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Just updated the list with my appointments. Baby looked good today. Only gained an ounce from last week, but was measuring ahead. We saw her tummy moving from doing some practice breathing. She is still breech. We go back Monday and we will check if she is still breech. If so, then we will schedule a c section for 39 weeks and then keep checking weekly to see if she flips. So, I guess next week I will get to know when she is coming--for the most part! Also, I've dropped! I'm going to try to take a pic to show.

@Sadieloo: it's been so weird!!! I've had some crusty issues like others have had, but I'll have wet spots on my shirt at night. DH is not enjoying it at all.

@kjpugs: I am so, so sorry. I wish I could come hang out with you for the weekend and get my husband to do the errands for you guys while we went and got pedicures and massages.

@kjpugs: I am right there with you. My DH has a crazy work schedule; I never know if he'll be home before 8pm or not. And his weekends are still full of working from home. He put up the crib last weekend without me asking, but I think that's the first time that something like that has happened. I'm also currently working from home and its frustrating and lonely. I'm really thinking of quitting before October... I'm just trying to take it one day at a time. I'm finding that taking five minutes to play Candy Crush helps me relax and take a step away. I hope you can find something that alleviates your tension. Just think: only a few more weeks until our beautiful babies are here! That's the biggest thing that keeps me going.

@kjpugs: Hang in there girl! If you ever need someone to talk to, I am WFH and completely understand the need for human interaction! Hope the pizza helped!

@evansjamie: Thanks for the update. Boo to the parts still not being in!

@EVANSJAMIE: Your nipples could get bigger post baby! Also, sorry to hear about your crummy coworker. Have your husband get a night job??? Is that what her husband does? What good does that do to stay at home with babe and essentially be a single parent? LAME.

@evansjamie: Yay that the flanges came! And what?!?! Wow - your co-worker is a total b*tch. You are a better person than me, because I would have freaked out on her. First of all, she has NO right to tell you what is best for you, your family or child. People who can afford to have one parent stay at home are very rare and very fortunate. She should remind herself of that before opening her mouth. Second, tell your husband to man up? Who say's that? I am seriously flabbergasted. You should have reminded her that we aren't in the 1950's anymore. For the record, I also like to work and actually feel like there are many benefits from daycare that you don't get otherwise. In fact, all my friends who have been SAHM's, hired Nanny's or whatever have said that they have seen more growth and development from their kids in daycare/school than anywhere else. In other words, don't let some naive person make you feel bad about your choices because they are your choices!!!

@mrs. mochi: right on sista! I have worked too hard to be where I am, paid way too much to go to grad school to be a SAHM and really enjoy working. Not to say that's women in the same situation as me can't or shouldn't make different decisions. It's so surprising to hear people say stuff like @evansjamie:'s co-worker, especially after the financial crisis where so many people lost their jobs and livelihoods. People have nerve!

@evansjamie: That is total garbage that your coworker is giving you grief. What a load. I get so ticked when I hear about stuff like this, what is best for kids/families is not a one size fits all situation. You can use my favorite phrase, which is "this is going to be MY tiny human and I will decide what is best for it."

My sister had a kid before me and she got so much grief from so many people for her decisions and she told me to have a few curt canned responses to people being jerks to shut them down. It makes it much easier to respond in the moment than just being shocked that someone would say something like that and then seething about it later. In my repertoire:
-I'm sorry, that is your business how?
-This is my tiny human, I will make those decisions. You make the decisions for your tiny human.
I rarely have to pull them out but it's great when I do haha!

@evansjamie: Eh, that's such BS. I think it's totally, incredibly important for kids to be in a loving and supportive and stimulating environment, but a SAHM situation is not the only way to provide that! I'd hate being a SAHM, I have a great daycare, LO also spends a ton of time with other family (especially my parents), and I think it's awesome for him. Staying at home with your kid is the perfect solution if it's what makes both parents happy, but not every parent is cut out to enjoy staying at home and not every parent is comfortable with being the sole source of income. We'd have to adjust our lifestyle, but we could definitely allow me to stay home... but when I'm working, I'm happier, DH feels more secure, our partnership/marriage is better, and LO gets awesome care from a big ol' "village" full of family, friends, teachers, etc.

I tend to think that anyone who gives you grief about those sort of life choices is insecure about their own.
(also, the suggestion that your husband get a second job, so that you can spend every waking moment with your kid at the expense of your husband's ability to spend time with his family, as if it's inherently a woman's job to parent and for men it's optional or something? wtf?)

@kjpugs: Cupcake for the win! I'm so glad you had a doctor who really listened to you and cared about your pain. It's so annoying when doctors just brush it off or they tell you, "Well, it's just a part of being pregnant." I hope the doggie health issues are resolved soon, and congrats on being GBS-!

OH! Meant to add. I told the doctor today how let down I was last week that all the pelvic pain/pressure did NOT lead to any dilation or anything when I was checked. He offered to check me but I turned it down... no point because I could be a 3 and not deliver til after my due date, or I could be closed and deliver next week. So pointless to stress myself out about it. I just was hoping to have something that made the pain "worth it" - oh well.

