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So we didn't leave today. LO didn't sleep at all last night and today. My breaking point was when she pooped everywhere and then spit up. The spit up went all on her hair and ear. So, I stopped crying and have her a bath. I texted DH and told him and he understood. Especially when he texted if things were better and my response was at least I stopped crying.

@Jennimac: I'm sorry. That sounds beyond frustrating. Just know we've all been there. Hopefully tonight is better. I think you deserve a medal for doing days and nights alone. I know I'd fall apart.

@Ladybee: Ugh! I am getting the same attitude with my DH. Arthur got overstimulated again last night. DH had the tv on, lights on, and was moving around constantly. I tried to mention very nicely that perhaps DH's actions were causing some of the issue, and his response was "Well, I guess we all can't be you." No, you can't be me, but why don't you pay more attention to the baby's needs instead of your own wants. Getting very frustrated over here. I'm leaving to go run some errands (store and the like) and DH is acting like I'll be gone for a week. Just deal with it!

I am so worried about LO she was sleeping for a good 4-5 hour stretch before (and then a shorter stretch after that) but last night she was up every 2 hours. She wanted to eat most times - so she's already at 21 oz for the day. But then around 5am she just wouldn't stop fussing. No real crying/screaming but the saddest whining. And kicking- she I guess decided then that she hated her swaddle. I tried to change her but he then peed on her miracle blanket swaddle (we only have one) so I have to put her in her backup swaddle. Eventually I have up and took her to the living room to go in her vibrating glider. She had been doing so great! Now she's just SO fussy and while usually she will show feeding cues I find it hard to believe she would eat this much. (She's eaten about 21-22 oz a day usually- and he already hit that for the day!) I wonder if I should get gripe water or something- maybe she's gassy? She's not a big burper but does love farting. I feel so bad for her oh and I don't think it's breast milk related since she gets so little (4-5 oz a day?) but who knows I feel so helpless because I can't help her.

@Jennimac: That is so rough. I'm sorry that you had such a rough day and I hope that tomorrow you can go to your other house.

@daniellemybelle: I'm four weeks pp, and sometimes I still have a hard time getting to the bathroom in time. I probably leak a little at least three times a week, but it's slowly getting better.

@ladybee: @TFrances: I'm so sorry! We get attitude with each other when Hyla is up late and fussing. My husband is night-blind and when he changes diapers in the middle of the night, he flips the overhead light on and then wonders why she won't settle down. I try to remember that we are all still learning and it helps me to keep my temper (most of the time).

@kjpugs: Hyla is a gassy, fussy baby as well. Gas drops help some, but what she really loves is bouncing on the stability ball. As a bonus, it usually gets a burp or two out of her and she is quiet as long as we are bouncing. It's hell on my core/back right now since they are weak, but it may work for you if you have one.

Tomorrow Hyla will be 4 weeks old! I can't believe it! Where on earth is the time going?

@ladybee: I feel you. Started to put her down at 9pm, and here we are, still trying. I almost googled "2 week old cry it out." Mother of the year right here.

@daniellemybelle: don't worry, I actually have google'd it. hang in there lady, I'm at 3 weeks and it has gotten easier. Maybe only a hair easier, but still.. Improvement. My mom told me to stop stressing about getting sleep since LO is awake much more at night. She said to pretend I got a night job, so sleep while he naps during the day and don't worry about having to sleep at night. The pressure of "omg it's dark out I need to be asleep" makes night wake ups 10x more stressful. So I started living my life at night, I've done dishes, folded laundry etc. so now when LO wakes up it's no big deal. It's also easier to fall asleep when it's more of a "I'm watching this show but man the couch is comfy" haha. For me, just the change in the way I looked at nighttime has made all the diffrence.

@ladybee: I've had more "why did we do this!?" Moments than I care to admit. has it gotten any easier for you?

a girl I went to school with had a baby last week and is constantly positing things on FB about how good her baby sleeps and how if she knew it were this easy she would have had a baby sooner. I kinda want to slap her a little. Now I'm not sure if this isn't as hard as I'm making it seem or if she's just a freak of nature.

