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@ineebee: I know! BOYS! I still really can't believe it - am so happy. You'll really love the scan - it's so neat how detailed it is and how much time the tech takes in walking you through everything, showing you the measurements, and just giving you lots of opportunities to check out the baby. It was really, really great! DH & I went out to breakfast after the appointment and already started talking names - we had one picked out that we were certain of, but now knowing it's a boy for sure, we have no idea! Congrats to you, again and wishing you a great appointment on Thursday!

@SunshineMcC: Breakfast together afterwards! That is so sweet! I wish DH could come to this appointment, but he just started a new job and can't take the time off! But I know he really wants to be there. And yes, after we found out, some of the names I had in mind I completely threw out the window, and other names I was slightly considering are really taking the foreground. So strange!

I'm fine, fetus is fine, but everything else about my Kaiser OB appointment today was pretty bad. I waited just under an hour to be called back for my vitals. Then I waited another 45 minutes to speak with the nurse. Then another 30 to actually see the OB.

I told the receptionist, the medical assistant, the RN, and the OB that I was planning to have my birth and majority of my prenatal care through a midwife, but, that I wanted my lab tests ordered (midwife accepts the insurance I'll have when I deliver, not the insurance I have now).

Then as I was checking out and booking my next appointment, the other nurse with the office said they couldn't treat me at all if I was seeing another provider and said they needed to cancel my first trimester screen bloodwork and my NT ultrasound.

I was so mad and I started crying. Why did I miss work and spend 3 hours there to have the labs that were the sole reason for my appointment cancelled?!?

She called my midwife, was also rude to her, gave me a long lecture about how seeing a homebirth practice (licensed, credentialed, insured, affiliated with a perinatology practice) was not safe and not "legitimate".

After another 10 minutes of discussion (and a queue forming behind me at the reception desk witnessing my angry crying...) she assented to leave in the orders that the physician had already put in but chastised me that they wouldn't do anything else for me so long as I was getting midwife care.

I'm theoretically working right now, but I'm still so upset and angry that I'm not getting anything done.

Most people still don't know I'm pregnant, so, this is one of the few places I can vent. Thank you!

@lulu22: Thank you! I wasn't sure what to expect - I know other ladies on here found out the gender, but I didn't tell DH that as I didn't want to get his hopes up. Our tech said that it depends a lot on the machine used and how cooperative the baby is - good luck! Can't wait for an update!!!!

@lilyofthewest: Ugh, I'm SO sorry you had such a crummy experience today. Vent away! Your choices are totally yours, and that's none of anyone else's business to lecture you on any of that. I'm glad you were able to stand your ground (angry crying and all), so that they kept the orders in. Sending you hugs!

@SunshineMcC: @ineebee: oh congratulations! That's so exciting! We didn't do an NT scan with LO & I'm still on the fence with this one because 5 here is such a high high chance of false positives (i don't want to worry if nothing is wrong!) But the way you ladies make it sound we just may change our minds!

@lilyofthewest: I can't even imagine. I am so angry for you right now. That is absolutely ridiculous. I'm sorry that happened & I hope something can be worked out.

@lilyofthewest: oh my gosh, what a nightmare. would it be possible to switch to another doctor's office that is less... awful? or speak with someone about the experience you had today? that is horrible. my family doctor asked me if i wanted an OB or a midwife and was totally open to helping me/doing shared care whichever route i went! you should be able to find a practice that is a lot more open minded, i would think!

@SunshineMcC: ya i'm actually really excited because i'm adopted and so is my brother. so my mom never even had her own ultrasounds! i think it'll be special for her to see it just teared up writing this post.

@SunshineMcC: I read today on my Ovia app that 5% of all positives are false & if you compare that to the amount of babies actually born with abnormalities, the majority of positives are false. That's all it said & I haven't done any further research but it makes sense to me as I have seen a few other bees given false positives only to find out nothing was wrong

@Mrs. Sunshine: the risk of false positives is why we aren't doing it. We wouldn't terminate anyways, and anything they see at the NT scan they can see at the anatomy scan, which would give us plenty of time to prepare if there was something wrong.

@loki: @BANANA330: The trouble is that right now I have Kaiser, which only covers care (including labwork) at Kaiser. I could switch to a different Kaiser location, there are a few that aren't too much further away for me.

