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We Lost the baby.

My dr is on vacation, and his backup doesn't do D&Cs. I have to wait to call and hope that they can find another backup that will squeeze me in immediately.

We're completely devastated and I'm not sure how well go on.

H&H 9 months to you all.

@Crystal: I'm speechless, Crystal. I'm so, so sorry. I wish I could hug you right now.

@Crystal: What awful, awful news. I am so incredibly sorry. I can't imagine what you are feeling. My heart is with you and your family.

@Crystal: again, I am just so sorry and sad to hear this - you will be in my prayers

@Crystal

I'm so sorry. Praying for you and your family

@saboma: @ms.line: @ladybee: @TemperanceBrennan: @californiadreams: @fancyfunction: @kiddosc: @misolee: @NeonPink1234: thank you all for the kind words and support.

We ended up having the D&C last night. The ER nurse and on call OB took pity on me, thankfully. I was a bawling mess the whole time so I think they could see how fragile my emotional state was, even if it wasn't an immediate medical necessity.

I'm home now and resting. Cramping a lot, but not as much as I expected.

We were so close to being out of the danger zone, and had already seen a heartbeat... It just seems unfathomable...

I wish all of you the best of luck and a healthy and easy next 6/7 months. I'll be hiding this board for awhile, I hope you understand.

@ladybee: I'm really glad to hear it was easy, I hope I have the same experience. I appreciate your compassion. ️

@TemperanceBrennan: well today is kind of a rough day. I'm feeling super emotional and having sad thoughts that I'm too embarrassed to share here. I'm sure everything's fine, but I should probably call my midwife to just feel better.

I'm also still very sad for Crystal, and have been thinking a lot about her. I feel weird talking about her in the 3rd person, though I hope for her that she's not still checking in here. But I was sad over the weekend not to have this community, but also wanted to allow enough time to pass before posting. So thanks, @TemperanceBrennan for getting the conversation started again.

One fun/happy thing is that I totally popped over last weekend! Is anyone else really starting to show? I can't believe it!

@TemperanceBrennan: thanks for getting this thread going again. i was really sad about Crystal too and almost posted a few times in the past couple of days, but felt weird doing so. But then i was also sad that this thread seemed to have stopped being active, so i am glad you got it going again :). How are you doing?

@ladybee: yay for a great HB, that is always a good thing

@saboma: what an adorable bump! i am really starting to pop too, but it still depends a bit on what i wear as to whether you can really tell.

I am doing good, nothing exciting to report...except that i am planning to tell my manager this afternoon that i am pregnant and i am still nervous about it. I am sure it will go fine though, i just want to get it over with.

I am thinking of signing up for prenatal yoga classes. Is anyone doing anything like that? I did it with my last pregnancy and really enjoyed it, especially near the end.

I'm happy people are jumping back in. I feel like as people in this thread have had losses, it seems callous to then talk about how the rest of us are doing, but like @saboma: said, hopefully they are taking their time away from this board (so happy hiding boards is an option). It was quite (understandable so as we all process what happened to Crystal), but I was truly interested to see how everyone else was doing as well.

I'm doing pretty well. Still waiting on NT results, should get the soon, but since the ultrasound went well I'm trying to not stress out about it. I was pretty busy with work last week but a big project FINALLY wrapped up, so I'm enjoying the lighter load and less stress. We have a lot of vacations lined up back-to-back at the end of this month which should be fun, but it will be a lot of traveling. I'm trying to relax while I can. DH is out of town and we just got rid of cable, so I'm trying to get things done around the house.

@saboma: I understand having those kind of thoughts. I think it is natural. Hopefully your midwife can reassure you and those thoughts will pass. You and your bump are adorable! I'm jealous!

@ladybee: So happy your appointment went well! Hopefully the school year starts smoothly for you!

@californiadreams: I did hot yoga regularly up until I got my BFP. I just started going to prenatal and mild (not hot) slow flow and I'm really enjoying it. A lot depends on the teacher - I feel stronger, more flexible, and more centered/relaxed but I'm not sure how much it will help with actual labor. Good luck talking to your manager!

@ms.line: I'm sure that is a tough spot to be in - happy you are pregnant, but grieving for Crystal and Libbylou. I can't imagine the anxiety you must be feeling. I hope the time flies by.

I'm not showing at all. Can't wait to have a bump now that most people (expect work) know.

@ms.line: I think for this reason exactly, my practice doesn't release the results of the screening to our online patient portal.
It's impossible to forget and worry once you know but once you follow up at your next appointment hopefully she can explain why she isn't concerned and you can try to forget the numbers.

@ms.line: is there any OB at your practice? Hopefully your midwife hears you out. Worse case, bring it up at your 20 week scan and see what the MFM doctor says.

@TemperanceBrennan: I'm notoriously bad at keeping up with multiple threads, but I do think it's a good idea to separate them, so I say go for it! I'll just try harder...

i told my manager today! it went really well and now i don't feel like i have to hide it from the rest of my coworkers anymore! so that is a huge relief. I got teary eyed while i was telling her, those damn hormones. I think i was more nervous to tell her than i realized and it was such a relief when she had a such a positive reaction.

@californiadreams: that's great!! Time to be excited only!!

Just started a bump and nursery thread. I expect them to be a little slow for a while, but it will be nice to have them.

@saboma: love ur bump!

@TemperanceBrennan: thanks for starting the new threads! Just posted an old bump pic

Good to hear how all you ladies are doing! Yay for being done with or almost bing done with first trimester!

So if you're in your second now-is your naseau subsiding? Mine kind of is but still not all gone...

Hi ladies! Glad to hear things are going well. Just got back from our NT scan and 12 wk appt and everything looked great. We got to see baby boy moving around and waving at us, so that was fun. I think my nausea is finally starting to subside so I'm really happy about that! Still no real bump to speak of but the tech said I shouldn't be complaining

Has anyone started wearing maternity clothes yet? I haven't because I have some dresses that still work, but i feel like my wardrobe has shrank so I just picked up some maternity clothes from a friend that I am going to go through this weekend.

I have a bunch of Fall clothes from last pregnancy that I guess i will really by next month!