Hellobee Boards

Login/Register

May 2014 moms!

  1. Mamasig

    pomegranate / 3565 posts

    @Beebug: glad I'm not the only one who doesn't do tummy time yet. I forget. He just practices when I hold him on my chest.

  2. Mae

    papaya / 10343 posts

    @Glitter: @Mamasig: wow I am blown away by how much your LOs sleep! Today fia took 5 naps between 630 wakeup and when we will put her to bed at 10. Two 30 min naps this morning, then 1.5 hrs after lunch then a 45 min and 20 min nap this afternoon/evening. And today felt like a great nap day!

  3. twodoghouse

    honeydew / 7230 posts

    @Mae: We've gone out a few times - restaurants, tree nursery, a few shopping trips. I took Alice to a girls night once and tomorrow we're taking both to a friend's house. One thing we were nervous about with twins is that we would lose our whole social life. So we've really made an effort to get out and try things with them so we aren't just trapped at home. Plus I get major cabin fever if we stay in the house all week long!

    As far as naps, I'm pretty sure A and B are not napping enough. They are really good sleepers at night although we are up every 2-2.5 hrs to eat. These days they always go straight back to sleep after eatig which is awesome. However, they only nap sporadically during the day now that they like to look around and be entertained. We are sort of doing EASY since they like to have some awake time after eating. Our activities are just going under the play mat, looking at the mobile, reading books, jingling toys in their faces, singing songs and watching the ceiling fan. Super entertaining of course! Since I think they are getting overtired in the evenings I've been trying to institute group nap in the nursery where we close the black out shades, swaddle, put in white noise and put them down. It worked really well on Monday - A slept 3 hrs! But Tuesday it ended up being my mom and I each rocking a fussy baby and no one napped. Today A fell asleep for a good nap but Blake wouldn't settle down. He just likes to look around and gets too distracted to nap. The best we can get are catnaps in between feedings on my shoulder. But even that he doesn't get deeply asleep - he keeps fidgeting or opening his eyes. He's been cluster feeding a lot too so I think he's having a growth spurt and I know he needs his sleep! He's asleep in the nursery now though, so that's nice. We're trying an earlier bedtime to see if we can get them better rested. So we do bath, swaddle, story, tandem feed and down in rock n plays. Then the next feeding we bring them back into our room when we are going to sleep. It's working alright. Of course A wouldn't go down in tr nursery though so she's sleeping in DH's arms. She is getting pretty used to being cuddled and held to sleep. I don't know if we're creating bad habits but she's such a cozy cuddler that it's hard to resist!

  4. Mamasig

    pomegranate / 3565 posts

    @Mae: My older son never slept as a newborn. He was an awake baby from the start and at this age only napped for 20-30 minutes sporadically throughout the day. I thought for sure I was doing something wrong. Nope, the boy just doesn't need a lot of sleep. To this day, I have to take him for a drive to get him to fall asleep for a nap. Leo naps great during the day but he is more alert and fussy at night.

    I remember not knowing what to do with my older son when he was this age. I felt like I had to entertain him. Poor Leo is just along for the ride with his brother. Just today we started trying to put him down in his crib for naps. His nursery just seems so far away from us. But I'd like for him to actually sleep in his crib unlike his brother.

  5. Mamasig

    pomegranate / 3565 posts

    @twodoghouse: My pediatrician told me you can't spoil a baby by holding him at this age, so just enjoy it. I just love how Leo curls up into a little ball on my chest. I try to treasure the moment because I know one day soon he'll try to wriggle off. I say that yet I also worry about creating bad habits!

  6. Mae

    papaya / 10343 posts

    @Mamasig: lol fia has only even been in her nursery once, when my husband took her on a tour of the house ( he's funny haha). It just IS so far away! We live in a 5 level split and her nursery is on the top floor at the end of the hall. Our bedroom is on level 4, so a (half) flight of stairs and long hallway away. And our living room is on level 2, so 3(half) flights and a long hallway away.

    Dh and I were just discussing when to move her to her room at night. She sleeps well and usually has just 1 wakeup so I feel like we COULD move her now. But she is so little it feels weird to move her. I need at least another month.

  7. Beebug

    pomegranate / 3917 posts

    @Mae: I'm thinking another month too. Let night wakings find a somewhat consistent pattern so I can adjust and hopefully get to him before he gets too unsettled!

