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@MrsTiger: I wish! I feel so crappy these days there's no forgetting why.
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We're going to an outdoor festival in our city tonight and a TON of our friends are going to be there...I am going to order wine to tote around with me all night and hope nobody gets suspicious. I think poor DH will end up three sheets to the wind because I'll probably make him take a gulp from my glass here and there when nobody's looking.
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@oliviaoblivia: Aw I'm sorry you feel crappy already! I hope it gets better soon.
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@sorrycharlie: I called as soon as I tested positive 2 days in a row! No harm in getting your appts scheduled!
@Gigi2: @mij: Welcome!
@mfa_lady: Have fun tonight! I'm sure DH won't mind the extra buzz
My question of the day is when does the anxiety end?! The next 3 weeks need to fly by. I had zero luck bumping up my appt; they're all booked and I'm on the cancellation list. I seriously hope someone cancels!
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@mij: @gigi2: welcome ladies!
@mfa_lady: Have fun! And carrying the wine around sounds like the perfect decoy!
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@sorrycharlie: Sorry that you're dealing with anxiety, I hope it gets easier soon. I haven't really noticed a change in mood but I remember last time pregnancy made me really chilled out, I was a lot nicer to DH... The moment she was born, it was back to nagging
@MrsTiger: It's not that I forget, but I'm not as focussed on ir as I was my first pregnancy. Last time my every thought centred on being pregnant, this time it's all about keeping toddlers happy, safe and tired enough for a good nap!!! But my mind does keep going back to my littlest one.
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So does anyone else have cravings yet? I didn't have them last time but this time I cannot get enough buffalo chicken! I honestly think about getting me some of that sauce all.day.long! Also, salt and vinegar crisps, yum.
Anyone have any buffalo chicken recipes?
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@mij: and @Gigi2: congrats & welcome!
@mfa_lady: carrying around wine should keep away any suspicions!
My sister just got engaged, and I am so happy for her! I'm kind of relieved, because it gives me another reason to wait to tell everyone I'm pregnant (don't want to steal her time in the spotlight).
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@Gigi2: and @mij: congrats and welcome!
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@travelgirl1: I've been having cravings but nothing that I feel I can blame on pregnancy yet
I always crave something weekly lol!--
when do you guys plan to announce? I started a thread about this already. we told my ILs at 5 weeks last time, and they told the world. we went to a funeral a couple days later and people were congratulating me at the funeral. so freaking awkward, especially when they asked how far along and I said 5 weeks! they were stunned. yeah thanks, MIL.
anyway, we had a boatload of drama with the ILs with my last pregnancy because of a lot of things: cliffnotes,
1) we didn't call when I went into labor
2) dd was born 9:27 pm and dh didnt call til 5 am
3) we didnt allow them all to come over the day i came home from hospital (36 hours after delivery, fyi).I'm worried if we tell, they'll tell. if we wait, they will throw a hissy fit that we're yet again hiding things. UGH.
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@sorrycharlie: We told my parents and sisters at four weeks. DH's parents at five. I told my work this week, but I'm showing so it wasn't a surprise.
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@charmed: Aw,that's so lovely about your sister!
@sorrycharlie: We told family at 7 weeks last time but will wait till 12 this time. We want the anatomy scan done before we say anything on f.book. With your ILs, what bothers you more - them outing you or them throwing a hissy fit? I would do whatever is going to get you the easiest life!
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@travelgirl1: I ALWAYS love me some buffalo chicken, but that was the only way I could eat meat during my first tri with LO#1! My favorite buff chick recipe is for dip (not healthy, but incredibly delicious)...
-1 can of diced or cubed chicken, drained and shredded (or, if that grosses you out, 1 chicken breast, cooked and shredded)
-4-6 ounces Frank's hot sauce (depending on heat preference)
-4-6 ounces blue cheese or ranch dressing (again, how hot do you want it?)
-1 block of cream cheese, softened
-sprinkling of shredded cheddar or Mexican cheese on topPreheat oven to 350. Combine first four ingredients in baking dish or glass pie plate. Sprinkle cheese on top. Bake 20-25 minutes, until hot and bubbling. Chow down
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@sorrycharlie: We told my parents and ILs at 4 weeks, my grandma and his grandparents at 5 weeks, and will tell close friends after my first appointment at 8 weeks. We'll announce on Facebook at 12 weeks, around fourth of July.
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So I just read that you're not supposed to eat soft serve ice cream when pregnant because it can possibly contain listeria.
