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@pregnantbee: DH had a vasectomy and we got pregnant six months later, however his tests are showing now that his vasectomy was successful. We are a bit worried about the quality of that swimmer, as his body had likely produced and then stored it for 6 months before it was used.
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@dcw6411: OH! Well, that's crazy. Can it really be stored for that long? And you must have been shocked!
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@OldpuebloJenn: I am with you on the threenager front. Maybe the are conspiring against us?
How funny, my DH and SIL are bio siblings that were adopted too!! Much of her drama stems from this and her constant comments when she is angry to her parents that they aren't her real parents. You would think she is 12....
That is so wrong that your in-laws didn't even acknowledge your MC. That would be so hard, especially because you would think they would understand your situation having been there before.
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@pregnantbee: I have no idea. LOL! Maybe a new one slipped through at the last possible second? He was cut, cauterized, and clamped though, so I don't know how that would happen. And omg, we were beyond shocked! We got rid of everything baby in this house over a year ago. Of course, now we want this baby more than anything, but it was a bit of a emotional roller coaster there for a minute. I keep telling my DH if this baby sticks it is truly a miracle!
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@dcw6411: That's incredible! I'd definitely be floored in the same situation! I really do hope baby turns out ok.
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@dcw6411: oh wow, she is a piece of work! I honestly think the best thing is for her to text your dh these questions instead. At some point maybe he'll reach his breaking point and put her in her place, but if not, at least you don't have to be the one addressing it. And that's a crazy story about the vasectomy! Was the doc at all concerned?
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I was going to use the word miracle too btw. It truly is!
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@pregnantbee: Thank you I appreciate it a lot! I am so hopeful that we get to meet him or her one day.
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@Pirouette: That is a good point. He might actually get annoyed enough to tell her off (which in my opinion someone needs to set her straight eventually ). I know he holds back a lot out of respect for his parents, but if she keeps up with the daily messaging he might get pushed to that point.
The doc seems less concerned about potential issues resulting from the sperm than we are. He is certainly more focused on the multiple SCH's and contractions, which should make us feel a little better. I think sometimes it is so hard to just think that miracles can be miracles, so we have psyched ourselves out a bit about potential issues. I think that our hearts will feel better following the NT scan though, and if anything does come up we can plan the best way to proceed.
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@dcw6411: i know what you mean. While certainly not a miracle, I got pregnant with my 1st 2 weeks after my doctor told me I would need clomid and possibly fertility interventions to get pregnant. So I definitely felt a little like that. But, all you can say is that right now you are pregnant! I can't wait for you to have the NT scan behind you.
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@pregnantbee: hugs! I always got nervous before ultrasounds
I'm praying it goes well for you!!
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@dcw6411: Wow!! You've said so much in the past few minutes. First, that is truly a miracle baby you are carrying. I cannot even imagine how special that baby is to you and your husband. If the doctor isn't worried about the sperm/vasectomy issue, then you shouldn't worry about it right now either. Secondly, I'm so sorry that you are having bleeding AND contractions. Wow. I can't imagine the contractions. But you know what, even if you have to stay on bed rest the entire pregnancy, child care for the little ones will get worked out as well everything else. So try not to worry about that either. As for your sister in law... oh gees. I like how other posters have called her "special."
I would either ignore her like you are doing or text her something like "hi, thank you for your concern, but can you please hold off on all of your questions for the next few months as your brother and I focus on our little family." Or you can say, "please leave me the f*** alone." however, you think is best. I have a special family member, too, and normal conversation doesn't work with that family member because that person's brain isn't rational like a normal person. Its tough. Best of luck to you with this. But no matter what, don't let her bother you. Just try to laugh at her, because really, these types of people are comical.
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@dcw6411: oh man--I can't imagine. That had to be so surprising and scary when you weren't expecting it. I hope this baby is okay!!
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@OldpuebloJenn: I'm sorry about the 3s!!! My 3 year old is being difficult this week. Its wearing on me!
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@dcw6411: gosh, I'm so sorry about your SIL! I would also just ignore like your DH said. Give a huge eyeroll and breathe!
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@pregnantbee: enjoy the facial, lucky lady!!!
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@agold: I think special is the perfect descripton.
Thank you for the encouragement! Hope you are doing well too! @HLK208:
I feel better just typing it out to you ladies. I think I'm going to just let DH deal with it and do exact that.. roll my eyes and breath.
