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@Mrs.Hawk71: I like Graham William and Graham Michael the best. Graham is one of my favorite boy names!
@Gingerbebe: I'm so sorry this pregnancy has been so stressful. I hope you're feeling okay after the accident. It's good that they caught the placenta previa now...much better than finding out at delivery!
@Torchwood: Sorry, I love baby name discussions but I don't have a gold account!
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@Pancakes: Sorry! DH is just really adamant that we don't share names, so I don't want it to be out there where family might see if they happened to check me out on here!
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@Torchwood: Oh, that's okay, I totally understand. Maybe one day I'll upgrade my account!
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@Pancakes: Or maybe someone will gift it to you! That's how I got mine! DH totally disapproves of spending money on something so frivolous, so it would never have happened on my own.
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@gingerbebe: Glad you're feeling better after your accident! I found out at my anatomy scan that I have placenta previa also, but mine is marginal and will probably be moved by the time it needs to. That stinks
Hoping it moves for you.
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@gingerbebe: awww the good thing is everything is decided for u and u won't go in with a lot of what ifs! I had a csection scheduled, then went to labor so decided to try vaginal, but then things got complicated and had to do csec. Now, I'm just like let's go csec lol. Hope your soreness goes away.
@mrs.hawk71: I like graham James, but I'm partial to James. It's a name I'm considering for my lo.
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@Pancakes: aww I would love to gift it for u, but my hubby doesn't want me to spend money here. :T
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@tequiero21: haha, that's okay, my husband feels the same way!
I hope we can decide on a name soon...I can tell DH is getting tired of my suggestions. He's downstairs in his basement office working and I call down to him, "What do you think of ______?" and his response is a huge sigh, followed by "Aren't you supposed to be cooking something? Or baking something?" Hehe, I do have stuff to make for LO's preschool teacher appreciation week, but isn't naming our child right this minute more important???
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@Torchwood: My LO was born super close to my birthday. I really didn't want to share the same day, so I know what you mean! And checking the name thread now.
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@Torchwood: technically, u can gold post someone's wall and only they can read it ;D
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I've been missing in action recently so have been catching up on the thread, glad to hear that everyone is doing well despite different incidents, ups and downs along the way. @Torchwood: read your blog post, so glad your girl is going to be ok!
I had my anatomy scan yesterday and had a meltdown on DH on the way there because I was so nervous, luckily everything is fine and baby was very busy. We're not finding out the sex so are on team green
for the next 4 months!Don't get me started on names, DH loves 'tough guy' names. If he could he'd name the baby Blade or Riddick or something equally ridiculous... he even suggested Brass for a boy yesterday because it's one of the toughest metals...we'll be lucky to agree on anything by the time baby arrives. Anyone else have radically different taste in names from their DH/partner?
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So strange we're talking about delivery options and already have some dates booked, our pregnancies really are progressing and moving closer and closer to D-day!
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@London Mama: Thanks!
We're very relieved!But you're right, it's crazy how soon it is! With our issues, I could theoretically have her in just 12 weeks! SO not ready! Even 4 months sounds too soon.
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I switched my profile picture on FB to this the other day, just in case anyone missed our announcement. I was very surprised to find that DH did the same! He doesn't do much on FB, and probably hasn't changed his profile picture in months. And I know he really was hoping for a boy, at least a little. So I'm SO happy to see him starting to really get excited about this baby and that it's starting to feel real to him! I think between finding out she's a girl, feeling her move, and seeing an ultrasound that looked like an actual baby (we got to see her yawn at one point!), it's finally sinking in for him. So happy!
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@Mrs. Jump Rope: yeah shipping sux!
btw, how's your swelling? i was just reading my 23 week update and it was talking about swelling.
see below:
You may notice that your ankles and feet start to swell a bit in the coming weeks or months, especially at the end of the day or during the heat of summer. Sluggish circulation in your legs — coupled with changes in your blood chemistry that may cause some water retention — may result in swelling, also known as edema. Your body will get rid of the extra fluid after you have your baby, which is why you'll pee frequently and sweat a lot for a few days after delivery. In the meantime, lie on your left side or put your feet up when you can, stretch out your legs when you sit, and avoid sitting — or standing — in one place for long periods.
