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Just wanted to update everyone that our ultrasound wasn't good news today. The sac looks the same as last week and they can no longer find a heart beat. I'll be heading in for a D&C either Monday or Tuesday of next week.
I wanted to wish my May 2014 mamas a happy and healthy 9 months. We got to hug our DS a little tighter tonight and hope you all get to do the same to your babes in May
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@2PeasinaPod: Hurting for you, I feel like I am messaging you from all angles all of a sudden, sorry if annoying. Hugs....
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@Mae: I like your comment on even numbered weeks, and totally agree. They feel more substantial for some reason!!
@mrsog: Glad you are feeling relaxed and positive!!! Exciting about telling more people soon!
@MamaCate: Time will fly!! It is insane how quickly the weeks go.
@Mae: Great about official due date and telling more people! How have the phone calls gone?! LOL about telling Grandma!
@HabesBabe: lol about just one, someoneeee of us has to have two in there, we'll see who it is
I hate writing positive things to others as I am feeling for the two May Momma's we've "lost"
Feel guilty.
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@2peasinapod Sending lots of love your way. I am so sorry for your loss.
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@twodoghouse I know EXACTLY what you mean!! I feel like 6 weeks is so much more "legit" pregnant than 5 weeks.
@Mae I'm so glad that you had a good appointment! How exciting!
We probably aren't going to make a FB announcement until the 12 week point but after we tell my family (when I'll be 8 weeks) we will start telling friends as we see them.
@Glitter LOL about this being like the TWW all over again. You are so right!!
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@2PeasinaPod: my heart just broke for you. I'm so sorry. Sending prayers your way for you and your family.
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@2PeasinaPod: I'm so so sorry to hear this. I'll be thinking of you and your family.
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@2PeasinaPod: I'm so, so sorry to hear that!
@Beebug: Phone calls have been great! And numerous! lol. I had to call two bridal clients to cancel on shooting their wedding and I was really nervous about it, but they were both super sweet. I called my best childhood friend and she freaaaked out about being an aunt and wanted to book her plane ticket here for the birth already! Called DH's mom and she freaked out and cried. Called DH's dad and he was literally speechless. And then called DH's sister and she started talking at a decibel only dogs could hear she was so excited we'd have babies close together (she has a 10 mo old).
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@2PeasinaPod: Thinking about you. So sorry to hear the absolutely crummy news. I'm glad you got an extra squeeze from your DS tonight. Sending love to you.
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@Mae: yaaaaay for a great appointment. We literally ARE due date twins! Even though we're not so secretly hoping for a 5/5 Cinco de Mayo baby.
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@Beebug: Do you ever get sick of telling the story?!? I mean, it is pretty amazing. Congrats on the good appt!
@MRSOG: Glad things went well yesterday.
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@MRSHONEYBEAR: nor yet, lol. I had to tell the u/s booking lady and the one tech when I booked too, last they saw me was when they discovered it was really missing, lol. They didn't get the follow up! I know one person (what are the odds) this happened to as well (only hers was a copper one and she got pg with it still in) but no one I've talked to medically ever has, just "read about it" lol, frig! I am happy to laugh now only with safe/healthy pregnancies moving forward!
I haven't mentioned it yet, but heaven forbid it happen again, I had a massive bleed with #1 at about 12w, like rushed to hospital, had to stay in the hospital, lost a significant amount of blood. We obviously thought we'd lost our baby, but somehow not. Apparently it could happen with each pregnancy my doc said, but man oh man, here's hoping not.
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@2PeasinaPod: I'm so so sorry
We will be keeping you in our thoughts.
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@Beebug: Wow, that's awesome that your DD behaved through a 2 hour appointment, mine would have been jumping off the walls after 15 minutes
I wouldn't let what the doctor said worry you, hoping that October 2 gets here quickly for you!@HabesBabe: @Mae: Yay for just one baby in there! I'm still nervous (for no good reason) that I'm going to be that one lucky person with 2 in there! There's no way...right?
