I swear when I hit 40, every ounce of patience left me.
She is so quick to yell at him for absolutely anything. "He's touching me!" "He's too noisy!" "I want that!". If she's not yelling at him she's ignoring him or giving him a stink eye. I'm so jealous of those who have older siblings who are loving towards their littles. J is finally starting to walk and M couldn't care yes. I can't even get her to say "Hi" to him. This thread has been closed.
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@snowjewelz: Yep I changed her 3 times when she woke, in case that was it
Feeling good, nervous, anxious, scared.....lol
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Btw, what happened to BANDDMOMMY?
She was active but then her account shows shutdown?
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@snowjewelz: Huh?!?!? Maybe changing her name?!
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@FaithFertility: @snowjewelz: She said she deleted her account because of negativity on other threads.
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@winniebee: Ohhh no
I do see negativity here and there! It is hard as you can't tell someone's emotion behind words in threads!
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@winniebee: Aww
At least I can still stalk her in IG... @FaithFertility: It could be all the politics threads these days...
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@snowjewelz: I haven't even opened one...lol
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@FaithFertility: I read them, I haven't noticed any huge fights or anything lately, but who knows. All my FB mom groups get dramatic here & there too. I really wish as women and moms we can just be more supportive! But it's hard especially when all you read are words.
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@winniebee: Oh no, I am sad that she won't be on here anymore!
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@snowjewelz: So true!
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There was a political/welfare thread last night that was a train wreck. I know she was on it in the early stages.
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@MamaG: Yeah I was on that too and stopped reading. Now I went back and read everything. Phew!
I didn't think it as THAT bad though.. Got heated but everyone was still relatively civil... Kinda... Lol.
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@MamaG: I remember seeing her in it too. I was reading it before bed last night which did NOT lead to a restful night of sleep. Especially since I caught the cold K had and have been crazy congested.
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@snowjewelz: there was a different thread that's since been deleted so you may not have seen the really crazy one.
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@MamaG: @snowjewelz: @Miss Ariel: The high tax thread has gotten kind of addicting to read through... and a reminder of why I hate politics.
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@Miss Ariel: oh my...
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@josina: That IG announcement confused me too. I started thinking, hmm... who is that? Very cute announcement though
@FaithFertility: You are giving G such a wonderful gift of a sibling!
@winniebee: Between the threenager and the very young toddler there are just SO many feelings around here too. J does the same - throwing his head back when he can't get his way. I agree with you though - these tiny tantrums seem a little more funny this time around.
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@FaithFertility: You must be exhausted after the last 2 days. I hope she's feeling better soon!
@winniebee: Ugh - stomach bugs are the absolute worst
Oh that's sad about B&Dmommy! I'll miss her around here
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@mrsf: @winniebee: i think the first time around, i was so embarrassed when LO1 would melt-down in public. Whether it was crying as a newborn or a tantrum from toddler+. Now, it just seems like such a hilarious thing from such a tiny little person. I think you just get immune to it -- especially with a threenager.
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@winniebee: UGH. I hope you feel better soon!!
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@MrsF: Me too! So not like her! She has been a totally different kiddo! This past week
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Bummer BandDMommy is gone. I just saw.
Hopefully she still is active on IG so I can follow those cute kids of hers!
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@Adira: She is!
I might need all your advice going into this 2 under 2....lol
I'm doubting myself lately!
You might be my new best friend
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@FaithFertility: YES! Mine were only both under 2 for 3 months (21 months apart), but I'll share all my wisdom (or lack-there-of)!! And it's totally normal to have doubts. And the closer I got to my due date, the more sad I got about the changes that Xander was going to experience. But now, a year later, Xander doesn't even remember a time before Logan and we still have a TON of Mama-Xander time together! It's going to be fine!!
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@Adira: Thanks! I think because we are in the midst of a cold/teeth and rash and in just can't imagine not giving her he attention she needs, but I know that is now and 9 months from now will be a different story!
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@FaithFertility: It will be great!! A change for sure, but everyone's going to adapt! It's so true. My SIL's 2nd was born 5 months before her 1st turned 2... But he probably just has no clue what life was before his sister, and while there are fights and crying, he loves his sister very much! When she was in the hospital he kept asking where she was, so sweet!
