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Is anyone planning on not finding out the gender until delivery? I told a group of girlfriends today and they were shocked when I said we might not find out what we are having. I realize it will make planning that much harder but I can't help but be a little excited for the surprise.

@Redmini1: all the more power to you! If we have a boy and a girl then we'll do this with #3! I just couldn't wait til time though!! It will be an amazing surprise!

@Redmini1: we thought about not finding out, but I was really only doing it because we had such bad news at our last anatomy scan. One of my sisters pointed out that I should that if I wanted to do it, but don't do it just because "it's different from what we planned to do last time". She made her point and we are going to find out.

Updating!

DUE DATES

10/1: KaitlynB - GIRL!
10/3: RedMini1 - saw heartbeat!
10/4: Purple
10/4: Evansjamie - saw heartbeat!
10/6: Orangepekoe
10/7: ChefAimee
10/8: Mrs. Monkey - saw heartbeat!
10/9: Chillybear - saw and heard heartbeat!
10/9: Mrs. Mochi - saw heartbeat twice!
10/10: Mrs R. - saw heartbeat!
10/10: Corilyns
10/11: Mrs. Spoon
10/11: AprilK
10/14: kjpugs - saw heartbeat!
10/15: Lozza - Boy!
10/15: KnockedUp_NowWhat - saw/heard heartbeat twice!
10/15: TFrances
10/16: BunInOven - saw heartbeat and baby kicking!
10/20: JenniMac - saw heartbeat!
10/24: LAWTo9
10/20: fuzzypeaches
10/20: MRS. YOYO
10/22: Beaker
10/28: ladybee
10/30: Sweet T

UPCOMING APPTS

4/22: KnockedUp_NowWhat - 15 week check-up
4/22: BunInOven - 15 week appointment
4/23: Mrs. Mochi - 15/16 week follow-up appt/ultrasound
4/23: Mrs R. - 15 week appt
4/23: Chillybear - 16 week appt/bloodwork
4/26: Mrs. Monkey 16 week appt/ Find out gender?
4/29: ladybee - 14 week appointment - nothing fancy
5/2: Redmini1 - 18 week 3-D Ultrasound/Anatomy Scan
5/6: kjpugs - bloodwork/check-up
5/9: KaitlynB - 20 wk appt
5/13: evansjamie - ULTRASOUND and 19 week appointment
5/21: TFrances - 20 week ultrasound/check-up
5/28: kjpugs - 20 week U/S/ anatomy scan
5/31: ladybee - second tri u/s/anatomy scan (18 weeks)

IN OUR THOUGHTS & PRAYERS:
chacha
littleleveesmommy

@Knockedup_nowwhat: where did you go shopping? I've been in denial long enough about buying stuff but I need to. I've been looking at Old Navy and Target online...

@Mrs. Monkey: I am still waiting for the promised burst of energy.
@Redmini1: I have things from Target, Old Navy, and Gap. I need to get my gap pants hemmed though, they are too long for me (apparently, someone my size should be taller according to The Gap).

I am officialy in the second trimester (13 weeks according to The Cleveland Clinic)! Woo hoo!!

Ladies, I'm back from a long weekend at my in-laws house. I love them dearly, but my MIL smokes like a chimney, and me being pregnant didn't change a thing. At least she wasn't blowing smoke in my face :-/, but the smell definitely made me sick and I just kept apologizing to Woog about it. I'm a little ticked that DH didn't offer to say anything until Saturday (we were leaving Sunday morning).

Has anybody else had to deal with this? How did you approach it? DH and I need to find a way to tell any smokers in our family that they will not be smoking around our child.

@ladybee: I'm afraid that that's the case. She lit up in the car at Walmart! There was nowhere for me to go, the only thing I could do was open the door (no window control in the back) and hang my head out since it was raining. And my SIL's latest boyfriend lit up at the same time as my MIL once, and the only thing I could do was bolt.

She never smokes inside when she comes to our house, but I am leery of taking my 3-month old to her house for Christmas if we can't get her to stop smoking inside when we are there.

@evansjamie: Cheers to you! That would add the most amazing surprise to an already amazing moment.

