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@YogiRunner: I totally understand wanting your parents in town but not your in-laws. That first week with a new baby is full of bleeding and leaky boobs and out-of-control hormones. All I wanted that week with my first baby was my mama!
My parents are coming the first week after my husband goes back to work and I'm sure my MIL will be offended but I just don't care.
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@YogiRunner:
We've dealt with so much drama on this topic. Our parents live a very expensive plane ride away in Puerto Rico. In October, my parents informed me they had purchased plane tickets. They arrive 2 days after my due date, my dad leaves one week after my mom one month later. We were planning on asking everyone to wait at least 2 weeks to visit so I was upset they had purchased without consulting but they had a vacation booked for the week before my due date and it made sense to save one round trip flight.
We then asked my MIL to come mid-June and she flipped out. She was so upset since apperently we wanted to ruin her dream of waiting in the hospital for the birth of her grandchild. She said it wasn't fair my parents would see the baby first. She really flew off the handle. We had my mom call her talk her down by explaining we had also asked them to wait 2 weeks but they had the trip already booked.
So everyone is arriving May 20 (my parents are staying at our house; MIL and her boyfriend are staying in a hotel) everyone but my mom is leaving the 26... So I only have to survive 6 days of craziness. I have my fingers crossed baby will arrive a few days before his due date so we can have some time as a family of 3 before the madness begins.
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@iluvboba637: good luck! Can't wait to hear how it all went!
@rockinghorse: oh it's become quite the task now trust me!
I had my 36 week check today...1cm dilated and 50% effaced and -2 station! I really hope baby Kameron comes at 38 weeks! They are doing a sweep at 38 weeks exactly!
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@sslm: Good call on the changing pad. We had a cooshee before which I think is basically the same but it got ruined when we moved. We also need a bassinet or crib or something. I do have a PnP "just in case" but I know that's not comfy...eek. Good thing is that I kept our cloth diapers and at least the newborn ones are in good condition so I'm not concerned on that front.
@ModernDayJibarita: Oh boy! We had all 4 grandparents hanging out in our living room too after the first LO. I'm not jealous of your situation but I will offer some unsolicited advice- YOU are the mom, so regardless of what advice you may or may not get, go with YOUR instinct.
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@Autumnmama79: That's good you got a doula! I'm still thinking about it, but they are so unaffordable in NY it's crazy. I find it crazy frustrating that I'm in this huge city and you would think great access to medical care, but that's not the case at all. At least not unless you have $$$$ and pay out of pocket for everything.
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@tinyperson: Your MIL is awesome! That is so considerate!
So my mom is on stand-by to come anytime. It's a flight from across the pond so will still take her a couple of days to get here. But I'm fine with that and might even have her wait longer if the kids are back in school. In laws were just here last week, so they won't come before June and my dad is actually coming this weekend for a short visit, so unless baby comes in the next few days he will probably come again only in the late summer. I think either way it's going to be a madhouse here for a little while.
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@Baby Boy Mom: totally. We're paying $1800 for ours and we're Canadian so not accustomed to paying for any medical stuff lol. But this was worth it to me. DH is still skeptical...
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@Autumnmama79: Wow that's a lot! For my vbac it was invaluable though so I would do the same for sure! We are just trying to reign it in this time and everyone is trying to convince me to just go with it, but we shall see.
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@Baby Boy Mom: My parents are ridiculously helpful, my mom can't sit still for a moment, is a great cook amd a neat freak while my dad has auto-proclaimed himself in charge of the dog and the house barista.
MIL is not particularly helpful and her boyfriend (who I've met twice) will definitively be feeling out place. I'm glad they are all coming at the same time because my parents and my in-laws get along great so and will hopefully entertain themselves so I dont have to. My dad can entertain MIL's boyfriend while my mom will play buffer between my MIL and us ( love my MIL but she's the type that will see a please do not enter sign on our bedroom door and let herself inside. The women is not good with boundaries; my mom is super into privacy/boundaries so having her in, addition to DH, to wrangle my overexcited MIL will be a godsend. I think it would have been harder to manage the situation if it was just me and MIL/her BF in the house.
