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@Mrs. Jump Rope: Not being able to lift more than 10 pounds is super annoying and I'm not even on modified bed rest. I'm trying to do light work in 30 minute bursts, and then resting. Its just so irritating since cleaning/reorganizing usually means that things get way messier before they get cleaner and I have to take my breaks staring at this hot mess in my room.
We are just keeping our fingers crossed that either the previa moves or that we just get the section at 36 weeks with no complications. Waiting 6 more weeks to see where we are is the hard part. At 28 weeks we have the follow-up ultrasound and even if we have an emergency at that point, the chances of baby surviving are decent. I just don't want anything to happen in the meantime, you know? It just sucks to be this close to viability with this hanging over our heads.
Oh well. In funnier news, my mom's new mission is to fatten up the baby (by encouraging me to eat more). This is weird since she's told me I need to lose weight my entire life and now she's convinced that if I eat more, the baby will get big and have a better chance if he's born early. I told her it doesn't really work that way, but she keeps calling me every day at lunch asking me if I've eaten beef that day.
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@gingerbebe: I was on pelvic rest nearly my entire pregnancy with Chloe. It wasn't that hard because I didn't have a third person to pick up after. My husband did the laundry and dishes which there wasn't much of, since we both worked outside of the home. All we had were dinner dishes and one change of clothes.
Now.. Gosh, it's just so different and hard. I'm not the type to ask for help & I micromanage and it's just awful. I've had a few nasty cries over it because i feel so utterly worthless. My cervix sucks & I have to be careful I don't go into labor early. I've been bleeding for a week now! I have an appt on Tuesday to follow up about this.
I'm just kind of over this. It's hard to enjoy the pregnancy, especially knowing this will be our last.
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Had a good Mother's Day. We got massages, and went to dinner with family (including my mom and grandmother), and spent the time in between just sort of piddling around. Got some random stuff for the house at BB&B, that sort of thing. Overall I enjoyed it, especially since people can actually tell I'm pregnant and stuff. It was a little hard though, because everyone (family) kept telling me "happy first mother's day," which... it's not, not really. I was pregnant last Mother's Day too, though only about 6 weeks, and DH did get me a card and a mani/pedi. I don't expect people to realize or acknowledge that, but it was just a reminder that I've been pregnant more than half of the last year, and still have 4 months before I'm likely to have a living baby, and even that's still not guaranteed. But I'm still focusing on the fact that I have a (very active) baby inside, and she's alright for now, and just continuing to hope for the best. I'll probably have another good freakout before my next ultrasound (21st), but for now all is well(ish).
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But! On a very positive note, DH is at this moment filling out the order form to lease a new rogue for the next year, which we'll buy at the end of the lease, and he's going in on his lunch break tomorrow to trade in our xterra (which is too big for me) for a new altima. Both of which make far more sense financially than it sounds like, because DH's mother works in Nissan's corporate offices and we get ridiculous deals on these through her. I know leasing and buying new are normally terrible, but I promise we're not doing anything stupid.
And I get TWO new cars out of it, so I'm super excited. Even just not having no car when DH at work is exciting by itself, but the new part is even better!
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I've been in a bit of a funk the last few days, feeling extremely tired and down, haven't had the energy to cook so have ended up eating chips and melon for dinner and then of course felt guilty and even more tired afterwards. Am annoyed with DH for not letting me sleep in at the weekends, he'll get up with DS telling me to stay in bed but only after DS has been bouncing on top of me for about 45 minutes by which time I'm of course wide awake.
I feel like I've been pregnant forever, am huge and still have an eternity to go before due date. And I'm really struggling to find time to look after myself, there are no antenatal yoga classes at the weekend close to where I live and the one class I can attend at lunch time my boss has scheduled conflicting meetings for every single time the last 4 weeks. I know I sound ridiculous complaining that I don't have time to go to yoga during working hours but that's how I feel
Anyone else feeling down recently?
