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@TFrances: Hyla pees on us all the time. I never realized that it happens with girls too.

Hyla fought her naps all day today, but she's been sleeping for 30 minutes. Hopefully I can go to bed soon too.

@daniellemybelle: I am so sorry it's been rough going. Don't get discouraged; no matter what, you are doing what you have to do to make sure that your girl is healthy.

@daniellemybelle: hang in there. I'm sorry it's so hard. We are strictly doing formula because all the pressure was too much. The important thing is that she is healthy and growing.

@evansjamie: glad to hear we aren't the only ones getting peed on. I get peed on at least once a day. I am also amazed at how far Alex can pee. It's ended up on his face!

@daniellemybelle: sorry to hear about your BFing issues. It really is stressful not knowing how much our LOs are eating. Sorry your having some rough spots, it will all work out so try (easier said than done) not to be too hard on yourself.

@ladybee: awesome that your hubs split the feedings with you. I always try to get Alex before he cries (he's still in sleeping in our room and so I try to get him before my SO wakes). Because I'm not working yet, I haven't asked him to do nighttime feedings which will certainly change when I start working again.

Alex is 4 weeks today! I can't believe we've only had him for 4 weeks and really hope last nights sleep wasn't an indication of things to come. Our longest stretch was 3 hours. At least it's the weekend!

@Sadieloo: at 4 weeks how long is he typically sleeping? I've been doing all the nights since my husband is working. So far, I've taken pretty crappy care of myself and can't sleep with the baby by me so our pediatrician told me to put him in his nursery. I slept way better but hate the panic I feel when he lets out a cry.

Our pediatrician said that burping isn't what everyone makes it out to be. We burp in between every once and aim for 2 burps the whole feeding.

@Sadieloo: I try to get a burp every feeding. Otherwise,we get lots of spit-up.

Yesterday and last night were awful. Hyla fought sleep so badly. She didn't settle until 3:00 in the morning when I let her sleep on me. I had a Coke yesterday, so I'm cutting caffeine to see if that helps. Thursday's sleep was great. My parents are coming today, so hopefully she can get some sleep today.

Ugh I think I'm getting sick. My stomach can't keep food in and my temp is highish for me (99.8). I know it's because I've been horrible about taking care of myself, especially now. I'm going to go to my parents for four nights next week so I can feel better and be taken care of. I feel bad taking DS away from DH but I think he will appreciate the sleep.

@Ladybee: Start feeling better! It's the absolute pits to be sick and still take care of a baby. Hope you get some good rest at your parents.

@daniellemybelle: Glad to see you are feeling better! Keep up the good work! I've only allowed LO to co-sleep half a night once, but I agree on the cuddles. Getting in some good cuddle time always lifts my mood a bit.

@evansjamie: Yeah, I bet that's it! My ped said that is one of the most common things to bother babies. I haven't had one stinkin' piece of Halloween candy

@ladybee: You know, I was considering the same thing but my mom thinks we should do it the other way around, so she learns her crib is for bedtime, and so she can nap easily wherever. I'm not sure the right way with any of this stuff!

@ladybee: he will typically sleep from 9:30/10:30 until 7:30 and wake up 2-3 times a night. I'm in spathe same boat as you's with regards to night feedings. What makes me bananas is that my husband falls asleep on the couch all the time and just wAnts to relax. I'm like yeah... That's what your commute on the train is for. Good to know what your ped said. My mom is convinced that what I eat is surely making him gassy and was making him fussy when she was here.

@abbylyn: @evansjamie: @daniellemybelle: good to know. My mom has really made me paranoid about burping and gas. I sometimes spend a good 5 min trying to burp him and god forbid he doesn't burp and is cranky later, she's always like 'week, did you burp him?'

@evansjamie: Alex also had a rough night last night. He's been sleeping all day today which is making me very nervous for tonight.

@daniellemybelle: fantastic news about the baby bonding. I've been co sleeping a lot recently, mostly because I keep falling asleep BFing during the night.

@ladybee: feel better! Nothing sounds worse to me right now than being sick. Take care of yourself.

@Sadieloo: I usually lay there for a minute and see if DH will take it, but usually I end up getting the LO. I wake up to his little sleeping noises. No way I won't wake up to his cries. I hope DH keeps this up, but I fear that as soon as Sunday night rolls around we will be back to me taking all the night feedings.

@TFrances: I do the same thing! Unfortunately my husband doesn't hear Alex at all, nor when I smack his leg to wake him up for that matter my fingers are crossed for you that this continues!

