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@snowjewelz: @theotherstark: Second trimester should be a great time to travel!
I'm stressed about traveling already because we have a wedding that we've been planning on going to in early October. It's in Florida (we're in Boston). I guess I won't rule it out yet but it's hard to believe I'll be very comfortable. I'm ok with being far away as long as I'm near a good hospital and DH is traveling with me. We'll have to see though. It feels like a long time away but I'm sure it will come quickly!
I'm with you girls on the TMI - but I had a really tough time with constipation in the first trimester with my last pregnancy. Like, BAD. I ended up taking colace and sometimes senna for the rest of my pregnancy to keep my tummy happy so I've already started taking those along with my prenatals a few times a week with this pregnancy. I'm not messing around this time!
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@snowjewelz: Yeah it's getting harder & harder to keep quiet, but I think the reaction will be worth it. My husband says he really has to think about what he says so he doesn't slip up. It's so funny.
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@littlek: For the most part? I think.
@AngelicOne: Aww, that will be so fun!! Yeah, it's so hard not telling! My husband was saying that we need a spreadsheet of when we'll tell everyone. Haha. It's true, since we're trying to maximize in-person visits. We'll see.
@MrsF: Ugh, I've been super constipated this last week. It sucks.
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@MrsF: Yeah I feel like Sept and on becomes iffy... Not that we can't travel, I just can't imagine feeling that great, esp when I already don't like flying! But that could be like a babymoon, fun last trip for you & your DH!
I kind of have the opposite of constipation... But either way, it's really not a fun side effect! Good for you to be proactive this time
@AngelicOne: Hahaha seriously. I'm just waiting till someone asks either one of us point blank; we would just say yes but ask them to please keep quiet. Cause people def ask me every now and then!
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@missybear: I think the discrepancy there is that you have finished your 5th week (and so you're 5 weeks pregnant) and are entering your 6th week. I keep getting confused too!
Because it's all just calculated by the first day of your LMP I'm sure lots of our EDDs will change with ultrasounds. Mine kept going back and forth last time. I was so frustrated! Of course I ended up delivering a month early so it really didn't matter.
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@theotherstark: haha love the spreadsheet idea... that is intense!
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@MrsF: Oh, and I think I would be on the fence for October. Maybe get refundable tickets and play it by ear?
@snowjewelz: HA. He's joking, but it's sort of true - since we live on the East Coast and both of our families and most of our close friends are all spread out along the West Coast, it's a little difficult
We'll just be telling our parents and my best friend right after the ultrasound. We might tell my dad a little bit after that, since he'll be visiting. I don't think we'll do any kind of announcement on FB or anything, though.
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@theotherstark: I'm starting to think keeping records is not a bad idea haha. I can def see it getting confusing as to who you've told and who you've left. I'm most worried about leaving someone out and then have them find out on FB!
We're still wondering about FB announcement too... But I rather have a nice little announcement than someone randomly writing congrats and stuff like that on my wall and then other people subsequently freak out...
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Is anyone else still taking HPT? Since my OB won't do betas I've been testing to confirm line getting darker.... I know I'm crazy, but it makes me feel better. It's nice because the test line is WAY darker than the control. My husband thinks I'm crazy.
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@littlek: Haha go for it! I still take our all the tests I had and admire them
OB made me POAS yesterday, and since I have to go back next week I won't do it anymore. Plus I don't have any left!
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@littlek: I don't have any more tests and I refuse to go buy more
The last one I did was 18 dpo, where the test line was so dark it took most of the dye from the control. At this point, I'll just wait until my first sonogram.
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@snowjewelz: I know it - sitting still for a long time gets pretty uncomfortable... but maybe because my parents would watch M it would still be easier than chasing a toddler around?
. We'll see!
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@snowjewelz: It's a little easier to hide it for me since we don't live near any family at all. My hair stylist & best friend will find out first next month when I see them both.
@littlek: I did do a Wondfo this afternoon just to see how dark it would be since my others seemed so light. Haha! I still have a CB digi, FRER & some Wondfo's left so might as well use them.
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So we were going to announce to immediate family at S's birthday party in 3 weeks, a bit early, but they are all people we will tell early anyways, but then my Dad took it upon himself to invite my aunts to the party! GRRR - we might try to get everyone to stick around until the aunts/uncles leave and announce then, or maybe just bite the bullet ... I don't know, since my dating scan is so late we probably still won't know the actual due date, so it makes me nervous!
@MamaG: @littlek: I will probably go early as well, I am planning on an ERC due to the circumstances of S's birth. I was induced at 38 weeks due to medical reasons. That plus not knowing my due date really, I should probably be in the November thread, but I will stick it out here are well.
@snowjewelz: we I'll do a FB announcement after our NT scan is done/1st tri is behind me. We did the same lady time and it was really well received.
