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@Ms.Pumpkin: That is frustrating! I guess I get it but I would be put off too. That being said I would still go in to meet them and see how I feel about it once I am there. Your pharmacist should be able to help you with that question though which might be easier than your PCP.
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@Mrs tartan: My SIL has been my confidant and champion through this entire TTC process so I told her pretty much immediately after telling DH. I then felt a little guilty for not telling my BFF since we were in diapers first so I told her as well but all her responses have been... weird. They feel forced or fake and make me uncomfortable so now I'm regretting telling her. I don't think her weirdness is in response to me or my news in particular (she has two kids and they are pretty much wanting to stop there so that's not it), I think she just is going through something personal at the moment that she doesn't want to talk about with me, but it still makes me uncomfortable so now I avoid talking about the baby completely with her which just makes things more awkward in my opinion. Other than those two though, no one else knows. We will be telling both sets of grandparents after heart beat confirmation but waiting to tell all other friends and family until the usual 10-12 weeks or so.
@Mrs. Jump Rope: Thank you!
@Ms.Pumpkin: Hmm, while I find that to be a slightly snotty attitude, I wouldn't let that form my judgement on the office as a whole and would give them a test appointment before giving up on them altogether.
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@Mrs tartan: We told our parents and siblings right away because I know we'd want their support anyways if something happened. I was super excited to tell my SIL and my cousin who I've always been close to, because both of them are due with their second baby in September...but my cousin found out at her first appointment that the baby stopped developing at 6 weeks, and she had to go in for her D&C the day we found out I was pregnant. She knows we're trying, but I really don't want to announce when this is all so fresh and raw for her, so we're waiting until the 12 week point to tell anyone else.
@Ms.Pumpkin: I'd probably wait until the first appointment - even if the receptionist is kinda so-so and not your favorite, at least meet the doctor before making a final decision.
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Joining you over here- got a BFP today at 8DPO. Going to make my first appointment hopefully for the very end of Feb/beginning of March.
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@lioneyes: Yayyy congrats again =)
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@lioneyes: Whoo hoo! Congrats!
@Cole, @however briefly, @wonderstruck: Thanks! Y'all are right, I'll still go to the first appointment and decide then. I'm just grateful that I have access to doctors through the family, so at least I can be sure that I'm getting some kind of reliable information. The internet can be terrifying! I've read directly conflicting information on the big stuff like alcohol and caffeine, but also on things like herbal teas. If I'm giving up my 2+ coffee a day habit (yeah, I drink a lot, and need to cut way down, even if I don't eliminate coffee entirely), but I need to replace it with some kind of hot drink! I'm still planning on keeping up my Celestial Seasonings habit until Spring breaks, because otherwise I won't be able to feel my fingers in my office!
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@Ms.Pumpkin: That's true, there is SO much conflicting information out there! I'm not a fan of alcohol, sushi, or coffee, so that stuff was easy for me...but I am a total and complete Mountain Dew addict. With my last pregnancy I tried to give it up and I pretty much turned into an always tired mega-bitch, I just couldn't do it! But really the warnings on that stuff are pretty inflated...there were plenty of people who would freak when they saw me drinking it and say they thought pregnant people weren't supposed to ever drink pop, or that they cut it out completely while pregnant because better safe than sorry (while giving me a judgy look as if I just didn't care about my baby.) But I really needed it to get me through the work day, and my midwife said that the experts agree that a moderate amount isn't harmful, moderate being anywhere from 150-300mg a day. And a can of Mountain Dew only has 54mg. So while it's not particularly healthy, it did not cause any harm to my pregnancy whatsoever, and this time around I refuse to be guilted about my morning Mountain Dew!
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@lioneyes: Hurray! Congratulations!
@Ms.Pumpkin: I am not a heavy coffee drinker but I almost always have a cup a day or a grande latte. I got a headache the first day I skipped it but I have been having half a cup or a tall latte every other day now and that is working for me now. But it is such a ritualistic habit! I walked downstairs this morning and turned on the kettle for the French press before I even thought about it. And tea! I went to grab something labeled for pregnancy and then remembered reading something about red raspberry leaf in the first trimester so I walked out empty handed. I have mint tea which is fine for pregnancy but I don't really enjoy it.
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@Cole, @wonderstruck: Right?!? At the rate Babycenter is going, the only thing we're going to be allowed to have is a cup of hot water with lemon in it. And that's just gross.