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@Beebug: That sounds scary about what happened in your pregnancy with #1 at 12 weeks. I'm hoping it was just a freak one time thing and this pregnancy will be smooth sailing from here on out!
@cookie_dough: My husband is freaking out about the possibility of twins. We transferred two embryos, so there really could be two in there! But now my husband is super worried about how we will deal with two babies. I'm sure we'll figure it out if that's the case, right? We should find out on Monday whether we have a single or twins. When is your next appointment/ultrasound?
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@twodoghouse: No u/s until the last week of October/first week of November (for IPS testing). We totally have no reason to think it would be twins...it's all because of my super dark line on my pregnancy test that we are freaking out hahaha. It would be super exciting if you were having twins!!!! You would totally figure it out. A friend of mine just had twin girls, and she is doing great. The only reason we would freak out is because we would already have a 22 month old at home PLUS twins! So excited for your appointment on Monday to find out if you are having one or two
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@cookie_dough: Oh my, so much patience to wait until the end of October! Twins + a 22 month old would be insane, so I'll extra cross my fingers you only have one in there.
I'm hoping for only one for us, but I will be excited either way as long as Monday's appointment goes well!
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@twodoghouse: yay that is so soon!
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@Mae: LOL about SIL, that is too funny!! My one SIL has a boy 5 months older (though he was 2m preemie) and my other SIL is due next week, but they are halfway across the country
Sucks as it would be so awesome to be closer with them so cousins could grow up knowing each other better! My sister is 8 years younger and no where near having kids.@cookie_dough: I'm trying to not let it worry me, I mean, I know/guess it could be a possibility (does one still have symptoms, bloated belly when it's ectopic?), so Oct 2nd will be a great date to look forward to in hopes we have a solid flickering heart beat and little fluff blob! You and I can "fight" over being the lucky person with two still though, lol, I guess I will know before you and if it's not me....welllllll it's on you
@twodoghouse: My doc speculates there were two in there, and the bleed could have been "it" and making space for the one growing baby. I should go dig up my hcg/beta numbers from #1, they were off the charts, insane high. We'll never know. Whatever it was I wouldn't wish it on anyone, I was working when it happened and thankfully not many saw/needed explanation when DH and I had to leave immediately.
I am having some am nausea this week, weird for me, usually I am an evening nausea person, here's hoping it means good things. I struggle with posting nervously, wondering if everything is ok, and then the next minute feel I am blowing caution to the wind speculating twins, me crazy, but trying to be happy/positive, but also never forget that there's always the what if's/worst case.
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@Beebug: Yea my SIL lives in NYC so we don't see her much. But still fun that when we do see her we'll have our kids close together
That is super scary about the 12 week bleed but hopefully it won't happen this time. And even if it did, you will know that even scary bleeding can still result in a perfect baby! And I know what you mean about struggling with being nervous/excited. I've been that way the whole time. Like I feel like if I get TOO excited I'll lose it. So I keep getting sorta excited then sorta scared then excited again Yesterday really helped just to see everything looked on track. Now I just have to cross my fingers I make it through the rest of this pregnancy without any weird stuff happening!
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@2PeasinaPod: So so sorry. I'm thinking of you.
@Beebug: Do they know what caused the bleeding last time? I hope it doesn't happen again. I wouldn't worry about ectopic yet. Aren't there usually symptoms of it being ectopic before this point? And btw, how did you get your DD to sit through a 2 hour appointment? DS was freaking out when I went to get blood drawn!
@twodoghouse: Good luck Monday! I have an ultrasound Monday too and will also be hoping to find one baby in there too - not because I'm worried about two, but because I'm in denial that there is anything in there at all.
@cookie_dough: You should be able to hear the heartbeat before your ultrasound right? Could the figure out if it's twins that way?