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I finally got in with my OB!! Yay!! We set up my first three appointments. The first is 4/17, and is more of an orientation t their practice and covers a lot of topics regarding pregnancy and is a question time. It's also my birthday
Then on 5/7, I go back to meet with a nurse for a pap, breast exam, check up etc and to listen to baby's heart. THEN, 6/2 I go and meet with my OB and get an ultrasound. No way in heck I'm waiting until I'm almost 14 weeks to see my baby. There's a local ultrasound place that you can go to at any stage (they say it's best if you're at least 6 weeks along) and it's $35, and you get some printed pictures and such. So I'm definitely going htere around 8 weeks! I just love getting to see the changes between what the baby looks like, and I don't want to miss the darling little gummy bear phase! Plus, I wouldn't feel comfortable telling anyone outside of family before seeing an ultrasound, and I really need to tell a couple of my firneds, since I'm in their weddings in May and will be feeling like garbage most likely.
So I'm going to set an appointment for 2-3 weeks from now and go see the baby at this other place. Yay! I didn't realize my OB was very non-invasive... would have prefered to get a u/s as often as possible! haha
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@missybear: Yay finally! It's really interesting to see the different practices of different OBs/offices. I don't know why mine treats u/s like it's NBD... I like that yours has an orientation mtg for you! Maybe I should ask mine next time to give me an overview.
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@missybear: 14 weeks is a long time. I thought most OBs did a dating scan around 8 - 10 weeks. Glad you got in with the OB!
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@snowjewelz: @littlek: Right? I thought it was super weird too. I was totally expecting a dating scan between 8 and 10 weeks, so I was bummed. But I'm glad there's an inexpensive ultrasound place in town that I can go to (as early as 6 weeks!) so I'll go there around 8 weeks just to make sure everything is looking good and to get a couple pictures of the baby bear. I just feel like... if something were to go wrong, it would be awful to wait until 14 weeks, only to find out that the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks or something. Typical worrier here.
We are telling hubby's parents tonight. I know he is really nervous about what they will say since we weren't trying... but honestly, it's not like we can do anything about the situation now and who WOULDN'T be excited to find out they're having a grandbaby?? His dad is just very... practical, so I worry he will say something rude. Oh well, I'm sure things will start feeling better after we tell them, and then after we tell my sis in law and her husband, who have been trying for almost 2 years now. Other than that, it will all be exciting from here on out!
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@missybear: Just some advice when you tell your SIL, try and be really sensitive. I wouldn't mention "unplanned" and just simply say that you are pregnant. You may also want to send them a text or email since it may be hard on them and this gives them time to process their reaction. They will be happy for you but it's important to be sensitive to their position as well.
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So my sister only had one scan when she was pregnant as she follows the Nourishing Traditions book and principles that states there is evidence to suggest that ultrasounds can be damaging to the baby. I think I might follow her lead and just have one scan, I just haven't decided when I would like to get it. I REALLY am not saying this to scaremongeror push my views at ALL but thought I would share as I found it food for thought. She sent me this link
http://chriskresser.com/natural-childbirth-iib-ultrasound-not-as-safe-as-commonly-thought
Of course, almost every mother had at least one scan and their babies turn out fine so I'm definitely not ruling it out completely. I really want to see my baby as soon as possible!
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@missybear: Glad you finally got your appt lined up!
@littlek: BTW, I was wrong! I found another Clearblue Digi with Weeks Estimator in my medicine cabinet
Took it this morning, and it was 3+ weeks! Wooohoo. Should be right as of yesterday or today, so I think (hope!!) that things are progressing okay. Are you still peeing on all the sticks? 
I think it's a nice little bit of reassurance until the first ultrasound. @Mrs.Lilac: Interesting. I think we'll probably do more than one, but definitely not a ton. I do want to have one around 8 weeks, though, so I can see the heartbeat and feel more comfortable telling our families. Will have to look into this, though! Thanks for the link.
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@Mrs.Lilac: I don't know if I should be concerned then... My OB did an u/s this week even though it's not first appointment ever, and I'm going back next week for another one.
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Ok so really random. When I did my due date calculation, I used first day of period and got December 11th. I just did it with my ovulation date and got December 9th!!! Same website, different dates. I feel like I want to change my due date to the 9th though now as ovulation date must be more reliable. I'm confused as to why it is earlier as I ovulated exactly 14 days into my cycle.
http://www.babycenter.com/pregnancy-due-date-calculator
I used the above website. Hmmm strange!
@theotherstark: exactly, the link is interesting but I'm not going to think about it too much.
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@theotherstark: yep! I took an estimator too and it said 2 - 3 weeks since ovulation. Which makes sense since I won't be 5 weeks till next week. I plan on testing again next Friday and hopefully seeing 3+. Then that next Wednesday is my U/S.
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@snowjewelz: it totally don't want you to be concerned all. Like i said, people get tons of u/s and they are fine but after reading the article it did make me wonder and think about not having lots. There are some machines that are much better than other apparently and they should keep the 'wand' thingy moving as much as possible to avoid overheating developing babies. Read that article and see what you think. You could ask you doctor about it although as there hasn't been much new research done, it would be hard for them to be completely informed.
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@Mrs.Lilac: Yeah, as much as I got excited at the prospect of going every week if I want to, maybe I'll talk to my doc more in depth and just get what I need.
And during the u/s the tech was totally moving around the wand ALL THE TIME! I was actually wondering if she can just keep it still cause it's uncomfortable haha. So at least she knows what she's doing!
