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Let me know if I've missed anything for this list. I just quickly scanned everyone's posts for dates so it's very likely I did miss something!


Appointments
3/03 however briefly
3/04 Mrs.Panda
3/05 Ms. Pumpkin
3/05 bushelandapeck
3/05 Rocker2014
3/07 butterbean (u/s)
3/10 wonderstruck (u/s)
3/10 bunnylovesbear
3/10 swedishfish
3/11 Ms.Mermaid
3/12 cmbknyc (u/s)
3/13 Mrs.Panda
3/15 Becksabee (u/s)
3/19 mrskoloa (u/s)
3/26 bushelandapeck (NT scan)
3/27 cmbknyc

@mrskoloa: I think there's only one birth center near her so it's not much of a choice, unfortunately. I'm not sure its relation to the nearest hospital though so that might work out. She's researched all the hospitals around her and there's only one that she likes and is considering so really it's a choice between the two. The birth center would end up being $5000 more for us, though, and my husband would REALLY like to use that money for other things (like renovating and repairing the home we will be buying soon) rather than something that ultimately boils down to two days of our lives with a baby at the end no matter how or where it happens. We shall see. I'm feeling a bit like a mediator between strongly opposed factions here, hahaha. Her first appointment with the midwife has been rescheduled from today to Thursday so we'll see how it goes.

@however briefly: What a tough position for you to be in...I can see both sides of the argument-her body vs what others are comfortable with and the huge cost difference. Is she looking to have an unmedicated birth? I ask because I was strongly for having an unmedicated birth but I wanted the security of being at a hospital in case something did happen. In the end I was able to have the best of both worlds and plan to do the same this time as well. I hope you are all able to come to a decision that fits everyones wishes.

@LulaBee: I hope you get the news you are hoping for and that you can move on soon.

I had my appointment on friday, it went well... we got to hear a (very strong and VERY fast!) heartbeat! i liked the doctor, and she spent a long time with us. I am going for another ultrasound on 3/14, and plan to do the materniT21 test (now called "fetal cell free dna test" as there are a few companies making it) before the end of march. The doc actually said the NE journal of med now reco's it for every pregnant woman, regardless of age, which i thought was interesting.

@lioneyes: glad to hear your appointment went well! I really want to have the materniT21 test but my OB practice will not do it, even if you pay out of pocket, unless you have risk factors....I may mention the NE Journal rec and see what they say though... We did have it for our son, but that was because he had some soft markers for DS during our anatomy scan. I can't see the harm in doing it ahead of time, but I guess they must have their reasons.

@JBmommy: Welcome and congratulations! How old is your LO?

@however briefly: My OB had to cancel my appointment for tomorrow so I am just going to the one with the new OB on 3/13. Stinks!

ETA am also on the November board as my due date is so late and could really go either way, so I was hoping to borrow your idea for the calendar detailing due dates! All credit to you, of course!

@however briefly: Oh my gosh, I'm SO sorry! That was so wrong of your friend, I can't imagine how you must feel. That happened to a friend of ours. Her mother-in-law took a picture of an ultrasound that they had given her and posted it on Facebook and tagged her in it. Definitely stole her thunder. Maybe just play it off to the people who messaged you and say that she was just posting it because you guys ARE TTC but that you took it down because you didn't want people getting the wrong idea. It's not a lie, you don't want people getting the idea that this is okay!

Then later (when you are ready to divulge the good news) you can announce it any way you want. I promise you those acquaintances won't be mad! They'll probably just say something like "I knew it, congrats!". And I'm sure your friend realizes she's a butthead and it pretty embarrassed. If she's normal, anyway. Again, I'm sorry and you did the right thing to talk to her calmly and take that junk down!

@however briefly: Omg! am so sorry your friend did that to you!! Plus side to the surrogate thing though - you can go ahead ad tell those people no, you're not pregnant...and you're not even lying! They'll understand why you didn't spill when you do eventually announce, you should get to do it on your timetable.

@howeverbriefly 3/14 U/S, 3/31 NT Scan

Ok things are much better with DH since we got home, we had a big "talk" when we got home from our holiday and its all settled now. Thank god, I couldn't cope with any more drama in my pregnant life!
2 days ago I fell coming out of the shower on our tiled bathroom floor, I am black and blue from it. Got told not to worry about baby who is only 3cm and well padded but what a fright I got!
I got my scan date through today for the 26th march which would make me nearly 14 weeks! I'm going to ring tomorrow and beg for an earlier date, I can't wait that long without at least hearing a heartbeat. If they make me wait then I'm going to pay privately for a scan elsewhere. I'm quite annoyed about it.

@LulaBee: I'm so sorry my lovely, I just hope you can find the strength and it happens soon and as painless as possible for you. @JBmommy: welcome! Congrats, I know it can be a lot of reading, but the first 4 pages of this thread would cover the majority of our stories. How many weeks are you?
@however briefly: I am shocked! I would be horrified and so angry at her, I would write to those that have asked " no but we are trying some less conventional ways so fingers crossed" and leave it at that. I think ignoring them will cause gossip. I have no problem lying until I am ready to tell.