At first I was like, eh whatever- I never eat soft serve ice cream. Until I realized Dairy Queen blizzards are made with soft serve. I don't think I can go a whole summer without a blizzard 
Stupid listeria!!! 
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@sorrycharlie: We're waiting as long as possible to tell anyone.
My sister just had a miscarriage for #1 in late March, so I am praying she gets pregnant before we have to tell her we are.
We are on #2 and I am the younger sister, and she is having a tough time emotionally anyway, so I know our news is going to cause her lots of sadness and stress. I probably won't see her until 4th of July (which will be about 12 weeks anyway)...so we'll see!
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@charmed: don't take this as medical advice but..I ate tons of mcflurries while pregnant with my DD!
@travelgirl1: hmmm. good question.. I'm worried that from the point they do find out, it'll be nothing but passive-aggressive (or direct!) comments about how "this time" we will call them, do things differently, etc. they just cannot wrap their heads around the fact that we did things differently than they would. one day I can post the whole story, it's super entertaining (after the fact.)
however if we don't tell, I guess we run the risk of "here we go again..keeping us out of the loop" etc. sigh. they're such a joy!
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@mij: @Gigi2: welcome ladies!
@charmed: @sorrycharlie: same anecdotal advice here. I had occasional McFlurries last time.
@ValentineMommy: hope your appointment went well!
@Kelli_Deluxe: on no, about them not being able to bump your appointment up. That sucks big time. Honestly last time I always had some anxiety and it was funnily enough always worst just before appointments.
@travelgirl1: I was craving yoghurt like a mad person last time. I could easily eat a lbs. a day and I didn't like sweets. Nothing crazy this time yet.
@sorrycharlie: sitting at my IL's house right now (and all weekend) and we're not going to tell them. We told them at 6w last time because it was perfect coincidence that our parents had met up that weekend. Nothing planned this time, so no hurry. Definitely not telling anyone before we see the baby. After that probably family and everyone else after the NT scan. No facebook announcement though.
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@sorrycharlie: we told our parents and siblings at 4 weeks, DH wants to tell other family members on memorial day weekend since we'll all be together, I'll be 8 weeks then. We won't announce to work or friends until 12 weeks.
I kinda wanted to wait longer to tell family but DH is just super excited and can't wait
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@Kelli_Deluxe: the anxiety is so tough if you've struggled. I was wondering the same today thinking about how I fearfully check for spotting every time I use the restroom. I think last time around it started to get a little better after our scan at 9 weeks where I could see something that resembled a baby in there. I had an earlier scan where they were a bit worried. I do think once morning sickness kicks in that takes some of the focus off of waiting.
Keeping my fingers crossed something opens up for you!!
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@mij: Welcome! Now you have me looking forward to the holidays!
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@Gigi2: Hi hi! You are very much like me with Baby #1 and not knowing what I'm talking about. Looking forward to hearing about your experiences. Congrats!
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@sorrycharlie: I want to wait until longer but I found out that DH has already squealed to the SIL. They have a 16 year age gap so he needed quick second-mom advice I think after the BFP. My family lives in another state but will be coming down for the 4th. I'll be just getting into second trimester and I think maybe it'll be more fun to surprise them in person. My MIL, FIL, and SMIL will be a different story. Yikes, especially since I'll be seeing my MIL every weekend for the next month and she will have to know what's up eventually.
I also think I don't want to do a social media announcement and just keep it casual with friends I see in person.
@travelgirl1: The only thing I've been craving are spicy tuna rolls and it makes me sad thinking about it.
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@MrsTiger: I get that! For me, sometimes it's ALL I can think about as in "Whoa, I can't believe we're doing this again!" and other times it doesn't seem at all real yet. The first time I didn't have little people distracting me, and now they just take up a lot of my thoughts and time. Hopefully, it will make this pregnancy fly by!
@mfa_lady: Oh gah, definitely NOT an expert! Every day is on the job training with each kid, but being a mom is my favorite thing ever. I'm so excited to get to be along for the ride with all the first-time mamas, too! This is such an exciting (and scary, too!) time. Oh, and hiding the fact that your not drinking is so tricky! I always feel like everyone will see right through me! Have fun tonight!@sorrycharlie: Announcing this time has been tricky. I just can't figure out when, where, or how. I'd like to tell our parents as soon as possible, but I really like to tell them in person. As for the general population, I'll tell sometimes after our ultrasound, assuming everything looks as it should.
@charmed: I ate soft serve! I would ask your doctor what they think is really critical because I was surprised how many things are officially off limits but that my OB didn't really care about. They did talk about heating deli meat, but even that I fudged sometimes.