Also, try to exercise regularly to increase circulation, and wear support stockings (put them on first thing in the morning) and roomy, comfortable shoes. You may be tempted to skimp on liquids to combat swelling, but you need to drink plenty of water because staying hydrated actually helps prevent fluid retention. While a certain amount of edema in your lower extremities is normal during pregnancy, excessive swelling may be a sign of a serious condition called preeclampsia. Be sure to call your midwife or doctor if you have severe or sudden swelling of your feet or ankles, more than slight swelling of your hands, swelling in your face, or puffiness around your eyes.
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@tequiero21: thanks for thinking of me! My swelling is minor, mostly just lines from wearing my flip flops. It's really heating up and is humid so I am not surprised.
Last night I had heartburn so bad it woke me up from a deep sleep & burned so badly I lost my voice. I'm certain that the jalapeños I had before bed at the culprit, so I'll be avoiding spice and acidic foods before bedtime now.
I'm also bleeding again. Peanut is active & heartbeat is great, but I'm back on modified rest.
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ARGH!!! I talked to my doctor today (because the NP gave me the news yesterday). We had a long phone conversation and he was like uh yeah the NP was wrong on a bunch of stuff.
I'm on pelvic rest from now until I deliver. The C-section will happen at 36 weeks, not 39 weeks. Chances are good baby will not need NICU in that situation, but that depends on bleeding, etc.
Bleeding is probable in the 3rd trimester, and if that happens I'm off work immediately, and on strict bedrest. If the bleeding is severe, I will be hospitalized until I deliver.
If the placenta is hooked onto my cervix or lower uterus (instead of just covering it) that's a problem bc placenta isn't supposed to grow there and causes really bad tearing/bleeding when detaching. Thus, if I bleed really badly, I will have to have a hysterectomy. He said that would be a life-saving worst case scenario thing, but that I do have a 20-30% higher chance of it happening over a regular C-section.
Its just so upsetting because he's like "you're completely healthy and your baby is completely healthy, but its like you have a bomb in your uterus and you have no idea if its armed or not. We just have to take it day by day and see what happens."
I'm so annoyed about all of this. I took the day off just to process everything. Its hard to know that both baby and I are totally fine but for this stupid placenta. In addition to the baby and I being in danger if I bleed, I could lose my friggin' uterus and never be able to have another baby!
The only good thing that's happened was DH's hilarious conversation with the baby last night where he tried to explain to the baby what's going on. DH was like "Hi baby. Today we found out your mom's placenta is blocking the hole at the bottom where you were supposed to come out of. So we're going to have to come and get you a little bit early. We will we coming in from above you and dig you out of a different hole. Its very important that you not try to dig yourself out. Ok? We will come for you. No digging your own hole. You just stay put and wait for us to come get you."
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@Gingerbee: that's some big news to take in and process, but the most important thing is that you and baby are healthy and it sounds like you are in good hands. You'll have to look after yourself and take it easy until baby arrives and try not to think about the worst case scenarios. Love your DH's chat with baby!
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@gingerbebe: Ugh! I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! Glad to hear you'll at least probably avoid the NICU! And good call on taking the day off to process. That's a lot to take in. And definitely still scary, even if overall you and baby are okay. Sending lots of positive, healthy thoughts!
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@gingerbebe: you poor thing! That's so much to take in all at once. So, you've got previa? Why are they taking you at 36 weeks instead of 39? Just curious!
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@Mrs. Jump Rope: 39 weeks would have been for a partial previa, but as of right now I have a complete previa (its totally parked on top of my cervix). So they want to evict the baby at 36 weeks before the cervix starts to thin or before I get too heavy and put pressure down there, because then I would run too high a risk of bleeding.
