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@aprild: might your mom/dad be willing to come and help you out? I know your inlaws will be involved with the wedding. We are going to a wedding at the end of sept, but my parents are watching both kids.
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@aprild: If you want to attend, I'd definitely make sure I had help lined up for all the festivities - I would think people will be more than eager to lend you a hand with a newborn, but you never know. If you don't really want to go, I think you definitely have a pass to sit this one out.
I had more blood drawn today, and have very low iron and platelets - the hematologist is conferring with my OB to decide if we should do iron infusions with B12 shots, do a proactive blood transfusion, or just induce labor. Should know by tomorrow afternoon, at least!
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August 6 or 7 are my most likely dates, a week early. Fingers crossed!
So much activity on here, I love it!
@raspberries: keep us posted!
@Mrs. Scientist: hang in there!
@aprild: what a tough situation! I would go, and have some help lined up for the reception at least. Ceremony is doable if you wear the baby so you are hands free, and sit in the very back to remove the toddler at the first signs of disruption. Bring quiet toys, books, etc. Good luck!
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@aprild: Wish I had seen your earlier post about this - I must have missed it somehow. I am in a similar predicament except I will just have the one newborn and no toddler. My husband's brother is getting married on 9/12 and my due date is 8/29. My husband and I RSVPed yes but we also wrote on the RSVP - "We hope!" Actually, I don't have any intention on going unless baby boy comes real early. The wedding is a two hour drive AND an hour-long ferry ride and husband is a groomsmen - best case scenario, if I delivered by 38 weeks, I might be ready to take a trip like that. But I just can't really consider it yet since so much is up in the air. It's not really fair to me
Especially since wedding was planned in May long after BIL and future SIL knew about our due date. My husband is super pissed about it - BIL and future SIL have been nice and understand that we probably won't be able to make it but it's my MIL that has been really annoying. She has mentioned that she is upset she won't get her family picture at the wedding... I mean, come on. And she bought the baby a tuxedo onesie that is for a 3 month old. Seriously, it is huge! DH was under 8lbs at birth so there's no way this LO will fit in it by September 12th. There are some other annoying things - BIL is getting married right down the street from where DH and I got married 5 years ago, which wouldn't necessarily be a big deal except the wedding is on a secluded island that's only accessible by ferry and our wedding is the only one I've been to on this island. AND BIL's wedding is being held the same weekend that we had ours five years ago. Also, DH's groomsmen suit cost $570 (he is keeping the tags on it until we know when baby is coming). Anyway, don't get me wrong, I am usually really understanding about weddings, and I know that BIL and SIL have to do what's best for them. I just wish we didn't have to deal with family pressure to be there and the added anxiety of it all. Anyways, I could clearly talk about this and talk about this... to answer your question, I think you should just RSVP yes with the condition that you might not be able to make it if baby is super colicky/difficult or if you have not physically recovered yet. I am from GA and wouldn't necessarily want to be impolite about a wedding RSVP, but you are family and they should be able to give you some wiggle room since let's face it, having a baby is a little bit bigger deal than a wedding
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@raspberries: oh my goodness! I hope everything is ok!
Had my 38 week appt today. I am the "picture of health" lol. She didn't check for any progress, so I still don't know if I am dilated or not.
What are you all looking forward to this week/weekend? Our anniversary is tomorrow, so on Sat we are going downtown for an early dinner. I am very excited for a date night!!!
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@raspberries: keep us updated! I hope everything is ok!
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@aprild: Such a tough situation! DH's cousin is getting married mid-Sept and we are RSVPing yes, but I'm not sure how it will all work out. Baby will be about 6 weeks and we'll have a 22 month old. DH's parents will be there as MIL and the mother of the bride are super close, so I hope they'll be helping out a lot. It's a 3 hour drive. I'll probably wear the baby and figure out BFing issues as they arise, but the toddler is what scares me!
@raspberries: Hope everything's okay! Keep us posted!!
@Mrs. J: Happy Anniversary!! My BFF's baby shower is Saturday and I'm super excited!! I hateeee being the center of attention, so I think I'm more excited for hers than I was for my own
Plus, she's having a girl, so I'll get to ohh and ahh over all the pink and ruffles!
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@Mrs. J: @raspberries: @Mrs. Microscope: @lilteacherbee: Unfortunately, I don't have any family who can help. All of my family live out of town, and none of them are available that weekend. I thought about asking a friend to help, but most of them have small children of their own, so I'm not sure how they could manage their own kids plus help me with two of mine. My main concern isn't even the newborn, it's my crazy toddler who is nonstop energy and always running around/making lots of noise. There's no way he would sit through a ceremony and he'll probably be a terror at the reception (especially once he starts getting tired and cranky). If it were at least local, we could leave and go home, but instead, we'll have to stay in a hotel room with a newborn (who will be up all night) and a toddler who never sleeps when he's not in his crib. It sounds awful already!