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So for those of you who have experience, what exactly does pelvic rest involve? I get that any kind of 'action' is a no no but what else are you supposed to avoid? Please educate me!
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@London Mama: I'm on it for placenta previa, and I was told no sex, no exercising (besides walking), and no lifting anything heavy or over 15 pounds.
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@London Mama: I was told nothing in the vagina, no orgasm, no lifting/pushing over 10lbs and minimal exercise.
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I got an ER bill in the mail a few weeks ago and was shocked at the amount. I called my insurance company who instructed me not to pay a cent until I had an EOB. For my insurance, there is no such thing as "out of network ER visits" so it would be subject to my 10% coinsurance. WHEW.
But, we got a second bill yesterday for another outrageous amount. I called my insurance today (no EOB yet) & the ER never submitted a claim for physician services.
I'm so glad I called instead of blindly paying these bills.
And, I got a juror summons. My second one in three months. I deferred the first time, thinking I wouldn't get called for another year, but nope! I spoke to a really nice man this morning who said I can be deferred until September 2015. Geez, I'd have served in January but I'll take it!
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@gingerbebe just catching up on the thread but wanted you to know that I am thinking of you!
@London mama I am very tired (again) lately. I was doing well for a few weeks but I am back to feeling tired. I don't think I am sleeping well so that is the cause. Hope you can make it to yoga soon!
@mrs. jump rope I just got a juror summons last week! They come like clockwork in my city, every 3 years. It is for July 23rd and we can only push off for up to a year so I just am going to go ahead and serve. Because of my job I would never, ever get seated so I might as well take my huge bump and sit there reading for a day!
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@Mrs. Jump Rope: I got a juror summons too! I tried to defer, but still got assigned a date.
I'm really hoping I don't have to go in, it's a week DH isn't around and I seriously don't know what I would do with LO. So, I would go in there as the crankiest pregnant lady they've ever seen!
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@psw27: Thanks for the positive thoughts! We get summoned every 3 years just about too! We live in a pretty rural county, so I guess that's why. The adjacent county is highly populated so people get called far less, but I guess its just the luck of the draw.
@Boogs: Generally most judges will excuse you on the day if you tell them you are the sole caretaker of your baby. Or you can say you need to take frequent bathroom breaks because you're pregnant!
@Mrs. Jump Rope: Last week was like that for me. On top of the baby news, each day we got something new in the mail for something stupid and annoying. First it was the insurance claim on the car, then a justification request for CONTACT LENSES our FSA, and then a denial of a dental claim for a $1500 crown I got done in OCTOBER (it was the dentist's error on the claim, not our's). And then when the body shop finished with DH's car repair, they said they had to remove our HOV lane decals, which DMV says we need to send back and then reapply for if we want replacements (with forms, justification paperwork, copies of our invoices, etc.) Because I was already frayed from the baby stuff I just handed all of it over to my DH and was like "NOPE. CAN'T DO IT. HANDLE IT. NOT MY PROBLEM."
The straw that broke the camel's back last week was that I finally left work on Friday after waiting all day to go home and when I got to the parking lot, a car was parked 6. inches. from my driver's side door. And my car was already parked next to a cement pilon. So I couldn't get into the car! After staring at my car for 5 minutes trying to figure out how to get the car out, I scrawled a nasty note for the other driver and crawled through the back of the vehicle to get to the driver's seat and clipped my OWN mirror on the cement pole getting the car out. I couldn't get the car out without folding both my side mirrors, just praying I didn't scratch the other car (because I really needed a SECOND accident claim that week). I inched that car out over 15 agonizing minutes and basically was DONE with life at that point.
Why does crappy stuff just dog pile like that?? As if pelvic rest, bed rest, being pregnant, etc. wasn't enough to deal with!
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@gingerbebe: I tried to use the child care excuse on the form they mailed, but no luck. I hope I don't get called but if I do I'll try again. And what a week, poor you!
