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@Boogs: @psw27: This is exactly why we aren't telling anyone until the 2nd tri. None of our family knows because I know slip ups will happen (some of them intentional, I'm sure). I've told two friends who aren't friends with anyone else I know, so I figured they were safe. Plus they've both been through miscarriages so they know the importance of waiting to share.

Appt went well. I'm still measuring a few days ahead, but we aren't moving my due date since we know exactly when conception was. They manually injected the sperm into the egg, so, you can't get much more accurate than that
We got to see the little babe wiggling around. He/she moved his/her arms and bum a ton, it was magical!
NT will be in about 2 weeks and next OB is 3/25. I'll update the list later when I'm not on my phone.

we are planning on telling my family this weekend (11 wks) and dh's family next weekend (12 wks). i have a appt. on friday, so hopefully we'll be good to go sharing the news!

@gksj: Good luck sharing the news and have fun

I'm sort of not looking forward to telling our families. With our history of MC and IVF and all that jazz, plus the overall personality of my MIL, I just know I'm going to get bombarded with "how are you feeling" and wanting to talk all the time and touch and I just...can't. I'm just not that kind of person. I don't like being asked how I'm doing/feeling. If I want to talk, I'll call you. I know that's not the best way to be, and I'm working on it, but the idea of my MIL or my mom (to a lesser extent) fawning over me gives me major anxiety.

@sweetiepie I feel ya on the gushing/fawning thing. I am not really like that either. I love my mom and my MIL and they are not a problem but that is kind of why I haven't told certain friends or my coworkers. I just like to be kind of incognito... obviously I have to tell them since I would anticipate that this won't be hidden much longer but still.... I totally get the anxiety for sure.

@SweetiePie: Ugh. I'm the same way. Today I snapped on my mom and told her I was sick of talking about the baby/being pregnant. I know she's just excited, but sometimes I feel like she doesn't see me as a person anymore! Just a vessel for HER grandchild. So annoying. It's all we ever talk about and I'm starting to get resentful. I'm only 11 weeks

@psw27: awesome news!! So glad everything went well.

I scheduled my anatomy scan today. It's early but I wanted to make sure DH could be there, and he needs the notice so he can schedule meetings!

April 10 at 8:30am. AHHHH!

@psw27: So glad it went well!

I am feeling sorta woozy today. I had to come into work late to get some more blood drawn and I ate breakfast and a snack and I still feel like something's off. I'm starting to get a sinus headache and I've been having some sensitivity to light the last 2 days, so I really hope I'm not building up to a migraine.

I have been sleeping like a log the few days - I want to cry whenever the alarm goes off. It doesn't help that its cold and rainy today. Sigh.

My MIL got her card yesterday and I wrote in her card that I sent one to each of the relatives in our immediate family and instead of letting them receive their own cards, she went and texted everyone "Did you get your card from them? They are pregnant!" My in-laws, while I love them, are really big on "breaking the gossip" and so she couldn't even hold that to herself for 10 minutes! Yeesh.

I texted her this morning reminding her of what I said in the card: do not tell anyone outside the immediate family until our NT scan. I'm sure she told like everyone at her job already, which isn't a huge deal, but I really wanted to remind her to keep quiet. Hopefully she feels guilty about telling her coworkers and will keep it from the extended relatives for a while. We got a Christmas card for a distant 3rd cousin saying that she had heard about our "difficulties conceiving" and I was completely floored and livid about it because the ONLY way she could have heard was from MIL. And I know she only sees that relative once a year, at most.

@SweetiePie: @psw27: yay! Glad u guys got great appt!

@Mrs. Jump Rope: whee! Will come sooner than u know! I guess I should schedule soon too.

We told my cousins after the nt scan. Not really going to tell anyone else unless they ask.

@LatteLove: Well at least your family is asking when they can tell
And yeah, the texting for updates will be so annoying. Related to that, I'm not sure I want to tell anyone my actual due date. I don't want a ton of texts leading up to the due date. If I end up going past my due date, a bunch of "update?" texts will just be enraging, haha. I think I'll just say "late September" and leave it at that.

I'm also dreading my inlaws wanting to be at the hospital! My family lives a plane or a long car ride away, and they both work, so I'll probably tell them right when I'm in labor so that they have time to make arrangements within the first couple of days after birth. But my in-laws...oy...they live close (like an hour) so I'm going to beg my husband to not call them until after the baby is born. I don't want anyone in the room with me except my husband and I'd like for the first few hours afterwards to be for us too. I know that they will not like it, but I feel like I'll be a crazy mess if they come during/immediately after labor. It stresses me out just thinking about it and its so far away.

@SweetiePie: I know what you mean about the in-laws living too close for comfort to the hospital. With LO nr 1, my inlaws didn't arrive unannounced at the hospital but they did wait outside our front door when we brought baby home. After 5 days in hospital and the emotional roller coaster of giving birth all I wanted was some alone time to get settled at home! This time, I'm not telling them until we're already back home.

We also haven't told our inlaws about my pregnancy yet, we're waiting until after the 12 week scan. Last time we told them early and my MIL told the whole world, I'm not making that mistake again...

I'm also starting to look pregnant, luckily I put on a bit of weight in the past few months so hopefully people at work think I'm just a bit chubby rather than knocked up!

@Mrs. Jump Rope: Ooh that's an even better idea...I like "late summer". I wonder if I can get away with telling family that. Probably not but I'll try!

