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@daniellemybelle: @evansjamie: I just wanted to make sure I was on the same page as people and I agree completely! Thanks!!

@DANIELLEMYBELLE: Yes, it's nice to have a little peak at bebe again. I believe I'll have another ultrasound (with the portable machine and not a formal appt) around 37 weeks to see baby's positioning again

@mrs. mochi: I just did the math. I have 66 days left. AHHHHHH.

@eisrael: I am taking a child birth class, and possibly a breastfeeding class even though I'm reading some books about it.

So, my husband and I got in a fight yesterday. He's running low on sleep, so that's probably why he wasn't thinking clearly. Here's the situation: He volunteered to do a mis-netting night for bats for one of his former professors. However, the mammology class won't be studying bats until October. He was supposed to go to our college town (2 hours away) to do this and then drive home, so I wouldn't be alone overnight with a newborn or while I was still pregnant (a friend would stay with me).

I'm trying to be a good wife and not be aggravated, but then he told me yesterday that it might be in September and be a trip to freaking BLACK MOUNTAIN, which is FIVE HOURS AWAY. WTF? Why would that be okay? His reasoning was that I wouldn't be in labor yet because it would be too early. I had to get off the phone, I was driving and driving + crying isn't good. I don't think he understands that labor isn't something you can predict. He thought he'd just be able to be here when it was time and still do this because it would be 2-3 weeks before my due date. Labor and birth is wildly unpredictable. My mom had long labors before doing c-sections, but the women on my dad's side have short labors. Babies have been early and they've been late. There's no telling how this will go down, and he just didn't get it. He was like, "I'll fix it, I'll fix it," but I don't want him to just fix it. I wanted him to understand why this isn't okay, especially because he told his employer that he wouldn't be able to travel more than an hour from Louisville in September, but somehow it's okay to do a mis-net night five hours away that he doesn't have to do? Argh.

@evansjamie: That sucks - I'm sorry! I would be upset too. I got a little worked up over the possibility of DH going to a conference in late September just in case I delivered early, but thankfully he got out of it. I'm sure your husband could tell how upset you were, though, and that he will try to make it up to you! It's so hard when it feels like they just don't get it, though.

@daniellemybelle: I hope so. It's the end of the season, so tempers are getting shorter as they try to fit all the work in (they've been having some issues with land-grant access on a pipeline). It is really hard, especially because he's not here to see the look on my face and to talk about it face-to-face rather than over the phone/text. I told him how frustrated I was that no one was taking me/the baby/this major life-altering change into consideration when making these grand plans.

@ladybee: not round ligament pain IMHO- as that seems to be low belly on the sides- it's the ligmaments that basically hold up your belly I believe. Glad you're getting it checked out!

@evansjamie: The situation definitely sucks.... Its like they dont have the constant reminder of a ticking time bomb in their body so they think they can just do it all. My husband is supposed to go to two different 3 day training sessions one is in late September the other is over my due date.... his company is looking into other options for the classes but if he doesnt go he might have to wait a whole year to get these certifications. Getting these certifications comes with a sizable pay bump, but at least their only in delaware which is about 2 hours away with traffic.

@eisrael: Is your husband riding in the MS: City to Shore (cherry hill to OC)? This would have been my 6th year riding if i wasnt knocked up.... We usually host a house full of riders and teammates at my inlaws beach house everyone is pressuring us to still go down so they have a place to stay and its like a week before my due date

I had my 30 week appt last night. I absolutely love the doctor i saw last night, it was my 2nd appt with her. I came in with a sheet of questions about how everything will go down at the hospital and she was so patient and answered every single one of them. It really put me at ease and I'm back on my stance of not needing a birth plan because my preferences were either already hospital procedure or things that they would discuss with me before they were happening.

@kjpugs: Everyone thinks that! I should roll with it sometime. I think he knows that I can't go more than an hour from the hospital, but doesn't realize that HE shouldn't be more than an hour from the hospital either. I'll definitely bring it up at the next doctor's appointment that he can go to (probably my 34 week appointment).

@Chillybear: Oh, I hope they can figure something out so he can still get the certifications! My husband was scheduled for training the day of our anatomy ultrasound, but thankfully they were able to reschedule it for him and a few other people.

