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@Mrs.Panda: yay for getting to see your little peanut! I'm glad the doc thinks everything is going to be okay

@Mrs.Panda: yay for a scan and that everything is ok!

@bushelandapeck: maybe its just the stomach and it will be over soon sorry you are feeling like poo today

It has been one of those days for me as well, I lost it this morning when I opened the fridge and barely made it to the toilet only to find out my stomach was completely empty and I basically threw up foam basically any food smell is making me sick... even my beloved marinara. On another note I got my lazy butt on the elliptical and did a mile today! Though it shouldn't take 32 minutes to do it it's better than nothing right?

@Mrs.Panda: I'm so glad you had such a great experience and answers!!! Yay

Ihad some brown spotting yesterday and this morning so I went to my Dr today and got an ultrasound. My Dr however, was not as full of useful info as Mrs Panda's She had no explanation for the spotting which stinks. So I have to go back next week for another u/a to make sure everything is on track. Needless to say since I've had a miscarriage in the last 6 months the spotting and lack of explanation is not doing much for my fears .

@cmbknyc: How did the ultrasound look? I'm sorry your dr wasn't more helpful or comforting. I haven't had spotting myself but it seems pretty common in the first tri. Did you do anything that might have irritated your cervix?

@cmbknyc: Sorry your doctor wasn't more helpful. I totally LOVED the doctor I saw today but sadly I can't go back to her I hope the new OB is just as nice. I think it helped that I was one of 2 people in the office because it's brand new (the office is GORGEOUS!) and they didn't have much going on

@LulaBee: I hope everything goes well in today's appointment!! Let us know what happens

First of all, I am now going to be referring to my sister as SM (which is a common internet abbreviation for Surrogate Mother) because it's just easier that way. I apologize in advance for what will probably be many moments of confusion.

Secondly, at the midwife appointment the other day, they drew blood for Counsyl screenings. http://counsyl.com/ Anyone else have something like this done? It obviously works best when you have the genetics from both mother and father because even if mom is a carrier for something, it's not something the baby can end up having unless the dad is a carrier as well. We're going to wait and see what the results are which we should be finding out on the 20th. If SM is a carrier for something, then we'll see if DH is able to get our insurance to cover it or try to figure out how to do the testing here. Hopefully it won't be something we need to worry about or deal with though because I'm already having anxiety dreams and feel majorly stressed out because of this move, needing to buy a house in a rush when we get there, and iffy short term job security. Bleh.

We have our NT scan scheduled for 13w4d which both of us thought was really late for that sort of scan but the internet tells us it's okay up to 13w6d. Cutting it a little close but apparently they are booked solid.

As for that friend who outed me to facebook, she only made it worse when her "apology" was more 'you are being ridiculous' than 'I'm actually sorry.' Okay, so I'm probably overreacting. Her exact words were: "Ha, yeah. I wondered about it as soon as I posted it but I figured I would have posted it with or with out a pregnancy so I didn't worry. I'm glad you erased it since that's what works for you." REALLY? That's what works for me? Yeah, that works for me because I should be the one to tell everyone not her! Urg. I explained to her in a very nice way that it really upset me and stressed me out to have to lie to two people about it and she did apologize genuinely after that and I've put it behind me. To be fair, she has been getting ready for her daughter's huge 4th birthday party (that was yesterday) and her son has been uber sick as well so I'm sure that had a lot to do with it.

I just CANNOT wait for another 18 days when we can finally tell people. I find myself actually avoiding the computer nowadays because I don't want to talk to my friends because they are all so supportive and sweet and will ask me about how our TTC is going and I hate being a lying liar who lies. It makes me feel guilty and twitchy and I know I'm not doing anything wrong but tell that to my guilt-laden subconscious because it's not getting the message. Anyway. 18 days. I hope it goes by super fast.

Okay, I'm probably going to have a page of posts all to myself if I keep this up but I wanted to add, I just clicked on the due date twins forum and noticed that our October thread has 100 more comments than the June thread and is almost even with the July thread! We must talk an awful lot even though it doesn't feel that way!

Just checking in to say this is a super busy week for me - no time to comment, but I have been keeping up to date with everyone. I'll check in with everyone after my appointment tomorrow. I'm kinda bummed that it's just with the nurse practitioner…not really sure what to expect. It's funny how quickly you forget what happens at these appointments! I was just doing all this like 2 years ago! Lol.

hi ladies!

