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@Pirouette: Makes sense!!

@Pirouette: I hope technology has improved!

So I went for my OB check up today. She's not like overly friendly or chatty. Which is fine. But gees. She's like the master of "NO". She said no to most exercises I asked about. (Even no to megaformer pilates... and i doubt she even knows what that is.) She said nothing good will come from having sex (contractions and such) so to just use my discretion. And she literally laughed when I asked about going to Maui at 31 weeks. She said 28 is max for that kind of travel. Ugh. At least baby girl is moving and kicking and seems happy and healthy!

@ShootingStar: I am so tired this week of unhelpful people. Thanks so much for this information. I really wasn't even thinking about a pump as an item for my to-do list, but I feel like its definitely something that deserves attention.

@agold: You're doc sounds very strict! Mine is the opposite -- when I ask about certain things she's very like, "Yeah, that's fine, no problem." Like with exercise, she said keep doing what you're doing as long as it feels OK and you're drinking enough water. It's interesting how much docs differ, because my coworker's is more like yours.

Side note -- I had the weirdest dream last night. I had the baby, but instead of the normal way, he just busted out of my belly like something out of Alien Except the weirdest part was I wasn't alarmed or concerned about it, just kind like, "Oh hey, the baby's here!" lol!

@agold: Fwiw, I agree with your Doc on the megaformer issue. A lot of the moves in that video put tremendous strain on your core and could actually cause disastasis (or make it worse). And the balance/flexibility looks like it creates a pretty big risk of falling, and you could easily strain your joints with all the relaxin floating around in your body (especially in a split stretch). That said, there are safe Pilates/yoga/barre moves for sure. But especially for a beginner, this looks like it could easily cause too much strain to the core/joints.

Don't be afraid to ask questions (like about sex!). Your doc is there to answer your questions and address your concerns. It's important that you feel comfortable enough with your provider to ask questions and bring stuff up. It's not easy! But it's so important. Maybe you could even write them down on an index card and bring them with you so that you don't forget or can let your doc read through them with you.

@agold: I think what I've heard from my friends in terms of working out after is something around six weeks? I mean, I'm sure you can go on walks and get exercise that way before six weeks, but if we're talking more rigorous exercise that's the typical number I've heard! Although I'm sure it can differ from person to person.

ETA: I've started to modify my exercise a bit more these days. I'm still doing a bit of strength training, but mostly squats, lunges, arms etc. I've stopped doing things that involve lying on my back or that I feel strain my core too much (like deadlifts, from the leaning over...) This is only based on my personal feelings, though. I have to admit, I'm kind of afraid of diastasis! Then I'll do the elliptical or a brisk walk on the treadmill. Exciting stuff

@agold: @MrsSCB: I think 6 weeks is about average (to get back to working out). You can typically do light activity beforehand, but it just depends on how your delivery goes. I had a massive hemorrhage, and every time I would push too hard (like taking the stroller around our hilly neighborhood), I would start bleeding again. So I didn't get the all clear until 8 weeks. But most of my friends were cleared at the 6 week mark. I hope that will be the case this time!

@MrsSCB: I've modified my strength training too. I've reduced my weights a little (to accommodate for my weight gain!) and also don't do core work or moves that require me to lay on my back. Mostly I just do what I feel good doing, which can vary from day to day. This morning, I did short bursts of cardio in between my leg super sets. Tomorrow I have planned just a long cardio session, but I'll decide for sure when I hop up on the elliptical.

@agold: ah, so she doesn't enjoy sex with a man at all! It all makes sense! ok totally kidding. Are her recommendations based on the fact that you had bleeding for a while?

Re the video, this is coming from someone who did ballet my whole pregnancy last time - those moves made me a little nervous. It looks like you could get really hurt, and your balance is simply not great right now.

Don't feel like a brat! It's hard and it's not fair that there's so much that's off limits when you're pregnant! What has your husband had to sacrifice?! (Well, sex I guess haha). It sucks and it's more than ok to acknowledge it sucks sometimes. Just because you're excited to be growing a baby doesn't mean you have to be a martyr about it.

obviously I had a c section, but 6 weeks is definitely standard either way. I walked a bit before that but any time I walked too fast or far, I started bleeding again. 6 weeks goes fast though when you're adjusting and not sleeping!

@pregnantbee: Thanks so much. I was literally having a tantrum yesterday and feel so much better about it all after having the night to think about it. I did have so much bleeding before and its like I just forgot about it yesterday. So I'm going to take it so easy. And thanks for suggesting swimming. I have a large community pool in which I could swim laps.