The morning of our last ultrasound I thought about how neat it would be to go team green this time around, little did I know our little guy was ready to announce himself. We got a pretty sure shot at our 12 week ultrasound but we confirmed it this weekend. A little boy it is! But I will always be in admiration of you strong women who can wait for the surprise!

@Mrs. Yoyo: @Jennimac: @evansjamie: @kjpugs: Secret's out!

@daniellemybelle: Congratulations on your appointment this morning! And on coming out!
I had my 15 week appt too and all is well. Hearing the heartbeat sounds wonderful, doesn't it? I had major anxiety yesterday worrying if everything would be okay, and sure enough it was. Then I had blood drawn for a United Screen.
I've been telling people as I see/talk to them. I'm just too shy to do a major announcement on Facebook. Plus I can't think of anything creative. I'm telling my boss today, but I'm pretty sure she already knows.

@evansjamie: I think for your health alone you should be able to say "would you mind putting it out and waiting until I am not in your area to smoke? It bothers me and 2nd hand smoke is not healthy for me or the baby right now." And I think you need to have DH have a talk with her NOW about it and remind her that it's not healthy for a baby and you will not be bringing baby if the smoking indoors or around others continues. I think you need him to say something NOW so you can see, next visit, if she listens. If she doesn't, then don't bother bringing baby for a visit at Christmas- I wouldn't risk that. Smoke is just so bad! You can smell it all over houses of people who smoke even if they don't smoke around you.

@Protectlove: yay! Congrats on your boy! So fun!

@daniellemybelle: YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!

@kjpugs: @corilyns: @daniellemybelle: DH and I are talking about it today, and he will have to be the one to say something to her about it. We don't have the relationship where I feel comfortable laying down the law, and he is very direct. I should clarify that their house is open concept, so she was never directly near me while smoking in the house, usually across the room or in her bedroom.

I think part of the trouble is that my husband doesn't get it. The smell is so much worse to me now, to the point were I was feeling ill in the shower this morning because I could still smell it on my hair, and he doesn't understand why I wash everything I take there immediately when we get home. Everything that they buy us for the baby will have to be washed or aired out before it can come in our home, and he doesn't get it.

Thankfully, my mother (who is a smoker) is trying to quit, and when she does smoke, she goes outside to do it. My MIL has been smoking for so long that we'll have to constantly remind her not to smoke around our kid.

@evansjamie: I do NOT think it is a lot to ask for her to smoke outdoors when you/baby is there. Maybe find some articles about smoking + babies and show DH and explain how elevated your smell is. (My DH doesn't get that either and just loves to fart AFTER we get in the car, so he hears about this A LOT!) I think when DH realizes fully how much smoke can bother a baby (and maybe it will take til baby is here!) he'll lay down the law. I'm the same way with my in laws... I could tell my MIL in the moment to please wait til I wasn't in the car with her to smoke (if she still smoked) because that's a cramped situation (and politely,) but DH would have to be the one to TALK to her about something like this. I'm going through something similar... MIL wanting to come to "help" but she's the worst helper ever- to her, helping is holding baby and then leaving when baby sleeps. I'm slowly trying to get DH to understand what someone "helping" post baby means (laundry, cleaning, letting ME sleep when baby sleeps, etc) and have her stay at a hotel not at our house... it's a talk he'll have to have with her. She doesn't clean or cook and my SIL said she was zero help with her son, so it's not looking too fab.

@daniellemybelle: Woo Hoo for the secret being out. We just put out a post this morning on FB, DH has been wanting to for awhile but I wanted to wait as long as possible plus be able to tell my friends and family in person. It's very cute though, DH did a good job.

@evansjamie: I'm sorry you had to deal with that and I definitely know how you feel with the smoke, makes me gag everytime. Hopefully after your DH talks to her, she'll understand why you don't want smoking around the baby.

@daniellemybelle: yes!!!!!! I've been wondering where you've been!!!!! I know you!!!!

@Mrs. Yoyo: I litearlly had no words. I didn't see her after that (I hope/assume the host made her leave) and everyone else was like "Did that just happen?"

@evansjamie: We just got a BBB -- nice, eh? Wish I'd had the option with DS, when I actually needed everything. Granted, it's a bit pricey, but the selection is awesome. I remember walking into BRU and having an absolute breakdown, it was such chaos.