to get through it, and always remember that if you feel that the worry/anxiety is just too high, there's always meds and talk therapy. And you wouldn't be the first to use both to help you get through it. xo

@OldpuebloJenn: Hugs. I'm sorry about your loss. The others covered it well. I had 2 losses between my son and this baby, and it has affected me most when due dates have come and gone -- even my early CP loss. I think it's perfectly fine to be sad and have some time to reflect on what could have been. And also remember how blessed we are with the little ones currently growing.

@Pirouette: Ugh. I'm sorry the same/similar situation is rearing its head again. Your daughter is perfect. Your son will be perfect, too, even if you have to stress a bit over each calorie he gets. You are still an amazing mama. You just have small babies, and that's ok. Hugs.

@pwnstar: I hope your appointment tomorrow goes well.

@MrsBeluga: That seems to make sense. I hope your body makes more progress on its own this time. Good idea to ask for an extra appointment. I've never heard of NOT going every week from 36 to the end.

@MrsSCB: Um, how is telling you about in utero seizures helpful? Geez. Glad to hear that everything looks good! And eye roll over your husband. Sorry -- I would have been embarrassed, too. I'm sure he meant well.

@MrsSCB: Ha!

@pregnantbee: Glad the sprinkle was fun! Maybe you need something like this?

@ShootingStar: @mrsjd: @agold: @Pirouette: @MrsSCB: @T.H.O.U.: @pregnantbee: @AprilFool: thanks for the ladies! It's funny how these things creep on you. The due date came and went, and I acknowledged it, but today, seeing the selfie I took of DH and I pop up in my timehop and knowing why we looked so happy, just made me sad. I'm hoping I've taken enough time to grieve today, since the m/c was confirmed on my birthday coming up. I don't need two crappy bdays in a row!

@Pirouette: thinking of you and your baby boy. You know the drill this time, so hopefully it's less filled with anxiety, worry and guilt.

Whoa, I just got a bill for over $500 from my hospital. It didn't have any explanation of the services, but I checked my insurance site, and it lists it as "surgery." The date is the day I went in to get monitored for BH... I'm thinking there has to be a mistake, unless a two-second cervical check or fetal monitoring counts as "surgery"! And of course, the phone line to discuss this is only open 8-5. So annoying...

@pregnantbee: Definitely. It just can't be right! The one other time I went in to this part of the hospital was back when I was sick. I was there longer and they did way more -- blood test, IV fluids and medication, etc. -- and I didn't owe anywhere near that much. Argh...

@agold: just catching up here, I'm so glad she's okay! I'd have gone in, too--especially reassured by your advice, @pwnstar: absolutely better safe than sorry

@Pirouette: no, I am sorry to hear this! glad he is doing all right but wish I could take away some of that stress for you. yes, he will be perfect. hugs to you xxx

@pwnstar: I didn't realize your BH were still on hyper-drive when you say you feel like you're on the road to pre-term labor, do you mean like, now, tonight?? hoping so much you're just fine keep us posted.

@OldpuebloJenn: oy, I'm sorry to hear about your loss, lady I had to have my D&C on my birthday last year, so, I hear ya. the due dates are tough and I hope you're able to focus on all the good stuff after you've taken the time you need. @ShootingStar: @mrsjd: @Pirouette: @T.H.O.U.: @pregnantbee: @AprilFool: yep, so many friendly faces here from the amazingly supportive TTC After Loss board the DD from my first pregnancy was in April and I was surprised to find it was more unsettling than sad... as for the second one, the other day I was talking to a woman while stroller shopping who told me her DD in early July. I was like, "wait, who else do I know who's due July 11th? (30 seconds later) oh yeah, ME" like you said @T.H.O.U., makes me *so* grateful that we are all finally here.

@pregnantbee: glad everything in your world is good, lady! so sweet that your first baby is excited

@MrsSCB: I feel so much insane-seeming twitching and all the time! love it though, I'm not worried about that for either of us