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@Boogs: our courthouse offers free childcare now, so we can't say that we are someone's primary caregiver! But high risk pregnancy got me right out of it, and he didn't even ask for my doctor to call or fax something. I wonder how many people lie?! I very easily could have been!
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@gingerbebe: so sorry to hear about all the stress and anxiety you've been going through! Hope you were able to rest and recover a little bit this weekend
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Sorry to have been such a downer lately y'all. Its not really like me to have such a bad week. Let's spice up this joint and coo over fun/cute things.
Here is a sampling of the cuteness I recently collected for my little buddy. The US Coast Guard onesie was a gift for DH because he is retired USCG. The others are just cute things I picked up. My favorite is that orange/blue/cream Kate Quinn footie. Isn't it crazy how tiny the premie outfit is compared to the NB or 0-3 outfits?
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@Mrs. Jump Rope: I bet a ton of people lie!
@gingerbebe: It's okay, gotta vent somewhere! Such adorable stuff!
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Thanks for the explanation Mrs Jump Rope and Littlebit.
Nice/strange co-incidence on the commute this morning, I found myself standing on the platform next to a lady I spoke to about a year ago when she was heavily pregnant and a few weeks away from maternity leave. We both recognized each other and spent the journey to work swapping labour and birth stories (much to the delight of our fellow passengers I'm sure). It was such a fluke to bump into her but made the journey to work 10 times nicer than usual.
Then I stopped to get a coffee on the way to the office and the lady at the counter questioned me not ordering decaf, what is it about being pregnant that gives everyone around you a say on your diet and your body?
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@London Mama: I feel like I'm the only one of my friends that doesn't avoid caffeine while pregnant. I'm like, do your research people!!!! My SIL is the worst. We've been pregnant/nursing together once and at get-togethers she would make all of these food and drink choices for me based on her own ideas. It was so annoying!
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@London Mama: @Weagle: I avoided caffeine and tried really hard to "follow all the rules" the first few weeks I was pregnant, but I gave up because I was just too sick and felt like death all the time. I eventually moved back up to coffee and diet coke and stopped taking my prenatal vitamins (with doctor's approval). I try to remember to ask for half-caf when I order coffee and get my Subway sandwich meat microwaved to steaming, but overall, I decided I needed to do whatever was going to make me feel better. I want to do what's best for my baby, but that includes keeping my sanity, yanno?
Its super annoying people say stuff to you though. Its not like you're smoking or something!
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@London Mama: Yeah, I definitely haven't given up caffeine. DH fusses some, but I just remind him that I've researched this all a LOT more than he has. If he wants to do the research, he can tell me what I should do.
@gingerbebe: My SIL just sent us these!
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@Torchwood: Super cute!
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@Weagle: I don't! I think you can safely have 200mg of caffeine a day? I drink one cup of coffee in the morning, and sometimes I'll have a second. I don't overdo it but I do enjoy my coffee each morning!
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Oh! Terrible picture because DH got home after dark and then took it this morning to work, but we got the Altima! Traded in the Xterra, which was too big for me to drive or get in and out of comfortably. And just to clarify what I said before, I do know this isn't the best financial decision, it's just not as bad as it'd be for the average person so it's an area we choose to splurge in. I buy my clothes at goodwill and don't remember the last time I had a mani/pedi, but I like driving a nice car, especially after all the stress I dealt with for years driving crappy ones. So I'm very excited!
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@Torchwood: Exciting! Don't let anyone make you feel bad about your car choice! I bought a brand new car 2 years ago and people were constantly giving me their opinions on why it was a bad idea. Enjoy your car!!
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@Littlebit: Thanks! I'm definitely overly sensitive about it. I was raised on Dave Ramsey, never, ever, EVER buy a new car, and I know my family and FIL don't approve. But I need to just get over it, because DH and I love it!