I do have to say that I am a little worried about morning sickness, and when I'm sick, tea usually helps me feel better. A Google search brought up this tea specifically for morning sickness: http://www.amazon.com/Earth-Mama-Angel-Baby-Wellness/dp/B0032AM8HS
Sounds interesting!
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@lioneyes: Congrats and welcome!!
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@Ms.Pumpkin: Haha! You mom feels free to comment on your physical appearance, too? My mom's favorite comments are, "Are you eating vitamins? You look like you need more sleep. Have you gained weight?" My doctor gave me a list of "safe" medications. I know your antibiotic will not be on here, because this list does not include antibiotics, but maybe it will be useful:
Tylenol, Benadryl, Zyrtec, Claritan, Tavist, Clortimeton, Tus, Imodium, Gas-X, Mylicon, Pepcid, Zantac, Tagamet, Maalox, Milk of Magnesia, Colace, Robitussin, Unisom
Irregardless, I feel like general knowledge about whether or not something is safe for pregnancy is something everyone should be handing out, not just your primary care provider! How stupid. Also, I'm getting super paranoid about caffeine. People drink tons of hot tea here, and I naturally eat lots of chocolate, and now I'm uber cautious around all of it. Suspiciously cautious. What is Celestial Seasons? Sounds mystic. ALSO ALSO, something that has been working for me for morning sickness is taking B6. B6 comes in 100 mg tablets, but my doctor recommended taking 25mg, three times a day. I bought a pill cutter to cut them into fourths and took my first dose last night; my sick feelings were super reduced this morning.@Cole: I LOVE my chiropractor. My health insurance grants me 20 visits a year for $12 each, so I go every three weeks on the regular. In fact, I have an appointment this Wednesday! OH NO! I usually get a quick massage beforehand but I'll have to cancel on massages until after the first trimester (according to my massage therapist). :(:(:(:(:(
@wonderstruck: That's nice of you guys to be so sensitive to her feelings. I'm waiting until 12 weeks just to be safe, then I'm going to go find the girl I've been secretly competing with to get pregnant first and shout it in her face. Also, I used to have a Mountain Dew addiction when I was younger. I'm scared to drink it anymore because I might fall off of the wagon. That stuff is delicious! Don't let sanctimommies ruin your trip. (http://www.stfuparentsblog.com/post/44603020352/sanctimommy-round-up)
@lioneyes: Yay! Welcome! Can't wait to hear more about you!
@however briefly: I'm sorry about your friend being so distant. I'm wondering what is happening in her life.
@Mrs tartan: I still haven't told anyone else, and you should be happy you don't have sore boobs! I know the grass is always greener, but they are very uncomfortable. Even if I roll over in my sleep, they hurt (enough to wake me up!) I have resorted to wearing sports bras at night. I, too, have some insomnia. I wake up really early, like 4 am early, and am not able to get back to sleep. No lower back pain though...
@Mrs. Jump Rope: Thank you!
@bushelandapeck: Well, my husbands father and step mom live the next town over from us. My parents recently moved to Nevada, but are seriously interested in moving back to Hawaii (apparently it snows in Nevada), and my husband's real mom lives in Las Vegas. Our group of friends is still partying and the majority are not married, so I don't know that we'd have a lot of support in this area as we're one of the forerunners of Growing Up. I know how you feel about wanting to wait until the pregnancy is well established. My previous miscarriage has made me super gun shy, too. I'm constantly checking for blood when I pee.
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As we're getting more people joining us and the thread is moving along fairly fast, I figured I'd update this so that bushelandapeck isn't the only one doing all the work!
October Mamas
9/29 Mrs. Koloa (#1)
9/30 Mrs. Tartan (#1)
10/01 bushelandapeck (#2)
10/10 However Briefly (#1)
10/14 Cole (#1)
10/14 Ms.Pumpkin (#1)
10/15 wonderstruck (#2)
TBD lioneyes
Appointments
2/03 however briefly (beta)
2/11 Mrs. Tartan
2/18 Mrs. Tartan
2/20 Mrs. Koloa
2/24 bushelandapeck (u/s)
3/05 Ms. Pumpkin
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@mrskoloa: So I shouldn't leave this adorable link here?
http://www.boredpanda.com/toddler-naps-with-puppy-theo-and-beau/
http://www.boredpanda.com/toddler-napping-with-puppy-theo-and-beau/Thinking about you ladies! Hope you are having a wonderful Sunday!