    Has anyone started working out or any exercise yet? My 6w appt is a week away and I'm soooo anxious to get going on what i can despite the knee, I'm interested to see where my weight is at too.

    Had an awful night, C woke an extra time, and then early, DD coughed for 40 mins (sick too) between C's feeds so I was up with her a couple times, and listening to her if I wasn't with her....aka not sleeping! Definitely napping today. Gorgeous day, look forward to getting out for a walk.

  8. Mamasig

    pomegranate / 3565 posts

    @Mae: I moved my older son to his crib when he was about 7 weeks. At that point he had dropped a night feeding so he was only waking up one or two times. But the nursery is practically next to our room. Only the master bath separates the two rooms. If it was farther away I probably would have waited. DS' room is upstairs and that is too far away from us for now and he's 21 months!

    @Beebug: no working out yet. I tried to do some ab exercises the other day and that was hard. But I had a c section so i know my recovery is slower. I'm still very tender near my incision. I'm hoping the doc says it's ok to start waking or something light.

  9. Mae

    papaya / 10343 posts

    @Beebug: fia is already consistent but I just feel like I want to keep her close a while longer. Paranoid mom feelings haha.

    Sorry you had a rough night. We did too fia was great, just up at 4 to eat as usual. But we had horrible thunderstorms and our dog kept is up for a few hrs. Lol

    Also I've not tried exercise. We have a lot of stairs in our house and until a week ago every time is even use the stairs a lot I'd start bleeding heavily. So I still need to take it easy I think.

  10. Mae

    papaya / 10343 posts

    So I'm finally feeling on top of things enough to ease a toe into cloth diapers. I don't think we'll be doing it full time right away because we only have 15. But I just put the first one on her... so cute! But also so huge! lol





  11. Beebug

    pomegranate / 3917 posts

    @Mae: they are big, I had them on C two weeks ago and it just looked silly, his chicken legs made them pretty pointless, will try again soon, love the colour of that one on her!

  12. Mae

    papaya / 10343 posts

    @Beebug: homegirl has thunder thighs... so no worries about leakage around the legs i don't think haha

  13. Glitter

    persimmon / 1281 posts

    @Mae: sooo cute!! Love the girly pink. What kind of BG is she wearing? I use freetime and they close both horizontally and vertically for a more snug fit.

    No exercise... Yet. I'm cleared to exercise now but I've been lazy. I'm down to 145 lbs last time I checked which is below my weight of 152 at my first prenatal appt so I'm happy about that! On the other hand I have serious belly flab and that's gonna take work to get rid of. I hate exercise. Wait, did I mention that I hate exercise?

  14. Mae

    papaya / 10343 posts

    @Glitter: This is a BG free time! It is snapped down to the shortest rise. Mostly it just seems bulky between her legs. I have 6 of those, and then 9 pocket diapers of various different companies. these seemed the slimmest though, so I started with these!

    Re weight: I have been getting weighed every week because of my wound check thing I have to do. I'm down 9 lbs under pre-preg weight. But I didn't gain much during pregnancy. I never had a flat stomach but I think I'm still a little bit poochier than before? Hard to tell. But my pre-preg jeans fit. So... win? sorta? hah

  15. twodoghouse

    honeydew / 7230 posts

    @Beebug: Exercise? Oh my gosh, no. Unless bouncing on a yoga ball, changing diapers and climbing in and out of bed 10 times per night count!

    @Mae: Cute cloth! We still only do cloth sporadically but we've got newborn size so they aren't as bulky. I put Blake in a newborn Grovia the other day and he is still so skinny that he peed through the leg hole in 5 seconds. Oops. Luckily Alice is a chunky monkey and fits the NB bum genius pretty well!

    I'm down about 15 under my pre preg weight and my clothes still don't fit! I've got this weird little fold of skin over my c section scar that makes pants tight even though the legs of my pants are super baggy now. I've decided to wear ill fitting yoga pants for the rest of my life, haha.

  16. Glitter

    persimmon / 1281 posts

    @Mae: ahhh my phone is silly. Now viewing on the tablet I can see its snapped down.

    Re:pre-preg jeans, big win! Mine fit, but tight. I feel like my belly and hip and thigh area are all new and shifted sorta.

    Oh! We also DTD! Well it was more of an attempt really. Gio decided to fuss as soon as we were really getting comfortable and I got distracted but yay for a start at getting that part of our lives back!

