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@Chillybear: I'm just having my DH, our doula, and another doula who is also a birth photographer may come in toward the end if we request it. I don't have any particular interest in having any family members in the room, and no family members have asked if they can be anyway. I think only you can know if you'd be comfortable having your brother's girlfriend. Of course, if you ask her to come and you end up feeling like it's not working, you can always politely request she leave. Have you spoken to her about it?
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Bumping for ghost page.
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@IRunForFun: It also helps to get dad involved with the feeding and if you ever needed to be away from baby for more than 2+ hours at a time. When I first started pumping at 5 weeks, the LC had me pump after the first morning feed for 15-20 min and I usually got 3 oz. I would save that in the fridge until Hubs got home from work and he would do an evening feed while I would go pump. those 3-4 oz would go into the freezer to start building a stash.
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@snowjewelz: @IRunForFun: I don't mind having her there, she's very low key and calming person in general. I'm discussing with hubs bc i dont want it to take away from his experience. My mom was around in the delivery room until it was time for the epidural and then the pushing then she went to the waiting room with my dad and brother. TBH my husband was not the best support person my labor was very boring and he's not a good conversationalist. When it came time to pushing I don't know what he thought would happen but he wanted to stand behind my shoulder and not witness anything but they made him hold my leg for the 2 plus hours I pushed.
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@Chillybear: Hahaha!! I pushed for 2 hrs too.. I was an angry person... I kept yelling for him to get my ice chips so that's what he did. I didn't look/talk to anyone in between b/c I was so tired I would close my eyes and rest and wait for ice chips. Felt so bad for the poor guy haha! I think my sister/my mom were just like
But my sister literally thought it was the coolest moment of her life to see DD1's head emerge. I was like good for you... I don't even want to see that!
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@snowjewelz: There was a quite a few random nurses, residents, hospital people there the first time that i have a feeling I might not care who's in the room/what she sees. I would hope that if this is the line of work she wants to get into she wouldn't be weirded out by seeing her future SIL from the waist down, but who knows.,...
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@Chillybear: Haha seriously, if this is what she wants to do, WHOSE hoo-ha it is shouldn't phase her
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@Chillybear: If you are comfortable with her being there, and your DH is, I would go for it.
Only DH and I will be in the room again this time. My parents were in the waiting room, the whole time I was in labor (they didn't listen to me and came right away) but I never had them even come in the room till after she was here. We wanted it just about DH and I. Heck it was two hours after she was here before we let the grandparents and my sister come meet her.
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@Smurfette: Oh yeah, I've already told everyone there will be no waiting in the waiting room or visiting the baby right after birth. I'm actually hoping for no visitors until the day after baby is born. I think that's what my parents have done with my sisters babies - or they might have visited in the evening when my niece was born at like 6 am. But I'm anticipating some pushback from MIL. Already having issues with her...
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@IRunForFun: I didn't care they were waiting. I just they were crazy for coming so early. I called when we left for the hospital and told them I would call when I got checked out. By that point they were pulling in the hospital. Mom just really wanted to be there, why I am not sure since not like she in the room. We only waited so long to have them meet her cause we were waiting to get her weighed and bathed and they were backed up. Then I wanted to nurse and I almost passed out. They were great and stayed like 20 mins and then they all left. Then it was the next day before we had visitors. Which I liked having some, the hospital is pretty boring.
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@snowjewelz: A split year baby would be wild! I would be
too! I'm dreading figuring out the carseat situation. I drive a two door Civic...we'll see if we can make it work this weekend. @IRunForFun: Our nursery is the same way...it's all there, but it's not pretty.
@Smurfette: I have a big sister shirt for DD1, but have no idea what to put the baby in! Something warm, I guess.
Your outfit is precious!@Chillybear: @Smurfette: Ugh, the pump parts. Probably my least favorite part of baby-hood. I haven't even opened my new pump, and I know I need to sanitize all my old parts, but I can't make myself face it yet!
@IRunForFun: I don't know if you necessarily need to bring the pump to the hospital, but I'd also recommend starting an AM pump on maternity leave pretty early--I wouldn't have made it without the backup stash that I collected during that time. After I went back to work, I used a frozen bag every day and then froze a new fresh bag to make sure nothing got too old.
