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Good morning ladies! Hope everyone had a nice weekend. We are doing well, but tired! This past weekend was my bro-in-las wedding (they decided 3 weeks ago to push their wedding up by. 7 months and no they aren't pregnant). Anyhow, my hubs, Alex and I were all in the wedding and although I pissed off he groom (grrrrrr) becuase .I asked my hubs to come back to his Mom's house to help me with Alex. So selfish of me, right? I'm not from the state and don't know where anything is and had to get me and the babe ready, drop off lunch for the bridal party ( the guys and gals were 20 minutes away from each other) and make sure we were prepped with everything we might need for the ceremony and reception. Needless to say i wasn't pleased when he wasn't understanding especially since he hadn't told us that he wanted my hubs with him all day and I was also a bridesmaid. Did I mention that I probably spent 2-3 hours over the weekend pumping in our car with my dress pulled down because there was no place to BF and I was so engorged? Big picture though, it was a great weekend and beautiful wedding. Alex was awesome throughout all and slept through most of it, but also woke up and was smiling and happy! I also added a new skill,BFing while putting on makeup! I'm also psyched because the photog took some awesome pics of Alex that we'll have to use as our birth announcement /holiday card.
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@Sadieloo: Normally I would be inclined to cut the BIL some slack because it's his wedding, but considering that Alex is only six weeks old somewhat of a handful due to being so young, he should have been okay with losing your husband for part of the day.
Hyla is definitely in her six week growth spurt. We went to bed at 11:00, and she got up at 1,3, 5:27 (with explosive poop as well), 6:15, 7:30, and again at 8:30. She's snoozing now, but it's going to be a long day.
I finally got fitted for a bra and holy cow I can't believe my boobs. I measured at 38DD but got a 40DD (could probably have gone down to a D, but wanted the extra room since I get engorged still). I used to be a 36C. My husband couldn't believe I paid so much for a bra, but I keep telling him that once you slap maternity or nursing on something, the price doubles.
Also, H&M opened up here. They have nursing tanks 2 for $30, but I'll have to go back during the day when there aren't 700 people in line to check out.
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@evansjamie: I normally would too. And we have really tried to participate in all wedding activities, but they also only decided to push up the wedding 3 weeks ago and didn't tell us that they had plans for the boys all Saturday until the evening before. I really also only wanted the hubs for like an hour so I could get ready and we could drive to the wedding together (a 30 min drive).
I think Alex is also going through a growth spurt as well. He was up a lot during the night over the weekend and has been nursing a lot! I am back to having super squishy boobs.
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I have no idea what is going on with Arthur these past few days. He has eaten constantly or at least chewed on his bottle constantly. And then he spit it out and starts screaming. Plus, he's only sleeping in 1-2:30 hour stretches. I am exhausted! He's only happy when being held tightly against my chest. Therefore, I'm eating sporadically and cold food at that. And forget being able to go to the bathroom or shower. Argh! Hope this passes soon.
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@TFrances: you should get the wonder weeks app or book. Our kiddos are in the first leap and it's textbook what you said. Effie is the same. My usually good sleeper woke up every 2 hours or less, mostly just to hang out. And she just wants to EAT and be fussy til I hold her. And even then- still a little fussy!
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@ladybee: glad Matthew just has GERD and not something more serious- I hope he's feeling better! And LOVE the octopus in the pic!!! So cute!
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@KJpugs: Just downloaded the Wonder Weeks app and it is spot on! Everything they said was happening is happening. We've definitely seen a huge change in the past few days. Hopefully the fussy part of this leap ends soon.
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@TFrances: same with us. I had downloaded it right when she was born, and then saw the first leap wouldn't begin for a while, and forgot about it. Yesterday she was on day two or so of being SUPER fussy without reason- and she rarely doesn't have a very legit reason. I also was shocked how much she wanted to be held- usually if she's fussy it's fussy no matter where she's sitting/being held until whatever is causing it is fixed. Then I remembered the app, saw she was in the leap, and my mind was BLOWN. It's just a nice peace of mind to know we're not doing anything wrong- it's developmental leaps!