  17. twodoghouse

    honeydew / 7230 posts

    @Glitter: Good work on DTD! We tried but Alice started screaming which wasn't awesome so we stopped. Maybe we'll try again this weekend. I was prescribed the mini pill but haven't picked my prescription up yet so we're using condoms. You know you TTC way too long when the last condoms you got were three years ago. Hope they aren't expired!

  18. Mae

    papaya / 10343 posts

    @Glitter: good job! i know dh is counting the days until i'm cleared at my 6 week appt! haha at least i assume i'll be cleared, since with the c-section i didn't have any injuries down south. I'm unsure of logistics though. I've never left fia in a room without me... i always carry her around when i'm moving around the house. so it would feel weird to stick her in another room (and then set up the monitor?? lol). but also too weird to leave her in the room. there is going to be a real learning curve here..

  19. Glitter

    persimmon / 1281 posts

    @Mae: well G's cosleeper is in our room so we moved to the sofa bed in the nursery which is about five feet from our room. Something tells me that will be our new spot!

  20. skipra

    pomegranate / 3350 posts

    Hi ladies. Sorry its difficult to respond to you all because we're still without a laptop.

    I take both kids out a lot by myself but mostly just short trips. G hates the car seat and start screaming if he's in it too long either in shopping cart or stroller so I put him in the ergo as much as possible. For some reason taking both kids out is easier than it was to just take W when he was a baby. Alone we go shopping, to the playground, walks, doctors appointments. We've visited friends and family with DH and been out to eat. Nothing real big yet but a couple longish car rides. It seems G hates the car just like W used to so I'll probably limit a lot of the driving until he's a bit older.
    G has absolutely no day time schedule. Some days he is awake a lot and some days he sleeps all day. One thing that is different from W is that he allows me to actually put him down for naps. I still love the snuggled so I hold him while W naps and in the evening.
    I have not exercised aside from walks but got the go ahead at my appointment today so I'm planning to join the gym down the street. I still have 15 pounds to lose. Ugh. Also got the go ahead to std again. Decided to rely on nursing as Bc for now and will reassess at my annual exam in Sept.
    G is also still in our room. We are hoping W will transition to his twin bed soon so we can use his crib but so far there is no interest in it. I think we'll keep G in our room in the cradle until he starts to get up on his hands and knees and hope the crib is available then.

    G has become very smilely the last few days. I loooove it. Melts my heart every time.

  21. Mae

    papaya / 10343 posts

    @skipra: yay for smiley babies!! I really think Fia has smiled at me a few times, but DH still thinks they are gas smiles. Regardless I'm sure she'll be smiling for sure within the next week or two.

    @Glitter: hah good plan. The only other bed in our house is in the guest bedroom which is a whole floor away from our bedroom!

    New mom insanity: Fia has been super awesome today. She's been happy when she's been awake and she's slept a LOT (for her). She took a 30 min nap this morning, then 1 hr 45 min over lunch (I actually woke her up to feed her bc it had been 3 hours), and then passed out again as soon as she was done eating. So--- super happy/quiet day. But of course rather than enjoy it, all I can think is "why is she sleeping so much? is she sick? is she okay? am I going to pay for this sleep tonight? is she getting days/nights switched?" lol. i need to chill.

  22. anandam

    kiwi / 687 posts

    @twodoghouse: @Mamasig: @Mae: @Skipra: We've got a tiny apartment so no separate nursery, but even with the crib right next to the bed I've only just started trying to put him down in it. At night, he scooches himself over to be closer to our bed and has banged his head on the rails, though, so I've also been pulling him back into bed with me more often than I expected. Also love the snuggles, of course!

    @Mae: @Beebug: @Glitter: We've been doing CD about half the time, too, using flats with Thirsties covers - they're Size 1 and supposed to go up to 18lbs but our big guy has them already all unsnapped on the largest setting! I ordered some Flip covers this week to see how they work out... He's also basically out of his 3mo clothes, good gracious.