I forgot to share one of the best things about Tuesdays appointment....NO MORE PROGESTERONE SUPPOSITORIES! I'm officially med free. Whew!
And, now that things are progressing well we might break our twelve week rule and ask the RE for the gender I'm going to call them today to see of they can put it in an envelope and I'll pick it up.

@London Mama: Hope you don't mind, I added you to the list I was adding my appointments anyway.

September Mamas
9/3 brownbear (#1)
9/3 tequiero21 (#3)
9/5 mrs.hawk71 (#1)
9/6 torchwood (#1)
9/7 mrs. jump rope (#2)
9/9 georgiegirl83 (#1)
9/11 psw27 (#1)
9/11 coprtopmom (#2)
9/12 lindy (#1)
9/13 gingerbebe (#1)
9/14 pancakes (#2)
9/17 farawayviolet (#1)
9/17 littlebit (#1)
9/19 Weagle (#2)
9/20 boogs (#2)
9/21 gksj (#1)
9/22 lattelove (#1)
9/24 London Mama (#2)
9/26 sweetiepie (#1)

Appointments
2/28 gksj (10w5d)
2/29 Mrs. Jumprope (NT scan)
3/3 Torchwood (13 week appointment)
3/3 Mrs. Jumprope (13 week appointment)
3/4 Gingerbebe (NT scan)
3/7 LittleBit (appt)
3/10 LittleBit (NT ultrasound)
3/10 lattelove (12w)
3/12 SweetiePie (NT Scan/11w5d)
3/24 psw27 (15w3d)
3/25 SweetiePie (13w4d)
4/1 Gingerbebe (16 week appt)
4/23 psw27 (anatomy scan)
4/24 Gingerbebe (anatomy scan)
4/25 psw27 (20w)

has any 2nd time mom felt the baby move yet? i swear i felt it move a few times. might be gas, who knows.

@tequiero21: I felt pokes the other day.. Three in the same spot. I wondered outloud if it was the baby but DH reminded me baby is still teeny tiny so I'm chalking it up to gas.

@mrs. jump rope - I really thought nothing of it but my NP said to ask first because it all depends on the "contracted rate" with my doc's lab and the insurance. I think I am liable for 10% but just didn't want it to be 10% of like... $2,000 or something outrageous. (although I still have to reach my $300 deductible first or some non-sense they just added to my policy - even tho lab work was covered 100% last year and w/o a deductible)

@Mrs. Jump Rope: So sorry you are dealing with that. Its SO ANNOYING. We were originally going to go with a traditional PPO plan, but bc of the cost difference, we went with an HMO through my job (Kaiser). There are definitely downsides to that system, but after a few major health issues, its been such a godsend from an ease standpoint. For my brain surgery and for this pregnancy, its been so smooth. All the info is electronically integrated, all of my doctors coordinate with each other, the lab, etc. Its so nice not to deal with all that crap and I know exactly how much I owe for everything (which for prenatal/maternity is $0). I have a traditional plan for my dentist and its amazing how annoying I find all that run around and pre-authorization and billing stuff now after dealing with my HMO with our health stuff.

I think I have a cold. I've had this sinus headache the last 2 days and I feel woozy and lightheaded and this dry cough wont go away. Ugh, my normal way of dealing would be lots of OJ, but now I'm paranoid I'm going to spike my blood sugar. So I'm taking vitamin C tablets and drinking hot water and gargling. So annoying.

I really REALLY wish I could go home and sleep. I'm trying not to use leave because I need to use so much for my doctor's appointments and because I'm trying to save up for maternity leave, but seriously, how do you get through this for 10 months without keeling over?! I'm so tired!!

@Mrs. Jump Rope: Oh that's awful! Are you going to switch plans next time or is that your only option? That's so frustrating. I couldn't imagine going through something like if you had a life-threatening illness or something.

@Mrs. Jump Rope: Good Lord, no wonder they are being terrible. There's no competition to keep them honest! The one good thing about where we live is that we have so many health plans available that all the companies try to match or beat each other's coverage - even though everyone's rates go up each yar. We are probably going to have to go with DH's insurance next year. We'll still have Kaiser, but his coverage is a little worse than my job and more expensive. (We're trying to keep our options open if I decide to come home at some point). I hope they don't jack up the rates too much! Going from 2 people to family coverage is a huge jump!

@gingerbebe: um, yeah LOL

Chloe calls my parents nana & pop-pop. My mom really wanted to be grandma but Chloe gave her the side eye and said, "okay, NANA."

My sister in law, April, was Moo for awhile. No idea where that came from but it gave us all a good laugh. Now she's Apple!

We did call everyone by their given & choice names for awhile, but Chloe absolutely chose her own!

This fat kid is waiting patiently for lunch. Until Tuesday, I forgot we have this old school cafeteria around the corner from work that has a salad bar, 4 different soups, and a pasta of the day, all for one low price. Today is spaghetti and meat sauce day so you know what I'm getting! I have been waiting all week for spaghetti day!

I think the reason I am so excited about this dumb lunch is that its total childhood comfort food for me. We used to have spaghetti day once a month at school growing up and it was me and my brother's absolute favorite thing - all the way through high school. You'd get one plate to load as much salad and pasta as you could fit. Inevitably, everything would get mixed together in some gross jumble - iceberg salad, ranch dressing, crunchy chow mein noodles, and spaghetti with meat sauce - but for some reason my brother and I thought it tasted awesome that way. We'd actually spoon the heap onto buttered bread they gave you with the meal and groan with joy.

Fat kid hungry.

Mmmm. Pisghetti.