@Chillybear: Just DH. My mom tried to stay last time, but I am NOT comfortable having anyone that I see in real life experience that much of me! I personally wouldn't want another family member in there, but if you think you could interact with her in the same way (and she is a professional in training!), why not?!
Saturday night was kind of crazy for me. I had painful contractions (full back pain/cramping, labor type, not BH) for several hours. They were pretty close together, but the timing wasn't consistent (5 minutes, then 7 minutes, then 4 minutes, then 10 minutes...) so I just waited it out and finally it went away overnight. I was so worried that we were about to get a super early baby, but all is good! Kind of made things more real though--I really need to make sure I have everything squared away.
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@babypugs: That is scary! Glad they finally went away!
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@snowjewelz: Sorry, worded that incredibly awkwardly--I just meant a baby born around the turn of the year!
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@babypugs: oh hahah I was like is there some special tax thing I don't know about?! lol!
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@babypugs: Glad the contractions stopped!
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I've been following along but not posting as things at work are pretty busy! I have under 7 weeks left until due date but I'm not going back to work after Christmas . I live in Canada and the snowstorms we've been getting coupled with the fact that I bus / walk part way to work has really solidified that I made the right choice.... I've bought a few fuzzy sleepers for baby girl but other than that I haven't done much / anything! I'm hoping to have her sleep in my room for the first year so no preparing a nursery this time around... It feels so close and so far away at the same time!
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@babypugs: I'm glad things calmed down for you! I've been getting period like Braxton hicks but same as you nothing timeable and they go away... I had SO many Braxton hicks last time that I wasn't even going to mention them to my midwife. It's hard to know what's normal and what's just your body preparing.... Did you call your doctor about the contractions?
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@babypugs: Yikes!! I'm glad all the action stopped and baby didn't make a crazy early appearance. Thanks for the pumping advice!!
@Peasinapod: I've been having tons of Braxton Hicks - like several hours of more than 6 an hour. Only a few have felt mildly menstrual cramp like. I mentioned it to the midwife this morning and she said that might just be my "normal" and that I should call to get checked if they don't stop, get closer and more intense and develop a true pattern.
@Smurfette: I think I'm just most worried about my MIL. She's super pushy and if she were in the waiting room I could see her somehow talking her way into the delivery room or into recovery immediately after birth. She's one of those "I know best and I know what you should be doing better than you know." She's really entitled. That's mainly why I don't want her in the waiting room or even to know I'm in labor. I told DH he can call her after the baby is born. And they're a 3.5 hour drive away so I know I'll have AT LEAST that much time.
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@Peasinapod: That's awesome that you're almost done with work--it'll be nice to have a bit of time to relax.
Yes, I had a ton of BH/semi-painful/painful contractions last time too so I didn't want to call unless I was absolutely sure something was going to happen. I told myself that if it hadn't gone away by morning, I'd call. Not exactly within the "recommended" guidelines but if I called every time that I had 4 in an hour I'd be on the phone constantly!
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@IRunForFun: Oh that sounds tough in that case, if DH was ok with it, I wouldn't call till baby was here too!
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@IRunForFun: Sorry you're dealing with MIL drama.
Why don't people understand that it's tiring to give birth and most people want some family time afterwards?!
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@IRunForFun: Weekend good, we also did some work on baby's space in our room as basement reno's for extra bedroom won't begin until January!
I am feeling okay....literally every other day good day and bad. Feeling large, and uncomfortable lots, but really enjoy when feeling good!
@snowjewelz: You induced maybe on 29th, @littlecasita1122: maybe on the 26th....I am so not going to be first
@Smurfette: How was sprinkle? That sounds super fun!
@Chillybear: Just DH. My Mom would looooooove to be asked to come in I think, haha....but no way. I really (really really really) want birth photography, but feel (felt....as it's too late now, lol) guilty that I would let a "stranger" in, but not my Mom, and the spending....but ugh!
Reading what you posted about when you started pumping (5w) thank-you for posting that. I bought one for the first time this time, and want to pump only to build a stash so I can quit at 6 months, and I already feel a little pressure of the unknown with parts and the machine (lol) itself. I feel totally clueless on anything pump related, but am looking forward to learning.
I am reading here lots, but on my phone and I suck at typing back when on there!!
I am so interested to see how labour and delivery goes this time. 38 hours total, 2 hours pushing with DD (plus 2 hours for placenta deliver issues). DS was 12 hours with two pushes, lol. I had about 20 minutes of long and strong contractions late last week and was like....omg!!