According to my doctor, the lower uterine wall and cervix do not contract. So the placenta would have a hard time detaching from those areas if it was really hooked in there. That means if the placenta tears in those areas, I'm at risk for really bad bleeding, which if they can't stop will mean hysterectomy in the worst case scenario.
The doctor says that we'll do another US at 28 weeks to see if the placenta has moved away from the cervix at all. This would be a good sign, because that would indicate that the placenta isn't attached to the lower uterine wall and cervix, but rather is just covering that general area. He said in some cases (although rare), the placenta can move totally away and off the cervix enough where vaginal delivery is even possible. (Also, its not that your placenta actually moves, its that as your uterus expands, the placenta gets dragged along with it).
But if the 28 week scan shows no movement, then we know the placenta has attached itself there and we proceed with caution during the C-section.
So that's where we are. Nothing I can do about it in the meantime but hope that I don't have any bleeding before the baby is viable (because if they can't stop the bleeding, the only way to save me is to deliver). Our first hurdle is getting to viability in 2 weeks, which is when the baby would have a 50/50 shot at making it. After that, his odds get increasingly better.
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@gingerbebe: ugh, sorry u r dealing with this stress during an already stressful time. Fx that all is well in the next few weeks!
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Wow, I have been so bad about keeping up with this thread! Going to go back and read the last five pages of posts I missed!
We had our anatomy scan yesterday and all looks perfectly healthy! Baby is measuring in the 63rd percentile, or 13 ounces (at 20w3d) and I found out I have an anterior placenta which is why it felt like it took forever to feel kicks! I didn't feel the first few pokes and flips until 17.5 weeks and felt distinctive kicks at 19.5.
We are still safely team green
But I was excited to see all the recent gender reveals!It has been so freaky and crazy to see the baby's face and feel kicking all in the same week. Feels the tiniest bit more like a real human on its way.
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@LatteLove: glad all is well! Did they tell u 63%ile? They just told me my baby is measuring four days ahead. I've never heard it in percentile....at least en utero...
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@tequiero21: They told us in percentiles. They originally thought she was measuring weird, turns out everything is right around 35th percentile.
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@gingerbebe: thank you for the explanation! I wasn't sure how that all worked. It sounds like you're in good hands!
@tequiero21: I've never been told percentiles either!
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@tequiero21: @Mrs. Jump Rope: @Torchwood: Yes, that's how my O.B. said it! I didn't expect to hear a percentage either.
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Thanks for all the well wishes ladies. I have been coping by sleeping a lot, gathering a lot of friends and family to pray for us, and making myself busy with things that need to happen before...whatever happens.
My parents want to come up over Memorial Day and we'll have a list of things they can help us with, but the house can't be a biohazard zone when they get here. Obviously, I can't do a whole lot of the cleaning myself, but I have to get some organizing/donations done before I can call in a cleaning service. I have serious anxiety about suddenly having to go into the hospital with a HEINOUS looking house. We literally have not done a deep clean of the house since I found out I was pregnant (on December 30th, 2013!!!) Just ninja spot cleans.
Also, it hit me how weird/serious this situation is once I started to go over how I wanted to be prepared for the hospital. The doctor said the bleeds would be painless, but I'd just suddenly have 1/4-1/2 cup of blood in my pants. So now I'm wearing pads all the time in case it happens at work. I have to carry phone numbers to all the local L&D wards with me and designate people who can drive me to the hospital at work, home, etc. I need to order an incontinence pad for the bed so I don't ruin our expensive new mattress set (I already have a mattress pad, but I don't want to take chances). I gotta remember to keep towels in all the cars. I'll probably want a hospital bag packed and ready at the house and in my car.