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@HolisticMama: hahahahah!!!! I mean, boo hoo hoo hoo hoo
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@lioneyes: yay! Congrats and welcome
@mrskoloa: It can be nice to have some family close by if they are supportive. I hope your parents decide to move closer! How far along we're you when you had your m/c, if you don't mind me asking. I feel like I won't be able to relax until I get to 10-12 weeks. Mine was a missed m/c so I didn't have any symptoms and we didn't find out until our first appointment at 10 weeks.
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@mrskoloa: I also posted a second link. It's SO adorable. I was feeling a bit weepy over them this morning, but no BFP in sight! LOL.
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@bushelandapeck: mine was around five weeks. My corpus luteum exploded. I thought I was having appendicitis.
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@HolisticMama: it IS so cute. I showed my husband that link a while ago and he was so over it. All he could talk about was how sweaty the little boy must be with a puppy on him.
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@Cole: how did your friends react?
@Ms.Pumpkin: I am also on medication which I was unsure about, I take a beta blocker prescribed by a cardiologist. My doctor was totally unwilling to decide for me what I should do, even though after googling the drug I had read it was a complete no no when pregnant. I stopped taking it as I couldn't speak to my cardiologist until 3 days later, thankfully I was told I had done the right thing, but I understand your frustration that you just wanted advice from a medical specialist.
@however briefly: when will you get your heartbeat confirmation? I won't get a scan until 12 weeks, which is frustrating as I wanted to tell soon! That sucks about your friend being a bit strange with you. I can imagine you don't feel great about that. My best friend is really really not a baby person and I honestly think she will be horrified when I tell her, I am least looking forward to telling her!
@wonderstruck: have you had heartbeat confirmation or just to close family without that? Sad for your cousin. A friend of mine recently had to announce 5 days before her due date that the babies heart had stopped beating. Ugh, I'm do glad we have a while before we put it on Facebook, I would feel terrible if I had to do it in the next month.
@lioneyes: wow, 8dpo! I'm impressed, huge congrats and welcome!
@mrskoloa: I feel for you, I am also getting up at 4am each day. Sooo not looking forward to work this week!
What do you all work as? How many hours a week? When will you tell your employers? Will your job have to change as you are pregnant? When will you go on maternity leave?
I am a P.A. 40 hours a week which will kill me with this insomnia. I will tell my employer after my first scan at 12 weeks. My job can stay the same, I plan to work up to about 37 weeks hopefully,
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@bushelandapeck: when will you be able to head the heartbeat on a Doppler? Will you hear it before you have a scan?
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@Mrs tartan: We have our second beta tomorrow and then they will schedule a third beta probably later in the week. And then at THAT appt they will schedule the first ultrasound which I'm assuming will be around the 6 week mark the following week.
Waiting until 6 weeks has me itching in impatience so I cannot even imagine having to wait until 12 weeks! You have my sympathies!!! I hope it goes well when you tell your best friend!
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@however briefly: will you go spend any time with your sis and baby before baby is born? Is it at your scan you find out how many babies there are?
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@Mrs tartan: Although I haven't made an appointment yet, most places around here won't want to see you until 2 or 3 months, so I couldn't wait for the heartbeat confirmation! I'm too impatient. That's so awful for your friend - 5 days before her due date?! I can't imagine losing the baby at that point, going through a stillbirth would be one of the most awful things I could imagine.
I am currently a SAHM, but during my first pregnancy I was the home theater lead at Best Buy. I had to tell my managers immediately because obviously I wasn't comfortable lifting very heavy TVs and speakers while pregnant! It's tough being pregnant with a job that has you on your feet all the time, especially if you get morning sickness. I ended up starting my maternity leave a month early because I was just so sick and it wore on me so much.
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@Mrs tartan: Probably not. We're going through an international move in May which means not only lots of complications but also adjusting to new job environments and me establishing my home business in a new location. DH's job security is not at the best at this point either. They will be downsizing all those in his position company-wide by a lot and we won't find out if he'll be kept on until summer so I don't think we'll feel financially comfortable to take an extra trip over until we know for sure. I am hoping, though, to be able to go out before DH and spend a little time prior to the birth with my sister but we shall see how prepared at home I'll be at that point. We will be buying a house once we can guarantee we're surviving the downsizing and the timing might be super tight there before the birth, especially if she ends up with twins.