@LauraBear: Sounds a lot like my situation! My in-laws are putting tons of pressure on me going, since they want family pics and to show off their new grandson. But like you, I announced my pregnancy way before they picked their wedding date. BIL knew there would be a good chance I couldn't make it.
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@raspberries: Keep us updated! Sorry you're having to go through all that.
@Mrs. J: I'm trying to enjoy the last couple weeks/weekends before baby comes as a family of 3 (although, baby could come tomorrow. who knows?). I want to spend quality time with my son and finish up the nursery.
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@aprild: sucks! they demand you go, but offer no help? I wouldn't go then. If they want you there and want to show off the baby, and have family photos, THEY can pay for a sitter for the reception, and THEY can help you during the ceremony. TELL them THAT! You deserve better!!
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@LauraBear: Same for you! Especially with a possible 1 week turn around. I assume that the wedding is in the San Juans? (originally a Kitsap girl!) Hard to find amenities up there... you are really going to need help!
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@aprild: I'm definitely more worried about the toddler than baby, too! You said 3 hours away. This direction?! I would totally help you out
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@Mrs. Microscope: yep!! Orcas Island - beautiful but yeah I think I would be worried taking the new baby up there, too. FTM and all! My mom will be staying with us so she could watch him but that would be tough to be away from him so soon. But this could all be a moot point if the baby is late. Neat that you grew up in Kitsap! Gorgeous area.
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@aprild: We RSVP yes to a wedding on Aug 29 which would make baby 2-3 weeks old depending on when she arrives. Luckily my toddler will be staying with my parents but since I'm ebf (hopefully), baby is coming with us. Thankfully it's being held at an inn and we got a room and will be able to sneak away as needed to feed/diaper or for me to rest if I need to and DH can stay down at the party. I plan on wearing baby in a ring sling mostly but still wondering if we are crazy for going haha!
Given the fact that you won't have help and will have your toddler I would prob say no lol. My toddler is a handful and I wouldn't be able to do both!
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@Mrs. Microscope: They originally said they had a family friend that could help me out, but she said she's going to be traveling that weekend, so now I'm on my own.
@lilteacherbee: I'm sure you'll have your hands full with your two kids! The wedding is in Raleigh, so probably not that close to you.
@getjazzy: Toddlers are a ton of work! At least the baby could sleep most of the time, but my son is prone to throw tantrums and be destructive when he's mad. I don't think my in-laws remember how crazy two year olds can be.
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@aprild: so many hugs! You will end up making the right decision when the time comes!
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@aprild: haha well that's true! And yeah, still 2 hours away from me. Hope you figure something out!!
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You guys, I got to hold a newborn today! Squeeeeee! She was born 5 weeks early and so only weighed a bit under 6 pounds. I just couldn't believe how tiny and perfect she is! Even more excited for my own baby girl now!
@Mrs. J: last weekend we had such a fantastic day at the beach, it was perfect! I kind of want to go again this wknd, but I'm also a little nervous since I'll be almost 38 Wks, so we will play it by ear and may just enjoy the weekend in town. One of our last as just the 2 of us!!
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@aprild: @LauraBear: I agree with others. I would RSVP a big fat maybe and I mean, who wouldn't understand that!? I wouldn't feel bad, you can't please everyone and you + baby come first!
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@buttermilk: oh so fun!! can't wait to hold my little baby too.
@mrs. j: Dh and I are going on our last hurrah - camping on the beach with our dog. I might be a little crazy since sleeping on the ground sounds uncomfortable but I've got a camping mattress so I should be fine. And may be the last weekend for awhile we get to do something like this. Enjoy your anniversary!!
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Aaahhh. This thread moves too fast some days!
Re: the wedding dilemma. We went to a wedding (5 hours away) when my son was 5 weeks old. Other than finding a discreet place to nurse, it wasn't so bad. Easier than taking my three year old I would say. If I were faced with the same dilemma now I would probably not go. It's hard when you have the family pressure though. Also, driving 5 hours with a five week old baby was not fun. The first three hours were fine, the last two were horrible.
There is no way I would want to be in charge of my toddler and an infant with out someone's help.My 38 week appointment went ok. I'm dilated to a 1 (so progress from last week) but baby is still high, and so is my cervix. Also, she asked me about fetal movement (like they always do) and I'd told her it was fine, and then when she was checking the heartbeat she asked me again, which made me nervous. She said the heartbeat was fine though. As for fetal movement, I feel like she's moving fine, but then after the recent losses on HB I start to get nervous and second guess myself.
