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@chibee: that's the one i have and used with lo. i couldn't find the heartbeat until about 12 weeks but i'm definitely not small which may make a difference. how far are you again?

@locavore_mama: It was all a whirlwind... my situation was not the norm. In a nut shell, a company that I interviewed with over a year ago called and said that they still hadn't hired the position and wanted me to re-consider. I said I was happy at my current job, but that I would of course meet with them. I met the first time and really liked the way it sounded - he was selling flexibility and, at the time, we were TTC. Well two weeks later we get back together and I had found out I was 5 weeks pregnant (face palm). I ended up making the decision to tell him I was pregnant since we were talking salary and I knew that I wouldn't be covered by FMLA. He COMPLETELY shocked me -- offered more salary, the option to work part-time at home (my current office doesn't allow that), and 2 months paid maternity leave. Needless to say, I said yes! My only real concern is that my suits are already feeling a little tight and I feel like my professional appearance is not up to par - I hate presenting myself for the first time to clients that way, but hope that they will understand I'm knocked-up and in a hell of my own making (aka morning sickness).

@locavore_mama: We are very excited - my husband travels for work during the day (going to doctor's offices throughout the state), so it'll keep us from being completely dependent on my parents for emergencies.

@chibee: i definitely think it's possible! i watched soooo many youtube videos for tips and techniques and i think it really helped! good luck!

@chibee: glad to hear you're feeling better today! let's hope it stays that way!
@BakerBee: congrats on the job!

@msmug: Yay, glad all is well in there!

So DH told me last night that his mom offered to be here for the whole month of August. Yikes! (They live in S. America). I like his mom a lot, and I know she would be a big help, but I'm not good at having house guests. And there is no way that DH would be able to take off the whole month to entertain her until baby. I told him that I want his parents to have the experience they want, but we won't NEED it, since my family is all in town. I'm sure my mom is going to want to be here all the time too. I don't know what reality will be, but my instinct is that I'm going to want space for us to figure out this huge life change. I guess we have a lot of time to figure it out

@msmug: thanks for the positive thoughts! Great to hear that you had an encouraging appointment today and that they are switching you over to an OB!

Congrats @bakerbee! Sounds like some devine job intervention! I have found the Gap Maternity clothes are great for work. Maybe a few staples will get you through those first client meetings.

@chibee: I have the sonoline b. I think i could hear the hb around 10-11 weeks. I didn't try any earlier tho but it might be possible to hear it soon!

@msmug: yay glad everything is okay!!

@Mrs.Someone: mm i would try to hold off on her visit. the beginning is a big adjustment, esp if you plan to bf. while i appreciated people visiting, it was hard to always have to escape to another room to try to bf. and then the stress of figuring out how to bf. and then when the baby is sleeping u just want to sleep but then people are around so you have to entertain them. hah maybe this is just my experience tho.. but if i could chose i'd have them come maybe a month or two later.

@Mrs.Someone: oh my i don't deal well with having guests in my house so that would stress me out! I think my mom is also under the impression she will be coming here to "help us out" for the first week or so but i really just wanna try to do this on our own and figure out a routine so that'll be a no. Do you feel comfortable enough with your SIL to talk to her about some concerns that you have?

@mrskc: @T.H.O.U.: @Mrs.Someone: @locavore_mama: thanks for the get well thoughts! I cleared my weekend schedule and basically spent the whole time in bed, which was just as well because my nausea was insane. But it definitely seemed to help me over the worst of the cold! I hope Mrs.Someone and locavore_mama you both are feeling better too!

We told our families (parents/siblings) over the weekend, and everyone was very excited for us. My mom was so shocked. I didn't tell her we were TTC and she said she thought we just never would have kids, because we've been together 11 years and I'm 35, have never talked about it, etc.--plus I'm not a particularly maternal person... She is sooo happy for us, but was super surprised. My dad knew that we were TTC but was worried it would be difficult for us, so he was sooo happy too. So happy in fact that he POSTED IT ON FACEBOOK YESTERDAY!!!!!

I am from a very large family and had told everyone except my big sister, and was planning to tell her yesterday, when I got a text from her in the morning saying "You're pregnant??!!!? Dad just posted it on FB."

I was SOOOO upset, because I had spoken to him for 40 minutes on Sunday night and had said at least THREE times that it is VERY early (I'm 9w1d today) and many people don't even tell their families yet due to the chance of miscarriage, so we are ONLY telling our immediate families right now and want to keep it under wraps. I told him so many times!