And, yeah, they SHOULD be able to tell if there's more than one at that point. I think visibly they will be able to confirm the number of fetuses but I believe the fetus' heart starts beating around week five and it can be common that one baby has one and another doesn't so it could be that one is just a little behind developmentally but otherwise perfectly fine or it could mean that it's not viable altogether and will slowly be reabsorbed. So it may not be a definitive answer but we should have a decent idea.
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@Mrs tartan: I don't think you can usually hear it until at least 10 weeks with a Doppler. My first appt is at just about 9 weeks and I will have an ultrasound. We should be able to see the heartbeat at least.
I'm a clinical social worker at a children's hospital. I work two days per week now and was a SAHM with my son for the first 9 months. I couldn't have imagined going back to work until them because he wasn't sleeping well until that point. We haven't decided if I will go back to work this one or not. Financially it doesn't make sense but I do enjoy working part time so we'll see. I definitely don't want to go back at 3 mos PPthough, so I may have to quit my job anyway.
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@mrskoloa: I'm so sorry about your loss. That sounds incredibly scary and painful!!
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@however briefly:
Please ad me
03/10 -
apparently due date for me is 10/17! this is #1 for me, we are in the process of moving to a new city and buying/renovating an apartment there. and i got a new client on thursday (i work for myself as a marketing consultant from home). so, LOTS going on.
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@mrskoloa: Haha! Last time I saw her, she gave me special shampoo and told me that this might make my hair less frizzy. Um, thanks?
Oh, and Celestial Seasonings is just a brand of herbal teas. They're pretty inexpensive compared to other kinds of natural, non-caffinated teas, so I've got an entire closet of them!
@Mrs tartan: I currently work for the Federal government, in Washington, DC. Unfortunately it's about a 1.5 hour commute each way- I live in the next city over, and there's a train, but it's just a really long commute. I honestly have NO IDEA what I'm going to do. That commute is just going to be miserable when I'm pregnant, and it's going to be just unworkable with an infant at home. But it seems so daunting to get a new job at this point! We haven't really discussed it, but I don't think staying at home after baby is really an option. I'm just hoping that it will all work out somehow!
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@Mrs tartan: I work in education. I was a classroom teacher the last few years at a local high school, but recently I moved up to our District Office where I work in mentoring beginning teachers to improve their practice. I work 40 hours a week, but sometimes more depending on when my teachers want to meet. I essentially drive all day to different schools to support them in whichever way they request, from data collection, planning, assessment, classroom management... all the way to stapling packets and being a shoulder to cry on. I'll probably let my two office mates know around the 12 week mark and let the coconut wireless take care of the rest. I'll be able to work while pregnant, but I definitely plan on taking time off. Teachers in Hawaii do not get maternity leave; instead we have to save our sick leave year after year and use that for our time off. I have enough saved up to take an entire quarter off (ten weeks) but usually it's whatever the doctor's note says. Then it's back to work for me. Fortunately, my husband is a firefighter and they only work 10 days per month (24 hour shifts) so I think we'll only need part-time childcare. If my parents move back to Hawaii, they might be able to provide that.
@however briefly: I think once you guys know more about the situation fully, both pregnancy- and financially-related, you'll be able to feel much more secure in either area. Being in a position where the job security is shitty is so scary. My husband used to work for the hotels, and they lay people off left and right. You never knew when they were going to strike next!
@bushelandapeck: When you say that financially it doesn't make sense, do you mean that your family can survive on one income alone, or financially it doesn't make sense for only one of you to be working? Also, yes, it was scary, mostly because I thought I would die. I didn't even know I was pregnant at that point, so to find out that way was really traumatizing, starting a whole cycle of forcing myself to try to get pregnant in order to prove that there was nothing wrong with me. This past month I decided to take it easy on myself, but look!
@lioneyes: Are you interested in filling out our questionnaire from the first page of the thread? What city are you moving to?
@Ms.Pumpkin: Hah!! My mom did that, too! She's all turned on by Wen right now. And argan oil.
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EDD: 10/17
When Did You Find Out?: this am
Child Number: 1
Where You Live: NYC
What kind of provider will you see?: Ob/Gyn/Laborist
When's Your First Appointment?: ? Hopefully 2/28
What kind of birth do you want?: As many interventions as needed
What You're Most Excited For: Having it all feel real
What You're Most Scared About: Miscarriage
Symptoms so far: Slight cramping, sore throat (but I have a cold) -
@mrskoloa: We don't need my income, and what we pay for a nanny is just about equal to what I make now. If we paid her to watch two, it would be more than I make. But I do enjoying working so I'll have to really think about it. Your job sounds very interesting!
