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@JoJoGirl: I think it's pretty expected to have concerns, doubts, second guesses, etc. I have them sometimes- like how will I manage sleep deprivation and a toddler, why am I rocking the boat when we have this perfect kid, etc. I imagine that the concerns will come and go, coupled with excitement (remember it's way less real for him right now, I'm sure he will be thrilled when he can feel kicks!).
@pwnstar: I work two days a week, and the two nights before work I have the worst time sleeping. If I wake up, which is pretty inevitable with a toddler and a noisy cat, I cannot fall back asleep. I'm prone to anxiet, so I think the tiniest amount of worry or even anticipation about the next day just sends me spinning.
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pregnancy induced insomnia is the worst! I'm usually a good sleeper, but when pregnant i toss and turn all night just unable to stay asleep. It is so brutal, and I can't remember if it was worse in the 1st tri or throughout pregnancy for me. I know it's always been one of the first signs I'm pregnant!
@Silva: "why am I rocking the boat when we have this perfect kid" - this is the hardest part to imagine for me. i love my daughter and our little family so much, it's just so hard to imagine purposefully adding another to the mix! But I also felt this way when it was just me and DH and adding LO has enriched our lives so much, so I know that will happen twofold when we have our second.
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@Silva: @Pirouette: "Why am I rocking the boat when we have this perfect kid?" This is my biggest struggle . . . we are in such a good place as a couple and a family (and DH and I worked really hard to get back to a good place!), that I think I'm crazy sometimes to be doing this!
@Silva: I have clients emailing at all hours of the day/night, multiple conflicting deadlines, incessant, never-ending decision making, simple tasks that become ridiculously complicated, and I just never feel like I have a handle on everything. Yesterday, I was a total rock star and dealt with a ton of stuff like it was nothing. Today? Today I feel so overwhelmed and I just want to go home and bury my head in a movie.
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@Pirouette: @Silva: @pwnstar: Yes exactly! We have hit such a good stride with her, she sleeps great, DH and I both have plenty of down time, division of duties etc. Why are we f*&#ing things up with another?!
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Holy cow I've been way out of touch lately! Sheesh! My DH was out of town for a bachelor party all weekend and so of course my body decided it was the perfect time for debilitating yucky feeling and exhaustion. Honestly if it limits itself to the weekends I will be ok with that. my work environment isn't exactly conducive to keeping our little secret. Just a few more weeks though hopefully!
To answer some of the questions from earlier in the thread...I would like to be team Green but my husband wants to know. Since this all came together much more quickly than we were expecting (surprise!) I think I am going to give in to his desire to know. Plus I think it will help with attachment and bonding.
Birth plan, I have no idea! I'm sure I'll do some reading at some point and make a decision. The majority of my closest friends are actually CRNA in L&D so I have a feeling I will opt for an epidural if it is an option for me. Sadly, I am not local to their hospitals so I wont have the benefit of having one of them with me...
One thing that really interests me is placenta encapsulation...has anyone done that? Obviously, I've only heard about the good things but I'm super curious to know if "real" people
have the same good things to say as those that I have read about in reviews, etc.As for travel, I'm planning to do as much as I can for as long as I feel good about. I am headed out to COlorado at the end of the month to visit some friends and plan to ski. I'll trust my gut when I get there as to whether I execute my plan or not but I have been skiing my entire life so it doesn't seem high risk to me.
I am wondering about switching my OB as well. Her office came highly recommended by my mom friends in our area but two things have kind of given me a strange feeling. One- we have a family history of birth issues and so I wanted to be screened for the defect as soon as we decided to start trying. I am Homozygous C677T MThFr. She told me this and was like here, you need to boost your folic acid and put me on folgard. This diagnosis (or genetic issue identification) is somewhat polarizing amongst medical professionals to begin with. Blasting your body with foil acid is one school of thought. The other is that this mutation actually means that my body cannot process synthetic folic acid at all and I need to be on a methylated version of folate instead. So, I am following doctors orders on this and taking the folic acid, but I have also majorly upped my intake of high folate foods to try and supplement that way too. That's the first thing, the second is that when I went in for my first appointment and they confirmed the pregnancy, I didn't get any sort of "now that you're pregnant...."information what so ever...no here's what you avoid, here's what you should do. Nothing! Maybe it's because Im 33 she just defaulted to thinking that this wasn't my first but sheesh, I'm being forced to Dr. Google just about everything because I don't know! What would you ladies do?