I called him from my office super upset and basically yelled at him and said "take it down, right now!!" He was so flustered and said, "How? How do you delete a post? I was just excited. I thought you were excited too!" OMG I said "yes of COURSE I'm excited but I don't need the WORLD to know right now; what if we lose the baby?!?! I TOLD YOU THIS last night already!"

UGH. So he deleted it. And the good news is that he is a relative FB newbie and hadn't "tagged" me or my husband, so it only showed up in his feed to his friends. It was up for about 90 minutes from what we can tell, and about 5 people "liked" it before he took it down--some of his friends I don't know, and three of my cousins. But I don't think it leaked to the "larger" world of me and my DH's 100s of FB friends (which includes many co-workers too).

Moral of the story: if you are silly enough to tell your family as early as we did, maybe be explicit and say "And when we say we're not telling anyone else right now that means YOU CAN'T TELL OTHER PEOPLE EITHER, and DEFINITELY DON'T POST THIS ON FACEBOOOK!!!!"

*end rant*

I called my dad back 30 minutes later and apologized for yelling at him and told him it was OK and not a big deal--no harm done. He felt so awful. What a stressful blip!

So I just got back from my first ultrasound appointment and there's good news and bad news...

There was a nice strong heartbeat at 141 bpm but the baby is measuring 8 days behind. The dr wasn't concerned and said that even having an IUI that implantation could have been later. I go back in 9 days (1/23) for a repeat scan.

I just feel really down about it. 8 days is a lot! I'm not one to have a positive attitude in general so this is really feeding my pessimism.

@stratosphere: omg my last pregnancy (which ended in a miscarriage) we also made the mistake of telling our families too early, and i mean like within days of the BFP. Then i get a facebook msg from a friend (our moms are close) "i heard the news, congrats!!" i was flabbergasted - i explained to her that i was VERY early and if she could keep this under wraps i would appreciate it. She was so apologetic and sweet about it, she had no idea it was this early, her mom had told her who heard it from my mom within HOURS of me telling her!!!!! I was FUMING - i mean i must've had steam coming out of my ears. This time, we told our parents after we heard the heartbeat - and STRESSED that it's STILL too early and they are to tell NO ONE. How hard is it to keep a secret?????? I feel your pain.

@stratosphere: Omg!!!!!

I know my mom is going to tell people before I absolutely want want to but holy cow good thing she's not on fb!

@Mrs.Someone: i'm suppose to be 7w2d but i was measuring 6w1d. i know this might be stretching it but i compared my ultrasound from my lo at around the same time and on his the baby is really zoomed in on, while today's the baby was just like a speck on the screen. i don't know that he could have gotten a super accurate measurement with it so small? i'm really frustrated now thinking it might could just be his error.

@chibee: that's what my husband keeps saying but it's hard not to worry! i'm just going to just try to put it out of my mind (even though i know that is impossible.)

@Mrs.Someone: it was definitely zoomed out. i could see way past my uterus while on lo's my uterus and baby are front and center. the doctor did the ultrasound himself and read the results. but he definitely stressed that he thinks everything will be ok in the end. i mean, i think he would know what he's doing so i'm not trying to seem like i know more than him, but there is definitely an obvious difference in the two ultrasounds. i wish he had given me a picture so i could post a comparison.

@kodybear: yes, he never zoomed. even dh was confused because he said he kept waiting for it since that's what happened with our first lo. isn't it weird?! i don't know, it kind of felt rushed. i'm not sure how many time he measured it, but i know he didn't look to see how far i should be until after i was dressed and we were in his office. i wish he would have just rechecked, i would have had no problem undressing again!

@jmarionsmith: wow, i definitely think the measurement is off then! even when measuring from close up, the u/s tech's measurements were still different each of the 3 times she measured for me. i can only imagine doing it from so far away that the measurement difference would be worse. if it were me, since im super impatient, i would get an elective u/s somewhere else in the meantime. but i definitely agree that it might be his error!

Appointment update: Baby looks great and had a good heartbeat!!! So happy!! I thought I was 7w4d and the doctor said I was 7w but my ultrasound says 7w1d on it. Can I get my due date changed to August 30?

@msmug: Glad your doctor was able to give you some reassurance today. Did you get to see the babies?