I'm upset about they way that one nurse judged my care choices, but, I also have a strong suspicion that she's actually right about the protocol for completely handing off care and that the other staff members were just letting it slide because they know the lab test situation puts me in a tricky spot.

I had been planning to join Sweetie's insurance during his open enrollment (coverage changing in Jan), but, we were just talking about potentially getting legally married quicker than we'd otherwise planned so I can join under qualifying event special enrollment right away rather than waiting until open enrollment.

@lilyofthewest: Figured there was some sort of US insurance thing. Hopefully you can make the switch soon!

@ineebee: @sunshinemcc: Congratulations on your little boys! My son is just the most amazing kid. I thought I wanted a girl but the second I found out I was having a boy I was pretty excited. You'll love it. And boys always love their mamas!

@lilyofthewest: With KP they won't let you see anyone but a KP provider, so it is common that they would cancel your labs and ultrasounds but I am glad that they didn't. If you want to continue to see your midwife it will be out of pocket, so I'd get on your partner's insurance ASAP. Otherwise, continue to see your OB at KP until the insurance flips so that you can get the perks of labs and ultrasounds until then.

AFM, I was totally bummed today. Apparently my visit was just to talk about which scans I might want and that was about it. We decided on the NT scan and bloodwork (even though we skipped it with ds) since with the twins they're higher risk. I haven't gotten a call yet, but my ultrasound should get scheduled for next week sometime. I'm super excited to get to see them - just praying they're both doing well. I was hoping I'd at least get a Doppler or something at this visit to feel better if nothing else.

Updating with my next appointments!

Next Appointment
9/24 - Lulu22 - NT Scan, As Time Goes By
9/29- Mrs. Sunshine (#2)
9/30 – NeekieRose (#2)
10/02 - Banana330 - NT Scan
10/07 - Rockies11 - NT Scan
10/22 - SunshineMcC
10/30 – NeekieRose (#2) Anatomy Scan!!
10/17- Delight (#2) - NT Scan, marionberry (#2, twins)
11/18 - SunshineMcC (AS)
11/20 - As Time Goes By (AS)

Due Dates
3/28 – Neekierose (#2)
3/30 - Astro Bee
4/1 – Boopers
4/3 – As Time Goes By
4/6 – Lulu22
4/7 – Pawprints
4/8 – Ineebee, Dancingbee, Brownie, anonysquire (#2)
4/9 – SunshineMcC
4/10 – Windswept
4/11 – Marionberry (#2, TWINS), BCHossley
4/12 – Loki
4/15 – Mrs.Pinecone316
4/16 – Banana330
4/18 – MeredithNYC
4/19 – Lilyofthewest
4/21 – Rockies11 (#2)
4/23- Mrs. Sunshine (#2)
4/24 – Jenn23 (#2)
4/30 – Delight (#2)

@marionberry: Bummer about your appointment! You would think they could just do that over the phone? I can't even IMAGINE how excited you are to see your little twinnies! The wait will make it that much more satisfying! And I'm glad to hear you say that about when you found out about your son. It was hard to imagine before I knew, but I am crazy, crazy excited about it! And it's so great to refer to it as "he" and "him." Ughhhh now I'm gonna cry again! Hahaha...

@SunshineMcC: No but I was thinking about trying again tonight. My husband gets mad if I do it too often because he thinks I'm worrying too much. This pregnancy I'm really just doing it for fun.

Gah. Dry heaving, gas, cramps & a headache. I thought the further along you got the easier it's supposed to get? At least I can lay down since LO is already in bed.

Anyone else getting really bad/frequent blind spots?

@SunshineMcC: pretty sure I heard two different heart beats again. Don't you just love that sound?!

Everyone talking about insomnia, I swear you gave it to me! I woke up at 4:30 and just tossed and turned til I had to get up. Ugh so tired today.

@marionberry: oh yay! I hope that made you feel better! I was telling DH about the home Doppler last night and I think we're going to get one, especially as my next appointment isn't for 4 weeks!

@SunshineMcC: they're totally worth it! And you can use them for future pregnancies too. Oh and wait until this guy comes...I never make it to 10pm anymore.