I also got this in my Lucie's List email about week 5 baby development/fussy-ness.... thought it might give you guys peace of mind too
"You may have noticed that it's been getting worse lately, usually 3-4 hours before "bedtime" (a term I use loosely). What's really going on is that your baby's immature nervous system is becoming so overstimulated during a day full of sensory input: her circuits are overloaded! The result is a nightly freak-out session that will make you wonder how to get the baby back inside of you.
ALSO, your baby is going through one of the more significant growth spurts right now, so you will need to increase the frequency of nursing/feeding sessions (what? is she crazy?). Don't worry, it's temporary. He'll be back on a "normal" feeding schedule in a couple of weeks.
In addition to upping the frequency of feedings, cut back on the amount of stimulation you are providing during the day. Hold off on the colorful toys, mobiles, music, bouncing, etc, until this phase passes.
You'd be surprised at how soothing it is for them to ride around in a baby carrier. At this age, the Moby and K'tan are perfect. You don't have to do anything special, just go about your day. It really works!
The End is in Sight!
I have great news, it's almost over! This phenomenon seems to peak around 6 weeks, then gets progressively better every day, ending around 2 months or so. So don't worry, you're not doing anything wrong: he's not teething yet, your milk isn't 'bad'... it's just one of those humps that you have to get over.
After you get over this hump, THIS? This, my friends, signals the end of newborn-hood and the beginning of, well, non-newborn infancy. A REALLY FUN PERIOD that consists of more joy, more sleep and less agony.
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@kjpugs: Reading that Lucies List email (thanks for sharing btw) just made me so sad. I can't believe "newbornhood" is ending. Yes, I have hated it mostly, haha, but time is flying and it freaks me out.
I haven't had time to stay up to date with everyone on this thread but my update is that my baby blues for the most part have faded. I'm officially head over heels for my girl. A couple weeks ago I was looking for her receipt! But breastfeeding is still going really badly. I can't go on how we are now (nursing, then supplementing & pumping every time) and it's starting to seem like my supply is not going to increase. I am still sort of in disbelief that after all I have tried, I still can't EBF. I am at a loss for what to do next.
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@daniellemybelle: I'm so glad your baby blues are fading!!! That stinks about your supply.
Right now, oatmeal is giving me a boost, but I think when we go to our two month appt I'm going to have to talk to her ped about feeding. I can't pump all day at work. Right now I feed her mostly and pump twice. She gets a bottle, in addition to nursing, at night.
I've been in a funk lately because DH came home and has been all about his new playstation 4 or LO. Nothing for me. Not really, but it's like he is just 'comfortable' with me. I want that excitement expressed for the game console or the baby directed to me. Also, he doesn't get that a mom is 'on call' all the time. I ran errands yesterday and realized that my fun thing to look forward to was going to the store for groceries. I just was upset. Tonight I told him we are going out to eat and he was excited. I think he is getting it a little.
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@Jennimac: I've been in kind of a funk lately too. I don't think my husband realizes how isolating it can be staying home all day every day (we have one car) holding a baby who refuses to be put down. I get really upset when he comes home and wants to piddle around in the office cataloging stuff and all I want is some time to do things I like to do. It could be related to AF's return.
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@evansjamie: it could be that, but I don't think it's totally it. I think it's just different for men. I had to say to him that when he has the baby Im busy doing other things like emptying the dishwasher or picking up stuff. Definitely not playing playstation 4.
Ps. I'm so sorry that aunt flow is already back.
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Also,we have Thrush again. And I'm so angry at the pharmacy. We had to use another pharmacy because the Kroger we normally go to won't get the diflucan for a few weeks, and we got charged for the entire cost of both of our medications. They didn't even charge our insurance. Ugh. My husband is on the phone with them now trying to straighten things out.
And when he got home from the store, he asked me why dinner wasn't ready. Um, because I've been feeding and getting the baby to sleep, that's why.
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@evansjamie: that sucks!!!!!
i just got back to see my doctor. I've been waiting for 2 hours. Grr. Hoping I get the all clear and we can start exercising and other things.
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@Jennimac @Evansjamie : I am totally there with you gals. I'm attempting to explain to DH how I am always on call even when he's home. Yet he eats dinner slowly (while I'm holding a screaming baby and letting my food get cold), he takes time to shoot the shit with his friends on the phone (um... hello can you talk to me?), and he grumbles about having to lose sleep to get up with Arthur (I get hours of uninterrupted sleep, oh wait, no I don't). I was so excited to go to the grocery and Target the other day that I ended up just wandering around Target enjoying the solitude (even among all those shoppers) and windowing shopping.
