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@Beebeeholiday: i think we have settled on naming the little guy after my grandfather! it isn't a name that had stood out to me or made it on my previous lists, but DH was rejecting a lot of ideas and said he really wanted to pick a name we have some family connection to rather than just something we are picking more randomly. suddenly my grandfather's name popped in, and it's kind of perfect! i love the nicknames (which i can't say for many classic men's names), and i think it fits with our other two--relatively formal, classic, a couple good nickname options if they want to have their nicknames grow with them a bit.

of course, now DH is saying he's not sure yet because it's too soon to decide for sure, but he does that basically every pregnancy. i told him this was our name until he comes up with something better, and he agreed, and i'm pretty sure that means it's the name

what are you thinking for names?

@karenbme: i looove your choices! i have always loved iris.

@nwm: @karenbme: My husband is the same way with names! With our second, we had a boy name we were 100% set on, and a girl name we were preeeeetty sure about. While I was in labor he suddenly told me he wasn’t sure about the girl name. Whaaaa?! When our baby was born and we found out she was a girl, he immediately said her name was the one he told me hours before he wasn’t sure about.

PS, I love Iris!

ladies, i have a dumb question. how do you measure how many months pregnant you are, rather than weeks? assume your due date is 10 months and subtract? assume your LMP is zero months and add? whenever i get asked how far along i am i either just say the weeks or i just kind of guesstimate what month i'm at but i feel like i wind up being five months pregnant for at least two months. i think i'm doing it wrong! haha.

Hi everyone! I've been following along, but haven't had much of a chance to post lately! We sold our house and are closing on a "new" property next month. I say "new" because it is a 103 year old home that will need a major renovation...apparently 4 kids in 5 years wasn't crazy enough for us We just got back from a 10 day camping vacation, which was super fun!

I had my anatomy scan today at 21w0d...baby is measuring about a week ahead, which is about how my other babies have measured as well. She was all curled up, so we didn't get any good pictures, but we DID confirm that she is still a girl so that's nice I feel like *I* am set on a name, but DH is always wishy washy until delivery...sounds like that is pretty common! lol

Oh, and as far as months pregnant...13 weeks is 3 months, so at 21 weeks I say that I'm about 5 months.

@karenbme: Not sure what made me think of this randomly at work, but what about Ettie for a nickname for Bernadette? I am probably biased though because DS calls DD Ett (only barely resembles her name) and it is so freaking cute hearing a 13 month old chasing her yelling "Ett!"

@karenbme: I love Bo for a nickname! I don't think the middle name has to start with O to make it work. But I think Iris and Lena are awesome, too.

@Ms. RV: @Beebeeholiday: I like Bo and Birdie a lot, too. Super cute for a tiny person and then she could transition to Bernadette when/if the time felt right. I feel like DH is going to get his way on this, because that's how it tends to work in our relationship, but who knows.

On a totally unrelated note, is anyone else having nightmares? This week I've been having the most terrible nightmares. Yesterday I dreamed that I miscarried, and had to check that I wasn't bleeding at 3am that's how vivid it was. And then last night I had another one where I was in a hit and run car accident and no one could tell if the baby was ok. I wouldn't stress about them, except that I had similarly bad dreams with my first miscarriage. Fortunately baby still has a strong heartbeat on the doppler, so hopefully it's just hormone/stress.

@LemonJack: Still doing well here! I have no advice on minivans, but am definitely pro-hybrid if that's one of your options. Bernadette is still probably our top name, but we're not set set. Lena is the other one that's still at the top. I think we won't know until we meet her, but in my head right now she's B/Busy Bee, because this little girl kicks like crazy. The doctor advised to start counting kicks and if it takes more than an hour to get 10 to call, but I've never gotten past 10 minutes to get 10. It's reassuring, but also kind of annoying when the activity comes at bad times, like last night between 12:30 and 2:00am, but take the good with the bad I guess.

Is anyone else having a shower/sprinkle? I know more and more repeat moms are doing them, but idk what all of your plans are. By the time you get to 3rd/4th babies I bet it feels like you already have too much stuff! Mine is coming quickly, which is exciting. My parents are hosting, so it's about a 3 hour drive for us, but more convenient for my family and about the same as if we were to have it here for DH's. My close friends are also planning a little lunch at a gorgeous inn right on the lake here in town just for four of us, which will be nice and mellow.

Hope you all are still doing well too.

@nwm: You might be able to get a 2020 sooner than you think. I bought my current vehicle in mid September and it was the next year’s model. It probably varies by manufacturer though. If you want to you should def do a celebration for this kiddo.

