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@gingerblonde: if I really felt uncomfortable I'd change! I don't know the back story, but have you seen other doctors in the same practice? Would that help? Ultimately, you want to feel comfortable with the doc delivering your baby!
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@Mamasig: oh nooo I'm sorry you failed the 3 hr! We're in the homestretch though - dieting won't last for too long
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@gingerblonde: Aww… sorry about the loneliness, totally understandable. And also understandable to be bummed about missing out on a shower! I think moreso than the gifts even its just exciting to celebrate with people you love, so I wouldn't feel badly at all about being bummed to miss it. Also I would totally switch docs! I just switched to a midwife practice at 30 weeks! It's a little weird switching late, but even though I loved my old doc I think this is going to be a much better situation for me. Feeling really supported in what YOU want for your labor/delivery is so so important.
@Mamasig: ugh. such a bummer
@Glitter: That's awesome you're so close to your inlaws! I'm sure proximity has a lot to do with it too. My MIL lives pretty far away and in the 7 years I've been with my husband (including our wedding) we've literally had 6 visits with her. Now they've been of varying lengths so grand total I've spent maybe 25-30ish days with her? But that's still not all that terribly much. We do talk on the phone too but only the 3 of us together (DH, me, her) and only every 2-3 months. So there just isn't really any familiarity/comfortable-ness there. It's all still very… polite.
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@gingerblonde: Sorry to hear about the loneliness. I moved across the country after college and didn't really know anyone and found it so lonely. I'm sure it will get better over time and you'll meet lots of new moms over the summer when you go out with your baby.
I would definitely switch OB's if I was not happy even at this point. I had a discussion with my midwives about switching because they are not that close since we moved. They said I could change at any point, no problem. I probably would if I didn't love the practice so much.@Mamasig: That stinks about the GD. Hope it can be managed properly with diet/exercise alone.
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Posting the calendar again so it's not buried behind so many pages. No changes from last time that I recall, but if you have any updates let me know and I can repost
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I just found this site! How did it take me 8 months to find you!?
Anyway, I just starting reading this thread. I thought I would post a quick hello:) Our baby boy is due 5/3. He is my 5th. My older kids are 22, 20, 19 & 17 so I kind of feel like a first time mom!
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@the_bees_knees: welcome! Wow - what an age difference! You are like a 1st time mom! How exciting
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@the_bees_knees: Yay! Welcome! Updated calendar to include you below, and if/when you pick a name let us know and we'll add that too
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Aww...thank you! We've decided to name him Rowan Joseph.
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My computer is acting up today and I keep losing my post! So I will type this up quickly and hope I don't lose it again
Sorry for those of you dealing with MIL issues
We are lucky that both sets of parents live locally, so we don't have to worry about anyone staying over for extended periods of time! My mom did come over almost every day in the beginning, and it's such a blur that I'm wondering what she even did while she was over. If I remember correctly, she wanted to come and help me clean, but I prefered that she watch DD while I did some cleaning, because it gave me a break from being attached to DD non-stop. She would bring me breakfast and lunch, and she would do some laundry. I was fine with her doing DD's and my laundry, but DH was adamant that she not do his, because that was just too weird hahaha. So I did find it helpful to have her come over, but a lot of the times i would just feel guiltly because sometimes I just wanted to lie there, but felt bad if she was doing chores for me while I just lay around. When both my parents would come over together, it was usually at dinner time, and they would cook/clean everything for us. The in-laws, on the other hand, would come over and bring food, but then all they wanted to do was sit there holding DD and they woudl leave us with a huge dinner mess to clean up. Anyways, totally not a big deal in the grand scheme of things...I just remember getting annoyed because my mom would make a point to never leave us with a mess. I@the_bees_knees: Welcome! yay for another team blue
So many little boys in May.@Mamasig: awww, sorry to hear about the test. But not too much longer to go now.
