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@pwnstar: @Silva: We've been watching Fear the Walking Dead Though when I'm home alone I've been bingeing on Beverly Hills 90210 .

I am still following you ladies. It's been wonderful watching your little grow. My little guy will be arriving soon. Here are some maternity shots. Thank you so much for all your support.

@LCTBQE: we never got a swing because they are enormous, even though this time around we do have the space. And yes, nighttime burping sucks, but my little guy just got on meds for reflux, so we are really having to be diligent about burping him and keeping him up right for 20 min after. Needless to say, between the reflux and the burping, we're still getting no sleep.

Hello everyone! I've been MIA for a while Glad to see you all doing well!

How old is your new LO today? 10weeks

What is your baby's super power? She is super smiley and makes a multitude of goofy faces like her mama She is a pretty independent baby and will sit by herself sometimes and just chill.

How are you feeling both physically and emotionally? Feeling pretty good. I had some issues with a staple hole getting infected and not healing and it's just now getting better. Emotionally, I'm doing well. Some days I feel overwhelmed and sad because I'm home all day and everything feels so tedious and some days I'm so happy and just enjoying not being at work. She is so so worth it all and I can't believe that she is mine

What's your favorite thing about having your LO? I love watching her grow every day! Lol, I look at her little face every time she feeds and she used to have no eyelashes! Now they are so long!

What's your biggest struggle? I would say keeping my individual identity. I haven't been able to find out how to juggle my own needs/wants with my new mom status.

For fun: what are you most looking forward to this fall? Cooler weather and holidays!

@LCTBQE: I think they are easily over stimulated at this age. Maybe it's simply my justification, but I think quiet is pretty important for them too! My MIL is always up in babies faces with baby talk and silly faces and it sends me over the edge.

@Silva: oooh I've been meaning to watch that, too! thanks for the reminder. and yes to the over-stimulation, I know you're right--usually when I talk to him or look at him it's super gentle and quiet, but still promptly getting over the "I'm a lazy parent" feelings. Yesterday I took him out in the solly wrap to do some errands and stayed out too long, and he *freaked out* (very unlike him, he really doesn't cry at home, ever) I think from overstimulation and it took 3 hours to get past the episode. lesson learned. and jeez, that MIL behavior would drive me nuts, too, especially with a newborn.

@LCTBQE: it's hard to avoid the overstimulation with the second- it feels like my biggest worry right now. We drag him alone to so many busy places. He's always being worn but it's still a lot.
Justified is so good- if you like cop shows it's definitely worth watching!!

@Silva: it does sound hard to avoid with a toddler! but you've got the veteran mama experience to balance it out

and good to know you think 2-3 hours is standard. we are still having some nights where he's up every 90 minutes and I'm doing 4 feedings in a night; I started reading Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Baby, and wondering if my gauge to rush in and comfort him/nurse is just way too sensitive. going to try a harder hand with letting him self-soothe.

@pregnantbee: word
@MrsRcCar: keep us posted!

@LCTBQE: when do you plan to get another Brazilian wax????

@LCTBQE: I would second a few minutes of fussing. I would also recommend timing it on your phone . . . it's amazing to see how long a minute feels when your baby is fussing/crying! I try to wait a couple minutes, and then try to settle him by placing a hand on his chest before I pick him up.

@LCTBQE: Definitely let him fuss/cry a bit. I can kinda gauge right now when she's about to cross from fussing to meltdown.

@LCTBQE: the one thing I would say is that yes at this point they need the milk from a health perspective.
STTN is technically defined as 5-8hours of sleep. But for a normal night of say 8pm-8am that still means 1-2 feedings.

@LCTBQE: Yes to crisis in confidence this week! She kept refusing bottles and I freaked out that I'd never be able to go anywhere, should've tried sooner, what the hell am I doing, etc etc...The next day she took a bottle!
DH and I seem to google everything. I was having a meltdown to mum re:bottles and she said "stop reading so much, trust your instincts." I don't have any instincts! This stuff doesn't come naturally to me!

And yes, we let her snuffle (but not really fuss) during the night, but also now that we have a routine I know roughly when she'll need food (eg, 1am she'll usually self soothe, but 6am she's always hungry).