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@dcw6411: Oh my gosh your SIL would have heard it from me by now! You are handling her excessive concern (and I do mean that - this is way beyond what is normal and expected and okay) with far more grace than I would be. Just continue to ignore her. I hope your contractions will stop. That is so hard.
also hoping you are able to get childcare figured out so that you can just rest up and and not have to worry about anything except keeping your sweet miracle baby safe and sound. @pregnantbee: I'm sure Monday will be here before you know it! Only one more day to go, really.
Today has been a rough day for me nausea and vomiting wise. I cannot wait for the second tri to get here and hoping for the relief that could potentially bring. (It did with my second but not first.) Tonight I stayed home while my kids and DH went to a family dinner at the ILs and my DH just texted to tell me that my just turned 18 yo SIL is engaged to her 18 yo boyfriend. Neither of them have any education, he literally just got his first job as a vacuum cleaner salesman this week, and I guess they decided now was a good time? He is a really interesting guy and I have to say I am so much happier here at home watching a chick flick and relaxing then being at this celebration haha. I'm just blown away that my ILs are on board with this. Anyways...totally off topic, but I just heard the news and am frankly shocked.
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@coopsmama: I'm so sorry you are having a rough day. And that is totally shocking news about your young SIL. Could she be pregnant? And I'm always amazed with what my extended family gets on board with. Maybe I'm such a ninny!
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@coopsmama: uh, yes, I'm so glad you got to enjoy an evening in while feeling so sick!! I'm so so sorry you're dealing with MS
I haven't gotten sick yet but the nausea is really not fun. I gag and dry heave a lot. And
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I'm sick with a cold and getting up today was nearly impossible! So ready to feel better. DH is taking care of me at least...I'm glad he's not at work because taking care of the kids would have been so hard while alone, sick and nauseous.
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@agold: I would doubt she's pregnant. They strongly believe in not being sexually active before marriage. But I guess it's possible! And I'm totally a ninny too. Haha. I just see the value in education and time to grow up before making such a big decision right out of HS. And that said, my husband and I were still young when we got married - he was 22 and I was 21. But I really did mature a lot between 18 and 21 and had some fabulous experiences - not to mention we got our degrees and my husband was able to step into a phenomenal job. I will really encourage my kids to grow up a bit before making life changing decisions like that!
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@HLK208: Oh no! I hate colds. Especially when you're pregnant and can't take any meds to make the day more bearable and take care of things like sinus pain or whatnot.
So glad K is there for you and hopefully you're getting some good rest time in. Thank goodness for good husbands.And yes!! I was so glad not to be there and have to fake excitement!! Neither of them are planning on pursuing education. His family really looks down on advanced academics it seems like. So I really can't imagine what the future will hold for them! But I do wish them well, I hope it doesn't seem like I don't. I'm just amazed by the timing and what my FIL was thinking giving his blessing.
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@coopsmama: I also wanted to finish college before getting married. I think its great to grow just a little bit more and you are right - the difference between 18 and 21 is so big. Hopefully they grow together and all will be fine!
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@agold: I'm laughing because I finished my degree but have never once used it. 3 babies later and it will be unlikely I will for awhile...even if I got my dream job I don't think I could ever afford childcare for all of them.
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@coopsmama: Now I'm laughing because I have used my degree and I'm totally over it! I can't believe how getting pregnant has just completely dropped most any work motivation I had left at this point.
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@HLK208: I hope you feel better! Im having a hard enough time motivating myself without a cold, I can't imagine.
@coopsmama: what's the rush? I can't imagine making that decision at 18. I feel that getting married straight out of high school is tough if you haven't had any personal responsibility yet. But hopefully they will find their way together! I hope your ms passes soon
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@agold: haha I have been a waste of space lately with work, for a variety of reasons. Are you planning on going back to work after having a baby?
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@Pirouette: Yes, unfortunately I am planning to go back. I really cannot imagine living on one income. I also make a little more than my husband does so we'd be cutting our income more than in half if I quit. I'm becoming less vain as I get older so I suppose I could very well live on such a reduced income. But that's such a huge decision that we aren't ready to make. My mom volunteered to watch the baby a few days a week and my husband has a crazy, yet awesome, shift schedule allowing him some child care days during the week. I'll try to work from home a couple days but if I can't hardly do it now while on bed rest, i can't imagine doing it with a baby at home. So time will tell. I'm trying not to worry about it too much at this point but child care issues was one of the reasons we put off having kids for awhile so I've clearly thought about this way too much for someone whose only like 8ish weeks pregnant.