@Kelli_Deluxe: I'm sure this is different for everybody and every pregnancy, but the first ultrasound is really reassuring to me. Seeing the heart beating and knowing that at least right now everything is okay was such a relief. I'm ready to get to that point with this pregnancy!
So is everyone planning on finding out the gender? We're undecided this time.
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@mij: I am Team Green. I LOVED the surprise at delivery with LO#1, and as tempted as I am to find out if he'll have a little brother or sister, we are waiting it out again.
My husband really wanted to know last time around and it took some convincing, but he was the one to say "It's a boy!" at delivery and he got so emotional and happy (he is NOT an emotional guy) that he is super excited for that moment again.
Plus all our newborn stuff is gender neutral, so that's an added bonus for the second time around!
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@keepcalmcarrie: Yum, thank you so much! I'll definitely try it : )
@mij: We definitely will. DH and I do not have similar taste in names at all, so we really need to narrow it down to stand a chance finding a name we both agree on - it was an absolute miracle we found something we loved for DD!
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@mij: Hopefully this doesn't sound creepy, but I think I know who you are, and I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I'm right!! Anyway, I didn't say "Welcome" earlier - glad you're here, even if you're not who I'm guessing
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@Gigi2: Welcome to you too, I stink at keeping up with who is joining - I have two goldens as well, they are SO good with LO#1 and so fun to have for kiddos growing up
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@mij: I think we'll be caving again and will find out. Like you we had a hard time with names (even though we have similar taste) so having only to find two names is a lot easier.
@keepcalmcarrie: this is one of weird reason it be cool if we had a girl this time - then I think we'd be team green on the third. That doesn't solve the name issue but I guess we'd bite the bullet then.
@mfa_lady: how did it go last night? Did the switching drinks and hanging onto the wine glass work out?
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I'm fairly lax on the food rules.
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Definitely no team green here. I'm hoping finding out will help me adjust and bond.
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@sorrycharlie: @Pumuckl: @mij: phew! So apparently soft serve must not be one of the food rules many people follow strictly! I'll definitely be adding it to my list of things to ask my doctor at my first appointment, though.
@mij: we'll be finding out the gender, no team green here! I think it will be hard enough for us to settle on one name, let alone one for each gender.
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@charmed: I haven't heard about the soft serve ice cream, I don't think that's one of the general rules. Besides the threat of listeria is only for unpasteurized dairy so you can even eat soft cheese if you know that it's pasteurized. That's what my ob said.
I actually have been reading a lot of articles about how some of these rules that pregnant women have to follow, the risks of anything bad happening is so extremely tiny you actually take more risk by just being in a car every day...
Did you guys know that in France it's perfectly acceptable for pregnant women to drink one glass of wine whereas they actually stay away from salads because of the raw vegetables? And that in Japan women continue to eat sushi on a regular basis? And in Finland pregnant women continue to use saunas and hot springs?
I think people just like telling pregnant women what they can and can't do and so they make up all these rules.
Here is one of are articles I've read if anyone is interested. Any thoughts?
http://www.babble.com/pregnancy/six-biggest-pregnancy-myths/
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@mij: Thank you! I hope the first u/s is my relaxation point as well! Can we all chip in on a time machine or....
We will be Team Green! We've had our names nailed down for a while in this ttc process so we're good on that front. I have a serious fear of gender disappoint--I'll be thrilled to have a healthy baby either way, don't get me wrong--and I explained to DH that we'll be so excited during labor/delivery, there'll be no time for that. He agreed after initially wanting to find out. Also, we will be opting for genetic testing (I'm adopted and know zero family history) and I do not want to know the sex early then "accept it" for 30w. I know that sounds silly
<--embarrassed face@pmrlady: DH and I were just talking about this! There are currently 2 threads over on the pregnancy board, one about sushi and one about drinking. Once I'm out of the first trimester, I plan on occasional sushi and I'm not opposed to an occasion small glass of wine or little glass of beer. I think there are a lot of scare tactics that go along with "risks," whereas like you and the article said, other countries are more relaxed and "risk" is a relative term.
@Pumuckl: Oh anxiety before appts. I can understand that... That will probably be me! Esp since I'll be going to a lot of them alone. I can't wait to get back to the gym; I'm hoping that will stress relief a bit.
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@Kelli_Deluxe: @travelgirl1: @charmed: @Pumuckl: Didn't even have to do the wine thing--we were kind of running around all night long to different groups of people, so I just pretended to sip from DH's beer here and there and claimed the designated driving excuse. (I really was driving!)
