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@MaryM: Oh no. I hope you get good news tomorrow. How far along are you?
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@dominobee: 6w2d
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@MaryM: oh honey.. I'm so sorry. That's scary. Are you cramping?
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@CatchAFallingStar: no. That's the only hopeful thing
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@MaryM: so scary. I'm so sorry you're dealing with the stress. I'm glad you already have an appt scheduled for tomorrow. If it makes you feel any better, my miscarriage didn't start with clots; I think clots tend to happen with SCH. The no cramping is a good sign. I'm thinking about you, and will keep you and baby in my prayers tonight
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@MaryM: Good luck today
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@MaryM: oh no! I'm praying for you and hoping for a good appointment today.
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irrational fear: I saw the baby a week ago - saw the heartbeat.. didn't get to hear it and the dr didn't tell me bpm.. but did agree with me when I said it looks fast. I measured 7w 5 days. Have an appt in 2 weeks at 11 weeks 2 and 4 days - for NT and my normal monthly OB appt. and I'm scared the baby's heartbeat won't be there. Still have lingering symptoms and extremely tired. Have never had a miscarriage before and have given birth to one beautiful boy 4 years ago. So I know im being crazy.. but can't help myself. I think I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop so to speak.
Sorry for the post - but sort of just wanted to vent. Hopefully, saying it/typing it will get rid of my negativity.
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@dcrumlish29: I totally get it. You're safe to vent here. I have similar fears after having been through a miscarriage at 10w. I think those kinds of fears are totally normal
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@dcrumlish29 @bushelandapeck: I have the same fear - that we won't see a heartbeat and that growth will have stopped. My nausea is improving (though it was never really debilitating to begin with) which is part of what makes me nervous. But I'm still periodically gaggy and super tired, and I'm trying to regularly remind myself that some women never have nausea. I talked with one at a BBQ on the 4th of July actually, and she is now, at age 40, 6 months pregnant with her first child.
The thing is, worrying won't change the outcome. So I keep telling myself to think positive and hope for the best.
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Everything looked great today! Baby measured a bit ahead. So relieved!
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@MaryM: fingers crossed for a positive visit today.
@dcrumlish29: I also have the same worries, even more so after having had a miscarriage. The biggest thing to focus is that today you are pregnant. Also helps to vent.
@CatchAFallingStar: yay for a great appt! 🤗
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@CatchAFallingStar: Hooray!
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I've had cramps almost daily... but no spotting or anything. The cramps aren't severe but they feel so much like the beginning of a period that it makes me nervous. Also my joints (hips and knees) feel inflamed which also happens before my periods. I'm on progesterone suppositories which might reduce the possibility of spotting altogether? Ugh I don't know. Women who have been pregnant before - does this sound normal to you?
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@dominobee: Sorry I'm lurking since the March board hasn't been started yet.
My first (sticky) pregnancy I pretty much felt crampy the whole first trimester.
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@SweetiePie: Thanks for the insight. Maybe I'm having double the cramps because there's two in there? So hard not to worry about every single little thing.
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@dominobee: I'm no expert but I would imagine your uterus needs to stretch faster than a singleton so it could mean more intense/frequent cramps.
I know it is unsettling though. I'm also on progesterone suppositories and they drip out as I'm sure you know (so gross) so that paired with the cramps has made me run to the bathroom a couple of times to check. Really feels like my period starting. -
There was a gestational sac measuring about 6 weeks (I'm 6 weeks, 3 days)
So it's possible it's just early. I'm still worried they didn't see the yolk sac though.
We're following up on the 17th.
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@dominobee: i like your outlook. might as well enjoy it since we have no control over what the outcome will be.
its funny because I thought after my first I wouldn't be so paranoid and worried all the time, but was definitely wrong just the same concerns as before!
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@MaryM: what was your doctors demeanor?
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@SweetiePie: I was only able to see the nurse practitioner.
At first she tried to say my ovarian cyst was the gestational sac (but I knew it wasn't. Plus it measures 10 weeks! Lol)
She said if we hadn't bled at all, she'd have said "congratulations! There's a gestational sac measuring 6 weeks."
The bleeding just makes it more unsure and scary. And because I'm on HCG shots because of recurrent loss, we can only wait a week for another ultrasound. Betas wouldn't be accurate at all.
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@MaryM: I'm sorry you're dealing with such uncertainty. Be kind to yourself and indulge in your favorite things this weekend.