Sounds like everyone is hanging in there! Second trimester (usually) isn’t as full of as many woes as the first and third, probably why we’ve all been so quiet

I’m 24 weeks today! Been dealing with looots of pelvic pressure and sciatica already, as well as feeling like I’m constantly fighting off a UTI or something It’s like my body knows this is the 4th pregnancy in 5 years and it’s just...over it

We are moving this week...we close on the house we are selling AND the house we are buying on Friday. I’ve been trying to take it easy (ish) even though we need to pack everything up and I still need to keep my 3 tiny humans alive DH has been really understanding, I feel useless sometimes but I obviously can’t carry anything heavy and any time I spend too much time on my feet it feels like my vagina is going to fall off 🙃 My mom has been a good help with the boys too, so everything is going as smoothly as it can!

We have been so busy with all of this we haven’t even hardly discussed names. We probably won’t until closer to DDay...usually we aren’t *set* until we are at the hospital or shortly before!

We are looking at the new Ford Expedition Maxes...obviously we can only make one big purchase at a time, and right now it’s a house But we need to get something different before LO4 arrives so we have enough tethers for everyone.

I have an OB appt next Monday, as well as a follow up US. I had my anatomy scan last month but the tech (who was awful, btw) didn’t get all of the pics he needed. This will be my FIFTH ultrasound this pregnancy...with my others I only had 3 total, including a growth scan at 36 weeks (which I will have again with LO4)

No sprinkle/shower for me! This is #4, so we are set on gear...we could use girly clothes, but I like buying those myself anyways plus we have a lot of “boy” clothes that will obviously work. I just like any excuse to shop ‍♀️

ETA: I’m 95% sure DD is still breech...I feel almost all of my big kicks super slow. I also have an anterior placenta, but I occasionally still feel things st my bellybutton too...so I’m pretty sure it’s just that she’s breech. I’m only 24 weeks so I know there’s time to turn, but all of my boys were head down by now so I’m getting anxious! I’m also annoyed that I have an anterior placenta again...I had one with DS1 and he ended up coming out sunny side up, which was...unpleasant. Hoping that was a weird coincidence, although antidotal internet searches tell me there is some correlation!

@bees_knees: wow, so much exciting stuff going on! good luck with the move--so glad your DH and mom have been so understanding and helpful, that is key!

sorry your AS tech was so bad, that is annoying! i kind of enjoy extra ultrasounds but that is crazy that he didn't get all the pics needed in the first go-round.

also fwiw my first was breech at 34 weeks but the doctors said he had been flipping basically the whole pregnancy, and indeed he got turned around head-down in time! (and i had an anterior placenta that time too.)

@karenbme: So my sister actually just asked me yesterday about throwing me a sprinkle. I did not have a sprinkle for babies #2 and #3, so I haven't had any sort of shower in almost eight years. Also, we got rid of most of our baby stuff about two years ago (right after a loss when I was *sure* we would never try again), so we need a lot of gear! She is thinking about just doing a small ladies-only brunch/tea type thing.

@bees_knees: I worry about this little one being breech, too, though I know she has lots of time to turn! I have been feeling the kicks up a lot higher. I swear, after going upside-down the other day at the gym in a handstand, things haven't even the same since! haha

@karenbme: I live in the PNW so our winters are pretty mild. we have a few freezing days, but they are far and few between (winter is mostly just 50 degrees and drizzling). In the past (I have a November 25 baby), we have just dressed in sleeper/booties/hat, and put a really warm blanket over the top of the car seat once they are buckled in.

@LemonJack: We don't feel super set on names yet! There is one first name that has been in my head for years (I was actually doodling it on paper with my there girls names starting, I don't know, THREE years ago?!?). However, I feel like it's way too early to commit, as I have a looonnggg list of names I love.

DH is really gunning for Marigold as middle name, as a compromise, since his favorite name is GOLDIE and I just can't get behind that as a full first name. I feel like Marigold can be a good middle name if the first is right.

I am still feeling really good. I think I am 24 weeks and a few days? This has by FAR been my best and easiest pregnancy. I have heartburn every once in a while at night, and a little bit of hip pain throughout the day, but that's about it.

@Beebeeholiday: I love a mellow ladies brunch style shower. They’re so much more intimate/personal feeling than the big ones. Sounds super fun Also, I LOVE the name Marigold, and tried unsuccessfully to sell DH on it months ago. It’s so versatile, Goldie and Mari are both super cute nicknames.

@bees_knees: Thanks for the tips! I’m sure I’m just paranoid about a baby suffocating in a blanket because of all the no blankets in bed recommendations. Really, our generation all had blankets in the crib and did just fine. And it’s going to be so cold here when this baby is tiny.

@bees_knees: Have you driven a Ford Expedition Max yet? OH half wants me to get a regular Ford Expedition so we can tow with it instead of his truck.

@karenbme: What are you supposed to do after the car heats up? Mine will get so warm that I can't have my coat zipped.. but if I put blankets or a car seat cover around the baby... won't he get too warm? I never considered this! My first two were summer babies!