So ladies I am super nervous! I just made a new thread asking for advice. We are at my MIL's house and she is coming home with us to spend time with the baby and help us out (I start working PT next week). We have massive challenges communicating (her English is really poor) and we have vastly different ideas of childcare,among many other things. I am really on edge that she won't respect the way we want to care for Alex and am just hoping I am freaking myself out for no reason. That said, she insists that the baby sleep on a pillow covered by a fluffy blanket that's she then wraps him up in. And so it begins...

Well, my parents came and left. I find it very stressful when my mom is here. Hyla had just gone to sleep when my parents texted to let us know they were coming (they live about 45 minutes away). I talked about how Hyla was fighting sleep and how I am going to cut out chocolate and caffeine to see if it made a difference, and she jumped in saying that that's how babies are, they sleep when they want to and don't follow any schedule that you try to set for them. I told her I wasn't talking about her not sleeping at night, I was talking about getting her to sleep at all because the last two days have been terrible as far as sleep goes. When she woke up, I said she was hungry, and she said "Really?" It had been awhile since she ate, which is something I would know. While I was feeding her, I overheard her talking to my husband about how she offered to watch Hyla so we could go see Carrie, but that I didn't want her to watch her because "we had thrush." The way she said it...she acts like I don't want her to do anything at all. She also cried because Hyla cried every time she held her, but goodness, the girl is tired and was crying every time she was being held!

A lot of the time, I feel like she forgets that I'm the mom and I know my baby better than she does. I'm not ready to leave Hyla with anyone right now, and she acts like it's a personal affront to her.

But, on the positive side, they brought gifts from several people, including a sweet crocheted blanket from a lady I used to go to church with.

I'm sorry to complain. I just needed to vent about it.

@evansjamie: that's what we're here for so event away! My mom said similar things to me, wondering whether Alex was more fussy because she was here and he doesn't know her. My mom's parenting thing is all about the burping. I need to learn to just ignore everything.

I can't remember if you are BFing or not, but have you tried pumping into a bottle and giving that to her so you can see how much she's getting? Maybe that would help? Nope it gets better

Things are looking up here, despite my MIL already driving me crazy. because of the time change which I forgot about (I still set my alarm every four hours to feed Alex), he went for a 5 hour stretch last night. I still feel sleepy because the night before sucked, but I'll take it!

@Sadieloo: @ladybee: Thanks. She's not better on her own. She really doesn't let anyone get a word in edgewise. She got highly offended when my husband said that he could remember life without Hyla. Heck, I can too, but that doesn't mean we don't love her. She gets offended if we don't do things exactly like she thinks we should.

I struggle with this because she didn't always act like this. She had a hysterectomy almost 9 years ago and her personality changed drastically immediately. She struggles with depression. We clash because I'm not willing to go along with everything she wants just to keep the peace. She hates that. I love her and I wish I could help, but I've accepted that this is the way she is now.

Sleep was much better last night. Poor girl is still tired so she's passed out on my shoulder as I type this. We have our first trip this weekend (eek!) since my husband is judging the Zoology section of presentations/posters at the Kentucky Academy of Science meeting at our alma mater, and then we will be spectating at a race that I usually run with a big group of friends. I hope Hyla does well!

@Jennimac: oh man, do I understand. I was trying to explain to DH how much I have to pack for LO and I to go to my parents. He kept saying you don't need that, oh leave that here, etc. If I use it even once a day it's going. I'd hate to need it and not have it! I hope you guys have a nice trip and get to leave around the time your supposed to. Good luck on the drive!

@evansjamie: I think all mothers and for me MIL's are a challenge! Good for you though to stand up for yourself. Have you said everything you wrote here to your Mom. I've often found with most people that they are completely unaware of how they come across and sometimes pointing those things out from a position of love and care is helpful. Good luck on your trip with Hyla. We took Alex to CT (2hours away) because my hubs bro decided to get married in 2 weeks and had Bachelor and bachelorette activities. Thankfully Alex loves the car and did well (as did I leaving the fave with my hubs for 3 hours and my MIL hovering over Alex).

@Jennimac: good luck! We just did a 2 hr (4 hr round trip) trip yesterday and it went well. LO slept the whole time both ways! Id love to know what you find useful and not on your trip. We'll be doing the same trip we did yesterday in 2 weeks, but we have to stay over at my MILs for 2 nights.

@daniellemybelle: I remember some of the moms on here mentioning the same thing!