On a happier note, I joined two moms groups in the area and I have my first event tomorrow. I'm meeting about 5 moms of babies born in summer-fall 2013 to play in the park (blanket babies), chit chat, and maybe get some lunch. I'm so looking forward to it! Hopefully I click with a few of them. Then on Thursday I'm meeting some of the same ladies to walk the trail around another park. Yeah exercise!
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I'm cleared. For everything.
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@TFrances: @evansjamie: @Jennimac: same boat here. M has been having a HORRIBLE 5 days. It's beyond exhausting. DH comes home, eats slowly, poops forever and a day (um sure, I haven't showered, brushed my teeth, or ate but you poop for 40 minutes). Then he keeps trying to play Call of Duty while I eat and doesn't realize that M doesn't care about your video game. TAKE CARE OF HIM! Clearly, I too have been visited from AF.
We've been to the doctor twice (his nurse thinks I'm crazy and creating problems). Turns out, he is struggling on his formula which I mentioned when I called last week and the nurse said not likely all snotty. Well b*tch, turns out you were wrong. We started soy formula tonight. It was so hard watching M suffer. He'd cry all day and was inconsolable. Hopefully the soy helps. Of course, he eats at the doctors and then sleeps for almost 5 hours after which he has NEVER done. I should have woken him up to eat but it was so nice to sit without a baby. I'm sure I'll pay for it tonight.
I hope once we get longer periods of sleep from M we can start focusing on us.
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@Jennimac: @ladybee: @TFrances: My husbands' ears must have been burning, because he is rocking Hyla back to sleep. I really want to get her back into her crib. As for the insurance, he contacted the rep that works with his company, and according to her, someone clearly doesn't know how to do their job. She's pretty sure the person looking at it was considering hyla a new member who wouldn't be covered until Jan/Feb and that doesn't apply to newborns. So, heads are going to roll.
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M slept 1.5-2 hours and would wake up starving. Right now I'm laying in bed listening to him cry and hoping he goes back to sleep. Mom fail moment right here. I'm working on 3 hours of broken up sleep.
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@ladybee: Deep breaths. It does get better. Hyla is sleeping in her bassinet for the first time in over a week. Through the wonder week and now the growth spurt, we have not been able to put her down and we've been co sleeping. Not to mention the power eating. I hope the new formula helps M. Are you still on Enfamil? I have some coupons to target if you want them.
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@evansjamie: we just switched to Similac Isomil. Thank you though. I keep waiting for 6 weeks when my pediatrician swears he will sleep better.
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@evansjamie: @Jennimac: @ladybee: @TFrances: I feel your pain, or really frustration. Have you talked to your SO's about this? When DH initially came home after being out of the house for 12 hours all he wanted to do was change, chill on the couch and oftentimes sit on the toilet for far too long in my opinion. I didn't do a very good job at expressing what I needed help with, but since I have he has gotten much better about helping right away instead of taking care of himself.
Can't believe you guys are already getting AF! Like you don't have enough to deal with already?!?!
So Alex still seems to be going through something, a growth spurt or what I don't know. He's been on my boob basically all day since Monday and his sleep has been crap. He's been sleeping a bit better today so hopefully he's through it and I can get some sleep!
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Hi everyone, I'm a longtime lurker and recently introduced myself, but wanted to say hi here as well. My LO was born October 24 and I've been dealing with many of the issues shared here...namely, absolutely loving my baby and SLEEP! She won't sleep anywhere other than in my arms, and I'm way too paranoid to sleep while holding her, but she HATES her crib and bassinet. Has anyone come up with any solutions?
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@miapugs: Hi! I can commiserate. DD sleeps in her RnP fine at night but she won't sleep during the day unless she's being held. The carrier has been a lifesaver. I've got her napping on me in the carrier as I type this.
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@miapugs: Hi! I have no solutions, as we are cosleeping right now. I think we are going to have to get another carrier though, the Boba wrap is just too much fabric to have trailing around and kind of a pain to wrap. I like the look of the Beco Gemini and the Ergo, but I'm not sure what we'll go with.