Ok end rant. We told my parents last week after our appointment and they were ecstatic! This will be the first grand baby for both so that's pretty cool. We're waiting to tell DHs mom because we're not sure how she's going to react. Without going into it, she's not exactly the most positive, pro-me person on the planet.
Finally, even if we don't stick with this dr, we had some bloodwork done at the last appointment for some specialized blood test (I think Panorama?) so we go back on 1/28 for results on that and another ultrasound.
No bump per se here yet, though I feel gross. I was eating pretty carelessly the first 6 weeks before we found out so I've fortunately been able to clean my diet up and maintain my weight (about 5 lbs higher than normal pre-pregnancy) for the last two weeks rather than slow and steady gain. I'm sure that's only for a little while longer though.
Sending you all nice warm/dry thoughts. It's in the teens here today and snow is blowing like crazy! I'm in and out supervising some contractors trying to locate a valve on a water Main!
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@coopsmama: I've been having some of the worst sleep of my life. My hips are starting to hurt, it takes forever to fall asleep, and then I wake up a ton of times. I never had this with DS, I was so exhausted I would just crash and sleep pretty good until the end, when I had to get up to use the bathroom. Now, even when I'm utterly exhausted I struggle with sleep :(.
To go back to the babymoon topic, we won't be taking an explicit babymoon, but we do have 2 vacations planned. We are going to Florida next month, and then we're going to the Cape in June. I'd really love to do something in May for a long weekend, but I hate to ask my parents to watch DS in May, and then they have to drive out again a couple weeks later to the Cape.
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@coopsmama: yes to the trouble with sleep! It doesn't help that I work exclusively on the graveyard shift
I've been waking up at noon or 1 o'clock and not being able to go back to sleep. I'm so so tired at work.Looks like I spoke too soon about the planned babymoon. I found out that my boss quit and turned in his notice
I work in a small environment that is 24 hour shift work so until the higher ups figure out what to do without him, I doubt any of us will get any sort of approved time off for the next few months. I haven't shared with them that I'm pregnant so that should be interesting. Hopefully they have a plan before August 
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@JoJoGirl: My first is/was an excellent sleeper. My second not the greatest sleeper but he was predictable. He still is predictable and finally getting to be a decent sleeper. I am concerned about what a newborn will do to that but maybe the third will be chill and a great sleeper and my second will slide in to being a great sleeper.
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@MrsRcCar: I think that's what makes me nervous - my first was a HORRIBLE sleeper up until like 6 months ago when she turned 2 and the tot clock started working. We've had 6 glorious months of sleep and I'm like what are we doing screwing this up?!!?
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@JoJoGirl: We actually kind of look it as our LO1 is so amazing, there couldn't be anything better than having two of him. Probably sounds kind of dorky though, lol.
We've had great sleep since we sleep trained at 7 months. Sleep and dealing with the newborn stage was one of the big reasons we were looking at adopting a slightly older child. For now I'm just putting my head in the sand about all the newborn stuff
. I plan on sleep training earlier this time (close to 4 months) and I'm just hoping that the 2nd one gets my sleep genes just like the first. DS always loved sleep, he just needed to learn how to connect his sleep cycles.
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@JoJoGirl: @pwnstar: @Pirouette: @Silva: I think this constantly. He sleeps well, is more independent than ever before, he's a good kid. What have we done?? Mostly jk. But still nervous about how we will balance it all after we introduce more love and chaos into our lives.
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@coopsmama: I have one baaaad night per week but for the most part, I'm too tired to wake up! After I get the kids in bed, I can barely speak. I'm so exhausted!
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@JoJoGirl: I was surprised how my second and third baby slept in comparison to my first! Hopefully it'll be better for you as well!!
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@ShootingStar: I think that's a good plan
the newborn stage is so short but so incredible. I don't think it always has to be crazy! I get that some babies are harder than others but I want to stay positive and believe that I'll deal with whatever comes my way, when it comes my way -
@pregnantbee: @pwnstar: Thank you!!