@Pirouette: Your comments made me laugh! And my husband hasn't had to sacrifice hardly anything. "Hardly" being the key word because he might differ on that opinion. And as for the megaformer pilates. That was like an advance version. Going into a pike is something I could BARELY do before getting pregnant and I wouldn't attempt it. But I've resigned myself to waiting at all for any of it until after baby comes. Maybe just spin classes done at a much more relaxed pace.

@MrsSCB: I don't wear maternity pants . . . except for fold-over yoga pants, which totally don't count. I do wear maternity skirts, but my booty is, shall we say, *poppin'*, so I don't have issues with sagging .

@pwnstar: Lol that is probably smart! It's so strange because I don't have a super flat butt, and they're also skinny jeans so fit tightly....yet somehow they keep riding down. Maybe because they don't have any kind of panel up high, they're just the low-rise kind with elastic in the sides. I guess waistbands are more essential than I realized! I'm learning so much from pregnancy

@MrsSCB: I haven't yet worn the one pair of maternity pants I recently bought, but I am finding that my normal workout pants aren't staying up. Don't know what the problem is. Rolling down my belly, maybe? But I was just about to purchase a pair of Paige jeans that have just some elastic on the sides. My friend warned me they would slide down.

@coopsmama: Haha! I actually didn't totally have a specific reason for picking her because she's a lesbian. I was in a bind when I had to pick a new OB because I was 12 weeks or whatever and my insurance wouldn't let me go back to my regular OB because I had switched medical groups in order to see my RE. I LOVE my regular OB. She's like a peppy sorority type cheerleader of an OB. I was devastated to not be able to stay with her. So I had to look for a new OB in new medical group. I preferred female, US colleges, residencies at good hospitals.. that sort of stuff. New OB had all of that and she's a black belt in some sort of karate. When asking around about her I heard she was a lesbian and I just sort of thought, "I'll take her!" I liked everything about her. So that's how I ended up with her. I actually still like her. I, myself, deal with clients, so I can appreciate how she deals with me. But just this last appointment with all the hard "no's" had me anguished. But I always generally do what I want anyways so.. yea... This girl is having a little fun this weekend, regardless! A little sex, a little exercise and some babymoon planning!

On the plane, headed to San Diego for our babymoon! Hope you all have a great weekend!

Hope you're all having a good weekend! I was at Old Navy today to return some things I bought online, and I found what I think will be baby girl's going home outfit! DS just wore a simple Carter's sleeper, and no regrets on that. I happen to be obsessed with hummingbirds (it was our wedding theme, too), and I found a couple sleepers with a hummingbird print! They only had newborn or 3-6 in the one on the left (white with coral birds), but had 0-3 in the one on the right (footless, but with booties and hat). Yay!

@ShootingStar: Thank you! Not sure yet which we will wear. Guess it depends on baby's size.

@MrsSCB: Have a great time! I'm jealous, I've never been to California!

@mrschickpea: So so cute! I actually loved one of the boy sets and forgot for a min that I could buy girly!

@mrschickpea: oh, those are so cute!

I finished my crib sheets, and am getting to work on the changing pad covers. We finished painting our bedroom and it looks great!

I've also made the decision to give the baby a bigger dresser, and take a smaller one for myself. We have a closet with built in shelves, so I think if I really cut down my excessive wardrobe I can make it work. It will be so much easier to have a bigger changing space and more drawers for the baby. But I'm nervous- It will require me to be a lot more conscientious about my shopping habits. I guess now that I know I will be mostly at home for the next several years I can just focus my wardrobe on casual stuff, with a few pieces for work and dress up. But I'm bad at letting go of stuff....

@agold: You'll find that everyone is different when it comes to recovery from birth and comfort leaving the house. I barely went anywhere for a month after and tended to stick pretty close to home. I didn't really want to bring LO to many contained public places before immunizations at 2 months. When I did, I was either wearing him so people were less inclined to touch....or he was in his bucket seat with a cover over him which also gave a good "stay away" message.

As for me, I wouldn't have been comfortable going anywhere at 3 days b/c it took me awhile to, uh, even be able to sit down comfortably after delivery.

I went to look for a few maternity pieces today. I actually got a few regular non maternity things that I think should work the rest of the pregnancy just in a few sizes larger than my norm (tops, not bottoms obviously) for a great price at TJ Maxx. I was thrilled because I really dislike most maternity tops except for the super expensive ones and I'm not about to drop a bunch of money on clothes that I will just ruin while working with my kids all day. I also ordered a couple of skirts from online and a few basic maternity tank tops. I think that should work just fine for the rest of the pregnancy - hooray! I've given up on shorts and pants haha. I am so much more comfortable in skirts and dresses.