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@winniebee: I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I wish you and your family nothing but the best while you mourn.
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Hey ladies. I don't know if anyone else here posts over on The Bump, but I do occasionally. And the same day that winniebee posted about her loss, someone over there posted news of a loss as well.
Early on these message boards provided support while I was dealing with my pregnant after loss anxiety and waiting to see if my pregnancy was viable. Now the anxiety is mostly gone and I'm trying to look to the future. But these two losses really shook me up, so I will be taking a break from Oct baby groups for the time being. Although I won't feel completely at ease till my little boy is in my arms, I think I'll be in a better head space towards the end of this pregnancy.
I will check back in with you ladies as we get closer to our babies arrivals. I wish you all healthy pregnancies. Xoxo
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@KrzyRiver: I understand the anxiety hun. It's there with me every second of every day. You do what you need to do to get by; we are here whenever you need us.
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@KrzyRiver: i think it's great you can recognize when an environment is maybe not the healthiest place for you. I hope your pregnancy is a smooth ride until the end and you do come back when you are ready.
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I've started feeling like I'm much further along than 19 weeks. Reflux, shortness of breath, back pain, etc. All fun things I typically don't have trouble with until the 3rd trimester.
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@whiskers: I've been out of breath a lot recently too!
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@jaguar: have you had your iron levels checked? I felt the same way and midwife says I have very low iron. Seems odd to connect the two.
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@Boston terrier mom: Not since beginning bloodwork for the IVF/pregnancy work up. Will definitely keep an eye on this though, thanks!
So movement is still hardly there.. but I was on my belly sleeping last night and got woken up by three little jabs. I don't think baby liked being squished!
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@KrzyRiver: understandable!
I can't even think of anything to say lately
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Call me a super sap, but I feel like our October thread needs a major hug.
How's everyone doing?@winniebee: Still thinking of you everyday!
@KrzyRiver: Wishing you a smooth ride to October!
@FaithFertility: Same here.
I'm 22w2d and have been experiencing some more flip flops and that is giving me some relief for my anxiety levels. At the same time, I've been feeling more "pregnant" -- a combo of insomnia, indigestion and just general irritability/moodiness! Fun times!
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@Amorini: yes!! I know on my last due date board (dec '14), we had similar stories too, but this is hitting me a lot harder. Maybe because I'm more active on the boards this time or because winniebee was also on my dec '14 boards so it's more personal??
As for pregnancy updates things are pretty much the same. Although I'm in slight disbelief that I'm already 20 weeks and this is half over!!
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@Amorini: Yes, major hugs all around
I'm doing pretty well. It's heating up and super humid, so I get out of breath really fast these days. I was doing some weeding on Saturday and my hips are still killing me today, but my nesting is focused on the outdoors right now.
In other news, I'm getting a bob revolution duallie for FREE!!!! A girl in my running group wants to trade her duallie for a single bob, so we are switching! I'm so, so thankful and now I can put that money toward something else!
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@Miss Ariel: I think for me it is hitting me harder as I am a Mom now and well have known you ladies for over a year, and this time also being pregnant just makes it so so real!
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I think I just feel that I know winniebee fairly well and feel less removed from this situation.
I'm almost done with all my projects for this baby. I moved DD2s stuff into DD1s room and the baby's stuff into the nursery/guest room. I'm having trouble keeping my motivation up to finish things and not just laying in bed all day, but this is my only week kid-less so I have to make the most of it. After this week I think the only thing I'll have left to do is pack my hospital bag and commit to a name (we are down to 2 at the moment..). Though, I'll probably find something else I want to do over the next 20 weeks.
Who all has an anatomy scan this week or next week? Mine is this Thursday. Super nervous/excited to see baby girl.
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@whiskers: we have done nothing! Our goal would be to move into a new house, but except for looking at new houses we haven't made much progress. At this rate everything is going to be last minute!!
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I feel like I'm back to feeling unsure about this pregnancy again (I'm 17 weeks now after having had 2 consecutive losses before this and was generally feeling pretty optimistic about things after the NT scan and Maternit21 going well). I have that blood test that winniebee had last week coming up on Thursday, which admittedly didn't concern me in the least before winniebee's experience. People keep asking about plans for the nursery, etc. but I can't seem to let myself do anything yet. I keep thinking that once I get through Thursday's test and my anatomy scan, which isn't even scheduled yet, that I should have sufficient reassurance to get started on making plans.
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@Shantuck: I am right there with you. There were a ton of great Memorial Day sales this weekend on baby items, nursery furniture, etc. that I wanted to take advantage of, but just couldn't bring myself to do it. I've been fairly positive these past few weeks in the second trimester, but now that I have my 20 week anatomy scan on Tuesday the 7th, my nerves are kicking in. I think I'll feel better about truly diving into planning, registry, shower, etc. once that milestone has passed. It's been SO long since we've seen the baby, I am very anxious for next week! Also, things seem to be happening so slowly for me - still have just the tiniest bump, haven't felt a single flutter, etc. I know that's all normal for a first pregnancy, but some reassurance will be great
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I'm shaken up, too. I can't imagine what winniebee is going through.
There's a full months between my 16 week appointment and 20 week ultrasound (US isn't until June 23, when I'll actually be 21+5 because of some office scheduling issues) and I'm really antsy because of the lack of movement. I have had a couple moments of "Hmm, was that something?" but nothing major. By this time with DD, I was feeling a lot more, pretty regularly.