    @(everyone above) + @skipra: We're just at 4wks post C/S, so no exercise or DTD here, either. I'm still tender/sore, like @Mamasig: said, and have noticed heavier bleeding when I overdo it like @Mae: so haven't felt like trying early. I'm eager to get clearance, though! I had lost 26lbs (down to 5lbs over my pre-preg weight) at my 2wk incision check, so not too worried about that, but definitely have a new abdomen! Lots of that loose wrinkly skin, and still my very dark linea nigra! Curious when that fades? DH and I have been making out a lot with DS in his crib nearby, he sleeps through easily, so DTD shouldn't be much different. Our cat has watched us for years, so I don't feel too weird about it! lol

    @Mae: Congrats on your great day! I'm sure nothing's wrong, but totally emphasize with the mama worries.

    Annnd, that's all for now, my guy's starting to fuss next door!

  23. skipra

    pomegranate / 3350 posts

    @anandam: love those baby snuggles in bed. We took W into our bed all the time because he wouldn't sleep more than a half hour on his own. Baby sleep is a tricky thing!

    @Mae: yay for a good day! I totally worry about it too when G is sleepy all day.

  24. Mae

    papaya / 10343 posts

    @anandam: so you're cosleeping already? I give props to those who do it bc I think i'd like snuggling with my LO but I am SO paranoid. I never her have her in our bed at all (I get up and go to the glider to nurse). I'm just convinced we'd smother her if we ever took her into bed.

  25. Mamasig

    pomegranate / 3565 posts

    @anandam: I love the snuggles too! I'm trying to keep his in his rnp as much as possible but I'll sometimes bring him into the bed in the early morning when he is restless. He's in my arms or on my chest.

    @Mae: I always worried about everything! I still do!

    I doubt really have a big interest in DTD right now. I'd rather get some sleep! Last time we just did it with the baby in the room.

  26. anandam

    kiwi / 687 posts

    Little dude went right back to sleep after a diaper change

    @skipra: @Mae: Yes, it's exactly that - I never thought we'd be bed-sharers based on all the scary possibilities but he wouldn't sleep more than 20min anywhere else! After our first night in the hospital trying to get him to go down in the bassinet, one of the midwives sort of hinted that we can let him sleep wherever we all sleep best, which turned out to be my chest for the first week... DH just sort of tied him to me so he couldn't roll off, and I don't move much in my sleep, so after a few 2hr stretches of sleep like that, we couldn't go back. Now he's okay next to me, sort of against my side with his head in my armpit, with no sheets/pillows/anything near him and the crib rails pushed right up against the mattress edge. I know it doesn't match the AAP guidelines, but it's working for us! That seems to be the best advice for all things, I'm realizing - just do what works.

  27. twodoghouse

    honeydew / 7230 posts

    @Mae: Yay for a good sleep day! I know what you mean about paranoia but I would just embrace it! We are having a good nap day over here (I just woke up from 1.5 hr nap with A sleeping on me. Blake slept for 2 hrs on my mom!) and it makes me nervous for night sleep but I needed the nap so badly that I can't worry too much about it.

    We are also so paranoid about the babies in our bed. We bring them into bed with us on weekend mornings to read books and snuggle but we turn on all the lights so we don't fall back to sleep! In the early days we'd wake each other up in a panic like "is there a baby in the bed? Are you nursing them in bed?" We were both having hallucinations where we were holding a baby but it was really a pillow, stuff like that. Obviously we are crazy, haha. I have broken all my co sleeping rules with naps on the couch and nursery recliners. The babies are so cozy and I love sleeping with them, but super nervous about our bed for some reason!

  28. anandam

    kiwi / 687 posts

    @Mamasig: Yes, we're trying to use the crib now and he's accepting it for some naps and a few of his night stretches... so that's a start. But the early morning when I'm sleepy and he's restless, just like you said, is when I've just been letting him stay.

  29. anandam

    kiwi / 687 posts

    @twodoghouse: The hallucinations! One of our first nights home DH woke up and grabbed the cat in her midair leap to the cat door because he thought it was the baby flying off the bed. Needless to say both of them were sort of baffled.

  30. Mamasig

    pomegranate / 3565 posts

    @anandam: @twodoghouse: Before we had kids, DH and I agreed that there would be no babies in the bed. Ha! Joke was on me. DS slept well alone until about 7-8 months. Well we just did what we had to for everyone to get sleep. Now we are used to it and miss DS when he isn't with us. But we do want him to use his own bed and hope baby brother doesn't follow in his footsteps. I plan for them to share a room and sleep together!

