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@LemonJack: Congrats!

Wow, only 16 of us! We're clearly an exclusive month.

I woke up with bleeding this morning, so I went to the doctor's for bloodwork and an ultrasound. It's not looking very promising. The HCG levels in my blood look low and the fetal heartbeat is also lower than what they like to see at this stage.

Initially, I was scheduled to return for more bloodwork on Wednesday, but my midwife called me back and said she didn't think that would be very conclusive, so I'm going to get another ultrasound in a week and see if the heartbeat has gotten stronger and faster.

It's going to be a long week. I think we're also going to tell DD about the situation tonight (she's 3.5) because I won't be able to make up stories about why I'm crying all the time if this goes on for another week. She thought I was seeing the eye doctor this morning (you know, for five hours, because eye appointments always take five hours!) and I was exhausted just keeping up that ruse.

@MsInformation: I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Hopefully your dates are just a little off, but sending either way.

@MsInformation: thinking of you and hoping you're hanging in there

Ok, I guess it's time for me to join in! I was going to wait for my doctor's appointment but it feels like it's forever away sooo

Location: Arkansas

EDD: May 1

How far along: 9 weeks, 3 days

First child? Second- I have a 21 month old son

First doctor appointment: October 11th. FOREVER AWAY.

Any symptoms so far? Constant nausea. Exhaustion.

Who have you told? DH and way too many of our friends/family.

@whenoceansrise: Congrats and welcome!

@MsInformation: I hope you get the very best news soon. Thinking of you.

@Astro Bee: So glad everything is okay! I would have been super nervous after that, too.

I heard the heartbeat on my doppler at home for the first time last night (8w2d), so that was exciting. I'm exhausted all the time, but thankfully, my nausea is pretty mild. My next appointment is 10/21 for the NT scan and MaterniT21 blood draw!

@Clementine12: I bet you can't wait to finally see baby! I hope your midwife can reassure you about the spotting!

I had an appointment 1.5 weeks ago at 4w5d but it was really just bloodwork/information. My next appointment isn't for nearly 3 weeks - it seems so far away! Last pregnancy we had a dating ultrasound around 7.5 weeks so 9 weeks seems so late to me (though I know it's not!) And then I assume I go back 1 week later for the screening blood test.

So far I'm feeling pretty good compared to my first pregnancy. My appetite has been a little less but I'm eating 3 meals a day (plus ice cream) with only mild food aversions. I'm trying to enjoy it because I was so sick last pregnancy, but also a little paranoid. I'm starting to think this babe will be a boy though because I feel so differently this time

I think 7 weeks was the turning point (for the worse) for me last time though...

I just got back from the midwives' office. They confirmed the miscarriage. The ultrasound showed an empty uterus. I would have passed it last week, when I was bleeding. I didn't have any cramping so the whole thing was completely painless, which I'm grateful for.

I really appreciate all of the support from everyone here. It made me feel a lot better to have these boards and you ladies thinking of me. I didn't tell anyone besides my parents, my sister-in-law and one friend, so this was a valuable outlet for me.

Wishing you all happy and healthy pregnancies! Hopefully I'll be back on the due date boards under a different month soon. ️

@MsInformation: I'm so sorry for your loss A lot of us here on HB have unfortunately been in your shoes so don't hesitate to reach out if you need it. Hang in there

Anyone have any thoughts on girl/boy yet? With LO1, I had no idea or feelings at all (boy) and with LO2, I KNEW he was a boy from the beginning. With this one, I'm expecting boy and I'll be shocked if it's a girl, but mainly because I have two boys already. I even dreamed last night that it was a boy. I miscarried my first pregnancy (girl), so I'm irrationally nervous that if it's a girl, the same thing will happen again (it was a sex chromosome issue that caused the m/c).

I will say that I'm already annoyed by the comments of people who don't even know I'm pregnant- "Will you try for a girl?" etc... I would love to have a girl and experience a daughter, but honestly, I would be thrilled to have a family of 3 boys! We're planning on announcing at 12/13 weeks once we know gender and I'm prepared for the comments either way.

@lilteacherbee: I'm leaning towards boy so far mainly since this pregnancy has felt so different than my first one. I'm 6.5 weeks and still haven't really felt any nausea, have had very few symptoms in general, and have generally been losing weight while I gained a lot very quickly with my daughter (even with terrible morning sickness). We should find out in another 6 weeks so we'll see....

I wouldn't mind either gender and we have mostly gender-neutral stuff, but it would be nice to reuse a lot of DD's dresses and outfits.

I had my first appointment with my midwife and first ultrasound on Monday - still spotting at the time. She found the baby and it's heartbeat right away - I cried

It's so interesting to hear about your feelings towards gender, @peachykeen and @lilteacherbee ! It sounds like you didn't have an idea with your first? We're still debating whether or not to find out.

I'm still feeling exhausted every day, and the nausea is ramping up. And my skin is worse than it ever was in high school - I have no idea what do with this acne! I know symptoms could be much, much worse though.

@Clementine12: I had a pretty good feeling with my daughter just based on timing (I knew the only time we could have made her was 4 days before ovulation, which often results in a girl). This one I have no idea and I know symptoms don't really mean anything, so we'll see - I'm just leaning towards boy for now.

I'm expecting the nausea to start this weekend (7 weeks) if it's similar to my last pregnancy, but I feel like I was already feeling mildly sick before 7 weeks last time. I wouldn't complain if I escaped morning sickness this time around! The exhaustion is definitely getting me though - I'm somewhat managing it so far with early bedtimes most days but I know it will get worse.

Convinced it's a boy. This couldn't be any more night and day different than my pregnancy with DD!

@LemonJack: The exhaustion is AWFUL. I know I have two kids to chase around (almost 3 and 14 months), but I have zero energy. I literally slept 9 hours straight last night and woke up tired. I had some nausea a few weeks ago, but it seems to have died down (9.5 weeks now).

@lilteacherbee: Yes! I know it's harder with a toddler to chase, but I wonder if it can possibly make me feel this much more exhausted! I was yawning at work today and a coworker noticed and asked straight out if there was anything she should know. She's sweet and I adore her, but I had to try really hard to stifle my yawns after that because I didn't want to say anything!

@Emsmems: I've wondered if different genders can cause such a difference in symptoms. Will you be finding out the sex of the baby? My symptoms are exactly the same as last time, they just started earlier and the exhaustion is worse.

@Emsmems: @LemonJack: This pregnancy has been similar to my last two (both boys) except that my skin is way worse. I'm pretty much expecting to have another boy, which is fine with me, but I'd also love a girl since this is our last baby. I'll find out in about 3 weeks