37w tomorrow. Doc appt tomorrow too, nothing crazy expected, we are all sick in our house. My DS had a puke day for 7 hours Sunday, so I am still waiting to see if anyone else catches it. The rest of us are just stuffy with head colds and DH has a brutal couch. Bleh!
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Her end of our master! Rocker, dresser, bassinet. We have our two dressers, night stands and a queen bed too, so it's a little tight, but is cozy and totally works for us for now!
ETA> we live in a bungalow and in our main bath we have a massive counter and change pad and all that "stuff" is in there. DS still in dipes (though will be trained once he is home with me, he's ready!) so keeping that stuff central and just in one spot as we live on one floor!
I am hoping that outfit will be her coming home outfit, and I need to make her a hat!
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@Smurfette: @sunnyday: My mom and i are very close, she's seen me at my worst and is unfazed. She's a really good caretaker and distraction. The way she feels is I'll always be her baby and if something were to happen to me/baby she would want to be there, so I get it.
With my first baby, I didnt allow my inlaws anywhere near the hospital or my house for a week after birth. my niece had given my SIL, BIL and MIL hand foot and mouth and the ped said no way until the sores are gone. I'm sure they probably resent me for that too.
@sunnyday: the room looks so cute! I need to take a few shot of our nursery space.
Just found out my hubs has to go on night shift this week... whomp! whomp! Thank god we moved closer to my parents
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The weekend has been good. We went to a siblings class that was only helpful in finding that our hospital has no issues with bringing kids.
I still need to order my pump, but just want a more portable one. I have one at home and a symphony at work, but I may need to travel this time.
For labor, I don't even know if I will have my DH there. He may be watching our son. We still have a lot of work to do on the apartment, but I finished grad school finals today and don't start back at work til the 27th, so I have some time. I have no idea what the baby is going to wear home.
Hope everyone else is doing well.
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@sunnyday: Looks great! I love that outfit. Looks so cozy.
@Chillybear: urg, bad timing on the night shifts.
@Mrs. Toad: Oh no! There isn't anyone else that could watch your son?The sprinkle was fun. We got diapers, mostly bigger sizes which is awesome, and some cute gowns and clothes. I need to pick up some newborn diapers this weekend. I also remembered today I need to wash all my nursing tanks so they are ready to pack after Christmas.
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@sunnyday: I'm roughly the same alternating between good day/bad day. Baby's area looks adorable!! You're so organized! I hope no one else in your house gets sick.
@Chillybear: Boo on the night shifts! That's tough. My DH's regular shift is 2 to 10:30 pm and he usually works an hour or two or overtime; it won't be changing after the baby is born and I'm nervous about those evening hours alone. Yikes I don't see how your ILs could resent you over the HFM thing. That's serious business! I know of a doula client whose husband couldn't even be with her at the hospital in labor b/c he'd gotten HFM from their toddler.
@Mrs. Toad: Hope you enjoy the time off before you start back to work!!
@Smurfette: Glad the sprinkle was a success. Oh boy, I need to add "Buy nursing tanks" to my list.
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@IRunForFun: I am packing those and a cardigan/hoodie with yoga pants for the hospital. Comfy and practical.
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@Chillybear: my husband and our doula will be in the room! our family is all far away, so even if we wanted them there it would be logistically pretty tough!
@babypugs: glad to hear things calmed down for you a bit!!
@IRunForFun: I was SO scared of the pump the first time I used it. My LC recommended waiting 3 weeks before I started and I made my husband read all the instructions multiple times to help me the first time I used it. After that I pumped in the morning about an hour after her "first" feed of the day, and then once in the afternoon while my husband gave her a bottle (to help her get ready for daycare). I put the morning milk in the freezer to help build up my milk stash (since I travel occasionally for work I needed to have about a week's worth in there before my first trip). It really wasn't scary at all (just annoying) once I figured it all out!
@sunnyday: your coming home outfit is adorable! I still haven't figured out ours.So my parents live a 4 hour flight away and my husband's mom lives a 7 hour drive away. Last time they all basically hit the road once we were in "real" labor and were here a few hours after we gave birth. They all visited in the hospital a few times (and stayed at our house, which was AWESOME because we came home to a sparkling clean house and a stocked fridge- thanks mom!!) and then everyone left when we came home from the hospital. Our rule was we wanted the first two weeks at home as a family and then everyone could come visit after that. This system worked out perfect for us last time, and will hopefully again this time! We have friends watching our daughter when I go into labor and then the grandparents will take over once they arrive.