I'm also a little nervous about adding a second child to the mix. Of course I'm thrilled, but change makes me nervous. DH is all "oh everything will be fine", but he is much more laid back than I am!
Is anyone else so tired that it makes you over emotional? I haven't gotten much sleep the last few nights, and it seems like I'm ready to cry at the drop of a hat!
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@JoJoGirl: we just put a clock in my LOs room last night for the first time because she's been coming to our room asking to snuggle the second she wakes up. this morning she ran to our room yelling "mommy, look, it's green!!!" i was so proud of her for waiting - of course, i didn't sleep well anyway.
I can't say LO is a bad sleeper, but I'd definitely say she's an ok sleeper who has had a lot of issues. she STTN almost immediately from birth until 5 months, when she started reverse cycling because of undiagnosed silent reflux (undiagnosed until almost a year later!). so for that year, she woke up to nurse once or twice, but otherwise slept well, and once we got her on reflux meds, she immediately started STTN. she does struggle with early wakeups when she's teething or sick, but overall she probably would've been a decent sleeper if we weren't too dense to diagnose her reflux!
@pregnantbee: introducing more love is such a crazy thought. I know people say you don't love your first LO any less and your heart just grows, but it's so hard to imagine not just having my LO! BTW did you guys open the email???
@MrsKerch: I don't know anything about it, but could you maybe raise the other studies with your doctor and see how she responds? if she's totally dismissive and you think they are legit, she might not be a great match for you. re the lack of information, my doctor is very much willing to sit there all day and answer questions about what you should or shouldn't do, but doesn't give unsolicited advice. My first appt with her was super short because I didn't have questions. That wouldn't bother me unless she wasn't willing to sit with me and go over questions if i had them.
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@CoffeeMom: *raises hand* I had a mini panic attack thinking about my LO eventually being in elementary school. All alone. With big kids. Ummmm, she's 3. *sigh* And I am so overhwhelmed at work (today) that I have spent most of today (procrastinating) behind a closed door just in case I start to cry.
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@CoffeeMom: i teared up today seeing a picture of someone's new baby. I'm like the most unemotional person usually, so that is just not me at all. I don't even like newborns! (except my own of course)
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@Pirouette: I'm not generally a *softie* either, especially at work (there's no crying in baseball!). Effing hormones!
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@pwnstar: I know! (love that movie BTW!) I did not have this issue with my 1st, poor DH is like "what is happening here?!"
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@coopsmama- count me in too. I fall asleep fine, but after a few hours, I sleep very light and then usually wake about 3 or 4 and am up for 1-2 hours. I'm lucky I get to nap most days, but id rather sttn.
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Now I'm the one saying that this thread moves to quickly!
I love hearing about everyone's babymoon plans, and I'm sorry to hear about the neighborhood drama. @Silva: Work anxiety is always the cause of any sleep problems that I have.
@pwnstar: Today has absolutely overwhelmed me work-wise as well. Working from home sucks. I'm working on the couch and I really just want to nap all day long and its like everyone connected to my work has gone crazy today! As for all the girls "worrying" about adding a second child to the mix, umm... I'm a tad worried about adding a first child to my mix!
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@agold: haha I know, this group is so active. my group with my 1st LO was so intermittent, I guarantee we've already surpassed the number of posts in that group over the course of 10 months! but it's definitely helping pass the time during the slow moving first tri
I was extremely nervous about adding a first child to the mix. I'm happy to report I love her dearly and I can't imagine it any other way now 
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@agold: Eventually life before kids becomes like a dream you had
. You get used the new normal and when you like back it's like "wow, hard to believe life was ever like that!"
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@Pirouette: Uh, I don't even like my own newborns
Of course I love them, but I like them a whole lot better once they're 1. At least that's how it was with my son. I'm hoping the baby is easier. Son was NOT a good sleeper. That killed me.
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@Pirouette: I do love the fast pace of this! Always something new for me to read up on. I'm so glad to hear your report that you love your child dearly!
Hahaha. I already love this baby in my belly so much. I just have thoughts like "will I ever sleep in again?" Silly thoughts, I know.@ShootingStar: I can't imagine that life now will become like a dream. I swear I live such a nice DINK life right now.
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@pregnantbee: Ha! You just made me laugh. Thanks, lady.