@gingerblonde: Sorry to hear that you are having issues with your doc and that you are feeling lonely lately
I totally wouldn't hesitate to swich docs if it makes you more comfortable, I'm sure that it happens more than you think!@Twodoghouse: Love the bump picture
And yay for getting tons of baby clothes! They go through them quickly...I was changing DD multiple times a day in the beginning because of spit ups, poop explosions, etc!
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@the_bees_knees: Welcome and congrats on your little boy! Rowan is a great name!
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Updated with our latest baby name
Also, off topic, we are having new carpet installed today. And we locked our cats down in the basement to keep them safe/contained, but forgot until the workers were already here that they need to open the basement door to lay the carpet. ugh. And I told them not to leave doors open but i walked downstairs and saw both the front door and basement door wide open. So I got freaked out about cats escaping and now I'm working on the basement steps on my laptop (and by working I mean HB-ing and FB-ing) because then I can be sure the cats won't escape. And on that note, was anyone here aware that both their ass and vagina could fall asleep? I was not. Now I am. Sigh (I hope they are quick!)
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@Mae: Thanks for all your work on the calendar
So I'm about to have a mental breakdown at work! (ok, maybe a bit of an exageration), but I just feel like my head is so foggy, I can't concentrate...and I have a big task due first thing tomorrow morning that I can't seem to get started on. I was just in my boss' office talking about our approach on it, and I could hardly even put a sentence together. She told me to calm down and just breathe hahaha. I almost burst in to tears, but luckily i avoided it (I don't cry at work...ever...because once I start crying, I have a hard time stopping!) I worked right up until the week before my due date last time, and was planning on doing it this time, but I really feel like I won't be able to handle it this time. Hopefully it's just a temporary feeling and that my hormones are just out of whack today (and yesterday) or something. I just feel like I have no ability to think or talk or get any work done. argh!
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@cookie_dough: aw, that is the worst. Sometimes I get myself worked up like that where I'm sort of overwhelmed by what needs done and don't know where to start and then I just cry. It sucks
Usually I can talk myself out of it by realizing that ANY start is better than no start and the sooner I start the sooner I'm done. But hormones don't help haha.
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@the_bees_knees: Welcome! Great name.
Thanks to you all for the comments yesterday. We had a better-than-usual appointment with the OB and we are now sorting through whether it would be worth switching at this stage. Without boring everyone too much, it would be wildly inconvenient to change at this point - hospital much further away, appointments much harder to get to, etc. We are trying to weigh out the pros and cons, but it's good to know that several of you have been there, and that you pretty much all agree that there shouldn't be a hesitation to switch if care would improve!
Here's a selfie bump photo from a couple days ago - pardon the charming bra strap and the laundry basket. Sounds like I'm measuring over a week ahead of schedule - maybe she'll make an early appearance, but I'm trying not to hope for it!
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@gingerblonde: For post-baby and lonely, do you have something called Babyville? I am not sure if it's a Canadian thing, but essentially our region co-ordinates getting Mom meet-ups started with common aged babies and from there usually Mom's rotate who hosts, what they do, etc and I know so many Mom's have met really close friends through there! Great way to meet people, and have a huge thing in common with baby.
@Mae: Nice on the calendar!! I won't even bother updating our girl name discussions, haha! We have a new front runner, buuuut whatevs
We have some more boy names in the mix, our list is getting much longer, and we are much less settled on a name, not shocking!@the_bees_knees: Welcome!!
@Mae: Exciting about new carpet, is it all done? Hopefully no kitties escaped!!
@cookie_dough: I am with you on the work stuff. I just feel like I am a big cloud right now. I really committed to not checking out following these events, but with outside of work stuff, and frustrating work stuff, I am really struggling on how I am going to make it another month, argh. I have my meeting with HR tomorrow to solidify my last day, time off, and extended leave.
@gingerblonde: Yay selfie bump! You look fab!!