@Beebeeholiday: Marigold is so pretty for a middle name!

@Ms. RV: we haven’t driven one yet....but one of my friends has one and loves it! I love that there is extra leg room in the third row and the car seat safe tilting middle row (to access the third row...there’s a fancy name for it I’m sure but I can’t remember it 🤣) We will also tow with it. It’s between an Expedition Max right now or another Yukon XL!

@Ms. RV: @karenbme: we always have our vehicle garaged or warmed up before we get in...so I’ll tuck the blanket around while we’re outside but take it off in the car. Unless it’s a short (<10 min) trip, then I’ll just leave it. It seems to always be warmer in the front than in the back of the car...prob bc of the sun coming in the windows, plus the heat can actually blast on me...I always worry a baby in a RFing seat gets more chilly!

I am slightly anxious about something and I would love some HONEST feedback.

A couple months ago, DH and I started discussing going on a kid-free trip the first week in October. We were going to go to Greece before I found out I was pregnant, but since I will be 7+ months along, we decided to stay somewhere closer to home. This will double as a big birthday trip and a last baby moon.

Anyway, I ended up booking Cabo at a nice, luxurious, and reputable resort. I got the OK from my OB...she said she isn't at all concerned about Zika, and her only worry would be me needing medical care while in Mexico. However, she said I am low risk and 34 weeks is her general "cut-off" for travel (and I will be 32 weeks at the time).

However, now that it's booked I am wondering if I made a bad call. So many forums I am googling have people talking about how going to Mexico while pregnant is a bad idea. Bad medical care. Food poisoning. Questionable water. I know forums aren't exactly reliable sources of information, but now I am wondering if any of you would book a similar trip at 32 weeks pregnant?

I have gone to Mexico several times and NEVER gotten sick, and never been offered anything other than bottled water at the nicer resorts.

I bought travel insurance, so I could change the trip to somewhere state side, but of course, I'd rather not. There's nothing like relaxing at an all-inclusive on the beach.
What would you do?

@Beebeeholiday: @nwm: I agree you should go but have a plan. If you already bought travel insurance, those policies usually include medical coverage in addition to trip cancellation. And if you’re doing a nice resort vacation the concierge could be a great resource to explore private doctor/hospital options and lean on if something does happen while you’re there. If your doctor were worried she would tell you, that’s literally what she’s there for. By all means be careful about food/water, but most of the time you’ll be fine in places that cater to Americans.We had planned a trip to Switzerland for next month that started as a hiking trip but turned babymoon, but unfortunately decided with the doctor that it’s best not to go due to my preterm labor risk. You should definitely go though and I will live vicariously through you!

@Ms. RV: @bees_knees: I just assumed that I’d turn the heat down after the initial warm up so that I was comfortable in a coat and baby would be fine bundled in the back seat, but now I don’t know! Warming up the car is probably a better plan, but my car needs to run for like 10-15 minutes before it’s warm.

@Ms. RV: @nwm: Third trimester! It’s crazy to think about, considering this is my fourth pregnancy and the first time I’ve even made it out of the first. DH and I were actually talking about this the other night, because he thought we were already there (because the first tri is often referred to as 12 weeks and we just hit 24). It’s starting to feel like this might actually happen this time.

is anyone else totally burnt out on discussing your pregnancy with total strangers/acquaintances/work colleagues? maybe it's the compressed time span of all my pregnancies, but i really cannot have one more conversation about how i'm feeling, which pregnancy this is, blah blah blah. there are still more than 3 months to go! surely we can think of something else to make small talk about, but it's like people see the bump and are consumed with the desire to comment and can think of nothing else.

i think i am especially bitter because once we work through the standard questions (this is your third?! your other two are how old?!) the primary reaction i'm getting is like "eek, that's going to be rough, good luck." we didn't exactly plan to have our kids this close in age, but i'm actually quite EXCITED to welcome this baby into our family and even though the stress and chaos is going to increase, i'm quite confident the joy and love will too! if you don't have anything positive to say about a pregnancy that is already 6 months along, STFU!

phew, i feel better getting that off my chest. thanks internet buds

Anyone else having a lot of Braxton Hicks? I was up for two and a half hours in the middle of the night a couple of nights ago. They eventually subsided but I still get at least a couple per day.

@Ms. RV: @nwm: Oh no, nobody wants to be up at night. I haven’t had any contractions since the heat wave we had last month, but I have been getting woken up by kicks every few nights recently.

Is anyone else feeling kicks mostly down low? At my appointment 2 weeks ago I’m pretty sure baby was breech because the doctor found the heartbeat up by my belly button. I know she’s got plenty of time to turn, but still, I’d feel better if I knew it was normal to be getting kicked in the bladder/pubic bone.