My best friend and I went for breakfast yesterday and I told the waiter that my eggs could not be runny, she looked right at me and asked if I was pregnant. Ooft some good lying there from me "no of course not, just hate runny yolks". Not sure how much time that bought me!
I am 10 weeks today, and finally I feel better (fingers crossed it lasts) today is the first day I am not sick or miserable or ready for bed at 7pm. Long may it last, I forgot how nice feeling normal is!

@lioneyes: Hurray for a nice strong heart beat! Thanks for the link about the free cell DNA testing, the link to the New England Journal of Medicine article is in there too. We don't technically have enough risk factors, the only thing that can skew that way is I have one cousin who lost a baby with down's syndrome but from what I was told that isn't quite enough. I still want the test anyway though so hopefully that tiny risk factor and the article will help my doctor to be on my side.

@JBmommy: Welcome! I am so glad you're joining us!

@Mrs.Panda: It stinks they had to cancel your appointment, good news is they are more likely to be able to find the heartbeat via doppler by giving them the extra time.

@however briefly: How frustrating! I would have been upset by that too, I think getting to tell the people you love your happy news is one of the most exciting parts and I hope you find a simple way to preserve that. In a similar vain, my sister's boyfriend posted on facebook when my dad died-- like literally 2 minutes later so we hadn't even had a chance to call my dad's family it is mind boggling that people can just not stop and think about the implications of their actions with facebook.

@Mrs tartan: I am glad you and your dh were able to have a chat. My husband is being great so far and really picking up my slack but the other day he had a 5 second hissy fit and said he just wanted his wife back. Frankly though, I can't blame him one bit, I am a total pain and utterly useless right now! I am glad you were ok after your spill, I hope your bruises heal quickly.

@Mrs tartan @mrspumpkin Thank you dear friend! I am about 6 weeks. I am currently trying to read through all the threads to catch up on the convos

So I went back to my midwife yesterday to have my levels rechecked- and I just wanted some closure, wanted her to tell me for sure I was going to miscarry. She said my levels barely rose, and she was 99% sure I had a blighted ovum and would miscarry soon. I asked for an u/s just to see, just to get my closure. AND WE SAW A BABY WITH A HEARTBEAT!!!!!!! I am shocked, my midwife is shocked, it's just crazy. I'm not measuring as far along as I should be, and my hcg levels are still very low, so she is "cautiously optimistic".

I'm honestly kind of in disbelief at this point, and it's been such a roller coaster- I was convinced there was no baby and I was ready to move on. But here we are (again). New due date is 10/25, and I go back next Monday to have another u/s. Both my husband and I are worried now that something is wrong with the baby, and of course it seems like my chances of miscarrying are pretty high... but we are moving forward!

I just wanted to say thank you for all of your support and kind words. Hopefully I'll be able to stick around this thread.

@LulaBee: oh my goodness! Such amazing news! I will be praying for good news at your ultrasound!
@Mrs tartan: I'm glad things are better with your DH. Bummer about the scan bring so late...I hope you can move it up a bit. I would be paying out of pocket too, if I were you. Or perhaps you could but a Doppler and find the heartbeat yourself? It might cost about the same and you could use it over and over. I borrowed one from another Bee and am looking forward to trying it out soon. I'll be 9 weeks tomorrow.

@LulaBee: omigod miracle baby, I'm keeping everything crossed for you. Wonderful news.
@bushelandapeck: how early can you hear a heartbeat? I seen an advert saying 10 weeks but lots of people telling me they couldn't hear it until far later, if be so worried if I couldn't find it and have another 3 weeks to go until u/s.
@cmbknyc: tell me about it, I am going crazy.
@mrskoloa: so jealous you had two scans, I'm so shocked they are leaving me so long!

I called to move my scan closer and they will not do it before the 26th, so I will be a few days short of 14 weeks. I am going to call round a few private places tomorrow, I don't think I can wait 3 weeks. Ridiculous I think, if something was wrong (god forbid) to leave me for that long.

@LulaBee: amazing. I hope baby keeps on growing.

@LulaBee: Wow! So so hopeful for you!!

@bushelandapeck: So I typed up this big email to you cause I want an opinion from someone who had a hospital birth... and then my sister said she's not comfortable with me discussing some of the stuff with someone over the internet. Bleh. I completely understand her feelings (it's pretty sensitive stuff for both of us) but I'm floundering a bit trying to feel my way through this with no practical experience to call on. Ah well, I saved the email so I'll send it your way if she changes her mind. Thanks for the offer!!!

So you ladies with dopplers, where did you order yours from and were they terribly expensive? I really want one so I can use it in a couple of weeks but really can't break the bank or else DH will have a fit!