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Glad to see everyone is doing well! Too many updates to comment on each one, but I can't believe this is getting so close! I am about 1cm dialated and "thin", but he didn't give a percentage or anything...just "thin". He also said the head is right there and he could touch it. This freaked my husband out who said on our way to the car he didn't want to have sex anymore.
I am not expected to go past due date, and it sounds like if I do they will induce. He said that I can start going on short walks again to get baby out (I've been on an exercise restriction), but I don't want baby here early! Too much to do!My parents informed me they aren't coming to visit until July. This is the first grandchild, so I'm pretty floored bc making a trip here really isn't that big of a deal for them. My MIL is 3 hour car ride away. She is basically "on call" and when we go to hospital she will stay at our house with our pets and come up to the hospital once he is born. After we leave hospital she will go back home so we can have some privacy and bonding time.
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@fitfigure87: thank you. Baby E
arrived yesterday at 3:30 pm pst. I'm finally alert after dozing in and out of sleep from the Nubain. Checked in for induction at 7:30 but they took quite awhile. Iv and pitocin were finally in at ~8:30. Checked and was 3.5cm which was a huge surprise bc I was 0cm on Saturday at my last appt. waited around, everything pretty manageable. ~1:30 asked for epi, but he couldn't get it in bc I was so swollen and he couldn't feel my spine. I wasn't surprised bc my epi with DS was the most difficult that anesthesiologist said of his 30 years experience. Then ~2:00 when she checked me I was only 4.5 which was disappointing me bc the pitocin contractions were getting difficult to breathe through. When she checked me water gushed out but I was feeling several small leaks throughout the morning. After my water really broke, things got intense fast. My ob came and checked me at 2:30 and I was a 7 and moaning through the pain. He said I could get Nubain to try to relax so I could progress more. So got the Nubain which kicked my butt - I was so out of it and in and out of sleep. Next thing i know the nurse is checking me and she's leaving her hand in there and yelling for my ob to come and I'm yelling at her to get her hand out. They scurry to set up and yell for a NICU team bc I had just got the Nubain and bc I'm Gbs unknown so had to have antibiotics (apparently you're not supposed to get nubain 2 hrs before delivery or something). 3 pushes later and she's out.
I couldn't hold her right away again bc of the stupid Nubain, which I wish I didn't get, but I do wonder if I didn't get it maybe I wouldn't have progressed as fast? ~30 mins after delivery when I'm a bit more alert dh hands her to me for a bit and I remember telling him to have her re-examined bc it seemed like she was gasping for air every minute or so. So they reexamined her and ended up admitting her overnight.
Gonna go down to NICU to see her again now. Hopefully they have some good news.
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@iluvboba637: congrats! Thinking of you and your babe!
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@ModernDayJibarita: Ah! That sounds pretty good then!
@iluvboba637: Congrats!!! Will be thinking of you and your LO!
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@TrailRunner: Ahhh so crazy that your OB could feel the head! Mine said the head was "really low", I wonder if she touched it. Bananas. I'd also like another 2-3 weeks to feel "ready", but I'm psyched that she doesn't think I'll pass my due date. Maybe we should just sit perfectly still until we're ready
@iluvboba637: Thinking good thoughts for you and your brand-new little one!
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@ModernDayJibarita: sounds like things could go really well with all the parents! And good call getting those 6 days of craziness over with at the same time. Hoping it all goes well!
@TrailRunner: I'm sorry to hear that your parents aren't coming to see baby earlier. Have you let them know you're disappointed? Do you think they are trying to be overly considerate and give space? I think this would make me sad! Have you talked to them about it?
Ok that feeling the head stuff is bonkers!! Omg. Totally understandable about DH lol. Mine hasn't wanted to since I had a big bleed around Christmas
@iluvboba637: oh boy, what a delivery! Glad baby is here but it sounds a bit traumatic. Pain meds really worry me too. I hope she bounces back asap and can be back in your arms!!