Unfortunately, beyond that, I can't figure out for the life of me how to prepare for the BABY. I sorta lost it because I didn't really let myself buy much stuff for the baby until we hit 20 weeks. Previous losses will do that to you. But when we got the word that everything was fine with baby and found out gender, I ordered a few things just to celebrate. Of course, the minute I receive the 5-6 boy onesies I ordered and $800 worth of breastfeeding equipment, we get the news of the previa. Although completely irrational, I feel like I jinxed myself. I started crying at work telling my boss about the situation. I was like "I have this HUGE box of breastfeeding equipment in my living room and I have no idea if I'll even be able to use it!"
Now I don't want to buy anything else for the baby or share our registry because I have no idea what will happen. Part of me wants to just move forward and get everything ready, but it will absolutely KILL me if we have a house full of brand new baby stuff that we wont be able to use.
Sigh. Sorry, just had to get that off my chest.
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@gingerbebe: I am SO sorry you're going through this. It's so hard to balance being hopeful and optimistic with that fear of having to face a nursery full of everything you need... except a baby. If you figure out how to do that, let me know, because it's definitely a struggle here too. We haven't bought anything yet either, mostly, though in our case it's because my mom's friends (and my mom, clearly) tend to go nuts on gifts so we're waiting till after the shower(s) to see what we still need (and what gift cards we get). But I've already asked my mom to push back the shower dates a little from what we were originally planning in early June. Hopefully the longer we wait the more likely we are to know the prognosis with some degree of certainty. But if we wind up delivering at 34 weeks, we may regret that. Though not like LO will need much in the NICU. >_<
It just makes me so mad sometimes. I wanted all of us to have happy, healthy, easy pregnancies, especially those of us who've had previous losses. Is that so much to ask, dammit?! We didn't go through all of this waiting until we were ready, TTC, losing previous pregnancies, and everything else just to have things get even MORE stressful right when they're supposed to be getting fun!
Sending tons of positive thoughts and hugs and sticky dust and whatever else I can think of your way.
ETA- And don't apologize for needing to have somewhere to vent/rant/ramble/whine or whatever else you need! That's what we're here for. And of course, feel free to message me if you want to talk more privately.
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@gingerbebe: How frustrating and scary to be dealing with this! Apologies if you said this in an earlier post, but will you be getting regular ultrasounds for monitoring? I think as far as preparing for baby goes, it's totally fine to do as much or as little as you feel comfortable with. My good friend ended up with preeclampsia and delivered at 26 weeks; she hadn't done anything really to prepare for the baby, but then of course the baby had a long NICU stay, so they were able to do as much as they needed or wanted then. She had a big shower about 3 months into their NICU stay, when it was looking pretty certain that baby would be coming home. The good news is that no matter when you deliver, there is not much you need to come home to, and I'm sure you'll have extra support from friends and family if you do end up delivering unexpectedly early.
Of course, it really does suck to have the joy of planning for your baby taken from you, and I agree with @torchwood that it's really unfair especially when you've had other losses. I hope you get some good news in the coming weeks, or just a better sense of what to expect.
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@Torchwood: Thanks for the support, I appreciate it. Hope you guys are hanging in there too.
@Pancakes: They will be doing a follow up ultrasound at 28 weeks to see if the placenta is moved (which is what we're praying for). After that, I don't know how often they will scan me - probably as often as I ask for it, knowing my doctor.
I'm soooo tired and over this week. I just need to get through 2.5 hours at work and Bible study tonight and I'm going to just retreat into my lair all weekend.
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@gingerbebe: Take care of yourself! Wish I were closer. I've been on a major baking kick, so I'd make you something yummy to take your mind off of things.
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It is SO hard for me to sleep on my left side! When I lay on my right side for longer than a few minutes, I start getting numbness tingles in my ride side, mainly my butt. And anyway, turning over takes so much more effort now that I can't just lay on my stomach and turn my head to the other side. (My usual position is mainly on my stomach with my head turned to one side or the other, not even fully on either side.) I have a regular body pillow and it helps somewhat, but I can't imagine going through another 20 weeks of this... and I know it's only gonna get worse. Just keep reminding myself that it'll all be worth it in the end when I get to meet my angel baby girl, but some nights even that doesn't help much. Any tips or commiseration?