I had my ultrasound on Friday and we heard the baby's heartbeat

The doctor gave us a new EDD because she thinks I ovulated late so baby #2 is expected to arrive Oct. 19th

The doctor also said that I should stop nursing my LO in a few months; so our breastfeeding weaning journey begins...

@MrsScottish: you can use the EDD calculator here which might give you a better idea?
http://www.countdowntopregnancy.com/tools/due-date-calculator.php

@however briefly: I'm so sorry your friend was so dismissive of your feelings. I would be upset too, despite her having other things going on in her life.

@bunnylovesbear: good luck today!!!

@Mrs tartan: I would be totally fine with no sex in the first tri...DH however, would be very unhappy. As it is, with me feeling lousy last week, he is unhappy. lol.

@mrskoloa: Ugh, I hope your day flies by and you have a chance to pick up some snacks! And I totally hear you on the weirdness that is a growing belly. I am typically slim and pregnancy was a strange experience for me. I ended up really loving having a bump, but the initial extra padding before the bump was tough. I didn't start showing until 17/18 weeks last time but this time I am already feeling puffy.

@butterbean: yay for hearing the heartbeat!!

I'm still feeling lousy, but better than I was for a few days there last week. I was able to find the heartbeat on my doppler on Sat, but not on Sunday. Surprisingly, I'm not worried about it and will hold off trying again until tomorrow. I don't want to get too crazy about it.

@Rocker2014: Ugh, sorry to hear you had to lie all weekend-that is so exhausting! We had dinner with friends both Sat/Sun and I ended up telling people I gave up drinking for Lent....and I'm not even Catholic! Yikes. I am so looking forward to being to tell people without hesitation. I actually considered telling our family before our NT Scan in 2.5 weeks but decided against it. I want to wait and make sure that everything is okay with the little bean.

@however briefly: wow that is one rubbish reaction from that friend, I feel for you, you must be wishing you didn't tell her. What did you ever say to those friends who asked you after they seen her post?

@mrskoloa: happy 11th week! Mine starts tomorrow, I feel the exact same as you, sickness and nausea has really faded away as long as I eat non stop. I also had a huge all day meeting at work last week and I took in little snacks like dried fruit/nuts/sweets to suck on. I told the manager i was suffering from low blood sugar so needed to graze to not feel dizzy. Noone batted an eyelid.
Also with you on the bump front! No after sex bleeding for me, however I don't remember what sex is, so can't comment!

@butterbean: yay on hearing the heartbeat! I didn't realise you were currently bf, good luck on weaning

@MrsScottish: I would also use 31st oct as your due date until you know, it's always nice to be further ahead than you thought rather than behind when you finally get your u/s. my Edd is currently 1st oct but I think it will move to the 4th when I have my u/s.

@bushelandapeck: wow congrats on hearing the hb with the Doppler, that's great! I also have said I'm not drinking for lent and I'm not catholic either!

@Rocker2014: I'm also a fan of the lent excuse! When I can I drive everywhere, my DH is in the police so my friends are well aware I would never touch even one drink and drive. I also have said I'm on call at work, I'm on antibiotics and faked buying a drink in a pub (lemonade, no vodka!)...I seem to have had lots of invites to drink lately! My scan is the 26th, my best friends birthday night out is the 30th, I'm currently pretending to be getting ready for a big wild drunk night out then!

Nothing interesting to say new about my pregnancy, 11 weeks tomorrow, still no scan, still only my parents know, sickness fading and I'm getting rounder by the day

Who here is getting NT scans done? How do you feel about them? If you are getting it done, are you going to wait to tell everyone about the pregnancy until after the test?

Ours is scheduled at 13w4d which makes me really not want to wait to tell everyone. I mean, I know it's only a week later but even if the results come back saying we are high risk, it's not like we still won't be telling people. I guess I'm just trying to see if there are other reasons to wait until after the NT scan has been done.

@Mrs.Panda: @bushelandapeck: @Mrs tartan: I love my friend to bits and even after moving halfway around the world from her, we still had an amazing relationship. It wasn't until she started to have kids that this distance began to creep between us. I mean, I completely understand that having kids is extremely time consuming and exhausting but I felt like I was spending hours every week writing her pages long emails and only getting a sentence or two in response. It started to feel very one-sided. We still stay with them for a week every year or two when we are visiting my family and her daughter is our godchild but most of the time I feel like I'm more annoyed with her than anything else. I guess I told her about the baby right away because I was hoping that this would be something we had in common now to help bring us together again. So far it hasn't been working out that well. DH and I skyped with her and the kids a couple of weeks ago and during that conversation, she kept on making fun of me and how I was 'such a first time mom' and it was said in such a patronizing way that even DH who is usually totally oblivious to that sort of stuff, turned to me after the call ended and said, "Was it just me or was she extra bitchy today any time the baby was brought up?"

