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@Skadi: I think the majority of people who are saying they would leave it up to chance feel that way because of personal preference, not because they are opposed to others choosing.
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i would not choose.
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Even with my 2 boys, I'd still leave it up to chance! I'd be thrilled either way with a third.
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I would love to be able to choose gender..... but for my next baby I really don't know which I want so I picked "leave it up to chance". If DH would agree to three children I would pick genders, though - I'd have another girl next and then a little boy. But as we will probably stop at two, I will let fate decide which of those two children come into my life.
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@Arden I'm sorry if I gave any offense--I certainly didn't mean to come off that way! I don't think those who would not choose it are, say, for making it illegal or something like that. And I don't think there's anything wrong with not choosing not to find out!
I was just trying to express why we chose to do it and lamenting that it's not even very well known that it's possible, among the general public.Let me apologize again. I hope no one feels railroaded by my support for determining gender (and for trying to spread information about it). I completely respect the decision not to.
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I said leave it up to xhance but that is because this is my first and i honestly dont care. For my second i probably would choose.
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@Skadi: It's ok I wasn't offended.
I just didn't think anyone here was really anti-choice in general, just maybe would want to choose personally because they'd rather be surprised.I think if we have a second we might try for a boy, but we certainly wouldn't mind another girl!
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We would choose if it were a magic genie that could make it happen for free. And honestly, if sperm selection were only say....$5000 or less, I'm 90% sure my husband would pay it because we want one of each and we already have our girl.
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@wonderstruck: exactly!
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@Skadi: Unfortunately that study has since been disproven, there were flaws in the study and once corrected it went back down to close to a 50% chance, but my DH and I actually tried that method along with recommended diet changes, supplements, etc. to try to sway in a certain direction, and it didn't work either time.
(And for anyone who thinks that sounds horrible, I will clarify that no one but my DH and I, plus now the bees, know that we tried to sway pink. I would never ever in a million years want my boys to think we weren't absolutely thrilled with them or wanted them to be any different, and once we got to meet them we totally fell in love with our little guy! It just doesn't change my feelings on wanting a daughter someday.)
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Yes and no. Yes because we want two kids, one of each. We have our lil boy, so we'd like our 2nd to be a girl. However, no bc I'm interested to see what I naturally conceive, and it'd be awesome for it to naturally be a girl! There's a jinx that if you work for my aunt, you're going to have a boy and only boys. 25 years in the making, and all staff has produced only boys!
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For the first two kids, I think I'd leave it up to chance, but for the third I might consider it.
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I'd leave it up to chance, DH would choose a boy.
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@Skadi: I think it's easy to say you can do PGD. In reality it's expensive, it puts your body through a lot, and you risk weakening healthy embryos to the point they can't implant. It makes me sad to think about people discarding healthy embryos because they aren't the right sex. I'm probably a biased because the only way I can conceive and carry a pregnancy to term is through IVF with PGD. If we do do that I will ask my doctor not to tell me the sex of the embryos being implanted. I would still like the surprise. If someone had the means to use PGD to select sex I'm not against it. It's just not for me.
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chance!
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I would do chance for the first and choose the opposite for the second because I've always wanted one of each!
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Yes! We paid 20K for our first kid and I wanted a girl. We got a boy whom I love and was ecstatic to have. But now I want a girl. Since we have to pay to try again I am going to pay for a girl. At this point it is "family balancing". If we don't get a girl, we will adopt a girl.
If I could have as many kids as I wanted and it was free to get preggers I do believe that my views would be different. But since I only have limited options based on financial costs, I will optimize them.
Infertility sucks.
I was just trying to express why we chose to do it and lamenting that it's not even very well known that it's possible, among the general public.
I just didn't think anyone here was really anti-choice in general, just maybe would want to choose personally because they'd rather be surprised.
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