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We don't plan to tell anyone until after the first u/s (12/31). We'll probably tell our parents the following weekend. I think I'll want to keep it off Facebook until at least 20 weeks, but we'll tell close friends at some point in the beginning of the 2nd tri. I'll probably tell a few of my friends sooner who have known about what we've been going through. But nobody until next year I guess!

@Mrs.Someone: the more I think about it, the more I don't want to tell people yet... not even my mom. I have told a close coworker but that's it. I will probably wait until after my appointment on the 27th. I was thinking of doing the same thing too re FB. I think I'll wait until our anatomy scan and then just tell people as we see them after I'm out of the first tri.

@buffalove: yes, I remember from my first that keeping my stomach from getting empty helped the most!

If everything is good at the u/s we will tell our parents and siblings on or around Christmas, or whenever we see them next. Friends/extended family/work probably after the first trimester, and I doubt we'll do a world/facebook reveal. I am so over facebook.

@Mrs.Someone: How odd, all around! My first appointment is with a physician's assistant - not sure how long that goes on, but I love her (she's who I usually see for my yearly anyway) so I'm OK with it.

@sera_87: I would still be POAS daily if my husband wouldn't kill me. Plus the guilt of literally peeing on money for fun.

@Mrs.Someone: It seems weird that they told you your first choice doctor is already fully booked for August? It's 8 months away... babies aren't exactly known for being prompt in their arrival?

@mrskc: i'm thinking of telling my family around christmas but i don't know about dh's family. they have a large extended family and his mom can't keep a secret. i'm not sure how we're going to tell yet. maybe a big sister shirt and see if people notice! we will probably tell everyone else around 12 weeks but probably won't announce on facebook til 20 weeks (if we do).

@Mrs.Someone: for my last pregnancy i alternated seeing the nurse practitioner and the obgyn every visit so that sounds normal to me. it was the same nurse practitioner every time so i just alternated between the two throughout the pregnancy. it worked out okay in my case.

Hi everyone, I joined the POAS threads last month when we first started TTC and little did I know I'd be joining a thread like this so soon! Can't tell you how happy and excited I am, having waited for this for so long (I'm in my mid-thirties).

I'm pretty nervous right now due to the fact that we are leaving for a long-booked vacation in Argentina/Chile in two days! I had pretty significant bleeding for about four-five days at implantation (but have had no spotting since, other than a few instances of tiny red streaks in my CM last week, but I have an extremely eroded/friable cervix so I imagine that's what was behind the red streaks), and I've been having quite a bit of pelvic pain that feels like ovulation pains, persistent lower back pain, coupled with cramps that are mostly mild but sometimes are as severe as my menstrual cramps (which are so bad they make me double over). So that has me quite concerned about traveling to the wilds of Patagonia to go trekking in a region that doesn't even have a hospital, apparently. I didn't even know about the risk of ectopic pregnancy when we started TTC and honestly didn't think we'd get pregnant so quickly, so we hadn't really considered the risks of traveling/trekking right now as we are extremely active outdoorspeople and avid travelers and this seemed like a relatively tame trip for us.

But I've got an ultrasound scheduled for tomorrow to see if we can tell whether the pregnancy is intrauterine (I'll be 5 weeks 2 days tomorrow, so it's very early!). Keeping my fingers crossed SO HARD that little bean is where he/she should be!

I've now had three hCG tests and my doctors were pleased with the levels but still want an ultrasound to check on the location of implantation before we go off the grid:
15 DPO - 530
17 DPO - 1542
21 DPO - 8353 (yesterday)

EDD: August 18, 2014

When Did You Find Out?: December 10, 2013 at 10 DPO

Child Number: 1

Where You Live: Northern CA

What kind of provider will you see?: Not sure... OBGYN at first for sure.

When's Your First Appointment?: 12/18 ultrasound

What kind of birth do you want?: Not sure...still learning about all the options!

What You're Most Excited For: The journey of pregnancy--joining all the amazing women who have walked this path before me--and sharing it with my husband.

What You're Most Scared About: Right now, ectopic pregnancy!

Symptoms so far: At just 7 DPO I started feeling mild nausea--my first clue. It came and went over several days but was a new feeling for me so I was suspicious. But I had significant implantation bleeding, which was so heavy at 8 DPO that I was sure I was having a light period and my LP had shortened crazily, so I disregarded the nausea as I thought IB could only be a spot or two on one day. Turns out that was wrong! The mild nausea continued until a few days ago (about 4w 5d pregnant or 19 DPO) and I haven't felt it too much the past few days. While it's nice not feeling nauseated it's worrisome for it to dissipate--like others have said, you can't win!

My other symptom so far has been cramping, and I've had that every single day. Mostly it's been mild, like the day before AF, but twice it has been terrible for up to 30 minutes at a time--like the worst day of AF on my worst period of the year. So that's why my doctor is concerned... Again, fingers crossed for the ultrasound tomorrow!!!

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@stratosphere: welcome and congrats!!!! I hope baby is where it's supposed to be tomorrow at your u/s! Keep us updated.