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@Sadieloo: I've talked about it some, especially because he keeps talking about how his days off never go as planned. That's REALLY frustrating. Hyla had a bad weekend for sleep. Saturday night in particular was AWFUL. Sunday she was up five times to eat, and last night she cluster fed and then vomited all over me. We had to give a double dose of medicine for the thrush, and one of the side effects of diflucan is nausea. Last night and today have been better. I've gotten three 30 minute naps in the Moses basket, so I'm calling that a win. Currently she's sleeping on my lap since she just ate.
I'm afraid I'm boring her because we don't play with toys much. She's started reaching and grabbing (hair especially -- OUCH) and likes to look at her musical aquarium on the crib. She's been so smiley too, it just melts my heart. I hope Christmas brings some more age appropriate toys for her.
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And i'm back from under the rock i've crawled under for the last 8 or so weeks. i still have a lot to catch up on but i'm glad to see that it looks like you ladies are all surviving if not thriving.
heres my condensed version of the last 2 months
9/26 - Fiona arrives, 2 days later we were discharged
end of sept/beginning of Oct - milk came in, newborn shoot, 1st dr appt, hubs goes back to work, lots of visitors
10/7 - Surpassed birth weight
mid-late october - started getting more mobile, we slept over at grandmas, visited my office, a few trips to walk around the mall, went to the LC to learn how to pump, at 4 weeks she figured out how to roll belly to back thus ending tummy time when she feels like it
10/30 - on month appt gained 2lbs in 4 weeks, i'm pretty much done bleeding and feeling more like myself
halloween - dressed fiona up as sushi and went to a party at my office, the very next day she started her 1st head cold - cough & congestion but no fever that took 2 weeks to get over - love the nose frida as gross as it is
early-mid november - first night out without fiona - my parents babysat, had my postpartum appt, started the mini pill, starting to get on a routine shes sleeping 5-6 hours at a time at night, jon's feeding her a bottle each night, and at 7 weeks pp i got my period (yay! fun!)Fiona loves any kind of movement (god forbid we sit still), so walks, the k'tan, and rides in the car. music, and is starting to respond to rattles and toys. we also do facetime with my parents a lot
challenges: i think were starting the wonder week 8. sleep has been off for the last couple nights, she cries a lot at night but has been so much more alert during the day. shes still sleeping in the RnP in our room and naps are haphazard usually in my arms, the k'tan or the carseat.
looking forward to: Thanksgiving at my mom's and fiona's christening that sunday. her fitting into more of her adorable clothes, and her getting even more alert and interactive
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@evansjamie: I was wondering when we should start "playing" with toys too. M doesn't seem interested or able to focus yet on items like rattles, except she loves her crib mobile.
@Chillybear: My LO loves movement too. I do a lotttt of pacing around the house with her in a carrier to calm the fussing.
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@Sadieloo: we talked last night when we were out to dinner and I think he is starting to get it. I also realized I needed to let some of my attitude go. Last night was a better night for us. Not for lo's sleeping, but for mom and dad.
@miapugs: we found a white noise app that LO likes and I swaddle her at night. If she is really upset in the daytime, we carry her.
@evansjamie: we have the ergo, which LO loves. We don't have the newborn insert, but she is almost past needing it and I googled how to use it without it. I'm sorry Hyla is still feeling bad and having trouble with sleeping. LO has some rattle toys that she has been enjoying. I'm taking some up to my mom and dad's so my sisters can play with them with her.
@Chillybear: great to hear from you!
@MapleMoose: my LO liked the rattle or noisy toys right now.
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@saideloo: I've discussed the situation with DH a few times. Each time he is better at taking cues from LO. And then a few days later, he's back to his usual routine and attitude. I need him to be more consistent... We'll try again.
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@Sadieloo: I have, but haven't. I know I need to. We snapped at each other this weekend so right now it's still a little tense. I hope to say something this weekend.
@evansjamie: today has been amazing in comparison to the last week. My little man loves the soy formula and it happy again :). I think my biggest issue is I feel like DH takes care of himself, I take care of the pup and M but there is no one taking care of me. I guess I feel like I've lost myself completely. Luckily, I expressed this to one of my best friends and she's picking me up for dinner. I need to feel like a person again, not just a caregiver. I can't wait till he knows I'm his mommy. That'll help a ton.