Oh man. In addition to my earlier troubles, it's conference day at work! So I have tons of patrons telling me that I need to sit down more, but in the same breath telling me that the water is out or they would like more coffee. Plus having to check people in for lunches, take pictures, and find books for people to buy in addition to doing the rest of my job. Thank goodness this is the last big event before maternity leave, because my pelvis is aching fiercely.

Here's my bump shot from today! 38 weeks, and I can tell that she has dropped some. We've got a cold front coming through AND it's the full moon. I'm anxious to see if these events will lead to a baby being born!

I just got my results back and I'm GBS positive. Oh well! Not really a bit deal, but I always hate failing tests. I also got another shock from my doctor: he won't be there for the birth of my baby. He's going to be at an educational conference Oct 8-15 (DD is 15th). Boo! I really love my doctor, but I guess that's the way it is sometimes. If baby comes before the 8th, he'll be there. Otherwise I get whoever is on duty. Plus, we scheduled a c-section for the 15th if he doesn't want to come before that. I opted for another c-section versus an induction. An induction did not go anywhere last time. I would rather just get to the surgery if that's going to be fate anyway. I'm still working at being at peace with the doctor not being there, slowly. Give me another week and I'll probably be fine.

On the work front, the company that I and the DH work for is currently be acquired. Everything is all up in the air. Supposedly his division is going with the acquisition company and my division will be spun off into a new company. I really hate my "supervisor" right now. She's taken over as my supervisor, but no one higher up can clarify her role vs. my role for me. I also have no idea as to my future with the company. Getting so frustrated, I'm about to quit. Hopefully the DH's signing bonus is high enough that we can get by without any financial help from me for awhile. I would love to be a SAHM for at least a few months. I hate feeling all this uncertainty this close to the birth. Just wish we had some answer.

Whew! Sorry about the confessional. Just really needed to get some of that out there. DH works so much I don't get a lot of time to talk to him about all this stuff.

@Lozza: well said!

@kjpugs: So happy to hear you had a better appt., are GBS negative, got some cute baby gear and cupcakes!!!

@evansjamie: you look fantastic!!!

@TFrances: Bummer about your doc! Could you push back your c-section so that he can attend? All your work stuff sounds really stressful too. Fingers crossed that your DH (and mine for that matter) get great bonuses!

@Sadieloo: You earned that comfy glider! Kick his butt out when you want to sit down in it.

Seriously, that glider is gorgeous!

@evansjamie: Thanks for the support.

@sadieloo: They didn't want to push it back any further because he is getting so big. I think I'm coming to terms with everything. Your glider looks amazing! So pretty!

@chillybear: I've put in a request to meet the operating doctor (I have his name). Hopefully at my 38 week appointment I can meet with him. But really, I am starting to just accept it. I've already had one c-section and it's so impersonal (don't spend a lot of time in the OR) from that end that I think I'll be okay even if I don't meet him. I'm just hoping for some great nurses in the maternity ward. They spend much more time with the mom and baby than the doctors do.

@evansjamie: you. look. AMAZING. Seriously. beach ball smuggler!!!!!!!!!! (Although I am sure you probably FEEL less than amazing like me, I had to share how great I think you look!)

When is this full moon? I NEED IT TO WORK ON ME. Although waiting til Monday would be great (FT) or October 1st or later really, for my comfort zone.

@Sadieloo: that glider is GORG!!!!!!!!!!!! It looks really comfy!!!!

@TFrances: so sorry to hear about your doc that's such a bummer! I read it first though as your DH so I guess a different doc is better than having to find an alternate DH, haha! I did that earlier today too (I think I need new glasses) my friend was telling me how her medical friend was saying that bushier "downstairs" areas can get in the way and be a mess during delivery, and then she said she was going to stop talking about it so she didn't ruin her Chipotle. I read it as if she was saying she was going to trim up down there to not ruin "her Chipotle..." as if that was her nickname for her hoo-ha. I gotta get new glasses hahah!

@SADIELOO: Is that the Luca Glider? It's very pretty

Thanks @evansjamie: that's what I tell DH. He has a habit of falling asleep on our couch, chair, anywhere sitting up and I know once he sinks his butt into that chair he will pass out! You really are having good luck these days (I hope you can sense my sarcasm) between your boss, co-worker and other peeps. I used to work for a non-profit as well and helped out with their Gala. Some people are just amazing, let's leave it at that.

@Chillybear: me too! I'm also really happy that all the colors in our nursery work since I bought almost everything sight unseen!

@TFrances: I think your attitude towards everything is great and I am impressed. I have no doubt it will all work out for you and will keep you (and the good nurses I hope you and we all get) in my thoughts and prayers.

And thanks @kjpugs: BTW, have you tried a prenatal massage or acupuncture? I do acupuncture and what I love most about it is that it makes me feel weightless. Any pregnant woman's dream, right? Hope you get some relief soon whether with the full moon or whatever.

@mrs. mochi: Thanks! It is actually West Elm's Graham Glider 'slightly' less expensive than the Luca glider. We splurged a bit since we plan on having this for a loooonnnggg time and figure we can use it in other parts of the house when it's no longer being used in the nursery.

Ladies, I wish you all lived nearby. I just made far too many brownies (both plain and some topped with cookie dough) for a block party and think we should all enjoy them together! Or you can always send me your address and I'll ship you a little care package