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@LondonMama: @Weagle: @Mrs. Jump Rope: Count me in as another one who has to have her morning cup of coffee. I tried not to drink it every day during the first tri, and now I'm just like, what the hell, between tossing and turning and LO waking up during the night or early in the morning, I need it!!!
@Gingerbebe: Cute stuff! I bought quite a few Kate Quinn outfits on Zulily when LO was a baby...can't wait to dig them out of the attic!
@Torchwood: Congrats on the new car! Fun! We test drove an Altima a couple of years ago and liked it. FWIW, we have always bought new cars. If I found a really great deal on a used car I would consider it, but so far that hasn't happened.
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I had a follow up appt today from my bleeding last week, which turned into just having my 24w appt. ateast I don't have to drive back next week!
She said I have cervical verices (vericose veins) and they'll likely never go away. If I attempt a VBAC, there will be more blood but I'm a good candidate for a VBAC so we agreed to discuss it further. Though she did mention a RCS would be easier on me.
I'm supposed to remain on pelvic rest for the remainder of the pregnancy, and to call during the day if I start bleeding again or head straight to triage if it's at night.
Lots to think about & options to weigh...
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@Torchwood: Cool car! Its funny how things work out with money. We've always been those people who buy 2-year used vehicles cash and then drive them into the ground, but we recently leased a hybrid plug-in Prius for DH. He has a super commute of 90 minutes each way and he was spending a FORTUNE on gas driving his Jeep. My car is too old to make the drive every day, so we went with the plug-in because it qualified us for a state cash rebate + all-access HOV lane stickers. We end up saving hundreds of dollars a month, even with the lease payment and increased insurance, and DH's commute is shorter, so it was an unexpected win for us. Now I'm driving the Grand Cherokee as the family car and we need to unload my beater car. At least we didn't need to buy a big new vehicle!
On a related note, we are starting to figure out "parent finances" now. DH and I have been living pretty close to the bone the last 2 years to put everything extra towards our student loans (both of us have law school loans, ick). Part of this was because we wanted to be able to have the financial ability (someday) for me to not work if I didn't want to. So other than one vacation in the summer and Christmas travel to see his folks out of state, we've kept to a pretty minimalist budget. Now we're realizing we need to make some changes with impending babydom. Plus DH has been working INSANE hours to try and hoard as much money as he can through his private practice to make up for the income we expect for me to lose on maternity leave, etc.
So now we're taking a page from @Mrs. Jump Rope: and looking to delegate, delegate, delegate. These are all things we never would have spent money on before, but think we need right now for our sanity. We started eating off paper plates and using plastic silverware at home (terrible, I know, but neither of us can deal with doing more dishes right now). I went from cooking everything from scratch and packing my lunch every day to baking food in disposable aluminum pans. I go out to eat for lunch everyday and we plan on eating dinner out at least twice a week. DH wants to hire carpet cleaners and a housecleaner instead of trying to do it ourselves (i.e. himself). We're also planning on flying my mom in once a month (she lives in-state, but it would be an 8 hour drive for her each way) to help freezer cook and just generally help me out before the baby comes.
Its freeing, yet weird at the same time. I get a little sad when we can't make as much extra payments on our student loans, but DH always reminds me that little man is WHY we've worked so hard to be frugal the last 2 years and that I should just enjoy my pregnancy as much as possible.
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@Mrs. Jump Rope: Are there any problems associated with the varicose veins other than the bleeding? I'm sorry you have to be on pelvic rest for the rest of the pregnancy. Did you want to try for the VBAC? I thought you had scheduled your RCS already, so I was just confused. Congrats on hitting viability!
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@gingerbebe: it wasn't scheduled, they won't schedule until closer to the date! But they said they'd take me September 2.
I've been going back and forth about a VBAC. I'm scared of labor & pushing, but I'm also scared of a csection recovery with a toddler. It sounds ridiculous to admit!