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Arthur is starting to be more interested in looking at things. He loves watching his mobile go around. I also hung a rattle with toys from under the bunk bed (where we change diapers). He especially loves the chimes. Tummy time is going better, but he's yet to grab any of his toys. He's grabbed my hair a few times, but I think it was a mistake and not intentional grabbing. We will probably see some growth in the next week.
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@ladybee: this!!! I feel like DH should take care of me like he did right when I had LO. It's like now that I'm back being able to take of myself, he is like, okay things are back to normal she can take care of herself.
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I will say that mom and dad alone time did help with issues we have been having.
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@ladybee: @Jennimac: Yes! Exactly! Once I started to feel more normal, it was like he thought, "Right, now she can handle everything like normal," when that's not the case. Even when visitors come I spend time making sure they are okay, but nobody is taking care of me.
I need some alone time with my husband. Hopefully we can get her down for more than 30-45 minutes this weekend.
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@evansjamie: I so hear you. The thing that drives me bananas is when I am BFing Alex for the millionth time and DH falls asleep on the couch when there are a million things to do around the house. I really think that we sometimes make it look too easy for them. Alex has been sleeping on my lap while I get some work done today. Probably not the best habit, but he slept a bit longer. He's been sleeping really poorly recently as well so I'll take what I can get. BTW, I doubt you are boring her. I think as long as you are talking to her and engaging with her she's fine. I've found that Alex really just wants to look around and see stuff, toys or not. If it makes you feel better, I don't have a single rattle.
@Jennimac: @ladybee: I can definitely have some attitude as well. It's really hard when you are sleep deprived. I don't know about you, but I feel responsible for my family and home and there's just a lot that needs to get done! I can't remember where I read it but somewhere someone suggested making a to do list of all responsibilities/chores or what have you and going over them with your SO. I think DH and I may try it out so we both feel that we are sharing the burden a bit more. I also feel that many men just don't get things unless they are told. Perhaps we are just too good at being mom's
@TFrances: Practice makes perfect, right?
@ladybee: So glad you are taking some time for yourself with your friend. I am going out with some other mom's for dinner tonight. I am really excited!
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Went to my first mom's group today and it was a disappointment. I've signed up for two different groups through meetup. Meetup is extremely popular in the Bay Area. Today was supposed to be a meeting at the park where we could chat and walk around while our babies played. Six moms signed up and only one (other than me) showed up. The one who did show up was super amazing and I really enjoyed meeting her. But super disappointed that the others were no-shows. Extra weird: it was the first time for the mom who did show. I posted a message asking if we missed everyone else, but no response. I wonder if this is normal for the group. If so, I will be super bummed. We have another meeting scheduled for tomorrow, but it's just me and two other ladies. Really really hope they show up...
Has anyone else joined a mom's group? How are you liking it so far?
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On another note, Arthur is still sleeping and hasn't woken up to eat since 11:30... that's 3 1/2 hours ago. I am shocked! Hope this means we are getting out of this wonder week nonsense. took the opportunity to eat leisurely, surf the internet, write some blog posts, do some laundry, start to clean out my closet (November's monthly goal), and get dinner staged. I'm feeling so productive and energized right now!
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@evansjamie: I really love my babyhawk for this age. They are just as expensive as the ergo but I think you can get other similar meitei style carriers on etsy for around $40-50?
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@Chillybear: Great to see you back! My LO loves the K'tan too - something I just discovered today. @evansjamie: I think you should try it!
It has definitely been Wonder Week/growth spurt time around here. LO does not want to sleep for longer than 30 minutes unless she is held, which is why I broke out the K'tan. It's so hard to know why she is fussing - is she hungry? I stress about her being hungry due to our BFing issues. Or is she gassy? She has had a lot of big burps/poops/yucky spit-ups lately, so I got some gripe water. Or is she just growing and wanting to be held? I never know! I don't want to overfeed her and make it worse if her tummy hurts but I know this is when a lot of babies want to eat, eat, eat.
Speaking of which, bottle feeding mamas: How many oz does your LO eat, and how old are they, and how big? LO is about 7 1/2 lbs now and 4 weeks old, and she eats a 3 - 3.5 oz bottle when I don't nurse, and 2 - 2.75 oz as a supplement when I do nurse. It sucks that I don't know exactly how much she is taking in when she nurses!
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