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@Alba4: my two year old has been soooooo clingy! Now with this SPD I cannot pick her up at all so it's even worse. I feel so awful and cry about it multiple times a day. But, it's good she's getting used to hearing no from mommy without throwing a tantrum because she is going to have to rely on daddy a lot more for a bit once baby gets here. It breaks my heart though.

@brownepiano: oh man I carry my two year old a lot. Today we went on a walk and he wanted up so I carried him for a while totally going to try to get him used to walking more. It's starting to hurt my back!

@MrsPink: wow! Our first June baby arriving soon! Sending you loads of good wishes for an easy delivery and a strong, healthy baby!

@MrsKRB: We had my mom come to stay after both of our girls were born and it was great! We requested a two week interlude between the baby's arrival (going by due date, and fortunately, both of them were very prompt!) and my mom's arrival, as we wanted those first two weeks to adjust to our new family. DH had two weeks of paternity leave and his return to work pretty much coincided with her arrival.

It was so nice to have her there as she has no qualms about just diving in and doing what needs to be done. Whilst she of course wanted to snuggle the girls as much as possible, she knew her help would be much better put to use in the form of practical assistance - cooking, laundry, grocery shopping, cleaning etc. She also woke up most nights during one of the MOTN sessions and offered to settle DD back down to sleep after I'd fed her. We didn't take her up on that very often but the gesture was appreciated. With both girls, she stayed for eight weeks - we were living in Australia though (she was coming from the US) and we had no family on the same continent so we had zero support other than her. When DD2 arrived, DH was also working nearly 80 hr weeks (not by choice), and we were in the midst of preparing for our move to England two months later, so I REALLY needed the help!

With this baby, she's not coming over until late August due to a confluence of circumstances that make it less than ideal to come before that. DH is hoping to have a month off, but there will still be a one month gap there where I'm on my own. Not going to lie, I'm a bit nervous about it, but at least we do have family in the area now who can help out too... Still, I'm used to have my mom's hands on support in those initial couple of months so it's going to be weird doing it all on my own!

Anyway, super long response, but the bottom line is that only you know what your relationship with your mom is like. My mom and I are very close, and I know she's the type to jump in and help as much as possible, whilst also being very conscious of giving DH and I as much space as possible. So having her here for eight weeks was truly amazing.....if we had a different relationship, or if she was one of those people who expected to be treated as a guest, even though she was technically a guest, it might have been a different story!

Thanks for the input! I have an ok relationship with my mom, but I've always been very independent so a big part of me wants to do it myself. I might just have her come up the week after, hopefully she doesn't get upset.

@Mrs. Pink: More time to cook! Good luck at your scan!

@Mrs. Pink: that's good news! Every day counts !

@Mrs. Champagne: just the NST- Friday will be both!

I'm not 100% sure why they're doing NSTs... But I believe they're wanting to extra monitor her heart variations to make sure they increase when she's moving

@meadow: I was actually just thinking about this! Nothing really sounds good anymore, quite frankly it's about time because I was a garbage disposal for awhile

Ultrasounds basically looked the same/similar but her NSTs improved so my OB has be down for another US Monday and then an appointment on Tuesday.

I don't even know anymore- I've been stressing out which doesn't help my blood pressure- so I'm basically just going to assume everything is fine unless they say otherwise- it's pretty much the one where I'd start going in weekly anyways, so I'm trying to just think of this as that kind of monitoring so I can stop panicking

@MrsKRB: @MMcAlli: Yay for not being alone!

@RKitty: Hope you are feeling better!!

@Mrs. Pink: Yay for continued baking. Continuing to send you positive thoughts!!!

Happy mothers day ladies

@MrsKRB: Yes, happy mother's day all!!

@Mrs. Pink: hope your appt goes well!! hope you were able to manage the stress this weekend! thinking about you and baby!

@runnerd: Pretty sure it's completely normal! I'm not really sure what a BH is supposed to feel like either. I frequently get a tightening in the middle of my abdomen and it doesn't really hurt, but I'm not sure if she's just curling into a ball in a weird spot or if it's BH.

I'm freaking out! Baby's eviction date is May 23rd (38+5) at the very latest. But, I think it's fate. Backstory: I got a call this morning from my OB asking if I could change my appointment today because I was accidentally scheduled with a high risk doc and I'm not high risk. I couldn't make the other 2 appt times they had, so I said no and they told me to keep my appointment. I nearly walked out of my appointment without being seen because I sat in the room for 45 minutes waiting. Well, the doc finally came in and she was really concerned about the SPD and said it's her specialty. Finally someone was taking me seriously and not just telling me to suck it up until I deliver! Anyways, she doesn't want the baby's head to get too big and make the separation any worse and wants to induce me early if I don't go before then. I pushed it out to the very latest she would let me, with the caveat we would reevaluate next week (she made me change my appointment to see her next week). I'm so scared about having to potentially be induced early if baby isn't done baking, but trying to just trust that she is the expert and knows what is best. It feels so weird to have a potential birth date picked out! She was like what day would you like? You can call and change it if you want lol. Oh, and she said I could stop working if I wanted to, but since I want to and can keep working and want the most time after baby arrives, she wrote me a note to work from home. At least I can do that guilt free.

@catomd00: Wow! It's great you got to talk to someone with experience. It is definitely weird to have a set day. Last time I was scheduled for an induction (after my due date passed) and it felt like it took all the suspense away.

@brownepiano: I know I feel like there's no surprise now! Im hoping she still comes on her own. DD was born at 38+1 so there is hope! I guess I need to start researching induction methods. She said depending on how things look, I could opt for cervadil the night before instead of just going straight to pitocin.

If anyone still needs to get a breast pump through insurance, I used this company: Edgepark.com - it is so easy and it was shipped to me in a of couple days'

@catomd00: wow that sounds really severe! is there anything they can do to help you manage the pain?

@Mrs. Pink: how was your ultrasound yesterday and appt today? keep us updated!

@catomd00: Oh man that is rough! I hope it goes away with delivery! And I'm glad to hear they found you a specialist. Scary, but also I hope it helps you feel like you're in good hands.
@MrsKRB: Nice! Has everyone gotten their pumps already?
@starlitsky: LOL. I got mine done yesterday. It was like a q-tip though, not a pelvic exam. I declined the cervical check.
@Mrs. Champagne: How was the u/s?
@brownepiano: That is an interesting perspective! The uncertainty is a little unnerving. Just hoping my baby girl stays in past Tuesday. Other than that, she can come whenever she likes. Which probably means 4 weeks... haha.
@meadow: I'm having a hard time eating! Where is my stomach? Still gaining but everyone is making fun of me for "not eating."
@RKitty: How are you doing?

My exam is Monday. Just took a practice one and feeling pretty burned out so I figured it was time to try to catch up!
Feeling so preoccupied by the exam, I couldn't tell you much about baby at all! 10:30 pm is her witching hour and she moves like crazy. Mild stretch marks, can still see the sides of my abs--what!? Gained 28 lbs. Trying to stay calm through this exam, and my "after the exam" to do list (mostly but not all for baby) is incredible. So close....

I've missed you all! Hope you had a lovely mother's day!

-36w6d