She didn't mention any complications from the vericose veins, only that they'll likely never go away & would be present in any subsequent pregnancies. She said I'd bleed more during labor than a woman who didn't have them, but didn't seem to be concerned?
I have plenty of time to decide. I was kind of thinking that I'd attempt a VBAC IF I went into labor on my own before the scheduled section at 39 weeks, but she asked me to consider 40 weeks instead (giving my body extra time to go into labor on its own).
Lots to think about..
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@Mrs. Jump Rope: Hmm, all that makes sense. I guess its all a toss up. Some of my friends have told me they had such a hard vaginal delivery that they took longer to heal than their friends with C-sections. But I guess there's no way to know unless you have both experiences! I wasn't nervous at the thought of vaginal delivery, but now that I'm a likely C-section, it totally freaks me out!
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@London Mama: I don't really need caffeine, but I will not give up an occasional peach snapple! I also eat steak medium, and have eaten sushi. Mmm.
@Torchwood: nice ride! Fwiw, we always buy new cars. Used ones are not that much cheaper so if rather pay a lil more to get new.
@gingerbebe: enjoy pregnancy! Student loans can wait!
@Mrs. Jump Rope: yeah, the thought of csec w toddlers scare me, but so does vbac. I think I'd rather do csec lol.
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Woah, the baby just kicked me a few times really hard! I have felt some faint movements or pressure before, and mostly at night time, but this was the first time it was really definite. I just drank some water and ate a few cherries and it was like WHUMP WHUMP WHUMP. How weird!
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@Mrs. Jump Rope: I'm struggling a little with the c/s versus trying for a vaginal birth too. Won't actually know for a long time whether the latter is even an option, but I feel like I should give it some thought in case it works out that way. Honestly, it's either a *really* good sign or pretty bad one if I'm able to go for it. Either her hydrocephalus will have to go down, which they haven't even mentioned as a possibility, so I don't see it being likely, or her brain will have to not develop as much as we'd like. Since the space needed for brain tissue is full of fluid, it should start developing outward, giving her a really big head, in which case a c/s is safer for her. So I guess I'm hoping the choice won't even present itself? I'm just scared of trying to go for vaginal and something happening. DH was saying how the odds are nothing would go wrong, but honestly, it seems like *everything* goes wrong with my pregnancies, so I don't want to risk it! C/s is riskier for me, I think, but less for her which is what worries me.
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@gingerbebe: LO has done that a few times, and it's nuts! Granted, she never sits still for long, but those big "whumps" are startling! I'm always wondering what on earth she's doing in there.
Sounds like you're starting to make some "good" changes! You might be spending a little more than you'd like, but you're taking care of yourself and LO. I hope you're able to keep from letting it bother you too much.
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With pressure coming from my friends at work who are throwing me an early at-work baby shower June 6 (I work as a Children's Librarian, and summer is Crazy with all the kids out of school and in the library, so we're doing it before all that starts), I have been doing my registry. FTM, so I need everything. So I started Sunday, and already the car seat I registered for is not available on the BRU website anymore. Should I leave it on the registry in case someone can get it in the store, or buy it myself from another store? Walmart and Amazon have it, but I don't know for how long. I know it's silly, but I already got my heart set on it because it's pink and the style is Charlotte, which is my baby's name.
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@butterflyprism: I'd just leave it and see if someone can find it for you.
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@butterflyprism: or start a second registry! we registered at BRU and amazon with our first LO.
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@butterflyprism: I second what @Pancakes said. We're registered at BRU, Target (really a waste of time, but there's ONE thing that I really want that's only available there), and Amazon. It's a little confusing to decide how much to overlap, but I wanted to give people some choices. Not everyone I know has access to a BRU.
And I get TWO new cars out of it, so I'm super excited. Even just not having no car when DH at work is exciting by itself, but the new part is even better!
I'm really hoping I don't have to go in, it's a week DH isn't around and I seriously don't know what I would do with LO. So, I would go in there as the crankiest pregnant lady they've ever seen!
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