I took a bump pic Monday, just haven't posted it! DH is home with DD today, what is with all the sick, DD is a mess, I am thinking teeth, but she is just a disaster in terms of fussy and trying to deal with her. I am really struggling with that. DH and I lasted three whole days of good, the last two nights have been him exploding on me, so I am not doing so hot. Kind of feel backed into a corner right now, and not really sure what to do. We both have such massive issues at this point, I'm feeling in a rut in all parts of life so making things out to be worse than they are (or atleast letting the negative swallow me) and it is just unreal to me how one can go from ok a few days ago, to where we are now, and not really seeing the light. Life is hard.
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@gingerblonde: aw, you look so great! I love maxi dresses on pregnant people
@Beebug: So sorry to hear things are rough again with your DH
And your DD being sick/teething/unhappy. Ugh you have a lot on your plate. When do you think your last day of work will be? That will be exciting! I am starting to get excited/nervous about my maternity leave. Excited, because obviously. But honestly I don't really know how my boss is going to manage without me and I'm nervous he's still going to be calling/emailing me constantly while I'm off. I'm setting a deadline of mid-April for myself to really get all my files totally organized, office cleaned, and get a complete set of my files to my boss so (hopefully!) he won't be constantly asking me for stuff. But it feels a little overwhelming! And yes, carpet is done, woot! Kitties did not escape. Glad it is done
I've been taking weekly bump photos but I don't always post them here. I took a 33 week one but I don't really like my outfit so I'll post my 32 week one instead, lol. I look basically the same bump-wise anyways I think.
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@gingerblonde: love the bump, and super cute dress! Glad you had a better appointment
@Beebug: Oh no...your DD is sick again? Poor you guys!!! We are so lucky in that DD seems to have an amazing immune system...she gets it from her mama
Hopefully it will finally start to warm up and she won't be getting sick as often! And I'm sorry to hear that the issues with DH have flared up again. @Mae: awesome pic! Where's puppy? hahaha! Must be so nice to have the carpet all done.
So I'm debating calling the doctor today, but I really really hate calling the doctor for something that is probably nothing. I've just been feeling so dizzy...or i don't even know if i would call it dizzy, more just lightheaded, for 3 days now. I'm not sure if that's just a normal pregnancy thing or if I need to be worried. My doctor normally deals with high risk patients, and I'm not a high risk patient so I feel bad calling for something silly. It comes and goes too, it's not like I constantly feel awful.
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@gingerblonde: You look great! I'm glad the appointment went well. I hope things continue to go well you don't feel forced to switch at the last minute.
@Beebug: I'm so sorry things are not going well with your DH right now. We have definitely been through our share of rough times, but I can't imagine dealing with it when you have a young child and another on the way. I'll be sending good thoughts your way.
@Mae: I'm getting nervous for my "maternity leave" too because I still haven't gotten up the guts to tell my boss that I'm leaving for good! Our admin assistant put in her notice this week and things have been nuts around here, so I keep putting off telling her. I know that I'm just dragging out the inevitable, though, and it's only causing me more stress.
We went public with our baby names last night on Facebook. I was really holding strong with keeping them a secret, but my husband was DYING to tell people. We ended up telling our best friends on Monday when we went out for St. Patrick's Day festivities, so I caved and just put this nursery picture up on Facebook. It's just an iPhone pic, so it may be hard to tell on here, but their name signs are above their cribs. Our friends and family are so excited to start calling them by name and monogramming the heck out of things.
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@cookie_dough: Oh no, I'm sorry about your dizziness. Maybe it's blood sugar or blood pressure related? I think I'd call if I were you. Maybe they will just tell you to lie down and take it easy, but it's better safe than sorry!
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@cookie_dough: haha a rare time when he wasn't glued to my side
Sorry about the dizzy too. I've been having something similar happen, although not that often. Just twice in the last week I got suddenly very dizzy and it lasted about 20 minutes before going away. It's infrequent enough I assume it is just a normal pregnancy thing and I plan to mention it at my next appt next week-- but if yours is more frequent couldn't hurt to ask? @twodoghouse: aw, love the room!! And keeping the name a secret is so hard. I'm sort of disappointed that everyone will know our name, probably. I never really intended to keep it a big secret, but I also didn't want to put it out there so EVERYONE knows. I had thought we'd sort of just tell our immediate families and best friends and leave it at that. But my husband can't help but tell EVERYONE lol. We had agreed a few weeks ago (or rather, I'd asked him) to keep the name situation mum. And yet when we went home for the shower as soon as anyone asked he told them right away "Oh it's either fiona or penelope!"… thanks dear! Now that we've decided for sure I feel like he's just going to go ahead and tell everyone. Oh well
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@Mae: As always, you look splendid! I have been meaning to tell you how much I love your red hair. My hair is naturally red - the orangey kind - but it hasn't seen the light of day in years. I see gorgeous red like yours and it makes me think twice.