@Ms.Pumpkin: I have a long commute too, so I can completely empathize with you! It is the worst part of my job, by far. -
EDD: First week of October
When Did You Find Out?: Friday
Child Number: 2
Where You Live: San Francisco, CA
What kind of provider will you see?: Midwife
When's Your First Appointment?: Not sure
What kind of birth do you want?: A peaceful birth
What You're Most Excited For: My son to be a big brother! And chubby squishy newborn cheeks to kiss.
What You're Most Scared About: Miscarriage. My sister-in-law recently miscarried right around 12 weeks. It was so rough to watch her and her husband suffer through their loss.
Symptoms so far: Feeling "full", smelly smells, thirsty all the time. -
@bushelandapeck: That's awesome that you guys have the financial freedom to pretty much do as you like when it comes to parenting.
@hotpink: Welcome!
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@hotpink: Welcome! How old is your LO?
@mrskoloa: Yes, we are very fortunate to have some options.How is everyone feeling today? Anyone cry at the Superbowl commercials like I did? lol. I was feeling so irritable and moody yesterday...it was awful, especially for my DH. I remember being moody when I was pregnant with LO but I had forgotten just how crazy my hormones can get!
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@hotpink: Congrats and welcome!
@bushelandapeck: Holy buckets! I was just about to post here about the crazy, over-the-top emotions!
Last night, I teared up at ads for the Superbowl, then after everyone left our house, I proceeded to pick a fight with the Mr., and then broke down into tears halfway through. I'm an emotional wreck, and he's just confused.
Today at work has been crazy stressful, and they just launched a trip on me at the last minute- I can turn it down (even though it would be good for me to go), and I think I need to, because I'd have to cancel the venue walk-through for our April wedding, and we're just running out of time. It shouldn't be a huge deal, but here I am, breaking down at my desk! I work with a bunch of middle-aged men, and I think they're just confused as well. It's worse since I can't tell them why I'm feeling horrible and emotional.
When does this get better?
Please tell me I'm going to be able to manage my emotions sometime before my LOs 5th birthday!
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So we had our second beta today and the numbers didn't just double, they tripled! We have our last beta on Wednesday and then our first ultrasound next week!
@hotpink: @Mirage: Yay! Welcome!
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I don't mind keeping this up to date but just so everyone knows, anyone can modify and update this list. If you need to add an appt, just copy and paste the latest listing and add to it and post!
October Mamas
9/29 Mrs. Koloa (#1)
9/30 Mrs. Tartan (#1)
10/01 bushelandapeck (#2)
10/03 mirage
10/10 However Briefly (#1)
10/14 Cole (#1)
10/14 Ms.Pumpkin (#1)
10/15 wonderstruck (#2)
10/17 lioneyes (#1)
TBD hotpink (#2)
Appointments
2/05 however briefly (beta #3)
2/11 Mrs. Tartan
2/18 Mrs. Tartan
2/20 Mrs. Koloa
2/24 bushelandapeck (u/s)
2/28 lioneyes
3/05 Ms. Pumpkin
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@Ms.Pumpkin: I wish I could tell you it gets better...but for me it didn't until several weeks after my son was born. The hormones are just crazy when you're pregnant. My only advice is to try to catch it when it first starts to happen, give your self some time to cool down/be emotional, and then apologize to anyone who happens to see you when it happens. I have already had to apologize to DH several time for having a complete meltdown over virtually nothing. He's been very sweet but I know it's hard for him because there isn't anything he can do in the moment. Try to take care of yourself if you can, and definitely don't feel bad if you have the option of turning down travel if you aren't feeling up to it!
@however briefly: Wow! That's great news! I can't wait to hear about your ultrasound next week
How is your sister feeling?
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@bushelandapeck: The only symptom she's had is that her temperature regulation is all wacky. She's suddenly way too hot or way too cold when she's usually perfectly fine even in extremes. She says her secretary keeps on eying her oddly because she had to bring in a fleece blanket today to use in her office
October Mamas 
Please tell me I'm going to be able to manage my emotions sometime before my LOs 5th birthday!
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