Pregnancy can be awfully scary.
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@TapDancer: @Shantuck: @Miss Ariel: I pretty much have most things since it is the 3rd girl and the two sewing projects take too much time to put off if I want them done in time. Otherwise, I would totally be waiting longer. I want to attempt the room sharing with the other two now so I can reformulate my game plan if that is a total flop.
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@mfa_lady: It's probably just where baby is in your belly that you can't feel him/her yet. This girl gets mad when I lay on my stomach - that's when I feel her the most.
Also, I have been consuming way too much sugar this past week, I need to cut back badly.
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@whiskers: I think I'm just a head case after my losses. Always waiting for the other shoe to drop. I also spent a long time with winniebee on the TTC after miscarriage board and she "graduated" from that board with me at the same time. I've also gotten a lot of bad news about friends in recent months with the most recent being that my boss died last month from cancer and a 31 year old friend having a brain stem tumor and being given 6 weeks to live. Having a hard time slapping a smile on these days.
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@whiskers: Maybe I'll try laying on my belly tonight! Haha. I'm sure my husband would really love walking in on that--it'd be a dead giveaway that I was being nuts because I never lay on my stomach.
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I'll be 22 weeks tomorrow and I'm just not connecting to this pregnancy very well. I alternate between forgetting I'm pregnant and concerned that things are horribly wrong. I know part of my issue is that I'm just so tired being the sole caregiver to a toddler and 13 year old twins, plus keeper and doer of everything house related. Feeling like I'm not getting the support from hubs or a break from anything. Scared as to what the situation is going to be after this baby comes. Thinking I need to set up some therapy appointments, but seriously, when? I can't even get 5 minutes to myself to shower. Always someone barging in. On the physical side, my nausea has basically gone away (yeah!) and been replaced with major hip pain and headaches. Plus my scar tissue is just an ever-present ache. So overall? Having a crappy time lately.
P.S. Anyone else see and are weirded out by the KY ad playing on the board? I mean, god, I'm pregnant and feeling crappy. There's not way I will be using KY for anything in the near future...
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@TFrances: As I'm feeling her move, I'm connecting a little bit more. Before, it was such an abstract thought: There's a baby in there? The only way I know is that I'm gaining weight and what not. I hope that you guys can get your situation straightened out. I'm a little worried too that I'm going to end up the sole provider of two little people since my husband (while being a wonderful, hands-on dad) kind of blanks when things need to get done or he focuses on the wrong thing (i.e. toys being all over the living room vs. picking up the toddler and putting her on the potty or putting dirty dishes in the dishwasher). We had a huge fight this weekend about him saying, "I'm going to do X today," instead of asking if I minded because a) I've been handling potty training our 2.5 year old and b) that means I've been housebound all weekend, so when he said that, it was basically saying that I had to stay home another day because I can't take my kid out for three hours while he bikes.
Physically, I'm so grateful for this pregnancy but everything hurts. I'm trying to embrace it because it's my last and especially in light of @Winniebee. I'm so heartbroken and sad for her. Winniebee, I think of you often and pray for you every day.
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@Shantuck: That is a lot of bad news. I understand where you are coming from. Just try to remember that everyone has independent journeys and there are far more healthy pregnancies at this point than not. But, there is also no rush to get things in place for a good while and babies really don't need that much when they are born.
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@Avivoca: Exactly! Hubs has been working everyday for the past two weeks. He doesn't need to work everyday, but he chooses to do so, leaving me unable to do much of anything. Ugh.
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I know there is a support collection already, but @mfa_lady: and I were wanting to do something specifically from our October group for Winniebee. If anyone is interested in contributing, let @mfa_lady: know and she will wall you a link to the facebook group I created to discuss our ideas and logistics (I don't have gold).
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@whiskers: I'm not gold either, but if @mfa_lady: could send me a gold wall post with an email address or the FB address, I would send my email that way.
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@avivoca: Got you, girl! Walling now.
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@mfa_lady: Please add me!
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@mfa_lady: will you send it my way too? Thanks!
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@FaithFertility: @Miss Ariel: Done! Let me know if it works.
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@mfa_lady: the link is there, but it's not working. I think one of the possible errors listed is that I don't have the authority to view the page.
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@Miss Ariel: Boo! Okay, let's try this--if y'all feel comfortable, I'm going to wall you my FB profile link instead, so you can friend me. Once you do, I'll add you to the page.
@FaithFertility: @avivoca: See above!
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@mfa_lady: I made you an admin as well in case there is a setting that needs changed. I don't want to take it off of secret since that takes away a lot of privacy.
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@whiskers: Perfect! I think with a secret group you have to be added. I'm sending my profile link to people so they can friend me, ha. Then I'll add them!
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@mfa_lady: just sent you a friend request!
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@Miss Ariel: And just added you. Hopefully that worked better!
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@mfa_lady: Done! Thanks!
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Is it horrible that I am beginning to feel so tired of being pregnant? I just want to meet my son. I had no bad symptoms with my first son. This time, I have an ongoing headache, horrible round ligament pain, swelling, and suddenly I cannot make a fist due to tingling and numbness. Not to mention nausea! (Which finally went away.) Just feels like one symptom after the next. I feel incredibly grateful to be pregnant, don't get me wrong, but this day after day of feeling like general crap is beginning to wear on me. Anyone else?
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