@daniellemybelle: agree with the others, it gets easier! Do you read Lucie's list? Our little guy is a pretty good sleeper and in fact had a 5 hour stretch last night. I should mention too that he'll be 1 month tomorrow. We've been really fortunate that he seems to have his days and nights figured out, but the other thing we've done is to wake him up every 2 hours during the day to pump him full of milk. Not sure this has anything to do with anything.

@MrsTiz: wow! I think the first rile with newborns/infants is to keep your mouth shut if you have a baby that sleeps!

@ladybee: week 4 def gets better! We are there now and he's def sleeping for longer stretches at night.

I want to second @Sadieloo: and say that it does get easier. You'll still have your curveball days and nights, but in general, it gets easier.

So, Hyla slept in her crib last night until 6:19 this morning. She woke up to eat every two hours, but when she sleeps on/with me, she goes a four hour stretch at night. How can I get her to sleep longer stretches in her crib? We also started a bedtime routine last night: nurse, diaper, jammies, story, song, and rocking. If she is hungry still, I'll nurse her a second time. I want her to have good sleep cues. I hope it works.

@Sadieloo: Her crib is in her room, which is across the hall from our room. And as far as pumping, I haven't been diligent about it, but I pump at night after she has gone to bed and get between 3-4 oz out of one boob.

@Sadieloo: I pump for 15 or so minutes, but my milk production seems to be higher at night because she eats often.

Ugh it's been a crap night and day here. I blame the 3 week growth spurt. This kid won't stop eating or nap.

Anyways, what did you do when your LOs cord fell off? We are 3 weeks today and it finally fell off!

What a difference a day makes. We slept pretty well last night and were able to make our trip. LO slept the whole time!!!! I was so proud of her. She woke up right when we pulled in the driveway and I had to feed her and change her diaper immediately. She then proceeded to pee all over me after I changed her :). I'll respond to everyone later tonight when I'm not on my phone.

@daniellemybelle: some fits, some don't. I haven't tried my regular jeans because of my incision, but my maternity ones are too big. Some tops are too tight because of my nursing boobs.

@daniellemybelle: tried on a pair of pre-preg jeans around a week or 1.5 weeks post partum. Couldn't get them done up and haven't tried again since. I think I still have a couple bigger pair of jeans around here, I just have to find them...

@ladybee: I'm so sorry. That was us yesterday. Today was better. I hope tomorrow is better for you.

@ladybee: I'm sorry. It does. Each day is different and that's really hard for me. I do so much better knowing what is coming. What helped me Sunday night after I spent most of the day crying, was to change to something else if it wasn't working. Baby wasn't falling asleep in the chair, we moved to the couch. I also tried not to be upset or frustrated and it seemed that LO did better. Maybe earlier she was picking up on my cues of stress and that was making her stress. I also make sure LO falls asleep after eating a bit and a little activity. Last night she fought sleep but not as badly as she did on Sunday. I think it was partly due to the fact that I was realizing she isn't going to fall asleep on her own or so me her cues. I had a cousin who got her children on a fairly strict schedule early on. It helped her. Have you thought about looking into something like moms on call? They help get babies on a schedule and make it so you don't feel so out of control. Hugs and

I've got a ton of shirts and dresses that are starting to fit, but pants? Forget about those. I gained a ton of weight in my hips and thighs like I always do. Plus, I had had to buy larger pants in between my miscarriage in Aug. 2012 and getting pregnant again in Jan. I don't know when I'll be back to a normal comfortable weight. Like many, I am looking forward to my 6 weeks so I can actually go to the gym. I have the motivation now, but not the clearance or the endurance. I'm hoping our multiple walks a week will help me start to shed the pounds. Currently, I'm about 15 pounds over my pre-pregnancy weight, but I want to lose about 15 pounds on top of that to get back to my comfort zone.

@Sadieloo: Too precious! I want one of those chairs for Arthur!

@Sadieloo: Oh, I know. I'm thinking about putting on our Christmas wish list. My family didn't have a baby shower for me since I'm 1500 miles away and I would be visiting at Christmas. Maybe it can be a baby shower/Christmas gift...