  31. Beebug

    pomegranate / 3917 posts

    Re: bed sharing, "bad" habits, etc. what I gathered from DD was/is that anything goes in the first three months. The habits can be easily broken and do what you need to in any regard (sleep especially!) to get through! Hard to remember it at times, but I try to remind myself of that! Routine will come, regressions will too, and certain things turn everything upside down! I remember when 4m old sleep felt worse than newborn days! CIO at 6m fixed any bad habit going, one awful night for many, many more glorious ones!

    On DTD, I have been ready for a week or so, want it very badly, but for obvious reasons it's not on the table. I debate caving just to get the satisfaction, buuuut that's probably not a good idea. Didn't think about the bc part if it either.

    We are having a no nap day here, lots of screaming, he is crashed on me now, and I'm not really comfortable, but I won't dare move! You watch, he will nap well now, just long enough to eff up tonight!

  32. Mae

    papaya / 10343 posts

    @anandam: we both have trouble sleeping without sheets/blankets on us... so i don't think we're destined for cosleeping!

    @twodoghouse: omg the hallucinations. The first two weeks I was home every single time i woke up it was with a start thinking I'd been nursing the baby and dropped her. one time I even woke up and started hitting dh (lightly, like waking him up) all "omg where is the baby?!" because i thought that he had her for some reason? He's like ummmm in her bassinet?? lol. I don't do it that often anymore, but I still sleep with a body pillow and sometimes I wake up sort of rubbing it, thinking it is the baby I'm holding... only to realize its a pillow haha.

    @Beebug: I swear I have this debate with every nap. "Yay she's napping! but I hope this doesn't mean she won't sleep tonight. but she usually sleeps well so I hope its fine. but she doesn't usually nap this well so who knows. but sleep begets sleep right? but what if she just isn't tired and screams all night? and then is up all tomorrow? and then is totally flipped???" <-- crazy pants lol

  33. Glitter

    persimmon / 1281 posts

    I was all against cobedding too but I took a chance yesterday when DH went to work. We had a restless night and G just would not stay asleep in his cosleeper. I brought him in with me and he slept for hours. I don't want to make it a habit though.

  34. Glitter

    persimmon / 1281 posts

    So AF has returned... Already

  35. Mae

    papaya / 10343 posts

    @Glitter: omg seriously? are you sure it isn't just a resurgence of pp bleeding?

  36. twodoghouse

    honeydew / 7230 posts

    @Glitter: That's so awful! I thought I might be getting period back because my bleeding came back with cramping, but my dr didn't think it was likely. Luckily my bleeding is finally done so if I start up again I'll know it's AF.

  37. Beebug

    pomegranate / 3917 posts

    @Glitter: boo! Mine came 6w pp with DD, I am mentally preparing for it next week, but hoping not, feel or you!

    So yesterday we couldn't keep C awake, he literally napped all day (and slept at night) but the two days before didn't nap daytime, today having a no nap day and I can hardly keep my eyes open! It just seems so weird, he is capable of sleeping, anywhere, but it seems like he doesn't want to and then spends a day crashed? Can't be healthy, hope this passes, poor dude!

    One more week of DD in day care and then hopefully we can get healthy!

  38. anandam

    kiwi / 687 posts

    @Glitter: Ugh! And you're EBF, right? And you DTD! Did you start birth control? Am I too nosy?

  39. Glitter

    persimmon / 1281 posts

    I'm not sure WHAT is going on... I don't want to believe its AF already because ughhh... I am barely 7 wks pp and I have been EBF (is it still EBF if you pump, sometimes?), but it is bright red like AF, not the watery brownish/cream trail that my post partum bleeding ended up as.. plus I have had zero bleeding for three straight weeks, then this. Yeh... I think it's AF though it is still pretty light right now.

    Lol! @anandam: I got the depo privera shot almost 2 full weeks ago...phew!! So we should be safe in that regard..

  40. skipra

    pomegranate / 3350 posts

    @Glitter: That stinks! I bet it has something to do with the depo? Maybe just your body figuring it out? Doesn't depo normally stop your period once you're adjusted to it? Or it could still be pp bleeding. Mine had stopped last time around 4 weeks and the I thought I got af just before my 6 week exam but the doctor told me it was not af and bleeding could continue off and on up to 8 weeks. I didn't actually get af until almost 11 months pp.

Reply »

You must login / Register to post

© copyright 2011-2014 Hellobee