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@butterflyprism: I'm a tummy sleeper by nature, and this side sleeping is driving me nuts! My neck and shoulders hurt all the time, and I don't know what to do about it. I added a pillow between my knees last night, to preempt any hip pain (so far, so good), but it's still crap. Starting to wish we had a recliner or something so I could just go sleep in that.
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@gingerbebe: oh heavens, I am so sorry that you're going through this. Does having a plan in place help ease your anxiety? I have the same worried about the house, and with being on modified rest i feel "stuck". I wish we had funds for a cleaning company!
It sounds like you have an excellent support system in place. Don't be afraid to prioritize, delegate and ask for help!
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The BH's are really getting annoying. The high risk OB essentially said not to worry about them unless they seem like actual labor (loss of mucous plug, painful, really frequent), but not considering them worrisome doesn't make them less obnoxious! And she said needing to pee/peeing can exacerbate them (because the bladder contracting can cause the uterus to contract), which I've noticed myself, so staying hydrated just makes them worse! It's a really minor issue, all things considered, but geez.
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Happy Mother's Day, everyone!
I plan on celebrating by going out with my mom and sister to start my baby registry. Anyone else have fun plans?
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@Torchwood: my OB says not to worry (for me) unless they're timable, I have trouble talking through them, and or they're accompanied by blood. I had PTL with Chloe & it started as menstrual cramps that turned into contractions every 7-8 minutes.
But you're right, a full bladder makes it worse! My mom gives me flack for peeing so often and I'm like, "just trying not to have contractions over here!"
@butterflyprism: happy Mother's Day!
Daddy & Chloe made us homemade waffles for bfast, and today we are buying flowers & working in the yard. We are making a veggie pizza for lunch!
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Happy Mother's Day everyone!
I am doing better today. I had a really long ugly cry on Friday after the week was finally over. Between the baby stuff and a few other annoying things, I'd just had it. One woman in my Bible study who I generally admire tremendously (she's a doctor, has dealt with IF, and had multiple miscarriages in every trimester) was trying to tell me that my situation really isn't the end of the world and that most of the time the condition will resolve itself. Typically that might make me feel better, but on Friday it REALLY did not go over well with me. I just smiled and let it go but lost it after everyone left.
I slept most of yesterday, went to church today, and felt a lot better after service (during which I had another ugly cry). I feel like I'm ready to move forward and be productive again. I think I just needed to process everything and come to a place of acceptance about the situation. There's nothing I can do about this but pray and have faith. We even went to Target after church and bought a little premie outfit as a symbol of the fact that we're just going to surrender this situation to God and get ready to welcome our son.
DH and I did one long overdue project in the guest bath this afternoon (I replaced the rusty shower caddy and DH cleaned the tub/tile in there). I also pulled together 2 big bags for Goodwill. I'm sitting here in the middle of a clothing/junk explosion on our bed as I reorganize the dressers and closets. I'm hoping to get our master bedroom in shape this week so DH can start moving our furniture around. If DH can get the garage reorganized next weekend while I clean the fridge, I think we'll be in okay shape before my mom gets here over Memorial Day. Its annoying not being able to do much, but I guess the upside is that I wont get overwhelmed if I do just a few small things every day.
Its a really nice day today - hopefully you all are enjoying your Mother's Day with friends and family!
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@gingerbebe: hang in there, doll. Worst case scenario is you have a section at 36 weeks. Best case is your previa resolves itself!
Please don't be afraid to delegate or prioritize.. I'm on modified bed rest because of a complication, and I can't do much of anything. It's really hard and very frustrating; I'm such an active, do it myself kind of person! But in the end, this isn't about me.. and you do what you have to do.
Hoping it moves for you.
for the next 4 months!
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