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@Adira: Xander is such a cutie.

@shopaholic: We have a pretty noisy sleeper here too. I don't plan on moving him out of our room though until he is on more of a schedule. At least right now if he wakes me up I can just sit up and look over, I couldn't imagine if he was in his own room, I'd be up a million times a night.

@Smurfette: We don't really have a bedtime or bedtime routine yet. Usually the last time he eats is between 8-9 and he most of the time is asleep after and I put him to bed. We do baths about every 3 nights and we do that before bedtime. Always before the last feeding of the night I get him into his pj's for the night. My guy doesn't mind sitting in his swing, but he doesn't care for swinging in it. We haven't used it much yet. I think I'm going to get DH to move it to the living room today.

@QueensBee: Wow, that is a great sleep. I can't wait to get that. While DH is gone I have a couple family members right nearby who can come help out. When he goes out of town to work this summer myself and Isaac are going to my mom's to spend some time. Most of my family is there, so then they will get a chance to meet him.

@Arden: Those are great 1 month photos. I can't wait to see the one's with the balloons.

Why is everyone sleeping this afternoon but me. I'm tired but just can't seem to get some shut eye. I think I'll have to go wake DH up so that I have some company while I'm awake. I'm sure DS will be waking up soon starving. Whenever he is hungry he acts like he is starved and it has been forever since he ate, even when it is only 2 hours!

Hope everyone is having a great weekend.

@Adira: I hope he sleeps tonight.

And I finally passed a level on Candy Crush. So all around a good night, even if I didn't get that much more sleep!

@Smurfette: Wow!!! I'm impressed R slept for five hours! That's amazing!!! But I hear you about not being able to sleep! Sometimes I'm just on edge, waiting for Xander to wake up to eat, and so I can't fall back asleep, and then he'll go hours longer than I was expecting!

Also, I'll respond more on your thread, but you're doing a fantastic job with R! It's so hard being a first time mom, and I was going insane at 6 weeks - breastfeeding was just so hard for me and I was so frustrated with everything. It must just be the time for moms to go crazy! And Xander's almost 9 weeks, and I still don't really know what his cries mean! The fact that you're worried about R and doing a good job with her just shows how much you love her and care about her and that's all that matters! *hug* It will get better! It's already better for me since two weeks ago, though I know Xander's an easier baby than R, but hopefully things get better for you soon too.

And congrats on Candy Crush! I had to quit that game because it got to the point where I'd have to pay or use Facebook to get more levels and I didn't want to do either.

@Adira: I go back in 5 weeks, June 3rd. I was looking forward to it, adult conversation will be nice, but now I can't imagine not being with her all day, 5 days a weeks. Makes me sad!! I. am going to stop by in the next couple weeks to go over what I need to bring again. And set up her trial runs. I think they do three days, first day 2 hours, then 4 hours, and then 6 hours. I will drop her off at 730 and pick her up 445 ish. Too long!

@Adira: I am suppose to work 730-430 with an hour lunch. If I leave the house at 7, get to DC around 730, so it will be 745-800 when I get to work. Not going to worry about it. I don't think my boss will care either, but I am just going to take a quick lunch or work through lunch to make it up.

@ALV91711: @Adira: I guess I'm going to have to be the oddball again. I would look forward to returning to a job if I had a job to return to. As it is, I haven't worked since December of 2011. I've been an official stay at home mom since January 31st 2012 and am still a stay at home mom. While there are many wonderfully beautiful, Hallmark perfect days, most of them I would love even a temporary reprieve. An adult conversation. A project that isn't baby or toddler related. I miss just being around other people.

@Adira: let's not think about the first's we will miss. I am just hoping day care won't tell me if she rolls over there and let me think it is the first time when I see it!!

Good morning, ladies!

Not too much to report on this end. I still have moments when I feel really down about losing our family dog but overall I continue to feel a little better each day. We had an interesting weekend of house hunting; we spent one day looking at homes in a really lovely suburb that’s 30 minutes north of NYC and one day looking in an up and coming area of Brooklyn. DH definitely preferred the suburb, but I am still torn. Lots to think about!

Today, I am going to a new mom’s group that will meet every Monday for 6 weeks at a pediatrician’s office on the Upper East Side. I’ll let you know if I learn any clever new tips…

@Adira: It’s crazy to think about how quickly maternity leave flies by! I am a teacher so I don’t have to go back until Labor Day, but I am already quite nervous about juggling both motherhood and teaching. When I told my class of students that I was pregnant last year, one of the girls raised her hand to ask me, “But how will you have time to teach us and take care of your baby?” Good question! Wise beyond her years…

I totally agree that it will be nice to have him stimulated and socialized at daycare though. Once you both adjust to the new routine, you will probably enjoy it. At least that’s what I’m hoping will be the case for both of us!

@smurfette: I’m so sorry to hear you had the start of a rough night but I am relieved that it worked out in the end. And congrats on the Candy crush level! I also want to chime in to say that I think you’re doing such a great job with Reagan. It’s obvious how much you love her and she is such a lucky baby to have you as a mom. I also have no idea what any of Peter’s cries mean and I still can’t make him crack a smile!

