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I'm still debating about the "public" announcement (like Facebook). Last time I put something out at 16 weeks. Lots of people in our daily lives already know. But none of my long distance friends.

Random question: I know there are a few other mamas in this group that will have two under two once this baby comes along. What are your plans? Will you be a SAHM, WOHM, or WAHM? I plan to continue working full-time and expect that the first few years are going to be quite crazy with two so close in age!

@lilteacherbee: It's nice to know there is someone else here who will be juggling two so close in age and a full-time job. Having the summers and holiday breaks off is definitely a perk of being a teacher! I'm not a teacher but I work in academia, which allows me to have a pretty flexible schedule. I think that will help keep me sane during the toughest years. That's really nice that you have your mom around to help out. Unfortunately we don't live close to either of our families. Right now DS goes to day care on my campus, but we haven't decided if we'll continue with day care when I go back to work after #2, or get a nanny/babysitter that can come to our home. A nanny would be so much more convenient than corralling a baby and a young toddler every day before work, but likely more expensive.

@Mrs.Scientist: My first LO will be 2 years, 1 month when I have LO #2, so not quite 2 under 2...but close, obviously.

At this point, I plan to continue working.......buuuutttt I guess that's still up for consideration. Child care where I live is super expensive and I work in education so I don't make *tons* of money.

Daycare in my town is $2000/kid and up. So two kids would be $4000+ per month. GULP. So that's basically out. Both kiddos could commute with me out to the suburbs where daycare is cheaper, but even then, two kids will be $2300/month. Or we can get a nanny for about $3200/month.

If we get a nanny, I will basically just be working for my (great) insurance and to keep my position.

We could live more frugally and live on my husband's salary...he makes more than 3 x what I make. But I have some issues with being a SAHM in my particular situation. Some days I think I would like it, other days I think it would be a mistake.

I'm leaning towards continuing to work (after all, I'm home by 4 ish each day...I am off 3 months/a year). But it's a work in progress.

Thanks for the responses on the pelvic exam question! I've never had an abnormal pap, and am not due for one for another year (which she knows because we discussed it at the appointment), so that's definitely not an issue. She hasn't replied to my email, but unless she comes back with a really good reason why it's important, I'm refusing.

@Mrs.Scientist: I am currently at home but also working on my dissertation. I will probably stay home at least another year with this LO as the state here pays you about 300€ if you stay home the first year... They will (hopefully) both go to montessori preschool at two or three years old and I'll work again (assuming I'll finish that dissertation)

@lil owl: That's really awesome that it worked!

Working on getting our registries updated with the new due date and everything. Can I just say that Target's website SUCKS! I managed to change the due date, but apparently it's going to continue to be "Baby Spooky's Registry" indefinitely. (We called R "Spooky" because she was conceived on a Friday the 13th, and we weren't going to announce her actual name until after she was born.) Also, our Amazon registry has a sudden increase in FL Gators stuff since I last looked at it. Looks like DH has been browsing!

And just to be clear, I don't expect many more gifts this time, since we had showers and everything last time and got a lot. But I plan to also use them for that first Christmas, and I'm sure some people will buy gifts again even if we tell them not to, so it's nice to have registries active. Plus, it's fun!

@OhCaptain: congrats on the great ultrasound!

@lil owl: glad you're feeling better (FX!)

@Mizhi: welcome and congrats!!!

@Mizhi: Welcome mama! Right there with you on the acne and stellar nose! I almost just threw up when DH was emptying the compost bin. Nastyyy!

@Mizhi: Welcome and congrats!!

@OhCaptain: So cute! It's amazing how much they look like an actual baby at this point!

@Mizhi: Welcome, and congrats! There are a few of us on here with prior losses, so you're in good company if you need to vent!

Heard back from my midwife about the pelvic exam, and they basically said we could talk about it at the next appointment, but *anything* they recommend is ultimately up to me. I love them so much. Every doctor I've had has had the attitude that they're in charge and I have no say (usually with a side of acting like I was a total idiot), and would have tried to bully me into whatever they wanted. My midwives are nothing like that! And everything that I worry(ied?) about, they're already on board with. Like not taking baby away so I can do skin to skin (their policy is two hours before baby is moved off my chest unless medically necessary no matter what), not supplementing with formula, not assuming I'll want LO in the nursery, etc. They make me so happy!

Appt went well! I'll be eleven weeks tomorrow, but we were able to hear the heartbeat! She didn't want me to get my hopes up just in case, but she tried because she said I was thin enough that we might be able to. 160bpm!

@Mrs. J: yay for a good appointment! And yay for hearing the heartbeat!

@Mrs. J: Yay!!!

@yerpie110: I'm so sorry.

Anyone have any thoughts on telling DH the sex when I find out? I don't think he's realized that I'm the only one getting the email, so I'll know before him. If I find out on a day I have the car, I was thinking maybe buying something boy or girl specific at target? If not I'm not sure. Maybe a sign on the door that he'll see when he walks in?

@yerpie110: I am so sorry for your loss.

@yerpie110: I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm glad you have a little one at home to love on, they really can mend hearts

@Torchwood: If it comes in the mail why don't you just wait and open it with DH?

How does finding out sex work, if you're finding out via ultrasound? Will the tech just tell you in the room while you're looking, or does the doctor need to "interpret" the results or something like that?