@MrsSCB: He keeps me up all night with it! I actually had been assuming he was awake and i only started thinking this morning he might be sleep grunting! it's SO loud and obnoxious, it didn't even occur to me to see if his eyes are open. We gave him the paci last night and it seemed to help a little, and my ped this morning said it can help push out gas, so I'm guessing that's what's going on? She also said it's just something he has to outgrow. My daughter was so quiet, i was not prepared for this! for us though, i think (hope!) it's worse right now because of the reflux and cold and that it will improve soon. otherwise, he's gonna start sleeping outside

@pwnstar: haha! Last night I went to sleep with the 4yo because between DH snoring and baby grunts I was about to lose it!

@pregnantbee: @pwnstar: @Pirouette: @OldpuebloJenn: @MrsSCB: @shootingstar: ha, yes to the dino grunting-- we've been calling ours baby velociraptor. it is so alien and weird sounding

@Pirouette: that sounds rough, lady I really hope the meds help--maybe your ped will have a follow-up idea if they're not as effective as you hope? and yeah, agree with your daughter on the nose frida, it is pretty undignified. I've had to use ours a few times and kind of can't believe how well it works. also, it's winter at least we don't have to commute, amirite?

@T.H.O.U.: yeah, I hear you that they need the nutrition from a couple of feedings at night at this stage, but he is going nuts to feed every 90 minutes, which is 4-5 feedings per night, which is bleh. 2 feedings sounds wonderful--one day!

@MrsSCB: @Umberto: @ShootingStar: @pwnstar: @Pirouette: thanks for your thoughts/experience on letting them snuffle for a few minutes, ladies. It has worked a few times I got super optimistic thinking that it would resolve our insane 90-minute nighttime intervals, but I'm just throwing in the towel on this week completely. baby has REFUSED to sleep basically since monday morning, he won't go down for naps even and I think we're just in a bad, bad over-tired rut. he's yawning like mad and basically fussing non-stop, and I'm exhausted from the effort of trying to talk him off the ledge. plus, I haven't slept longer than 60 minutes in days. hoping it's a phase and not a disposition of crap sleeping revealing itself--he was so good up until this week. Has anyone else been through this, either this time or in the past with an older baby? Everything I've read seems to say that it all changes and gets better around 6 weeks--true, or only sometimes true?

@Umberto: yes, EXACTLY what you said about the "instincts"! I stupidly thought I'd actually have them, too-- nope. and the bottle situation is such a perfect example of the mind-fuck of things not working until suddenly they work. but great that you got her on it, I hope that gives you a little relief. Also, how old is Anna now? her night schedule sounds heavenly

@LCTBQE: haha yes, it's nice that i only have to go outside (or put on clothes for that matter!) if i want to. and yes, it does get better...i think it's too early to know if you have a bad sleeper, that comes later - it's all random at this age. my daughter started sleeping 11 hour (!) stretches at 4 weeks, but stopped at 4 months and didn't start again until after a year. so you just never know! hang in there though, it is so so tough not sleeping. it's so hard feeling like you want to keep trying different things to make a difference, but all that really helps is time. I keep repeating that to myself, because I have a hard time with it. oh and i'm going to message you shortly - have a random question.

So my husband decided last night to give me an awesome gift - 6.5 hours of sleep! he took baby downstairs and slept on the couch and bottle fed him all night from midnight until my daughter woke me up at 6:30. given that i'm used to sleeping in ridiculously short increments, i crashed hard, and didn't even wake to pump. I'm hoping this won't affect my supply too badly, he took 7 ounces and i skipped 2 feedings. but with both my kids sick this week, i was feeling run down and hopefully this will help me avoid getting sick too.

things have definitely improved over here, he was 7 weeks yesterday. Although Wednesday was probably his fussiest day yet, in general he is sleeping longer and his digestive system has matured. He isn't bothered by nursing lying down usually, is less refluxy and less gassy. Last night his first stretch was almost four hours, followed by some 2.5 and 3 hour stretches. The real treat was I just put my boob in his mouth and we didn't really have to wake up all the way (still cosleeping). He didn't poop all night (a miracle) and was fine in the diaper we put on at bedtime so I didn't have to change diapers!

Who knows what tonight will bring. I'm trying to get him to nap by himself but it's not working. He will only sleep being worn or lying next to me I need some space!