What about you? Will you go back to work after you have the baby?
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@agold: What field do you work in? I don't envy you having to figure out the child care stuff. That's one thing in our situation that has been easy - I got pregnant (unexpectedly) six weeks after marriage and so I never got a big girl job
and never had to make a tough decision like reducing our income or quitting a job I love or finding the right childcare situation. I don't always love love being a SAH mom but I do like it most days so I think I will be here until our youngest is school age. Thankfully we live in an area that is low cost of living so we've never felt too squeezed by the one income - otherwise it would be a much harder situation!!
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@agold: it's tough, I was super stressed about child care when I first got pregnant the first time, but it really all worked out so much better than I could have imagined. Having your mom around to help is going to be huge for you, especially with the idea of going back to work and leaving your lo.
As for me, yes I'm going to work post baby, but I'm in a weird situation right now because I'm nearly positive im switching jobs in a few months. Not great timing with the whole being pregnant thing, but sometimes you just have to roll with it! So I have no idea what to expect in terms of maternity leave or anything, and I'm just trying not to look too far ahead right now
I'm concerned I will feel pressured to take a short leave and work longer hours when I get back to prove myself, but we'll see. Somehow I just feel good about it all, for now!
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@coopsmama: I do consulting for various projects. Its tough but where I work I've been able to get great flexible hours. Your SAH life really sounds like a dream!
@Pirouette: I think switching jobs sounds exciting! Please keep me updated on it. Do you know where your new job will be? Have you told your new place that you are pregnant? My good friend switched jobs while she was pregnant and it worked out fine. And try not to feel that pressure you talked about just yet. Its almost always a pressure that we put on ourselves and you don't need to do that necessarily. You will do great. Please keep me updated about all of this!
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@coopsmama: Awwww, I'm sorry about the nausea. I hope it passes soon. As for getting engaged at 18? I can't even imagine that. I'm glad I had time to figure out who I am and establish a career before getting married. I didn't get married until my 30s since we didn't meet until we were 29
That pushed us older for kids, which isn't ideal, but it is what it is.@HLK208: Feel better soon!
@agold: I am a FT WOHM. As it gets closer, feel free to ask any questions. I'm a little overwhelmed thinking about juggling a preschooler and newborn and then returning FT. Eek!
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@agold: I will keep you posted, obviously, because I'll be freaking out every step of the way and need support
my boss accepted a job at a new place and has asked me to come with him. He hasn't given notice at my job yet, and until he does, I can't talk to the new place, so I haven't even interviewed yet, though I think that's somewhat of a formality given the circumstances. I'm just hoping I can interview before I start showing so I don't have to tell them until after the initial interview (though I will definitely tell them before I accept an offer). I'm still 2 weeks away from my 1st appt, so I can't tell anyone until after that. My boss plans to give notice mid feb, so I think that's when I'll have more info. So January is just a long month of waiting for me, all around! I think it's partly why I freaked out that I had to wait so long for an appointment!
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@pregnantbee: you are so sweet. i will definitely hit you up for advice as time goes on.
@Pirouette: that's amazing your boss is taking you with him! you must be one smart, hard working girl, good at what you do!
this is an even better job switching situation than I had first thought. you will do great!
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@agold: haha thanks! It's an amazing opportunity if all goes through. I'm just anxious about what my work schedule will be like and balancing 2 kids! Just tough timing. But also probably better I'm pregnant now than right after I start. At least itll be out in the open I guess?
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I'm so missing out on all the convos.. The past few days have been hectic. DH was rushed to hospital Fri because he was having palpitations, headaches and nausea. The tests haven't shown anything definitive and he has some more to do tomorrow. So my ultrasound never happened, had to reschedule to the 25th. Will update the chart when I have a minute. Hope u ladies and your babies r all doing well,
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@Glitter: how scary
I hope your DH is okay! I'm sorry!
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@Glitter: Oh, no! I hope he's ok.
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@Glitter: Oh no! Thinking of you and your husband, that must be so scary. I'm sorry about your rescheduled ultrasound but am glad to hear it's still relatively soon. Keep us updated.
I feel better just typing it out to you ladies. I think I'm going to just let DH deal with it and do exact that.. roll my eyes and breath.
also hoping you are able to get childcare figured out so that you can just rest up and and not have to worry about anything except keeping your sweet miracle baby safe and sound. 
So maybe I'm being an old ninny and just need to get over it. 
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