@mrs. mochi: I don't think so! My main problem with what was going on was that I wasn't being kept in the loop. A trip to our college town 2 hours away after the baby is born in a place with decent cell service the whole way is/was turning into a much longer trip to the opposite end of the state into an area where cell service is spotty at best. At that rate, he wouldn't be able to come home the same day. The timing of the trip was also morphing to 2-3 weeks before my due date, and another issue I had was that somehow it wasn't okay for his employer to send him traveling more than an hour from Louisville, but it's okay to do this volunteer trip five hours away during the same time frame?

I want him to be able to help, but I don't know if I'm comfortable with him being so far away and the possibility of him not being reachable in case something happens. He is convinced that I won't go into labor before I'm due, but as the August ladies have demonstrated, you can't predict when you'll go into labor or if a medical condition will come up where the baby must be delivered early.

@evansjamie and @daniellemybelle: thanks, ladies! i had a moment of "uh oh..." everybody tells me that i'll eat my words later, but i want this baby to be later than early. i'm hoping i'm like my mom. she had both her kids 2 weeks late, but labor went fast (<6 hours and only 3 pushes each time).

@evansjamie: YAY! I know that has been really stressful for you.

Anyone getting fatigued again? In the first trimester, I could not keep my eyes open at my desk everyday. All I wanted to do was sleep. When it went away at about 13 weeks, I was so grateful for the ability to function normally again. Lately, I have been feeling really run-down. I chalked it up to not sleeping well, but I slept really well last night and now I feel like I could collapse again...

@kjpugs: he basically said that its muscles pulling from the weight of my bump. That if it gets hot to the touch to call but right now no reason for concern. Thanks for asking

So I'm at my glucose test. I find out my results tomorrow. She had to stick me twice to get my fasting blood. Not fun. I didn't get a choice of drink---just the orange one. It wasn't bad until the last swallow. She told me I didn't have to sit here and wait, but I was like, "where am I going to go for an hour feeling awful?" So I'm chilling here with my phone.

@evansjamie: now I'm laughing! Thank you for that! That's exactly how I feel! I did have a friend offer to pick me up, but I was like, "I'm totally a grouch right now. How is going somewhere going to help me?"

@Chillybear: I actually wouldn't worry about a 2 hour travel issue- maybe it's just because DH and I live in a city where everyone has crazy commutes, but if there's traffic it could easily take DH two hours to get from work to our hospital (hell, if it rains and there's an accident, it could easily take 2 hours to get from our home to our hospital...) As long as there is a reliable means of getting in touch with your DH, I'd be cool with him going to training.

@evansjamie: I would be SUPREMELY uncool with a trip 5 hours away with spotty cell access.

@Lozza: Thats what i told him. I would just hate for him to get half way through the session and not be able to complete it because i go into labor. But it is what it is. I think he's doing the first session in september and waiting on the one that falls on my due date. I'm more concerned that i'll be on my own for 3 days at a time super pregnant, but i'm sure if i asked my mom would come stay with me

@ladybee: you got the B-Safe and B-Agile in kiwi right? My FIL wanted to buy our "stroller and carseat" but accidentally (I guess?) bought our convertible carseat, and then emailed us asking "is this the stroller you wanted?" we said yes but... how about in Kiwi! (since the site he found it on is cheaper than BBB.) So I got all excited, I THINK that means he's buying it, which would mean we just have to get the infant car seat in kiwi. Easy right? WRONG. That site he found the stroller on doesn't have the B-Safe in kiwi!!! And BBB is SOLD OUT ONLINE. Not sure what to do! Where did you get yours?

@evansjamie: Stupid doctors office is not in today, so I won't get results until Monday! If I have to take three hour test, then I can only do it on Tuesday before I have to go back to work.

@evansjamie: what's really frustrating is the lab girl was like, "oh they will let you AsAP because you will need to test again or go on medicine." Well apparently not if they are taking the day off.

@evansjamie: they are open til 4 but I'll just be patient and wait til Monday. Not much difference it will make then. I'm just not very patient right now.