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@agold: Always
And don't worry: You can totally handle adding a 1st to the family. I barely remember NOT having my son with us.
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So......we clicked on the gender results link in the DNA email..... and
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It's a
!We'll have one of each! I can hardly believe it.
Also, I just moved my NT scan up a week so I can shorten the time to be able to tell family and work. I don't feel comfortable sharing with those closest to me until after we've had a better look at development, even though the genetic test was good.
Here's the updated U/S schedule:
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1/11: Shootingstar
1/13: agold
1/15: coopsmama, MrsRcCar NT scan
1/16: Glitter, CoffeeMom
1/18: pregnantbee NT scan
1/25 dcw6411 NT scan, mrschickpea NT scan, HLK208
1/27: stratosphere CVS
2/1: pirouette, oldpueblojenn NT scan
2/8: MrsSCB NT scan -
@pregnantbee: Thanks. I honestly can't wait for this baby. I'm praying so hard for him/her to keep growing strong!
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@agold: nah, we still have wine, meat and cheese for dinner sometimes after LO goes to bed! just feed the kid something else first. I was terrified about giving up my freedom, and I won't lie, there are things I just don't do anymore that i used to love. But I COULD do them, i just choose not to because I'd rather spend that time reading a goodnight book to LO or whatever.
@pregnantbee: haha I would definitely agree with this. LO was a pretty easy newborn and I still was looking forward to getting through the early months
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@pregnantbee: EEEK!!!!!! Girls are the BEST! soooo happy for you!!
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@pregnantbee: Woo hoo!!!! A little girl! How amazing! I'm so excited for you. I love baby girls. Congratulations! And one of each sounds just perfect to me.
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@Pirouette: I'm really really hoping I can go with the flow a bit better this time and have an easier time with a newborn. At least I know more about what to expect this time?
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@Pirouette: Thanks for sharing your thoughts. And its an interesting perspective - you still CAN do the things you used to love, but you are CHOOSING to do something else you love - reading to your baby. That's really a sweet perspective.
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And updating the August list, too, due to my update
August 2016 Mamas
August 2: dcw6411 (#3), coffeemom (#2), pregnantbee (#2 )
August 5: mrsgiraffe (#1)
August 8: mrschickpea (#1
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August 11: silva (#2 ), coopsmama (#3)
August 13: glitter (#2), littlepinkhouses (#2)
August 15: gracey19015 (#1), mrsrccar (#3)
August 16: oldpueblojenn (#2 ), mrsscb (#1)
August 18: jojogirl (#2), pwnstar (#2)
August 19: stratosphere (#2)
August 20: agold (#1)
August 22: shootingstar (#2)
August 25: hlk208 (#4)
August 28: mrskerch (#1)
August 29: clairhuxtable (#2)
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@pregnantbee: since LO was IUGR, there was all this pressure for her to gain weight, and i swear she must have heard it, because she ate NONSTOP during the first few months. Like literally I nursed all freaking day. It was winter, so I never left the house (and i didn't have a car, so i mean that literally, I left the house only for doctor's appointments). It was all just a blur. This time, if the baby is that small, I think I will do things differently. Get the baby on bottles earlier, maybe introduce formula. Just try to get myself some breaks, because I can't be that subsumed by an infant and also be there for my older LO. With my first i was so resistant to introducing formula or anything, but it made my life so much harder than it needed to be. Since this will be my last newborn, i'm hoping to enjoy it a little bit!
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@Pirouette: @agold: Thank you! I might have screamed when I saw the results. I also might have scared my son. Oops.
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@agold: it's true! i could have someone watch LO while i do something after work. but I don't want to miss bedtime. being a working mom, I see her so little, and she grows up so fast, i don't want to miss a moment. it's such a cool feeling
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@pregnantbee: Congratulations!
I've been waking up at noon or 1 o'clock and not being able to go back to sleep. I'm so so tired at work.
. I plan on sleep training earlier this time (close to 4 months) and I'm just hoping that the 2nd one gets my sleep genes just like the first. DS always loved sleep, he just needed to learn how to connect his sleep cycles.
the newborn stage is so short but so incredible. I don't think it always has to be crazy! I get that some babies are harder than others but I want to stay positive and believe that I'll deal with whatever comes my way, when it comes my way 
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