I'm also on the maternity leave countdown - 30 business days left, including today! Our firm definitely staffs on the lean side, so I'm a bit concerned myself. I am doing the computer and desk cleanout and trying to establish protocol docs so I don't get phone calls while I am out! We'll see how realistic that is.How long are you ladies taking off for mat. leave?
@twodoghouse: Your nursery looks amazing!! Great work, lady!
@cookie_dough: Thanks!! Maxi dresses are starting to be more comfy than pants overall, but I am now combatting the dreaded chub rub. Maybe a pair of maternity bike shorts? =/
@Beebug: I will look into Babyville or something similar - that's a really good suggestion, and would probably go a long way towards feeling like I have an outlet post-baby. I'm so curious about your girl names!!!
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@twodoghouse: Nursery looks so awesome!! Love the pic!!!
@cookie_dough: I've been having random dizziness too. Happens anytime, and doesn't even seem blood sugar related (I don't think?) I just get blank and my eyes go all wacky. It almost feels post-concussion like.
Poor DD, I think maybe the last week away caught up with her, plus time zone change and time change, off schedule, then being back into daycare? She acted like a high person on drugs when I was rubbing her gums, especially in one spot, so can only hope it's "just" teeth, and the runny nose, warmer temp, and red cheeks are just part of it.
I seriously just am not sure what else could pile on top of me right now, I don't even feel like I am in a good spot mental health wise, and know what's coming with a newborn, and hormones? Desperate to get on track, it just doesn't seem possible. DH basically said every swear word and way to say no there is toward counseling last night, I didn't even suggest it, I was yelled about dare not suggesting it as he's heard enough about it with what I have gone to, and his parents are currently going to, and last week what my doc suggested he go to after I explained "our stuff", so yah.....feeling pretty defeated and not really sure what to do/how we get through this on our own.
I'm at a point where I probably will have to quit on the nursery too. Any of the work I was relying on him for I'd either need to do or have someone else do, so I may just have to go with the colour of the furniture now and be okay with that. Not the end of the world, I want it done, but he has no motivation to ever do any project of any kind around the house, that's my thing, not his, and physically I am limited right now, and have to know I can't do that on my own (especially stain fumes). Bit of a first world problem I suppose, but gosh knows I will hear from him if I dared mention it.
Ok, trying to find a positive here, lol. Come on healthy baby! Seriously what DD and this one have had to hear between DH and I while still on the inside? We are so lucky DD was healthy and okay, and can only hope it's the same with this one.
@Mae: lol on @cookie_dough:'s comment of where's puppy in bump pic. I think my last day will be April 30th or so, either the 29th, 30th, or 1st, depending on how it all shakes out. Will be off until August 12th, 2015 I think it is.
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@gingerblonde: thanks! I can't believe you dye your red hair! I have always wanted to be a natural red head, the orange kind! I would never dye my hair that color though because I don't think a dye exists that can make it look natural if it isn't. So I settle for the darker red that I think could be at least conceivably natural-ish… maybe hah. I'm not so secretly hoping our LO has bright red hair. It's unlikely (we were both blonde as children and dark brown as adults) but not impossible because we both have red haired cousins. Fingers crossed!