@travelgirl1: @keepcalmcarrie: I was going to suggest BBQ chicken dip too!
@MrsTiger: Thinking about your sister. I know it's tough, and you are really sweet to consider her.
@sorrycharlie: When it comes to telling people, my mom and a couple of other family members know (due to necessity and figuring it out on their own). We will wait to tell DH's family until probably the end of the first tri--just because they all know about our MC and I'm not ready to be "fussed over" yet. We'll probably tell my dad and brother after the US at the end of this month, and then my extended family at the end of the first tri. We probably won't announce on social media/to the public for quite a while. I'm so sorry your ILs are such a challenge with stuff like this. I totally hear you on that.
We both like the idea of team green, but I don't think we'll be able to do it. With my MC BFP, we had planned on team green and two days after my positive test, my DH was all like "So when can we find out if its a boy or a girl?" Um, honey, in about 16 weeks. Ha!
I am feeling so absurdly tired these days it's kind of ridiculous. We got up this morning to go to the farmer's market, and by the time we got home I was actually exhausted. I passed out for two and a half hours! And all we'd done was stroll around and eat breakfast. Anyone else?
I'm also struggling with food--I still have that starving/no appetite conundrum going on...and so I'm just kind of trying to eat what I want when I can, so that I'm at least eating something. Confession: I ate Beefaroni for lunch. It was whole grain pasta--does that make it any better?
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@pmrlady: thanks for that article! It is pretty ridiculous all the things you're "supposed" to stop eating/doing when you're pregnant.
I also found the "is it safe" list on Pregnant Chicken: http://www.pregnantchicken.com/the-list/
I didn't read all of them, but the ones I did I thought were practical. It doesn't hurt that they're humorous as well -
@mij, @Gigi2: welcome!!
@sorrycharlie: can't decide when to announce. On one hand, I want to wait till 12 weeks, on the other, I want to tell our closest family and best friends right away. First dr. appt is Tuesday, so maybe I'll have a better sense of what I want to do after that. You're in a tough spot with your ILs. Seems like no matter what you do, there will be something they find fault with. How frustrating. Keep us posted on what you decide!
@Kelli_Deluxe: I'm so sorry they didn't move up your appointment - time can move so slowly.
Love the activity on this January 2015. It's hard keeping up with (replying to) all the posts, but I love reading through them and seeing everyone's updates. Hope you're all feeling well.
Question for anyone who wants to answer - is there a point when the anxiety subsides? My symptoms come and go and I wish I could know for sure every day that I'm pregnant. I don't even know why I'm so cautious with this, but I guess I just have friends who have struggled with losses and worry it could happen to me.
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@Oliviapope: a smidge once you have an ultrasound, feel the baby move, etc. but honestly..my daughter is 20 months and I am anxious all the time! just part of being a parent I think!
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I told my parents yesterday! I didn't go planning to but it just slipped out. They're excited! ILs are causing drama already, they don't even know about this pregnancy. Just makes me so excited to bring another baby into their crap. We live next door, too, so it's not even "out of sight out of mind" with them.
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@Oliviapope: The anxiety over pregnancy loss with LO#1 subsided for me once I hit 12 weeks. The second trimester was bissful, I absolutely loved it. The third trimester, I started to get anxious about delivery, newborn care, etc. As @sorrycharlie: said, anxiety pretty much never ends from this point onward
Speaking of anxiety, we have to take LO#1 to an urgent care clinic today. He probably has croup - it turned from a run-of-the-mill cold into a gasping for air, hacking cough last night and it was terrifying. I was thisclose to taking him to the ER then and there, but talked with the ER nurse on an advice line first and she recommended watchful waiting. This is only his second time being sick, so I am a total novice at this stuff. He was pretty happy this morning, though still very congested and lots of coughing - I'm hoping he turns a corner today.
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@sorrycharlie: i'll look forward to those milestones
i can't even wrap my mind around what it'll be like when LO is here! How exciting that you told your parents! Must be so nice that now you can keep them in the loop! Hope stuff with the ILs calms down - next door must be tough. My ILs are mostly great, but living next door to them would definitely put a strain on the relationship.
@keepcalmcarrie: Thanks. Looking forward to hopefully feeling blissful in the second trimester too.
So sorry to hear your LO is so sick. My nephew had something similar when we visited him a few weeks ago. It's heartbreaking to hear those coughs, but he was pretty happy throughout it. I hope it passes quickly and his mood stays upbeat.
Stupid listeria!!! 
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