I think there are soo many things in this journey that have risks involved... And I guess we just have to do the best we can to make decisions that we're comfortable with! Right now, I'm even too scared to drink decaf haha. I've only had water since I got my BFP! DH just ordered a juicer so I can have something else to drink lol.
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@snowjewelz: I'm sure you will love your juicer. I have a green smoothie every morning for breakfast. I was having a conception one with lots of nuts and seeds in. I am now having 'pregnancy' smoothies which are basically the same, lots of green leafy veg, berries, nuts and seeds. They have kept me regular (sorry for tmi!) and they are providing lots of nutrients. I found a few recipes
http://simplegreensmoothies.com/tips/pregnant
But in general just make sure you try to have 1/3 greens, 1/3 nuts and seeds (flax, sunflower etc) yogurt and water and the last third frozen berries, apple and banana. They are soooo filling.
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@Mrs.Lilac: Sounds good. I will have to try! I need to find some way to get yogurt into my diet.
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@Mrs.Lilac: Yum! thanks for the link and the tips!
@littlek: Me too. I don't like yogurt!
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@littlek: Oh yes, it is definitely our plan to limit as much pain as possible for them. They were the first thing that flashed through my mind the moment I got my BFP, and my heart is breaking for them. They do know that we weren't trying, so we aren't planning on talking about the "unplanned" aspect of it, because they know that and we don't want to shove it in their face. But she and I are close, and I introduced her to charting and the Fertility Friend app. We would joke about it because we were using charting and temping for complete opposite purposes. So there would be no point in mentioning that it was unplanned. And my husband and I have already talked about how we will NEVER complain about anything regarding this baby around them. He is not allowed to mention being stressed about finances around his brother in law, and I will not mention if I am feeling sick around my sister in law. We are praying so hard that this cycle is the one for them. Right now they are doing acupuncture with a guy who has had a ton of success, and they are on their 3rd month trying it. They have decided they will give it 6 months before they move on to another option, since they are not candidates for IUI. So if you could send positive thoughts their way... we would appreciate it
We are going to talk to my husbands parents tonight, and will ask them what they think the best way to tell them will be. I personally think it would be better to do not in person, so they don't have to pretend to be excited for us when it hurts, but hubby thinks we should do it in person. I'm not sure what is best. It sucks all around.
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@missybear: sounds like a good plan. :). I actually got pregnant on my 8th cycle (last cycle before IUI) and I did accupuncture. It really helped relax me. Hopefully this will be there cycle!
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@missybear: You are very sweet and thoughtful to keep them in mind! I really hope that they will get their very own BFP soon to join you!
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I read too many m/c stories today
I started wondering why my bloating/cramping symptoms went away. I'm still a little bloated and crampy but not as bad as earlier this week. I also have no m/s or food aversions (that I can tell anyway). I know I'm just freaking myself out...
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@snowjewelz: Try not to stress. I know it's hard not to. Got to stay positive!
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@snowjewelz: hang in there. On the day I saw my baby's heartbeat (about 7.5 weeks), I hadn't thrown up, had some food aversions but not many, and wasn't fatigued. Every pregnancy is different, and some days feel more symptom-y than others. I find myself every day freaking out a bit that something is going wrong, but it isn't healthy, and it's out of our hands. Trust your body that if this is your healthy future baby-to-be, s/he will keep growing in there:-).
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@ChiCalGoBee: I almost want to say I wish I was so sick and that's how I know the baby's def in there haha
Thanks for the encouragement! Today is just one of those days; the first time I really let it get to me! @littlek: Thanks
Such a roller coaster ride of emotions! Now I went from wanting to tell more people to being super tight lipped till later
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@snowjewelz: that's why we are waiting to tell people until we see the heartbeat. We've only told my parents since they know we were about to start fertility treatments. Besides that I haven't told anyone else. We didn't tell anyone about LO till after 1st trimester last pregnancy.
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@littlek: Yeah... I've only told my parents & sister so far. I think I kind of have to tell his parents before 12 weeks though; I feel kinda bad they won't know for so long.
Now I also really, really hope that no one asks me so I don't have to say anything!
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@snowjewelz: You can always tell them once you have U/S and see the heartbeat, that will be before 12 weeks.
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@snowjewelz: stay away from that space of the internet! Don't let yourself worry even if the symptoms are fading/nonexistent. Some women just have completely symptom free pregnancies. Hugs lady!
We'll just be telling our parents and my best friend right after the ultrasound. We might tell my dad a little bit after that, since he'll be visiting. I don't think we'll do any kind of announcement on FB or anything, though.
. We'll see!
I think it's a nice little bit of reassurance until the first ultrasound. 
We are going to talk to my husbands parents tonight, and will ask them what they think the best way to tell them will be. I personally think it would be better to do not in person, so they don't have to pretend to be excited for us when it hurts, but hubby thinks we should do it in person. I'm not sure what is best. It sucks all around.
I started wondering why my bloating/cramping symptoms went away. I'm still a little bloated and crampy but not as bad as earlier this week. I also have no m/s or food aversions (that I can tell anyway). I know I'm just freaking myself out...
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