Also, I am on the hunt for Mother’s Day gifts for the Pete’s two grandmas. Last year, we got them nice photo frames. We have also gotten them flowers and jewelry in the past. I was totally silly and I sent them photobooks with Peter’s newborn photos in them already last month- I should have saved them for Mother’s Day gifts! Oh well. Does anyone have any ideas for good Nana and Grandma gifts that don’t involve baby photos, flowers, or jewelry? I am stuck!

@QueensBee: You're lucky that you have off until Labor Day! But I agree - I hope that once we get used to the new routine of working while our kids are in daycare, we'll be happy. I know that I'm looking forward to actually working again - I love my job and the people I work with. I'm just not looking forward to missing Xander all day!

@ALV91711: Sorry about the feeding issues last night! Does he fall asleep after eating from one side and that's why he won't eat from both? Although you said he was wide awake during some of the feedings, so that probably isn't it. It's definitely a bummer he fed so often. And you're probably thinking if he'd just eat from both sides, he'd go twice as long!

@ALV91711: Xander often falls asleep during his late night feedings as well. I usually try burping him and hope to wake him up and offer the second boob, but he often doesn't take it. Now that he's going longer stretches at night though, one side is usually enough for him to last three hours. But when he was younger and was eating every 2-3 hours, one side would only make him last an hour, so I really struggled to force him to take both sides.

I have no real advice about what to do when he's awake and won't take the second side! Maybe just hang out with him for a few minutes and offer it again. Sometimes Xander acts like he doesn't want the second side, but will take it after a few minutes of just relaxing. Or sometimes he has to burp and won't take the second side until he's gotten the burp out. Not sure if any of that will help you.

@Smurfette: Awww, yeah, sorry about your job! Definitely not enjoying your work will make being away from R so much harder! I hope you eventually find something you like better!

A five hour stretch is great!!! But bummer that she wouldn't really sleep much after that! That must be so frustrating. When R wakes up after you put her down, is she fussy? Maybe try letting her chill for a couple minutes before you pick her up again? I don't really have advice, because even when Xander won't sleep, he's fine just being in his swing or bassinet.

@ALV91711: Glad to hear he's been eating and sleeping better this morning! Hopefully that continues!

@Smurfette: @ALV91711: When you ladies let your babies sleep on you, are they sleeping on their stomaches? Or are they more in your arms/laps on their back? I'm just curious how you do it. I don't think I'd be able to sleep with Xander on me - either I wouldn't be comfortable or he wouldn't, haha.

@ALV91711: Yeah, Xander wants nothing to do with being on his stomach! The couple times I tried to get him to nap on me like that because I wanted to cuddle, he would just start crying. My baby doesn't like to snuggle.

@Smurfette: Bummer R doesn't know how to self-soothe. I wish I had some advice! Hopefully she'll start sleeping better soon!

@Smurfette: Yeah, I have no idea. Xander seems, for the most part, to just be able to do it. Sometimes he needs a pacifier, but otherwise, he'll just chill in his swing until he falls asleep. I don't know why he's okay with doing that and other babies aren't!

@shopaholic: That is weird, we were told to give to R Zantac three times a day, 1ml, 15 mins before she eats so it has time to get in and work. Have you tried just giving her the medicine? We just do a drop or two at a time. She doesn't love it but usually will keep it down.

I am not on Instagram, but that does look like a really nice bathroom! Glad that K is sleeping longer. Now to just get her to sleep not on you. R is cluster feeding at night too. In fact after bath, she will nurse 30 mins on each side if I let her. Oh I wish she would take a pacifier!!!! R is definitely fussier in the evening too. I hate it cause that is when DH is gone but he doesn't deal with the crying as well and she just wants me, when I want a break!

@shopaholic: Could you try and ask the pharmacy if they can flavor the medicine? I know they can do that for other drugs. Sometimes we do the medicine an hour before.a feeding. If she is starting to get tired, so I know will nap and then wake up will be hungry. It is too hard to hear her cry cause she is hungry and have to wait 15 mins.

Have you thought about swaddling her and then feeding? That way if she falls asleep she is set for bed. We do that, especially at night. She falls asleep nursing no way in the middle of the night am I am going to wake her up again to swaddle. Sometimes we will let her feed 10 mins then swaddle then feed more.

I hope she is sleeping good in her crib!! R wakes up evey time we put her in hers for a nap.

What is CTS? I hope you are feeling better!

@shopaholic: Oh my gosh, that's crazy how long K went between feedings!!! Congrats!! The longest Xander has gone was six hours, and that was the night he got his shots, so I'm thinking he just didn't feel well. I hope the long nights continue for you!

They say babies are often more fussy in the evening, so that's pretty normal. Xander's the same, although he's fussy from about 4:00/5:00 to 8:00/9:00, so not as long as K. He also doesn't usually nap in this time period either, but after his 8:00/9:00 feeding, he passes right out, which is nice.

Xander definitely pushes with his legs/feet, but when I try to get him to support his own weight, even just a little bit, on his legs, he goes limp! Maybe he just doesn't get what I'm trying to do?