Also I'm taking 12 weeks for maternity leave, supposedly. It's really an odd situation since I work at home and my boss is so reliant on me. SUPPOSEDLY I have 12 weeks totally off, and then for 4 weeks I will be working as "normal" but will have the baby home with me (so understood I'll be less productive) and then we'll start daycare at 16 weeks with her going 3 days/week and home with me 2. Realistically I feel like I'm going to be fielding calls and emails basically the whole time and fending off various requests for research and drafting. So it will more likely be like… a week or two off, then slowly ramping up working for the next 14 weeks as I get more and more unable to fend off requests to do stuff haha.
@Beebug: ugh sounds so stressful with your DH. sounds like he's just being totally unreasonable. I mean he must acknowledge things are NOT okay, yes? Does he have a solution for the problem then? I mean how does he think things should get fixed if not via counseling? Also, bummer to quit on the nursery but honestly if it is more stressful than fun-- so not worth it. I try to keep in mind with the nursery that I'm really doing it for me, not my LO. She doesn't care haha. I'm the only one who really cares what it looks like anyways so anything I decide not to do it's not like I"m letting her down, just adjusting my own expectations.
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@gingerblonde: Alexis jumped to the top! We loved Alexandra when considering naming DD, as we love the nn Alex for a girl. We are so bad when Survivor starts finding a name we like off of there, I think Alexandra and DDs name (Chelsea) both started from survivor, and now Alexis has, haha.
I feel stupid even just typing that! Saturday night catching up on Survivor and things being awesome feels so far away now.
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@Mae: We are in a similar maternity leave situation, except I do commute and go into the office. I would really love to find a way to get permission to work from home full-stop, but the partners are inflexible and it was a feat to get them agree to part-time at all, so I don't want to push my luck. I also plan to take around 12 weeks, it might end up being more like 13/14 if daycare can't accommodate her until a certain date. I will be going in the office for 2 days, working from home 1 day... but she will be going to daycare 3 days per week. Have you lined up caretakers that you feel good about?
And re: the hair... honestly, I think it all stems to adolescent insecurity and awful boys asking if the curtains matched the drapes ALL THE TIME. As soon as I was old enough, out came the bleach. Haha. Sometimes I kind of miss it, and it would certainly be less effort on my part. And BTW - I would have put money down that your color was natural!!! Color me surprised.
@Beebug: I am so sorry to hear that this is going on. I really hope that he decides to be a sane person and agree that counseling is the best way to effectively work through issues.
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@Mae: Yes, you are right on the nursery, totally "for me" not for baby, just like having the sense of accomplishment, and now that's gone too, you know?
I don't know what DH is thinking, I am at a point where I don't even have a whole lot to say (and anything I could say has been said before) but he is ravenous on me. It's frustrating because when things are urgent to me (his issues) there's no response/reaction. But when he's upset, the whole world is going to hear him explode on me, and his reaction is just insane. I'm definitely far, far from perfect, we both have huge baggage, mine from my childhood that I have always been open/transparent about (and went to a lottttt of counseling for) and I understand there's a lot going on in his world right now, but I just don't get how he can do X thing (that he did in February) and just say sorry and not have an action plan, or talk about it? Like....I need more than that. Of course when I say that I get called out on being a dictator and that there's no changing my mind on what the right way to do things are.
Oye!
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@Beebug: Hahaha, don't feel stupid!!! We got the idea for our daughter's name because we were watching Clueless at home one Friday night. Inspiration sometimes has humble pop culture beginnings, and that's okay.
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@gingerblonde: haha I love when I can fool people
Most people do think it's natural I think. It helps that it has been MOSTLY this color since I was in 10th grade or so. I've forayed into blonde briefly, which looked horrible on me, and I actually rocked a more natural-for-me dark brown for my wedding. but 90% of my life since I was 16 has been the same color red. I guess we always want what we can't have hah (or at least, can't have without a price). And yes, we did book a daycare. It's really close to our house and really nice. I don't think she'll have super long days there because we plan for my husband to drop her off on his way to work (he doesn't leave until 8:30am) and I'll pick her up in the afternoons (i'm guessing I'll probably do earlier pick-ups to avoid the rush, around 430 or so).
@Beebug: gah that sounds so frustrating.