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@skipra: They don't know, my page from the hospital says "subchorionic hemorrhage" (sp?) and "excessive bleeding" with no cause. My doctor and his twin theory is just speculation to have gone with my insane beta numbers. Not sure about the ectopic and symptoms (this time), I would say I should read up on that, but really....I shouldn't! She was so good, thankfully there was a change of scenery enough that she did good. I had her walking at some points, had to go up and down floors to do blood, book u/s in different spots, cheerio's saved the day on her snack tray when they said I had to have a pap.....lol oh joy. I won't ever take her if I know it'll take that long! Though our next time there is her 1 year appt and my next pre-natal appt, two in one, but beats making two trips I guess.
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@skipra: I hadn't thought of that! I'm not sure if I will get a chance before the ultrasound though. Right now I'm just seeing my GP, and she is going to refer me to the OB in a few weeks. I think that last time I started seeing the OB around the same time as the IPS testing, and it was only when I started going to the OB that they started listening to the heart beat.
So I just told one of my best friends that I'm pregnant. She has been dealing with infertility for about 3 years now. We started TTC at the same time when I was TTC my first, and finally 1.5 years later I got pregnant. She is still trying for her first. Needless to say, I'm sure the news was very hard for her to hear. I had sent her an email with the news since I don't get to see her very often and I figured that not having to see me in person might be a bit easier on her. I also didn't want to wait any longer to tell her since the longer I waited, the worse it would be (or so I assumed). Now I'm totally regretting that I didn't wait to tell her in person, I feel like I made a very dumb choice. I know that there is no easy answer in this kind of situation, but I still feel terrible.
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@cookie_dough: what was her reaction like?
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@cookie_dough: I am already nervous to tell a friend who has been dealing with IF. When I was pg with #1 I went to her embryo transfer, everyone thought we were a couple doing double IVF and I had already conceiving (I was about 20w). They tried IVF once more after that unsuccessful transfer and I know how much it hurts her to not get pg.
Why don't you call your friend? And just say "I wanted to call, but just get most of it out via email incase I cried". I'm a crier though, so that would make sense for me, lol.
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@cookie_dough: I think email was the right way to go. I told my friend who is struggling with infertility (which I didn't know at the time) on gchat because I was just super excited. Later when I found out she was having IF problems and I talked to her about it and apologized for just announcing like that she said it was actually much better for her to "hear" it on the computer so that she could have some private time to deal/process before having to face me. She said it would've been a lot harder if I'd told her in person because she'd feel like she had to act super happy when really she was hurting. So yea-- I think email was the right way to go!
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@Glitter: She said congrats and seemed to be happy for us, but her next email did allude to the fact that she was upset, but not because of me, just because of her situation. She knows a few people who have gotten pregnant with their second in the last little while, so that must be extra hard while you are still waiting for your first.
@Beebug: I really should call her. I'm totally not a phone person, and neither is she, we mostly talk by email almost every day. I'm just worried that now that I've told her, I don't want to keep bringing it up/rubbing it in by talking to her about it again. I don't know what the right thing to do is (and I'm totally a crier too hahaha)!
@Mae: Ya, I think I remember you mentionning that earlier in this thread, and I sort of had that in my mind when I decided to email her. And I 've heard other places that sometimes getting it by email was better.
I just remember during my one and a half year long wait to get pregnant last time, every time someone would email me with their news, how painful it was. So I know that that's how she was feeling when she saw my email (and probably even worse since it's been a lot longer for her). Anyways, thanks ladies! It's nice to have people to talk to and get advice from
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Well, I thought I was having a mc last week (at what I thought was 6w6d). As soon as I got to work on Wednesday, I felt really hot and dizzy and had severe stomach pains (but they didn't feel like my uterus) and then I almost passed out (fuzzy vision, ringing ears). I threw up a couple of times over the course of an hour, and then just gushes of blood. I was so sure our journey was over. I had my blood drawn that evening and scheduled an appointment for the next day.