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@FaithFertility: I think the harder part can be when your younger is sick and really needs you, but you still have the older to deal with. I have some guilt over not being able to give Ryan the attention that Tyler got....but that's just life!
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@FaithFertility: Totally agree with @winniebee: about not being able to give the younger one the attention the older one got. And even when they aren't sick, I feel like Xander tends to get more of my attention than Logan because he's more demanding of it!
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@Adira: it was that way for a loooong time. But I would say after 3.5, Tyler became pretty independent and demands my attention much less. Ryan is the demanding one, in general, now!
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@winniebee: I hope that's true for us! Xander is turning 3 this month and is still very "Mama, play with me!!!" Although already there have been a few times where he'll say, "Mama, you play with Logan and I'll play trains!" because he doesn't want Logan to mess up his train tracks. Hoping for more and more of that so I can give Logan more attention!
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@Adira: Hahaha oh man my SIL's oldest is OBSESSED with Thomas trains too, and he throws a HUGE FIT if his sister comes by and messes it up, lol!
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@snowjewelz: haha, YEP!!! Logan just comes over and knocks over any of the bridges and then takes the trains off the tracks and throws them. I can't wait until he's older and they can actually play TOGETHER.
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The curse of the second born, is all I can really add to this. The second never seems to get what the first had. Mine are further apart so I don't feel like I have much advice to offer up. Some days I wonder if close together is better. We settled into a pretty good routine with C as she grew. The adjustment to two has been really hard on all of us. And I'm old. So.old!
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@MamaG: You are awesome! And your kids are ADORABLE beyond words! But amen to the age thing. DH is 7 yrs older than me, so I think he's the one that rather have #2 sooner than later. He always laments that he doesn't want to be the old day that can't hang, haha!
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Absolutely agree with you ladies! I thought "how will I pay attention to the big sister when the little brother will need so much?!". The reality (for us) is that the older sibling still gets more attention! I think that part of it for us is birth order - she is used to getting lots of attention and she absolutely demands it. I also think that because you have already been through all the baby stuff you tend to give a lot of attention / brain power to the big kid stuff that is new for you.
@winniebee: this gives me hope! M absolutely does not play alone, no matter how much I try to encourage and facilitate it. She must do it at school, but not here
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@MrsF: OMG Yes! The older still gets all the attention in our house too. Demanding older sisters!
Y'all we have so much jealousy. How can my 4 year old melt down about a stuffed animal. Hello big kid look at your room, you have a huge old pile of stuffies. Go get one and let your sister have hers. And that little kid, she gets pretty darn mad if you take something away from her (no matter what it is). Her morning meltdown was about C's lunchbox. K took it. C was mad, took it back. It is C's afterall. I finally convinced C to just let K carry it to the car, afterall K was just trying to be helpful (wink, wink, nudge).
Did I mention I'm old
I swear when I hit 40, every ounce of patience left me.
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@MamaG: Ugh, we're dealing with jealousy too. It's annoying!! I've started to have to be really firm about some things, like favorite blankets or toys. Even if Xander doesn't notice that Logan's trying to take his blanket (his "nana"), I'll take it away from Logan and give him HIS blanket as a replacement.
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@MamaG: ugh, jealous rages on here too....it mostly has to do with T building, and R wrecking. I want to say it's gotten a *little* better in the past few weeks (maybe T is finally entering the age of reason?!) but for awhile it was constant whining and tears around hear, from one or both of them!
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@MamaG: Another pair here having trouble with our sibling relationship! I guess it probably stems from jealousy, but TBH it mostly comes off as M just really disliking J
She is so quick to yell at him for absolutely anything. "He's touching me!" "He's too noisy!" "I want that!". If she's not yelling at him she's ignoring him or giving him a stink eye. I'm so jealous of those who have older siblings who are loving towards their littles. J is finally starting to walk and M couldn't care yes. I can't even get her to say "Hi" to him. I know everyone has their ups and downs but it's hard for me to watch
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@Adira: We have a few special items (blankies, bed / crib) that the other sibling is not allowed to touch, but other than that M just thinks that absolutely everything is hers. I'm having a hard time deciding when to correct J (I mean, he doesn't exactly speak English yet) and when to tell M to just move or get over it. I can't keep him from touching her all day long and she can certainly move faster than he can.
All the yelling and tears around here...
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