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I was already thinking when I return to work after #2, I am definitely going to have to adjust my work hours a little later, half hour should be fine, but man it is hard getting out the door in the morning!!
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@gingerblonde: @Mae: you ladies look gorgeous! @Mae you look like you've lost more weight than gained during pregnancy.
Since I've been home I hardly bother to look cute lol. I'll have to find a pic from the last time I combed my hair... Like last wkend.
@Beebug: I too am sorry about your ups and downs with DH. Even if he's not willing to go to counselling, perhaps you can go alone and learn how to better cope with the situation at hand.
@twodoghouse: your nursery looks amazing! So ready for the babies!
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@Glitter: I have been doing e-counseling pretty steady since December! I am at a point, where....yep I totally need to work on things, but only putting so much effort forth toward counseling when he's not going to work on him, you know? We have gone individually and as a couple concurrently in the past and the results were fab, so I am a troubled by such stern objection. I really think it is all the stuff with his parents and all their talk of their counseling? I don't know.
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@Glitter: aw, thank you! I am really curious what will happen post baby. I've struggled with weight my entire life and it is so bizarre that I've only gained 4 lbs thus far this pregnancy (but belly is on target so baby is growing and its just an apparent net loss, without effort). I'm really hoping this somehow jump started things for me and postpartum I'm able to continue losing and (finally!) get down to a more reasonable weight for the first time in my adult life. Also I so rarely put on clothes, working at home haha. Most days I"m in a robe or yoga pants. But usually 1-2/week I have to actually leave the house for something and that's when I take my pic!
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This one is about a week old but I'll share anyway because I actually felt cute. Pregnancy has brought on some self image issues that I really don't like.
Me at 31 weeks!
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I was wondering for those of you who have had showers, did you have a cake at the shower? One of those uniquely shaped or decorated ones? I have somehow ended up helping MIL and SIL plan my shower and was wondering if a cake of that type was standard.
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@Mae: @Glitter: @gingerblonde: you all look so cute! @twodoghouse: love the nursery!@cookie_dough: I would call. I am sure you will feel better and any time I've called the nurse is so nice and never makes me feel like a bother do hopefully it's the same for you. @the_bees_knees: welcome and congrats!
I've been really blah lately and my DH confirmed last night that all I do is complain. I really loved being pregnant last time and I feel bad that I'm not enjoying it as much. I feel like once the weather turns it will help my mood but who knows. I am just trying to find a way to be positive.
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@Beebug: I missed you in my post. So sorry about all you are dealing with right now. Hopefully things will turn around soon.
As for maternity leave, I plan to work up until my date again. I have some big deadlines right around my due date and my assistant just went out on disability and most likely will not return so I am working on hiring a temp. I'm just trying not to worry about it and plan to focus on getting things in the best order I can at the end of April for my boss just in case.
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32w pic! From Monday.
@sungirl: I feel all I do is complain too. I have been asking myself lately why nothing ever seems good enough and when would I be happy. Even the weather today, warmer.....finally, but it's damp! Damp kills me.
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@Glitter: awwww super cute!! I did not have a cake at my shower. My mom did a dessert table with petit fours (sp?), cookies, and chocolate cups filled with fruit. For the shower this weekend I think my friend mentioned cupcakes.
@cookie_dough: if you do call, let us know! I'd be interested to hear what the doc has to say.
@sungirl: sorry you are feeling blah
we're in the home stretch though!@Beebug: aw, i feel like you're extra bump-y in that pic! super cute!!
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I'm slowly catching up with this thread but thanks for the warm welcome!
You guys are all looking good! I can totally relate to the body issues/general grumpiness that comes with pregnancy. I don't remember being this whiny the last time I was pregnant!
I'm also feeling like a major slacker because we just started on the nursery. The hubs finally painted and installed the new flooring. The crib is in a box in the garage. I'm hoping to get the crib assembled, the curtains up and the new light fixture installed this weekend{fingers crossed}!
We have some more boy names in the mix, our list is getting much longer, and we are much less settled on a name, not shocking!
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