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@MaryM: I am so sorry about the uncertainty, I have been checking multiple times today hoping to see a good update! We are all rooting for you and baby. Sounds like the measurements are within the margin of error, though, and I remember you saying you chart was confusing this cycle? Do you feel like the NP spent a good amount of time searching for the yolk sac?
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@MaryM: so sorry you're going through this! Were you able to see the heartbeat?
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Went a little overboard on the food today thinking my nausea was pretty much gone. I ordered Indian food last night and brought leftovers today - only ate about half of that, then reheated coffee from this morning AND ate a brownie. Now I feel terrible with nausea and indigestion. "I am so smart, S-M-R-T!"
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@JJ2626: what was the heart rate and your first ultrasound? How far along were you?
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Baby's heart rate was 118 today. Dr said that was excellent. Google seems to have a different opinion and says anything under 120 isn't great. What were your early fetal heart rates?
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@dcrumlish29: now that I've seen the heartbeat, that is my fear too. I'm trying to take it just one day at a time!
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@dominobee: cramping is normal, since your uterus is stretching out. I've also noticed mine tend to pick up if I haven't been drinking enough water! And I totally understand about the being too bold with food! Ha. My eyes have been continuously bigger than my decreasing stomach. Symptoms come and go; try not to worry too much about it.
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@CatchAFallingStar: glad your appt went well!!
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@MaryM: I'm glad you were able to see the sac. It sounds like the measurements are within the margin of error, as others have said. Sorry for all the stress, but I am keeping my fingers crossed that it was just some rogue blood and all will be well at your next appointment!
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@CatchAFallingStar: Our u/s tech told us anything over 100 is good. Ours were 117 and 124. Ignore Dr. Google (I should take my own advice.)
Also, DH was like "OMG what if those were their birthdays?" I was like, honey, they're twins. They're going to be born on the same day. Haha!
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@dominobee: how far along were you with these heart rates? Haha! Oh, husbands.
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@CatchAFallingStar: That was 6w3d. She said those were good heart rates and seemed pleased.
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@dominobee: ok
thanks!
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Been personally invited to a party tonight. Not by the host, who I only sort of know, but by their neighbors who I know much better. They invited me to come over and hang out ahead of time. I don't really want to go to the actual party but I'd like to hang out with just the two of them. I have not told these guys that I am pregnant yet, and I really want to go and hang out, but I know it would be weird to not drink because we always have a beer or two when we hang out. And the thing is I kind of want to have a beer anyway. Is this crazy? DH is out of town and I'm just at home bored, and the two in-town friends I have who know I'm pregnant are not available to hang out tonight. Should I go and just have one beer? I'm researching drinking in the first trimester and of course they say there's no safe level of alcohol. But then I see online lots of pregnant women have had one drink here or there with no problems. Would especially love to hear from women who have been pregnant before! Am I torturing myself with this decision for no reason? Should I just go and have one beer? I haven't been very social since I found out I was pregnant (I used to hang out with friends 1-3 nights a week) and it's starting to take a toll. I'm feeling a bit sad and lonely especially with DH out of town.
ETA: I don't plan on bringing any alcohol with me, but if they offer something I'd like to accept.
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@dominobee: I will jump in here and say that I have had drinks here and there with both of my pregnancies. Still pg with #2 but my first was totally fine. No doctor will ever tell you it is ok for liability reasons but my SIL is a doc in the UK and would have a glass of wine while pg and most people in Europe are ok with having a drink here and there. I def wouldn't pound hard alcohol or a shot and I find I don't really want more than a small amount when I have something. I found this article pretty helpful in framing my thinking about it. http://www.slate.com/blogs/expecting_better/2013/09/11/drinking_during_pregnancy_what_the_experts_don_t_tell_you.html
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@KNS: Thank you! I was starting to feel guilty &'selfish for even asking the question.
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@dominobee: it sounds like you really want the social interaction and feel like the beer is just a part of that. I'm guessing if you go and get a beer that you'll prob have a couple of sips and then that will be enough. I don't think you'll hurt your babies either way, but I think you don't want to do anything now that you might look back on and regret if something were to happen (reiterating I don't think this would actually cause a problem but I just think the first tri is a good time to avoid what-ifs).
For what it's worth, with my first LO I had a weak prosecco drink at xmas time and a small beer another time. So both in the 3rd tri. That's when I'll feel more comfortable personally having a drink if I really want it.
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@dominobee: No worries, I also drink caffeine (tea, not a coffee drinker) and will eat some sushi so I am likely more lenient than lots of people are. I have found that when I don't feel so restricted that I often don't want that much of whatever it is. But these are things where you have to take your own risk tolerance into account!
thanks!
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