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@Buttermilk I need to get back to the beach before baby comes. I only live 15 minutes away! But sitting out in the heat makes me contract like crazy - I am a little afraid it will send me into labor, so maybe I'll wait another few weeks before I go
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@OhCaptain: I know what you mean- I get nervous after hearing about losses too. I was a nervous wreck with my first because of a previous miscarriage and it seemed to actually get worse at the end. I've been pretty good this time, I guess because I don't have as much time to worry and I know I can carry a healthy baby, but man. The anxiousness has definitely come back the past few weeks. If I don't feel movement for awhile, I start to freak out. I'm so ready for him to be out!!
@MrsADS: I live at the beach, too. But it's so hot!! I took my toddler last week alone and I was sooo exhausted afterwards!
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@Mrs. Microscope: Whentoexpect guesses the 26/27 as baby day! Which is only 3 days away.... ahhh! My guess date (for no real reason) is the 29th.
Just saw my midwife, all is well, blood pressure is back to normal after being slightly higher last week thankfully! We just have to play the waiting game now. My midwife got bitten by a dog on Tuesday and has 6 stitches in the back of her hand so hopefully she will be better by the time baby makes her appearance!
Planning to do a big clean up of the house on Saturday (since hubby and lo seem to leave a mess everywhere without even trying)
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@lilteacherbee: I think also this late in pregnancy, when movement is the "norm" I don't think about all those little bumps and thumps as I go about my day. Only when I'm sitting or in bed and she's really going to town do I focus on it.
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@MrsADS: really? Maybe the beach heat is why I was having cramping alllll day long! But I was actually comfortable and trying to escape the city heat! Went into the ocean every 20 mins.
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@Buttermilk yeah. But I have crazy contractions pretty much all the time... I don't think it takes much to make them worse! And I wonder since I'm nearly completely effaced, if it wouldn't take much to push me into labor.
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39 week appointment was today, a day early. Baby was vertex so no c-section. Induction is likely for Saturday since my doc is on call. I'm 3 centimeters dilated. I cant believe I've almost made it, I'm so ready to be done but my house is not ready at all.
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Guess who is a month old!
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@raspberries: Hope you get good news tomorrow!!
@kayakgirl73: Eeek-- I can't believe you are so close!
Whentoexpect is saying the 7th/8th for me-- I'd definitely be happy with that (or maybe even a little sooner!!)
I can't believe August is almost here!
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@OhCaptain: So timely I am literally laying her agonizing about her minimal movements. It's probably because I didn't have my bowl of pre-bed ice cream like normal. But after the recent late-term losses it's been very much on my mind.
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@Torchwood: Soooo cute! I can't believe she's 1 month old already.
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@kayakgirl73: Yay vertex!!!!
@Torchwood: OMG how is she a MONTH?!?! That's blowing my mind. She's so cute! -
@MrsADS: true! well I hope you have a nice wknd and baby stays put!
@kayakgirl73: oh great!! I can't believe you're having a baby so soon!
@Torchwood: those cheeks!
@kjpugs: omg I don't even remember what my life was like pre- daily bowl of ice cream.
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@kayakgirl73: Yay for no c-section! Just a few more days!! Eeek.
@Torchwood: Happy 1 month, baby girl!
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@buttermilk: I had soup in a bread bowl tonight and was too full for ice cream! I don't even know who I am anymore!
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are you guys doing EPO vaginally too? I'm laying here contemplating...
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@kjpugs: lol!
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@Torchwood: wait what? No way! Happy one month!!!
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@kayakgirl73: So soon!! Yay vertex baby! Remind me, is there a reason for the induction? I can't keep track of people's stories!
@Torchwood: Jeeze that month flew by!! Happy one month
Especially since wedding was planned in May long after BIL and future SIL knew about our due date. My husband is super pissed about it - BIL and future SIL have been nice and understand that we probably won't be able to make it but it's my MIL that has been really annoying. She has mentioned that she is upset she won't get her family picture at the wedding... I mean, come on. And she bought the baby a tuxedo onesie that is for a 3 month old. Seriously, it is huge! DH was under 8lbs at birth so there's no way this LO will fit in it by September 12th. There are some other annoying things - BIL is getting married right down the street from where DH and I got married 5 years ago, which wouldn't necessarily be a big deal except the wedding is on a secluded island that's only accessible by ferry and our wedding is the only one I've been to on this island. AND BIL's wedding is being held the same weekend that we had ours five years ago. Also, DH's groomsmen suit cost $570 (he is keeping the tags on it until we know when baby is coming). Anyway, don't get me wrong, I am usually really understanding about weddings, and I know that BIL and SIL have to do what's best for them. I just wish we didn't have to deal with family pressure to be there and the added anxiety of it all. 
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