@chibee: congrats again! I'm sorry about your previous loss. I know how hard it is to not worry and stay positive. I had 2 losses before I had my son and I'm soooooo worried I'm going to have another miscarriage.

@stratosphere: Welcome! I hope your ultrasound goes well so you can have a nice relaxing trip.

@chibee: So glad you've decided to join us! We can be wrecks together... I'm really hoping the next few weeks fly by for all of us.

@Mrs.Someone: @mrskc: is it bad that i can't imagine that something ISN'T wrong? as in i will be floored when i can actually see a baby at the ultrasound? wow i am such a total freakin drag.

@Mrs.Someone: i wish i could be like i was my first pregnancy - just plain excited and happy. i feel bad for this pregnancy, it's clouded by anxiety and nerves. Btw, reading back on some of your posts - my old ob wouldn't see me until the third prenantal appointment - first would be a consult w/the nurse practitioner, the second would be a dating ultrasound, then you finally get to meet the doctor.

@stratosphere: welcome and congrats!! i'm wondering.. what is an eroded/friable cervix? so i had spotting/bleeding my last pregnancy from weeks 5-8 and they never found the cause, saying something like i had a sensitive cervix (they might've used a medical term, but i don't remember) and/or late implantation bleeding. i'm having bleeding again this time around, not alot, but it shows up on a liner. i'm wondering if its the cervix again and maybe i have what you have?

@chibee: congrats and welcome! glad you joined! i hope the next couple weeks go fast for all of us. my first appt/us is the same day as yours. it seems so far! i'm just hoping the holidays make it go faster.

Thanks for the warm welcome everyone! I am so excited to be able to share our journeys together over the next nine months!

@kodybear: a friable or eroded cervix (aka "cervical ectropion") is where the cells from the cervical canal start growing on the outside of your cervix, beyond the os, and that tissue, unlike normal cervical surface, is very red and vascular and very delicate and prone to bleeding. It is apparently relatively common though my case is unusually longstanding (at least 10 yrs! They usually resolve with age/time) and also very "severe".

They used to cryo-freeze the cervix in these cases to cauterize the tissue, which usually caused the cervix to heal back to normal tissue, but that practice has fallen out of favor according to my docs as there's nothing to worry about with a friable cervix other than annoying bleeding after intercourse most of the month. Some folks with friable cervix also spot after vigorous athletic activity, sneezing or bowel movements if their cervix is extremely friable.

So it makes sense that some minor spotting or streaks in CM could be attributed to a friable cervix. Definitely would ask your doctor about it.

Wow! So many new mamas since I last checked in. Congrats everyone

I'm still battling frequent nausea, no vomiting yet though. I keep eating regularly (and not healthy) to keep it at bay, so I feel like I'm blowing up faster than I should be. Doesn't help that my boobs have already gotten huge! When is everyone thinking of buying new bras? I don't want to get any this early since they may still get bigger, but I wonder when is a good time....

As far as telling, I've told my boss and a close coworker. My boss' wife just had a baby in Sep and they raved about their OB so I wanted their info. I'm close to my boss anyway and so far its been nice having him know. We're telling our families on Christmas. We got each set of grandparents a children's book and we'll include a note saying "Please read this to me when I arrive in August - Love, your first/newest grandchild". I'm so excited!!! This will be my parents' first so I can't wait for their reaction.

@Reese: Congrats again! And so glad you joined this thread. I know it's hard not to worry when miscarriage seems so common around these boards, but many women on here have not had a miscarriage and I know lots of women IRL who have never dealt with miscarriage. Enjoy this time.

@mrskc: thank you so much. I want to give you the longest/borderline awkward hug right now.

@Reese: congrats! don't feel like you are inevitably due for a miscarriage - many, MANY women go on to carry on a perfectly normal pregnancy their first time as evidenced by literally everyone around me! Also, i had a minor (ok major) freakout about the darkness of my lines yesterday, so i just decided to stop testing all together, forever. And my EDD is 8/24 too! It's awesome that your dr is giving you an ultrasound so early - is that their normal policy? I am so jealous!! I won't have one until 1/8!!

@Reese: oh poor girl, too many of us talking about past m/c! i am the only one of my friends who's had one. and you are so lucky that you have all this early testing, that will definitely help your psyche

@Reese: right back at ya! And I have to say I am super jealous you already have a dating ultrasound on Friday!

@Reese: maybe if you tell them you're really nervous, they'll let you come back again next week to see the HB

I'm optomistically joining the team!

EDD:August 16th....i think

When Did You Find Out?: December 8th, 15DPO

Child Number: 1

Where You Live: Connecticut

What kind of provider will you see?: Midwife / birthing center

When's Your First Appointment?: Dec 30th

What You're Most Excited For: to feel those first little kicks and to finally be a mom!

What You're Most Scared About: everything else! miscarriage, labor & delivery, sleepless nights, etc etc etc

I'm so so excited to pregnant for the first time and keep having pinch-me moments!