In terms of nursery, we are doing nada until the week between Christmas and New Years. I'll be using that time to finish decorating (we moved some stuff with our daughter to her new room), sorting and washing clothes, and all that jazz!
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What is everyone packing in the baby's hospital bag? Other than a coming home outfit, a hat, and a blanket to go over the car seat on the ride home, I'm kind of at a loss. Assuming the hospital provides diapers.
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@IRunForFun: my hospital doesnt provide pacifers, baby book, boppy pillow, Swaddle pods (my first loved these) Hat and mitts and make sure car seat is ready to go and gift to LO1 from new baby
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@IRunForFun: I am bringing the boppy, couple sleepers, coming home outfit, booties, hats, headband (I can't help it), blanket, and wipes. Our hospital provides dry wipes, I hated them, but everything else they provide (swaddle, diapers, even a pacifier). My friend works there and I confirmed what I packed last night was ok.
I am going to text my friend when I am in labor so she can come in and she will give baby her first bath and all that stuff. They allow you to request people, which I never knew. So she can come in clock in for a couple hours and then go home, if she isn't on her shift.
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My hospital has eeeeeverything! I waaaay overpacked last time, and since DH isn't staying overnight post birth, this is really my list -
Nipple shield (I had to use them for a period of time w/ DD1)
Pump flanges in my own size (I might just forget this if I'm just pumping to stimulate milk to come in)
Leggings/nursing tank/shirt
Flip flops/slippers
Charger
Hairbrush/dry shampoo
Clothes for DD2
Water bottle
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@Chillybear: @Smurfette: @snowjewelz: Thanks! I've never even heard of dry wipes, that's weird. I guess I'll bring a pacifier (not sure if they provide them) and a swaddle just in case.
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@IRunForFun: I hadn't either. You are supposed to wet them yourself. They should give you a swaddle blanket. We came home with like 4.
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@IRunForFun: our hospital pretty much provides everything. for our first, we had the coming home outfit, an extra swaddle blanket, and a "special" blanket because we took some baby pictures of her in it at the hospital. other than that, nothing! I'll probably do the same this time.
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@IRunForFun: might be different in Canada . My hospital only really supplied diapers for baby. There was a hospital blanket that she was swaddled with while in hospital but she wasn't allowed to bring it home. And no wet wipes. I'll definitely be bringing wipes this time.
I ended up catching a virus that's been going around my office... Pretty sure it's just a cold had a fever for 1 day and feeling better today but still no appetite . Lost 4 pounds in 1 day .... I hope what they say is true and baby just takes what they need.
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@Peasinapod: Don't worry, baby is safe in there. Take care and feel better! I'm down with a cold too!
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@Peasinapod: feel better!
My feet are looking swollen tonight. Not as early as last time so I guess that is good. I calculated my weight gain today, it is depressing. I hope BF goes well and helps me lose it again this time, especially since it is higher and I have 3-4 weeks to go.
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@Peasinapod: Wow that's surprising that's all they provide at your hospital! No wipes at all? Crazy! I'm sorry you're sick. I had two colds so far this pregnancy and also random other weeks where I either didn't gain or I lost weight due to medication changes and baby has been fine. Feel better!
@Smurfette: I finally had to give up and take my rings off this week. When I wake up my fingers look like little sausages. I'm just waiting for the ankle swelling to start...
So I had an allergic reaction to the TDAP vaccine. Got it Monday at my appointment and at first it was OK, but by yesterday it swelled up and was red and sore. I iced it and took Tylenol but by this morning the redness and swelling were spreading down my arm, along with red streaks, and it itched like crazy. Went to the midwife to have her look at it and she said it's a histamine reaction. She wants me to take two Benadryl every 6 hours for 48 hours.
Thankfully I'm not working right now because I took just 1 Benadryl and passed out!
But my sister literally thought it was the coolest moment of her life to see DD1's head emerge. I was like good for you... I don't even want to see that!
Your outfit is precious!
Why don't people understand that it's tiring to give birth and most people want some family time afterwards?!
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