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Feeling accomplished today. This will be our little diaper caddy for wipes, dipes and bum cream. I love how it will match with the grey peanut change pad.
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@Autumnmama79: So cute! I need to get things organized, but we're moving some furniture around this weekend and I kinda have to wait till then!
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@iluvboba637: congrats!! I hope you and baby are doing well!!
@YogiRunner: I told my husband I was going to lay down with my legs raised until at least may 2, bc it would be very convienient if waits until after that date to arrive!
@Autumnmama79: my mom says that they have to wait until my brother gets out of school to visit so that he doesn't miss any school. Then, once he is out for the summer they are taking a vacation and will stop by for a few days on their way home from the vacation. She says they can't afford to come any sooner and that if she came without my brother he would be too upset. My mom is really weird about stuff like this, so it doesn't really surprise me, and it's more like her loss to me. I don't really depend on her for support or anything so I'll be just fine without her here, so, yeah, her loss! (I should add that my brother is my half brother and significantly younger than me. Like I'm 30 and he's in high school younger.)
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@iluvboba637: Congratulations!! Hope baby girl is out of the nicu soon.
I remember the stress about visitors before I had dd1. Ladies, don't let yourself get pushed around on this! Do what works for you. With dd1 I was ok with short visits but did not want/allow any long term company or non-stop guests.
This time dd1 will be staying with my parents (they live in the same small town as us) while we are in the hospital. My mom has also booked an additional week off work. If she had done that last time it would have been wasted because of how I limited visits. dd1 is 20 months so she won't really understand everything that's going on and why Mama isn't paying 100% attention to her anymore (trying not to think too much about this or I'm gonna cry) and if Grandma visits make the adjustment easier for her then I'm good with it this time.
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Guys, I had such a bad stomach ache last night/this morning. Nausea and diarrhea. Ew. I need to stop googling, because it could definitely just be the BBQ takeout from last night. Baby, if you're listening, could mom have one more week at least please? Thank you.
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@YogiRunner: oh man. Are you having any cramping or contractions?
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@YogiRunner: I've had a couple scares like that that turned out to be really bad gas pain - it's terrifying thinking you're actually going into labour! And yes this could def be it! What are you feeling now?
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@TrailRunner: @Autumnmama79: feeling a lot better now, just being more cautious about what I eat and keeping the fluids coming. I'm getting stronger cramping but I'm 2cm dilated and baby is super low so I feel like everything is slowly getting ready. Being so sick this morning definitely freaked me out though!
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Looking forward to seeing the May babies coming soon!! Hope all you ladies are feeling good! You're getting so close now
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@YogiRunner: still cramping?!
@jh524: thanks mama! I'm really hoping this one will stay put for at least a couple more weeks - no rush!
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@Autumnmama79: same. I'd love to have him on or slightly after my due date actually!!
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@sslm: ditto! If we could go one week after that would be
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@Autumnmama79: Yes ma'am, but nothing too bothersome or regular. I would love to have this baby on my due date (2.5 weeks away) but my gut says one week. Hopefully not sooner! How are you doing?
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@sslm: same! Ideally he would wait for the day after my due date. My husband is predicting 5/1.
@jh524: I am assuming you had your baby? If so, how are you?
@YogiRunner: one more week is so close! This is all getting too real for me!
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@TrailRunner: I did. He's 6 days old and doing great! I'm recovering from the csection which has been easier than last time. Thanks
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@YogiRunner: 2 weeks and change away myself but happy to hold on for 3 if possible! Feeling good but tired, achy, imobile, complainy. Typical late stage preggo stuff I guess!!
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@iluvboba637: Congrats!!!!
I can't believe we're all so close! We had dinner with my mom last night and she's sure I'm going to go early.... 2 weeks already feels like too soon, so I'd be happy if she wanted to hang out in there for a few extra days! Luckily I'm pretty much ready at home and at work, but emotionally I think I need another month
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@jh524: Congrats!!!
