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@MrsMed: My official last day is September 30 and I'm due October 4.

@Protectlove: It really is! I just confirmed that my paid time will go first and then my unpaid time kicks in. I talked to our HR person and our policy manual is very very silent on if you get the paid holidays while you are on leave, but I think they are going to go ahead and pay me those as of right now, so there's five more days of pay. My hope is that I will have enough comp time to cover the first four days of my leave, then have my vacation kick in, and then go unpaid.

We had our 3D ultrasound today! Stubborn little girl did not want to move her hands no matter what we did, so unfortunately we didn't get a good shot of her face. I was still mesmerized watching her. She yawned, sucked her thumb, wiggled her fingers... So in love!

Ok I'm getting to the uncomfortable part. Least favorite part today: I hate that as soon as I stand up from peeing I feel like I have to go again, like now. Ugh!

@Ladybee: Glad I'm not alone in the feeling. Makes for a very uncomfortable day...

@evansjamie: thats what I told DH. I'm 31 weeks and have felt pretty good the whole time. However, I do think I'm going to start peeing myself soon so I better buy some liners!

@TFrances: Glad I'm not alone!

@ladybee: I have been leaking pee since 20 weeks. She was super low until I popped, and now her head is using my bladder as a pillow. I recommend either Always brand pantyliners or the store brand that resembles them. They keep the moisture contained the best (previously I was using the Kotex like ones, but they suck majorly).

I hope baby stays put as long as you need her to!

I keep telling my husband that I've had it easy, but it's SO HARD to not complain to him. He's starting to baby me, so I guess I need to put a lid on it so I can do the stuff I want to.

@ladybee: I'm the same way- if I can get to 40+2 I get off through all of Thanksgiving (when my MIL is here- I do NOT need to be going back to work when she's here. Work is stress enough.)

And the other day I sneezed while walking INTO the bathroom and peed myself. I was like (achoo) ... DAMMIT! and DH asked what happened and I told him and he laughed way longer than is acceptable. I feel all of you.

@kjpugs: That is so mean! Not only your husband laughing longer than necessary, but that you were actually on your way to the bathroom and it happened.

@evansjamie: I too have been hot at night which is highly unusual for me. Even in the summer my hands are typically ice cold. I think I can make do with better pillow placement.

So ladies, what are you guys doing for child care after maternity leave? I had a bit of a freak out this morning when the third place I called today is on a waiting list and they don't anticipate openings until Sept. of 2014!!!! Maybe I need to open my own daycare center!

@Sadieloo: I think a pregnancy pillow would be extrememly helpful I'm too cheap to pull the trigger. I've been sleeping with multiple pillows shoved different places. I'm with @evansjamie: I need to sleep in the nude to be comfortable and even then I am so hot! After maternity leave my school district has a day care that our baby will be going to. It's not as close to my work as I'd like (like 40 minutes out of the way round trip) but the price can't be beat!

@Sadieloo: We really did luck out. They are also on board with AIO cloth diapers, and I like that when he's in the office he will be able to go see her on his lunch break. If I didn't work downtown, I would go see her too, but I would spend my entire break driving just to see her for 10 minutes.

@evansjamie: That's fantastic! And good point about him being able to check-in and see baby girl. That is huge. I really need to have a good think about what we want to do re: childcare.

@ladybee: good point!

Another question for you gals, as I knew would happen and as is often the case or many women I am feeling pretty overwhelmed right now with how our life is going to be once baby comes. Let me start by saying that I am SOO fortunate to work from home and to not have to worry about breastfeeding, pumping, commuting, etc. and having a flexible schedule to run errands and such. That said, I feel like everything falls on my shoulders. DH is an involved guy and does a lot, but when it comes to making sure we eat decent meals (i.e. not cereal every night), finding and managing childcare of the baby, dog, house and everything else, that will all be on my shoulders. Oh and I work 40-50 hours a week as well. I already feel like when DH goes to work, he goes to work and can't help out with any of these other things. And when he comes home, he needs down time?!? So my question is, are you gals in similar positions and how are you managing it all?

@Sadieloo: YES. This is my husband. Granted, he traveled for most of the summer, so all of the big decisions did have to fall on me, but we came home yesterday and he plops down on the couch to watch Seinfeld, and then wondered why I was banging around in the garage/kitchen. I was taking out the recycling and then loading the dishwasher, he asked why I was mad, and I said, "Because it seems like I'm the only one that sees work needing to be done."

I'm almost always the one figuring out what's for dinner, what to buy, cleaning, etc. We both work full-time jobs, but it falls to me to make sure the bills are paid, the groceries are bought, the laundry is done, etc. I made him a honey-do list this morning and he said he's get to most of it. I bet he only does half (he's off this week). He spent all morning biking, walked the dog, and I hope he bought stamps. I doubt he hung the blinds and I know the dishwasher won't be emptied because I forgot to put that on his list.

I think part of the problem is that his mom was/is a stay-at-home wife and he never had to worry about any of that. His house was always picked up by her, she washed his clothes, she cooked all of his food. So it was okay and even expected that he would come home and lounge around and not have many chores because she did everything. It was her job.

@Sadieloo: @evansjamie: Yes, yes, a thousand times I echo @ladybee's suggestion to sit down together before the kiddo comes and figure out a plan about housework and anything else that needs taking care of. Otherwise, resentment will build and it's so difficult to deal with once you're sleep-deprived and crazy and can't think straight anyway. Especially during those first few months, especially assuming you're planning on nursing, everything will feel 100 times more difficult if you aren't on the same page.

@Mrs. Yoyo: We definitely will be. It's not like this all the time, but he does have a hard time getting back into the home schedule. We haven't talked about postpartum in our class, and we will need to do that soon, as I'm 34 weeks tomorrow and this baby really could come any time.

Navy blue crib skirt came! I love!

@ladybee: it looks AWESOME! I love the navy, it is perfect. I need to find one (I'm thinking just white because I'm boring) but am having the HARDEST time. I want a flat one though not ruffley.

@ladybee: Love the crib set!

@evansjamie: My biggest pet peeve is when i'm doing chores and he's sitting on the couch. He's slowly learning that if i'm cleaning/cooking/doing a chore, he better be off his ass doing something too. I made a deal with him a long time ago that i wouldnt make him go grocery shopping with me but every week before i leave I ask him what he's going to do for me at the house while i'm there and he better be ready to help with the bags when i get back. Its only fair....

Cuteness alert! My mom lives on the 2nd floor of a two family home and her landlord who owns it lives downstairs. She's super old and is always asking my mom to help her with stuff. She called my mom down last night and my mom thought she was going to ask for help and she actually had a gift!! She (and her sister) knit these for baby girl! I almost cried when my mom texted me! To put this in perspective - I have met her once or maybe twice! So so sweet. I love handmade gifts!!!!

@ladybee: The crib skirt looks awesome!