I'm starting to think the problem is that she has always seemed to idolize not only my marriage (hers has massive relationship problems which are only exacerbated by being in a lot of financial debt that is only compounded by the fact that neither of them seem to be able to manage their money and routinely overspend) but also our lifestyle of living in foreign countries and having adventures and traveling to all the places she's always wanted to see. I think having kids when we didn't was a way for her to one up us or something and now I think she's afraid that I'll one up her in return by being a better mom? I don't know. All I know is that if I mention any child development books I'm reading or expound upon the wooden toy I bought, she just acts oddly.

Yikes, I feel like I just went to my therapist. Sorry for unloading on you all. But to answer your question, @Mrs tartan: I just told my friends that we were still working on it and that I was in a hurry to get out the door but if they wanted to talk more about it later we could. I figure by the time we get around to it since they all know I'm super insane right now getting ready to move, we'll have made the announcement. Hopefully

@however briefly: Today was supposed to just be an office visit, but we ended up with an ultrasounds, too! yay!

Our appointment was at noon, and they asked us to arrive 15 mins early....and they were running SUPER behind today. I basically spent the entire afternoon at the doctor's office - we didn't leave until 2:20! We finally got called into the room a little after 12:30 and spent about an hour with the nurse practitioner. She was unable to get the heartbeat with the doppler, so she agreed to setting up an u/s for me today, as well. So we went down the hall to the lab for all sorts of blood work (I don't even remember what they were testing for - I always just say yes to any available testing, figure it's best to get all the info) and a urine sample, then down the hall some more for the u/s. We got to see the little bugger on the screen and he/she was flailing around, kicking its little arm/leg buds. We could also see the yolk sack, too. Heartbeat was 175bpm. Turns out my uterus is tilted a bit right now, which is probably why they couldn't hear the heartbeat on the doppler. Not sure why it's tilted and if that poses any concerns - I'll ask that at my next appointment. I was never told it was tilted with my previous two pregnancies. Although I guess I'm glad it's tilted bc it got me the u/s I wanted! I have an irrational fear of twins, so I was relieved to see only one baby on the screen! Lol.

Upcoming appointments:
4/8 - office visit
5/12 - ultrasound

We'll also be planning the 12-week scan shortly. The nurse practitioner was going to schedule it and call me with the date later this week.

@however briefly: Appointment was not good... we had an u/s but baby was measuring 6w1 day.... last Monday measured 6w2d so not growing at all- this is all when I should be 8 weeks along. There was a heartbeat but my midwife still thinks I will miscarry. My hcg levels are increasing but not by much. That plus the fact that the baby isn't growing...

This has been such an emotional roller coaster and obviously I want the baby to stick and be healthy. But if it's not, I wish it would just end already so that we can move on. It's so hard to have a little life inside me knowing that it's probably going to die... We keep getting our hopes up and planning and being so excited only to go back and get more bad news. I'm just over it. And I'm really sad. So, I will let you all know when I know something- back to the midwife next Tuesday for another scan and probably more bad news.

@LulaBee: I have been in your shoes...I know taking things day by day can be such an emotional roller coaster especially when the outcome doesn't look like it will be good. My heart and prayers are with you and hoping for the best possible outcome for you

So I called and made an appointment for Thursday with my regular doctor in hopes of getting a referral to get an ultrasound because I really want to be sure that everything is going okay so far before I go and pay the nonrefundable $400 deposit with my midwife! Hopefully my doctor will have mercy on my soul

@however briefly: We are having the NT scan and waiting to tell until after that. I would probably wait even if ours was scheduled for later than it is, just because we had a recent loss and I don't want to go through having to "untell" people again. And as for your friend..,.that is a tough situation. I have a couple of friends where it seems like there is always a competition of sorts and it's so hard. I have distanced myself from one in particular for similar reasons to you, and I don't have any regrets about it. I feel like we grow and change and sometimes our friendships have to end/change as well.

@wonderstruck: glad you were able to see that everything is going well!

@bunnylovesbear: yay for having an ultrasound and for already knowing when your anatomy scan is!! eek!!

@LulaBee: my heart hurts for you, friend. I have also been there and it is one of the hardest things I have ever experienced. I hope you get some answers and are able to move on, one way or another, very soon. ((hugs))