My appointment started out with an ultrasound that showed a live one with a strong heartbeat (130bpm) that was actually 6w4d (I thought I had o'd a couple of days later than usual anyway). But there was also a big area of bleeding that was pooling around the placenta. At the appointment with the doc, he said that I had placenta previa. It's really early to have diagnosed it, but he said that I had had a panic attack the day before (never had one before, so I had no clue what what happening!) and that the hormones released from that caused my stomach to contract and my cervix to open a bit. And since the placenta is currently on top of the cervix, it just gushed blood. Because the placenta was leaking into my bloodstream, my HCG levels were showing about 5 days later than they should have been. The bleeding turned brown the evening of the incident, so my body is trying to heal things. He told me not to do anything I don't have to do til the next appointment. They canceled my Sept 25 appointment and have moved it back to Oct 4, when I will be past 8wks. If we have good news then, the chances of course get much better. And hopefully because it was diagnosed so early, the placenta previa will have a good chance of moving away from the cervix as everything grows.
So now I'm cautiously optimistic. I'm so glad, no matter what the outcome is, that I got to see and hear the blob and it's heartbeat.
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@HayleyJane: I'm so happy that things seem optimistic at the moment! that much have been really scary though.
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Between 5:30 and 6pm for about an hour the last two nights, the urge to vomit has never been so strong! What an awful feeling! It's a good thing, I hope! As that's really been it for me the last couple days symptom-wise!!
@HayleyJane: How scary! Glad it's been "caught" now I guess and you can hopefully be monitored with it in mind moving forward.
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I am 8 weeks today and it finally happened - I threw up last night. I told my whole family the news this weekend and was telling everyone how great I felt and I guess I jinxed it. It was probably my fault tho bc I hadn't eaten in a while. I also had a pretty stressful weekend (for outside reasons, not my own) so I'm sure that also didn't help with how I was feeling. Trying to keep my belly full from now on! (as I am currently eating a slice of pizza for breakfast)
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@HayleyJane: Oh no! so glad there was a strong heartbeat and hope that everything continues to work itself out. Good luck !
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@HayleyJane: Glad that everything is ok for now. Hopefully you can take it easy over the next few weeks and everything will go back to normal!
@mrsog: Mine just happened this morning! 6 weeks 1 day...and I threw up in the bathroom at work. Ewwwww...
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@HayleyJane: Wow, it sounds like you went through a really scary couple of days. I'm glad things are looking up now! I'll be thinking positive thoughts for you.
As for me, I have my first ultrasound today! It was originally supposed to be at 8:30 but my RE is in another IVF cycle so I had to get bumped to 11:15 because there's a retrieval this morning. I'm nervous, but also optimistic that everything is still going ok because I have felt SO SICK. I actually threw up in the middle of the night Saturday and then felt so terrible all day yesterday. It's so weird that I'm excited for morning sickness, but oh well.
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@twodoghouse: Eager to hear how your ultrasound goes! How far along are you?
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@mrsog: aw! I still have not but I dreamed that I did-- so weird. I had a very vivid dream this morning that I finally threw up and it was so gross. But then I woke up and I'd just drooled all over my pillow. hottt. lol.
@Beebug: I get intense waves of nausea randomly as well.
I still haven't quite made the ms = good connection in my brain yet though I don't think. When I'm feeling sick I just think "man this sucks" and when I feel good I'm like "yay!" haha.
@twodoghouse: yay for u/s! Can't wait to hear about it!!
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@kentuckygirl: I'm 6 weeks 4 days today! Do you think your EDD will be in May too? I'm so excited for you!
@Mae: Thanks, I will update everyone as soon as I get back, haha.
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Anyone else just about ready for a nap? At 10:15am..... lol.
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@Mae: I'm ready for a nap! Or really, I just want to be laying down. I feel really sick to my stomach and wish I could be on my couch right about now. And it's only 9:15 here...
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@twodoghouse: I am on my couch (I work at home) but it's making it REALLY hard to actually work. It's taking all of my will power to stay upright and work right now and not just lay down and nap haha. Maybe a nap over lunch.
Feel guilty.
I wouldn't let what the doctor said worry you, hoping that October 2 gets here quickly for you!
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