I had such a rough weekend. Hit with crazy exhaustion, super irritable and then our person that's supposed to watch the kids told me they were going on a business trip the week I am between 38-39 wks. Ahhh! I think the worst of it, though, is the mind games- does this mean something? Should I read more into it? Anyway....thanks for letting me vent!
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@csross217: funny how everyone has their predictions about when our babies are going to come out
sounds like there's a few of us who would like baby to stay put for a little longer! @Baby Boy Mom: oh man that is tough! More stress is the last thing you need at this stage. What do you think it means? Was she going to watch the other kids when you go into labour?
We had our last doula visit (before L&D) on the weekend and things are just feeling all too real. I'm in either disbelief or denial that I'm going to have a newborn in a matter of weeks. I'm worrying about how labour is going to go, how DD will react to me and her new sibling once he/she is here, how breastfeeding will go this time, how DH will adjust, etc, etc. Gah! I'm a nervous wreck over here lol
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I still have 4 more weeks to go but I'm ready to have baby here anytime in May (May 4 would be such a COOL birthdate!). I'm practically/emotionally ready but work is kicking my ass,
I promised myself I wouldn't try any of the old wives takes for inducing labor until I hit 37 weeks so I'm anxiously awaiting next Wednesday to get this show on the road. I know some women say they wish relaxed the last few weeks instead of trying to get baby out but the Type A person in me finds peace in the act of DOING something.
I figuree if baby isn't ready he won't come out anyway, but it can't hurt to drink some tea, eat some cookies/dates/pineapple, have some sex and walk some more. I'm gonna wait until 39 weeks to try reflexology/chiropractor and nipple stimulation though.
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@ModernDayJibarita: I hear you! I'm 38 tomorrow and have been trying a couple things... massage, breast pump, spicy food, and I just got home from acupuncture. I'm feeling like the more stuff I try the more frustrated I get, so I'm just going to stop. The main reason I want her to come STAT is because everyone is concerned about her size, and my OB scheduled an induction for next Tuesday (which I would prefer to avoid). My husband thinks I'm crazy, and is totally creeped out by the whole sex thing (so that is off the table).
So, I am feeling all defeated and bleh. I couldn't relax during my massage or acupuncture. I need to just relax and let what may be happen, I guess.
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It sounds like a lot of us are starting to feel pretty anxious! Either for babies to stay put or hurry up... I guess that's normal for being so close to the big day, but I'm hoping that all of us (myself included!) can relax a little over the next few weeks!! I just have to keep telling myself that whatever happens, happens
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It's pretty nice to be able to share how we're all feeling about the impending arrivals here! Everyone around m seems to assume that I'm at the point where I just want the baby out, but I'm totally not. Still feeling fairly comfortable and sleeping okay. I just want a few days of zen after work is wrapped up please! Also, the Starbucks barista this morning said "What are you hiding under that coat!" I guess I do look "ready" to the general public
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@YogiRunner: I feel the same way! Everyone's like "you must be ready to be done" but I don't feel that bad, and to be honest, I'm scared about sleep deprivation and the change to our family...babies are easier in than out
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@Autumnmama79: Ya she was going to watch the older kids. The thing is that we've lived here less than a year so we don't yet have a huge network of people to fall back on. DH and I are going to chat and see who else we would feel comfortable with.
In happier news, we have mostly finished reorganizing our furniture to make room for baby stuff, and I finally tackled my ginormous pile of paperwork. Had my 37 week appointment and baby is measuring over 6lbs, so good!
At this point it's just a waiting game, although sooner would be my preference.
Definitely going to be drinking the RRL tea if nothing else.
I am not expected to go past due date, and it sounds like if I do they will induce. He said that I can start going on short walks again to get baby out (I've been on an exercise restriction), but I don't want baby here early! Too much to do!
arrived yesterday at 3:30 pm pst. I'm finally alert after dozing in and out of sleep from the Nubain. 
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